The Benifits of Productivity

Before we get into this I want you to ask yourself the following:

How much do you usually get accomplished in a day?

How much COULD you get accomplished in a day?

Two very different questions and, in most cases, two very different answers. If you’re like 95% of the population of the western world, you probably understand on some level that you aren’t getting as much done in a day as you’d like. Most people complain that they are already too busy, or too tired, or just can’t find the motivation to get up and get things done. These are excuses. They allow a person to admit that they aren’t getting as much out of their day as they could without actually feeling bad about it. And most of the time, it’s usually because these excuse makers have become accustomed to being unproductive and simply cant be bothered to try to get more out of their day. Too many people spend far too much of their lives on the couch or in front of their computers where it’s safe and boring and familiar. If you are one of those people then this needs to change. If you don’t get off that couch, out the door and out of the house, not getting anything accomplished then your day is pretty much wasted. When you get into a bad habit such as this, only bad things will arise from it such as laziness and do nothingism (and yes, that’s actually a word). In life we all want to be successful, and success thrives from productivity, because when we get shit done were one step closer to reaching our goals in life. It can sometimes take quite a bit of self discipline to become productive; however, here are some very good tips to help you get started.

Try keeping a day planner, something to help you stay on top of things. Most phones today already have a day planner built into them; this makes it easier for those who have them to stay focused on daily/weekly tasks especially with sound alerts to remind you. When writing or programming tasks or events into your planner you should always make sure to put in everything that should be a part of your daily activities. This could be a scheduled hour to hour plan or even a check list of things to do with your day. Include your work out, your practice session for any instrument you play or hobby you take part in, take pride with what you do. Any material you need to read up on and any other such activities you like to indulge yourself in should also be done every day.

Cut down on pointless, mindless activities such video games, mindless web surfing, and television. These things can become very addictive and when indulging in them too much it can become very easy to waste your time. Instead, try reading, writing or even watching instructional videos. Just do anything to expand your mind. After all, knowledge is power! (Sorry, I had to). Now that’s not to say that you should completely cut those things out of your life, it’s always nice to zone out of reality and go into your own little world every once in a while. Just be moderate about these kinds of things and don’t ever get carried away with them.

GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! You should be doing this anyways. So go soak in some sun, get your errands done, get everything you’ve been putting off done. While your out of the house be sure to make every possible social interaction happen. The more shit you get done for yourself the better you feel about yourself, the better you feel about yourself the more confident you become in yourself. Confidence is key when it comes to your game, with it you can pull off whatever you think you can because you will project it with the vibe you’re giving out. It’s actually quite amazing what a sense of accomplishment can do for your confidence.

The trick here is not to make productivity a chore. It’s so easy to just be lazy say “nah…I just don’t feeling like doing that today.” But this isn’t really helping anything, now is it? You should never feel like you are doing a task or errand against your will. You need to approach these sorts of things from a positive mindset. You should want to get X done, Y sent, and Z put away. You need to feel good about it. At the end of the day you should get into the habit of patting yourself on the back for getting as much done as you did. If you approach your daily tasks from this perspective, you’ll inevitably catch yourself saying “Man, I cant believe how much I got done today!” because you feel so good about it. Even if all you did was run around and do a bunch of tiny errands or worked all day on finishing one big project, you will actually feel better about yourself simply because you were productive, and that can really help your state in the field. Moreover, feeling good about accomplishing something will actually positively reinforce your desire to be productive in the first place, making productivity rather addictive if you approach it with that kind of mindset. So the more productive you are, the more you will find yourself WANTING to be even more productive.

All you have to do is stop yourself from being lazy and this sense of accomplishment will perpetuate itself for as long as you’ll let it.

But although it feels good to get things done, there’s more to this than just feeling good about being productive. You are now taking action in your life. You are getting things done and getting shit handled. If you’ve set some goals for yourself, then every completed task and finished errand gets you closer to those goals, even if only indirectly. Any progress in your life will bring you closer to your life’s goals and dreams. The more you work at things the better you get at them. So don’t be a waster of time, be productive, get shit done and you will be seeing results in yourself in no time at all. Most of all, remember to keep smiling.

- Wild Card

About Wild Card

Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.

