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		<title>Day-2s and Setting the Frame</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 22 Jan 2012 08:13:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Prophet</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.venusianarts.com/?p=5193</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[<p class="imgThumb"><img width="180" height="180" src="http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-content/uploads/prophet-date-rain.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail wp-post-image" alt="prophet-date-rain" title="prophet-date-rain" /></p><p>I love doing stuff all over the city. Whether it’s looking at really tall ships, participating in a massive pillow fight, exploring a wine tasting festival, or smoking a J at a hippie drum circle, I’m pretty much excited to do anything that involves a new experience. So if it’s something I’ve never done or seen before, or if it’s just something I know very little about, I’ll grab some friends (mostly girls) and go check it out. This is a very powerful way to live your life as it always means that you have new stories to tell, new pictures to show off, and makes for an enticing lifestyle to a woman.</p>
<p>What blows me away is that so few PUAs take advantage of the unique and interesting events that are happening all over their city at any given time, but especially during the summer or tourist months! If you check out any local news website or newspaper in your city you will find stuff going on all around you throughout the year that will make for very interesting activities for you and the women you meet in the field do to check out together. I keep my calendar in my phone loaded with every event or activity that I think would be a blast to go and experience (thank you Stylelife). This way, when I meet a girl and start seeding a day-2, I can just remember what’s coming up on my calendar and very quickly decide which event she would be most likely to join me for. And by having a whole bunch of different things to choose from, I can tailor the details of the activity a little depending on her personality.</p>
<p>Is she the well-behaved, “good clean fun” type? Get ice cream and go walk around at that fair that’s coming up. Is she the trouble-making type? Tell her to bring some rum for your slushies from a 7-eleven and go drunkenly check out the new monkey exhibit at the zoo (personally though, I love the llamas, they’re adorable). She’s never had her palm read? Well take her to that psychic expo that’s happening at the convention centre. There are so many opportunities in your city for adventure, you just need to search for them! Even if the event doesn’t sound like a fun place for a date, all it takes is a little creativity and calibration and you can make it the most interesting date she’s ever had!</p>
<p>These kinds of events make for an awesome day-2 because they are fun and require very little investment (she doesn’t have to get dressed up, she can bring her friends if she wants, it’s in a safe public place, etc). They’re more fun than the typical coffee or movie date, and best of all? They’re usually cheap or even free!</p>
<p>And hell, even if you couldn’t bring anyone with you, go there and meet some new people. These kinds of events are AWESOME opportunities to practice your Day Game and are even better than malls since most people aren’t busily trying to get all their errands done.</p>
<p>The important thing about these kinds of light-hearted Day-2s is the the vibe you have while out adventuring. This is especially important if it just happens to be you and your target. I love the word adventure because I find it feels like that should be the way she describes it to her friends the next day. In fact, I’ll even say “Let’s go have an adventure” somewhere along the line while getting the day started. A lot of women, particularly younger women who are influenced by what their peers think, and especially women who are part of any type of social “scene” can sometimes reject an idea for an adventure because they are afraid of what their peer group will think of the fact that they participating in such an activity. But with the frame of “let’s just go experience something new and be adventurous” that whole problem pretty much just goes away. It’s not about the activity itself, it’s about the private little adventure that the two of you have together, even if that just means laughing at how silly or bizarre the event you’re at really is.</p>
<p>I really saw the importance of this first-hand the first time I brought a girl to the Much Music Video Awards (which is like a big concert thing they do right in the streets) here in Toronto. The lovely young lady friend of mine who also happened to love the goth scene and it was obvious right from the start that she wasn’t sure if this was a “cool” event to be at. The major performers were Mily Cyrus, Justin Beiber, and Katy Perry, so we were joking heavily about avoiding being trampled by rioting 14-year-olds trying to get to the stage. But it was something that happens every year in the city and neither of us had seen it so I had suggested we go check it out just to enjoy the sheer ridiculousness of it all.</p>
<p>What I found most interesting is that any time she became self-conscious at how silly the whole event really was she would immediately look to me to gauge my current emotional state. See, one of the reasons that women eye-code each other is to balance their emotional state. One will look to the other to see what she’s currently feeling, and then her emotional state will shift accordingly. So every now and then out of the corner of my eye, I’d notice this girl (no doubt unsure of whether or not she should be enjoying herself) turn to me with a straight face wondering whether I was having fun. Then when she saw that I was laughing and smiling she would light right up and suddenly be having just as much fun as I was. The difference was so obvious that I had a lot of difficulty pretending I didn’t notice it at first.</p>
<p>This was a kind of switch for me because the women I bring out on my adventures are usually more excited about what we’re getting up to than I am. And whenever something new happens, I have to explore it a little. So if she looked at me and I wasn’t smiling, she wouldn’t smile either. And then once I started smiling again, so would she. It was the <a href="http://www.venusianarts.com/tag/the-flame/" target="_blank">Flame</a> (as described in Revelations) at work: she was feeling the positive emotions that were caused by radiating warmth and fun and excitement through my vibe.</p>
<p>The moral of the story here, I think, is that a) if you don’t have a calendar full of events and new experiences to have, you need to get one, and b) even if an event sounds silly, the right attitude and an imaginative reframe can make it into a fun adventure. Always remember that enthusiasm is contagious. Smile and laugh and enjoy everything you see and your girls should do the same.</p>
<p>Happy sarging,</p>
