Question and Answer with Mystery: Part 1

AFC: I am not a woman-hater. I don’t want to hurt anyone, and I don’t want to manipulate anyone into doing something she’ll later regret.

Mystery: Nor am I. Others MAY be certainly, that’s not MY concern. You don’t have to be nor do I. We don’t give a shit about the philosophical underpinnings of the WHY. The HOW is all we care about. Cherry pick what is best for you. Remember though, that many of things we talk about are written because they WORK. RESULTS.

AFC: However, I don’t think that sex with me is something that anyone should regret. I’m a decent man. I treat people with respect. I’m honest. I’m reasonably handsome. I have no diseases. I make a good living. I keep a clean home. I’m an attentive lover. I even have a large penis and good stamina (despite a relative lack of experience).

Mystery: You have realistically defined me. The concept of the ASSHOLE getting more girls than the NICE GUY is partly true though. It has to do with self-respect. Women will test you by shitting on you a bit when you meet her and you must not allow her to shit on you. You will WIN by ‘acting’ like an asshole and therefore not allowing them to shit on you. NICE GUYS finish last because they ALLOW the woman to shit on them.

AFC: Considering all the ugly, disease-spreading, parasitic jerks out there who somehow seem to be able to get beautiful women into bed despite treating them badly, I’m sure there are a lot of beautiful women out there who would be much happier sleeping with me instead.

Mystery: The Art of Attraction is an art of the mind. This is not a game of yatzee. It’s a game of chess. The ugly jerks you refer to may get a girl or two (usually ugly girls) but the smart guys understand that behaving like a ladies man gets more girls. By systematic investigation we discover what works and what doesn’t, share the info so we don’t have to reinvent the wheel and get results. This has nothing to do with being a dirty jerk. This is an elitist group. You need a brain. You need to be sober. You need to take care of your body. You need to learn how to be attentive. This is no easy game of tic tac toe. I am a perfect gentleman. Consider Gone with the Wind (Rhett Butler). He was a cool guy, but when the Scarlet acted up, he didn’t take her shit. Self-respect – is that being an asshole? Hmmm.

AFC: My problem is a lack of social skills, if not life skills altogether. (I think a big part of it is that I’m so afraid of doing anything that will offend or upset somebody that I end up not doing or saying anything at all.) I have a very hard time making friends or lovers.

Mystery: You seem to be suffering from NICE GUY SYNDROME. We call them LAMOs. Nothing personal. Here you are such a smart guy, all clean cut and purdy and yet you can’t consistently get women to find you attractive. See? This has nothing to do with natural looks. It’s all about behavior. How you behave weekly to allow the statistics to work for you and how to behave in front of a state changing beauty. NICE GUYS go home alone when the SMART GUY gets the girls. NICE GUYS call the SMART GUYS … ASSHOLES. Funny, isn’t it?!!!

AFC: Despite what I have said above (and I don’t think that this is a contradiction, although I can understand that some people will perceive it that way), I am not looking for a deep, monogamous relationship. I just want to make some friends, have some fun, and have some sex, preferably with a variety of beautiful women. (Preferably simultaneously, but I’m getting ahead of myself here.)

Mystery: That is an honest WHY. Happens to be MINE too. A little bit of QUALITY with QUANTITY. Not overly unrealistic. I suggest you begin by accepting the NEWBIE MISSION.

**SHOWCASE EDIT: For those not familiar with the newbie mission, it is to go out for 4 hours a night, 4 nights a week for a 6 week period, opening 3 sets an hour which will leave you 20 minutes for each set. Bouncing to a new venue at midnight will keep ensure fresh venues with continuous sets.