The Importance of Speech

Your delivery – the way you speak – can be one of the most important factors of your game. Like body language, you express more about yourself with the way you speak than with what you actually say. If your delivery is off you can be giving a very different message than you are really intending to.

First off, how fast are you talking? People who tend to talk faster show less value. Studies show that the faster you talk the more nervous you are. It stems from an unconscious fear that people are not going to listen to you long enough for you to say everything that you want. By talking fast, you convey that fear, which is a very bad sign of insecurity and gives you lower value. So make sure you are slowing down your speech and enunciating everything you say so that everyone in your set can hear your every word very clearly. Speak slower than you think you should be with pauses to draw more attention to your words. Be clear and concise. Pack more value into fewer words.

Secondly; you’re most likely in a crowded venue, so how loud are you speaking? Are you yelling, or are you speaking articulately and clearly with a deep, powerful voice that comes from your diaphragm? You’d better make sure it’s that second one. There is a fine, but notable difference between yelling and speaking loudly. Yelling will only give lower value because it conveys that you are trying to hard to get the group to hear you. And while you’re shouting at the top of your lungs, the guy next to you is speaking firmly and with enough tone for everyone to hear, thus giving him not only more value but he will also look like he is more comfortable in his set for double points. Also, if you are simply speaking loudly, it is also easier to avoid pecking (we unconsciously tend to peck when we have to yell in someone’s ear) and make you look more relaxed in set.

Thirdly; take the time to take a break from talking and just listen. This can open your mind to many new things. Mostly when in set you plough through and don’t really take the time listen to your target or anyone else in your set for that matter. By just listening (actually listening, not planning your next move) every once and awhile you can demonstrate that you are for real and not just some player and gives off just the right vibe. Try it.

You should also be looking at how confident of a speaker you are being. The higher your confidence the higher your value so be sure to project yourself clearly with the proper facial expressions and enthusiasm. A good way to sound more confident with your speech is making your tone go down at the end of a sentence instead of up. By raising your voice at the end of a sentence, you make it sound like a question. By lowering it, you will sound certain about what you are saying. If you pay attention to the way particularly interesting speakers raise and lower their voice, you will notice all sorts of things like this. Also, you need to sound interesting. Lovedrop talks about this a LOT in Revelations, but we’ll mention it here anyway. Sounding interesting doesn’t mean talking about interesting things, it means that you need be interesting. Be fascinated with what you are saying, speak with passion and enthusiasm. Speak slowly and with intermittent pausing (see Revelations for more on this). This will draw your audience into what you are saying as they start to hang on your every word. Moods are contagious. If you sound like you are really, truly interested in what you are saying, and you are saying it in a compelling manner, the people you are talking to will suddenly find themselves as interested in what you are talking about as much as you are.

Finally let’s look at your manners. Always make sure your playing nice with others just like your mother always taught you. Avoid rude behavior because it will only send a wake of bad emotions through everyone you encounter and that can only end with everyone seeing you as the asshole or douche bag. That doesn’t mean that you cant be cocky or tease your girls, by any means however. Just make sure you know the line between being a tease and being an asshole. People will not feel pleasant being around you if you are the latter and that is not what you are looking to do. A real alpha male doesn’t need to put down others to look cool. He just has fun for the sake of being fun and bringing good feelings to the group. Do your best to put some basic manners and politeness into every little interaction you encounter. You’re looking to be the guy everyone loves not the asshole everyone avoids, so smile and throw in a thank you every once in a while.

Always pay attention to yourself in the field and try to notice every factor that makes up your speech. Everything from pacing, to volume, to tonality conveys something about you. If you notice something is wrong or out of place, fix it, adjust it, or get rid of it. We make mistakes to learn from them so don’t ever be hard on yourself, simply know yourself, recognize that you need to change something, and work out how you can improve. A wing can be invaluable in this aspect, as he will always have a better idea of what you actually sound like in the field than you do. It is always good for you and your wing no notice each other and be critical with one another in a constructive way. An outside opinion about yourself from a fellow PUA can help you pin point certain flaws you may not have noticed yourself. Always remember to move forward and always improve. Remember: practice makes perfect.

- Wild Card

About Wild Card

Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.