<p>Prophet</p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="imgThumb"><img width="180" height="180" src="http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-content/uploads/prophet-date-rain.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail wp-post-image" alt="prophet-date-rain" title="prophet-date-rain" /></p><p>I love doing stuff all over the city. Whether it’s looking at really tall ships, participating in a massive pillow fight, exploring a wine tasting festival, or smoking a J at a hippie drum circle, I’m pretty much excited to do anything that involves a new experience. So if it’s something I’ve never done or seen before, or if it’s just something I know very little about, I’ll grab some friends (mostly girls) and go check it out. This is a very powerful way to live your life as it always means that you have new stories to tell, new pictures to show off, and makes for an enticing lifestyle to a woman.</p>
<p>What blows me away is that so few PUAs take advantage of the unique and interesting events that are happening all over their city at any given time, but especially during the summer or tourist months! If you check out any local news website or newspaper in your city you will find stuff going on all around you throughout the year that will make for very interesting activities for you and the women you meet in the field do to check out together. I keep my calendar in my phone loaded with every event or activity that I think would be a blast to go and experience (thank you Stylelife). This way, when I meet a girl and start seeding a day-2, I can just remember what’s coming up on my calendar and very quickly decide which event she would be most likely to join me for. And by having a whole bunch of different things to choose from, I can tailor the details of the activity a little depending on her personality.</p>
<p>Is she the well-behaved, “good clean fun” type? Get ice cream and go walk around at that fair that’s coming up. Is she the trouble-making type? Tell her to bring some rum for your slushies from a 7-eleven and go drunkenly check out the new monkey exhibit at the zoo (personally though, I love the llamas, they’re adorable). She’s never had her palm read? Well take her to that psychic expo that’s happening at the convention centre. There are so many opportunities in your city for adventure, you just need to search for them! Even if the event doesn’t sound like a fun place for a date, all it takes is a little creativity and calibration and you can make it the most interesting date she’s ever had!</p>
<p>These kinds of events make for an awesome day-2 because they are fun and require very little investment (she doesn’t have to get dressed up, she can bring her friends if she wants, it’s in a safe public place, etc). They’re more fun than the typical coffee or movie date, and best of all? They’re usually cheap or even free!</p>
<p>And hell, even if you couldn’t bring anyone with you, go there and meet some new people. These kinds of events are AWESOME opportunities to practice your Day Game and are even better than malls since most people aren’t busily trying to get all their errands done.</p>
<p>The important thing about these kinds of light-hearted Day-2s is the the vibe you have while out adventuring. This is especially important if it just happens to be you and your target. I love the word adventure because I find it feels like that should be the way she describes it to her friends the next day. In fact, I’ll even say “Let’s go have an adventure” somewhere along the line while getting the day started. A lot of women, particularly younger women who are influenced by what their peers think, and especially women who are part of any type of social “scene” can sometimes reject an idea for an adventure because they are afraid of what their peer group will think of the fact that they participating in such an activity. But with the frame of “let’s just go experience something new and be adventurous” that whole problem pretty much just goes away. It’s not about the activity itself, it’s about the private little adventure that the two of you have together, even if that just means laughing at how silly or bizarre the event you’re at really is.</p>
<p>I really saw the importance of this first-hand the first time I brought a girl to the Much Music Video Awards (which is like a big concert thing they do right in the streets) here in Toronto. The lovely young lady friend of mine who also happened to love the goth scene and it was obvious right from the start that she wasn’t sure if this was a “cool” event to be at. The major performers were Mily Cyrus, Justin Beiber, and Katy Perry, so we were joking heavily about avoiding being trampled by rioting 14-year-olds trying to get to the stage. But it was something that happens every year in the city and neither of us had seen it so I had suggested we go check it out just to enjoy the sheer ridiculousness of it all.</p>
<p>What I found most interesting is that any time she became self-conscious at how silly the whole event really was she would immediately look to me to gauge my current emotional state. See, one of the reasons that women eye-code each other is to balance their emotional state. One will look to the other to see what she’s currently feeling, and then her emotional state will shift accordingly. So every now and then out of the corner of my eye, I’d notice this girl (no doubt unsure of whether or not she should be enjoying herself) turn to me with a straight face wondering whether I was having fun. Then when she saw that I was laughing and smiling she would light right up and suddenly be having just as much fun as I was. The difference was so obvious that I had a lot of difficulty pretending I didn’t notice it at first.</p>
<p>This was a kind of switch for me because the women I bring out on my adventures are usually more excited about what we’re getting up to than I am. And whenever something new happens, I have to explore it a little. So if she looked at me and I wasn’t smiling, she wouldn’t smile either. And then once I started smiling again, so would she. It was the <a href="http://www.venusianarts.com/tag/the-flame/" target="_blank">Flame</a> (as described in Revelations) at work: she was feeling the positive emotions that were caused by radiating warmth and fun and excitement through my vibe.</p>
<p>The moral of the story here, I think, is that a) if you don’t have a calendar full of events and new experiences to have, you need to get one, and b) even if an event sounds silly, the right attitude and an imaginative reframe can make it into a fun adventure. Always remember that enthusiasm is contagious. Smile and laugh and enjoy everything you see and your girls should do the same.</p>
<p>Happy sarging,</p>
<p>Prophet</p>]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>The Power of Qualifying</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 25 Sep 2011 04:24:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Rascal</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p class="imgThumb"><img width="180" height="180" src="http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-content/uploads/the-power-of-qualifying.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail wp-post-image" alt="Qualifying" title="Qualifying" /></p>&nbsp;

<img class="alignright size-full wp-image-4656" title="Qualifying" src="http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-content/uploads/the-power-of-qualifying3.jpeg" alt="" width="180" height="180" />

I had a friend many years ago, long before I got into pickup, who was clearly exceptional with women. He was an ok looking guy, interesting and sociable but not by any stretch of the imagination extraordinary. One day I asked him what his secret was. He told me it was just one line… “So is there more to you than just your looks?”- So simple. It conveys interest but lets her know she will still have to work to win you over.

If you’ve ever seen a show called ‘The Apprentice’ you’ll understand the power of qualifying. Twelve people are given tasks and challenges over a number of weeks. One or more are eliminated each week and the remaining contestants continue to try and impress the CEO of a major company in the hope of winning and apprenticeship position.

These potential employees will fight, backstab, and scrap every week to get the job and if they win they’ll be so overjoyed, happy and relieved that they won’t know how to put it into words.

The reality is for the next three years they will be selling advertising or fulfilling some other ordinary role but they will relish the challenge because they have had to fight so hard to get there.

Imagine though if the CEO had sat them down at the start of the process. He pondered over their CV’s, how they looked and their style and said “OK Amy, you are the winner.” How would she feel then? I’m sure in the moment she would be flattered, but then some niggling doubts might creep in. “Did he choose me because of my looks?” Or “if it was that easy surely I can do better?” Either way they would not be as invested in the company and would not be as happy to work there.

When you meet a girl for the first time a similar process is happening. After she has shown interest in you-<strong>Start to qualify</strong>! You are the one doing the choosing and she must feel that she has to pass your tests to be chosen.

Start off with lighter more playful questions that don’t require too much investment on her behalf. For example “so are you a sweet or savoury popcorn kind of girl?” Once she has responded you can reward her for her investment, perhaps with a hi-five or other small IOI to let her know she is starting to win you over (don’t reward every time though as you may come across as a kiss ass). Be challenging on occasion with a few intermittent IOD’s.

After a while and generally after you have isolated she will feel more comfortable around you and will be more likely to open up to deeper more emotionally connecting questions such as “If time where not a factor and money not an issue what would you be?” She should now feel like she is winning you over and you can move in to the rapport phase of the relationship.

So how would you like her to feel after your encounter?

Would the phone call to her friends be about the really great guy, (that she had to work for) and who really “gets her” or would it be “yeah, there where a few nice guys out but same old….”?

Golden rules for qualifying:

• <strong>Only qualify after she has shown interest in you</strong>- Qualifying shows interest so if you’re too early you will lower your value as she has not had to work for it. As a rule wait for your three IOI’s

• <strong>Start small</strong>- “so are you a climb a mountain or a lie on the beach kind of girl” is a question that doesn’t need her to give too much of herself away. But “so what are you really passionate about?” is something she might not want to share that with you quite yet. Work up to the deeper questions.

• <strong>How does she want to be viewed</strong>?- If you can qualify sincerely in a way that endorses her own self image you make her feel validated. If the girl is an aspiring teacher for example you could say “wow you really can explain things clearly, tell me….”

• <strong>How would you like her to act around you?</strong>- If you want her to be more playful for example you could say “you seem like a fun-loving girl, I’m just a big kid at heart as well really. Tell me….” She will then try to play into that role.

• <strong>Soften with a subtle IOD</strong>- Qualifying is a statement of interest so soften it with a little disinterest either at the beginning or end so you don’t come across too needy. “You seem like an interesting girl (IOI) but I’m not sure about you yet (IOD) tell me…..”

Remember as you get better you will become more aware of the type of girl that you are attracted to. Come up with a list of qualities that you are looking for and qualify accordingly. If she’s not your type of girl, I bet there’s one not too far away!

Rascal x]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p class="imgThumb"><img width="180" height="180" src="http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-content/uploads/the-power-of-qualifying.jpg" class="attachment-post-thumbnail wp-post-image" alt="Qualifying" title="Qualifying" /></p>&nbsp;

<img class="alignright size-full wp-image-4656" title="Qualifying" src="http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-content/uploads/the-power-of-qualifying3.jpeg" alt="" width="180" height="180" />

I had a friend many years ago, long before I got into pickup, who was clearly exceptional with women. He was an ok looking guy, interesting and sociable but not by any stretch of the imagination extraordinary. One day I asked him what his secret was. He told me it was just one line… “So is there more to you than just your looks?”- So simple. It conveys interest but lets her know she will still have to work to win you over.

If you’ve ever seen a show called ‘The Apprentice’ you’ll understand the power of qualifying. Twelve people are given tasks and challenges over a number of weeks. One or more are eliminated each week and the remaining contestants continue to try and impress the CEO of a major company in the hope of winning and apprenticeship position.

These potential employees will fight, backstab, and scrap every week to get the job and if they win they’ll be so overjoyed, happy and relieved that they won’t know how to put it into words.

The reality is for the next three years they will be selling advertising or fulfilling some other ordinary role but they will relish the challenge because they have had to fight so hard to get there.

Imagine though if the CEO had sat them down at the start of the process. He pondered over their CV’s, how they looked and their style and said “OK Amy, you are the winner.” How would she feel then? I’m sure in the moment she would be flattered, but then some niggling doubts might creep in. “Did he choose me because of my looks?” Or “if it was that easy surely I can do better?” Either way they would not be as invested in the company and would not be as happy to work there.

When you meet a girl for the first time a similar process is happening. After she has shown interest in you-<strong>Start to qualify</strong>! You are the one doing the choosing and she must feel that she has to pass your tests to be chosen.

Start off with lighter more playful questions that don’t require too much investment on her behalf. For example “so are you a sweet or savoury popcorn kind of girl?” Once she has responded you can reward her for her investment, perhaps with a hi-five or other small IOI to let her know she is starting to win you over (don’t reward every time though as you may come across as a kiss ass). Be challenging on occasion with a few intermittent IOD’s.

After a while and generally after you have isolated she will feel more comfortable around you and will be more likely to open up to deeper more emotionally connecting questions such as “If time where not a factor and money not an issue what would you be?” She should now feel like she is winning you over and you can move in to the rapport phase of the relationship.

So how would you like her to feel after your encounter?

Would the phone call to her friends be about the really great guy, (that she had to work for) and who really “gets her” or would it be “yeah, there where a few nice guys out but same old….”?

Golden rules for qualifying:

• <strong>Only qualify after she has shown interest in you</strong>- Qualifying shows interest so if you’re too early you will lower your value as she has not had to work for it. As a rule wait for your three IOI’s

• <strong>Start small</strong>- “so are you a climb a mountain or a lie on the beach kind of girl” is a question that doesn’t need her to give too much of herself away. But “so what are you really passionate about?” is something she might not want to share that with you quite yet. Work up to the deeper questions.

• <strong>How does she want to be viewed</strong>?- If you can qualify sincerely in a way that endorses her own self image you make her feel validated. If the girl is an aspiring teacher for example you could say “wow you really can explain things clearly, tell me….”

• <strong>How would you like her to act around you?</strong>- If you want her to be more playful for example you could say “you seem like a fun-loving girl, I’m just a big kid at heart as well really. Tell me….” She will then try to play into that role.

• <strong>Soften with a subtle IOD</strong>- Qualifying is a statement of interest so soften it with a little disinterest either at the beginning or end so you don’t come across too needy. “You seem like an interesting girl (IOI) but I’m not sure about you yet (IOD) tell me…..”

Remember as you get better you will become more aware of the type of girl that you are attracted to. Come up with a list of qualities that you are looking for and qualify accordingly. If she’s not your type of girl, I bet there’s one not too far away!

Rascal x]]></content:encoded>
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		<title>Classic FR: Fall 1998</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 02 May 2009 01:56:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Mystery</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Alright gentlemen, at 9 p.m., I readied and went to meet my friend Tal and his buddy Action Fighter downtown. We ate at a cool food joint and discussed the chance of my meeting the famous Angelina Jolie from Hackers.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>Alright gentlemen, at 9 p.m., I readied and went to meet my friend Tal and his buddy Action Fighter downtown. We ate at a cool food joint and discussed the chance of my meeting the famous Angelina Jolie from Hackers. We discussed and planned. It was my party invite and I invited my friends so I had dibs on Angelina. We agreed on that. They said that since I was the guy who worked his ass off to get good, it was only fitting that I landed her in order to complete my training as Action Lover. Se we get to the place for 11:20pm. Action Fighter couldn’t get in &#8217;cause the ticket was for only 2 so I asked the guy if I could go up and find the film-makers to get my friend in and they let me in (I think it was my confident and PLEASANT demeanor.) We go in and I meet a couple of people I knew. We walked around and the place slowly picked up over time. A photographer I knew through a biz acquaintance was there and he took some pics of me. Me, Action fighter and Tal just waited around and nothing happened for the first hour. We just looked busy and chatted and hung which was tough to do. We saw Rosanna Arquette there but I didn’t intro myself to her. We were waiting for Jolie to come. I thought, when she comes, I have to be all set up to meet her. I figured, first, she must be intro&#8217;d to me, and second, I must have women around me to appear as positive testimonial to my coolness. So I intro&#8217;d myself to 2 women who were not my type at all just to get something going around me. This is known as BASING. This is where you start a BASE of women around yourself to DRESS yourself in female-atude. One of them liked Tal too so he enjoyed the yak. Better than hanging alone waiting for the cream of the crop to still arrive. Well, Jolie wasn’t coming so I dumped the 2 girl BASE and walked around. Jolie NEVER arrived which sucks because I asked the photographer to get Jolie to come and meet me. That would have been cool because she would have felt like &#8216;I&#8217; was important enough for her to want to meet ME. He would say to her that he wanted to take a picture of the two of us and I would be surrounded by several people and the HYPE would be around ME. If only she were THERE. Mind you, I’m not pissed or anything. It was a long shot worth trying for. She could have had a boyfriend or been married but at least I went there.</p>
<p>Ok, so I end up meeting a couple cool black dudes and we shoot the shit for a bit. They were sort of a second BASE. Tal, Action Fighter (AF) and I go get a drink at the complementary bar. We only ordered coke because drinking lames out the brain for the sharpness required for the game. None of us drink. The &#8216;drink to loosen up&#8217; excuse is invalid from a scientific standpoint. Playing the game is INCLUDES over-riding your emotions. See, beautiful women by their presence will create a STATE-CHANGE in you. They don’t have to talk; they just have to BE THERE. You will get nervous and horny and weird. This feeling will make you behave like EVERY other guy. This state-change is an indicator that the woman is WORTHY of your attentions. However, you can’t let this STRONG EMOTION alter your approach. This is an internal issue that happens on TOP of the external issue of attracting her. It’s a BITCH of an emotion too though because it makes you WANT her so bad that you will be NICE to her. What the NICE GUYS don’t realize is that only men who are around women a lot don’t have this state-change and therefore do not behave like horny-toads. So you must act like you don’t FEEL this inside and suppress the feeling. Good news is, when you ARE around women a lot, the feeling gets weaker. You can control this STATE-CHANGE as you can nervousness before public speaking and such. You just ignore the feeling. Only YOU know you have this internal issue. Hiding it is the big thing. When you are drunk, it removes this feeling, but it ALSO removes your sharpness and focus.</p>
<p>Ok, so Tal, AF and I go for another walk about in the place. We chat with our 2 girl BASE and Tal gets attention from one of them. They are not WORTHY but they DO invite us to their home party tomorrow. I could tell that this invite thing was designed for Tal. The girl must really like her. She isn&#8217;t WORTHY for him though. But hey, we plan on going. See, they actually had already written the directions for us when we returned to them. Weird but cool. The other one said, &#8220;There will be lots of single women there for Tal.&#8221; I replied, &#8220;I’ll try to convince Tal that that is important to him.&#8221; I was playing coy for him. They leave the party and we move on. There are 2 very attractive ladies near the speaker. I approach them and initiate my attack. Right behind them is a producer who was listening in and he gives me his card. In minutes I have the girls and this producer dude follow me to where my BASE 2 of the 2 black dudes are. We all chit chat and laugh and have fun for about 10 minutes and then I ask the blond girl (call her Tat here in NG) to come with me to a quieter area. I do this because it is a wonderful controlling and leadership display. I also got her away from the rest so only she and I could talk. But I looked cool to her because the producer thought I was cool and showed it, shaking my hand several times and the 2 black dudes were cool to me too. Anyway, we go to a quieter place but she asks if her friends could come. I say sure. So Me, Tat and 2 other cute girls go and sit somewhere else in the place. Oh by then, AF already left to go to his girlfriend at home. He&#8217;s not into the game, just appreciates what I do and watches me work. Ok, so I talk to Tat (who is at least a 9 if not more (24 yr old beauty &#8211; a therapist) and the other 2 sort of dissipate for a while because they know Tat likes me. We talk for an hour. Our talk includes connecting, how the mind is incredible, we talk about cosmology (an interest of mine) in an emotional way, and other stuff. She wore a black dress which was cut above the knee and her body was fucking awesome man! Fuck! I treated her like a friend. I did the pull my finger script on her and it really put me in control. Tal wanted to leave so I asked her for a ride home and she agreed so he took off. We will go to that party tomorrow. Ok, so I told Tat that I had a few rules in case she ever called me (I didn’t give her my #, I just told her my rules.) I actually TOLD her these. Swear.</p>
<p>1. If you call my pager, don’t leave a pager #.<br />
2. If you call my pager, rather than saying via voice mail, &#8220;Hey, call me&#8221;, instead type in your # or I won’t call you.<br />
3. If I call you and you can’t talk, don’t say, &#8220;Can you call me back?&#8221; I won’t. Instead, say, &#8220;I&#8217;ll call you back.&#8221; And then actually CALL me back.<br />
4. If I call you, when you find out I’m ME, instead of saying, &#8220;Hey, what&#8217;s up?&#8221; I would prefer you saying, &#8220;Oh HI sweetie, how nice of you to call!&#8221; I told her I would do the same in return.<br />
&#8220;Is all this fair?&#8221; She agreed.</p>
<p>I had the chance to make her friend like me too. I got Tats friends respect when she noticed I didn’t let Tat shit on me. I gave Tat rules and basically behaved like a man. I was confident and in control and lead the conversation. I listened and asked questions too which gave me valuable info with regards to her VALUES. Great insights I learned this week here in NG. Man, has NG helped me. Thanks guys BTW.</p>
<p>I also told her that I would NOT ask for her #. Why? I said, &#8220;Because I’m not like every other guy. You will have to WORK to get it off me. AND, if you say, can I have your #, I won’t find that creative enough so I will actually say NO. You will need to be creative, fair?&#8221; She says, &#8220;Ok I’ll need to think about this.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ok so we went to her car and I made jokes about her CLUB. You know, The CLUB, that bar on the steering wheel. Ok, so she drove me all the way home and that really allowed us to get to feel friendshipy comfortable. Her friend was in the back asking me questions. Like, she was qualifying me for her friend. I believe I passed all the tests nicely. Halfway home I mention, &#8220;You realize if you don’t ask for my # I will say, &#8220;Pleasure meeting you&#8221; and just get out of the car.&#8221; She says, &#8220;I was thinking about how I am going to ask.&#8221; When we got in front of my place she didn’t say anything but I could tell she really was going to so as a joke I said, really quickly, &#8220;pleasure meeting you&#8221; and opened the door and got out.</p>
<p>&#8220;Wait&#8221;, she said. I sat back down, door open. &#8220;Yes? What?&#8221;<br />
She said, &#8220;can I have your number?&#8221; I said, &#8220;No! Boring. Try again.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Oh come on, don’t be difficult. Just gimmee your #.&#8221; I looked back at her friend and said, &#8220;If some guy said, &#8220;oh come on, don’t be difficult. Just gimmee your #.&#8221; Would you? She said no. &#8220;This won’t do. Try again. Be creative and sincere.&#8221; I was toying with her and actually making her nervous about losing me. &#8220;I would very much like to have your #&#8221;, she said.<br />
I said, &#8220;Why?&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Because I want it. Just give it to me.&#8221;<br />
&#8220;NO&#8221;, I said, &#8220;why do you want my number?&#8221;<br />
&#8220;How else will we see each other again?&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Because I want to.&#8221;<br />
I reply, &#8220;Why can’t you look at our time together as a fun time, a cool memory, and leave it at that? It’s like a nice package, we had a good time and that’s that.&#8221; She said, &#8220;Well, wouldn’t you want to OPEN the package?&#8221;<br />
FUCK IM good. I WANTED her to say that. I MADE her say that with this game. I &#8216;permitted&#8217; her to have my number but only AFTER I did the CREATIVE CLOSE script. It was awesome, I ran her through hell to get my #. She had to EARN IT! The girl in the back thought I was very cool and agreed with me and said to her, &#8220;you have to earn his #. He’s a man of value. He&#8217;s worth more than just a, &#8220;I’ll call you.&#8221;</p>
<p>We planned to see each other on Sunday (Saturday I have that party). After I got her # but before I gave mine I said, &#8220;before you get to have my number, you will agree to call me tomorrow, just to touch base. Is that fair?&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Yes that is fair. <img src='http://www.venusianarts.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> &#8221; &#8220;Not too early though, I’m planning on sleeping in.&#8221;<br />
They waved several times as they drove off.</p>
<p>I made her WANT me. I made myself WORTH it. In a way, I acted like a girl. I was coy and hard to get. Fuck girls are good at this. How the hell do they do it so well so early? Anyway, thanks to the SS newsletters and your posts, I have really gotten my shit together. I came upstairs and IMMEDIATELY began posting shit here. Its 6:05 a.m. now and there you have it. Oh, BTW: remember that 10s # I got last Wednesday? Well, I had called her 2 days later and she said, &#8220;I’m busy can you call me back?&#8221; That sucked. So before the FILM PREMIERE I called her again and she was getting her hair done. She was busy tonight (I had invited her to the FILM thing). She didn’t try to get together another time nor did she sound so interested. So you know what I did? Now this hurt. I deleted her # from my list. I figure: I did all I can do to attract her LIVE that night I met her and I remember doing very well. She loved me. But on the phone she wasn’t all that into me. So I gave her 2 tries and she just didn’t bite like as if she was interested. I won’t call again. If she doesn’t call, that simply means she doesn’t want to be with me. Simple and direct, yes? I can’t convince her any MORE by calling her. I did all I can do and it is now up to her. I will only lower my standards by calling again. So I deleted the #. If she calls, BONUS. If not, I did the best I can &#8230; oh, AND I got a # today from a beautiful girl that I would love to be a girlfriend. Wow &#8230; ok, now get THIS! Remember that photographer at the party? His camera was digital and he took a picture of Tat and me. I asked him to email it to me and he agreed. So, that means you guys get a pic. But only if you ask me privately and are cool about it. Don’t burst my bubble!</p>
<p>JIMMY the HuN BTW did NOT show up. He did NOT email me. He did NOT do anything. Of course I won’t call this a cop out on his part because I DID give him short notice. Besides, at $100 a #, I’d only have made $100. Thing is, it’s the only # I wanted! She is amazing and I am in LOVE! Wow. JIMMY, come out another time. Hey dude, honest, come out to the house party tomorrow. Or is that today? Saturday night anyway. Email me and we can meet up if you are up to a friendly game of The Game. Don’t let me down. I’m ready to uphold my reputation and nothing you can say but &#8220;OK, I’ll be there&#8221; will uphold yours.</p>
<p>Mystery</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[It's Saturday night and club is packed. From across the room you see her; the girl of your dreams. She looks at you; you look at her. You draw a blank and your mouth goes dry. You?re paralyzed with fear. Your heart of hearts wants to approach her but even with all of your power you can?t bring yourself to take those few steps for some unbeknown reason. Sound familiar?]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>It&#8217;s Saturday night and club is packed. From across the room you see her; the girl of your dreams. She looks at you; you look at her. You draw a blank and your mouth goes dry. You?re paralyzed with fear. Your heart of hearts wants to approach her but even with all of your power you can&#8217;t bring yourself to take those few steps for some unbeknown reason. Sound familiar? Then look no further for the best in dating advice.  Get on the top of your game and stay there with the ground breaking ebook <a href="https://venusianarts.infusionsoft.com/go/revelation/matador/" class="kblinker" title="More about revelation &raquo;">Revelation</a>, proudly brought to you by Venusian Arts.  Revelation contains over ten years of tried and tested social dynamic research in one comprehensive guide. With a wealth of knowledge like this you?re destined for success. Let us introduce you to the integral issues and ideas you need to make sure your dating quota is maximized. From start to finish you will learn how to tap into potential you never thought possible and control any situation, anytime, anywhere. Don?t have the looks of a Greek God to bring to the table? No worries, once you understand the underlying foundations of Revelation the dating scene will open wide up and no woman will be out of your league. Don?t settle for being a wallflower any longer, learn how to make an impact, keep your reputation and have her begging for more.  If ?how do I get a date?? is your question, Revelation is your answer.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[As most of you already know Facebook has taken over in terms of social interaction of the younger generation.  Facebook is great for many reasons.  Here?s a few of them you can use to your advantage...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p></p><p>As most of you already know Facebook has taken over in terms of social interaction of the younger generation.  Facebook is great for many reasons.  Here?s a few of them you can use to your advantage:</p>
<p>-Show high value in notes<br />
-Demonstrate pre-selection<br />
-Create time bridges</p>
<p>There are also many more ways.  When you number or e-mail close a new target, I recommend always asking if they are on Facebook and if they are immediately add them.  Your response rate will be higher than text messages and significantly higher than calling.   It&#8217;s also a great way of building your social circle as you can use the event invitation function to your advantage by attending events as well as recruiting people to your own event.   Facebook is the greatest tool online in terms of building comfort.  When you close a new target I recommend leaving wall posts once every day or two until the next meeting, and demonstrate value in every message to them.  Build conspiracy by sending little cocky, funny messages privately to them, and increase your communication.  Also, if you have mutual friends go to the mutual friends page and leave comments about your recent target.  Staying active in Facebook will dramatically improve your odds in social circle game and also is a great asset in establishing day twos and preventing flakes.</p>
<p>Recommendations:</p>
<p>-Post messages on walls of the highest value women you know in order to entice reciprocal comments.  This will show pre-selection to those just getting to know you.</p>
<p>-Blog about the exciting things happening in your life.  If you are going bungee jumping tell the world about it because many interest activities make an interesting human being.</p>
<p>-Create events and invite Facebook friends on a frequent basis.  This will demonstrate leadership on your part and will increase your value to targets.</p>
<p>-Send personalized messages to targets at least once a week and definitely on holidays.  One PUA I talked to sent messages for five years to an out of town target till she finally came out to visit.  There is a difference between neediness and persistent thoughtful commenting. Doing the latter yields results.</p>
<p>Good luck and happy sarging!</p>
<p>Simeon</p>
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