The Venusian Arts » Colgate http://www.venusianarts.com Mystery, Matador, Lovedrop, from VH1’s The Pick-Up Artist | Author of The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed & THE PICKUP ARTIST: THE NEW AND IMPROVED ART OF SEDUCTION Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:09:36 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 How To Start Fresh (Post-Breakup) http://www.venusianarts.com/how-to-start-fresh-post-breakup/ http://www.venusianarts.com/how-to-start-fresh-post-breakup/#comments Wed, 15 Jun 2011 16:25:19 +0000 Colgate http://www.venusianarts.com/?p=4191 Anguised upset business man

Breakups are never easy. They inevitably mean change, which for some may be easier than others. When you are in a relationship, you become content with the comfort blanket you significant other provides. For those who experience a divorce, it can often seem like “starting fresh” is nearly impossible. No matter how hard one tries, there’s no shortcut to get over the grieving process. The only way to take that first step is to embrace it. At some point or another relationships will experience hardships and to understand that breakups sometimes benefit both parties is to understand that not all “tragedies” are bad. Here are a few tips to help prepare yourself for what is to come. Release Your Inner Anger Anger can manifest itself into outrageous things. For some it could be transferred onto those who are closest to them. For others it can be against their past girlfriend for causing pain and hurt. Most however, tend to be angry at themselves. “What could I have done differently?” “What did I do wrong?” and “What could I have done differently?” are all questions that one asks in beginning to rationalize their breakup. The lack of control one experiences during a breakup can cause anger if not more commonly frustration. Everyone deals with anger differently. The important aspect is to release the anger. If that means joining a gym (which benefits you in more ways than one), screaming as loud as you can, etc you MUST release that lingering anger. This does not mean you call your ex and yell at her. Transferring your anger on anyone (especially your ex) will not help. Even when appropriate (you ex cheats or hurts you) yelling will only highlight the fact that you are in the bitter stage of the break up. Reframe your mind It is normal to kick start your brain into thinking how you could have avoided the breakup. It is natural to attempt to make sense of the situation in order to get over the pain. It is even common to play the break up if not the whole relationship in your head until you can “see” where things went wrong. Doing this gives you something to do however it won’t get you anywhere The truth is you may never understand why this happened. The reasons she gave you may not be the actual reasons at all for why the breakup occurred so taking her words literally may not be the best thing. Whenever you begin to think of her or any situation around her you have to force yourself to STOP and redirect your thoughts into something more productive. Take a deep breathe, notice what is going on around you and focus your energy in proactive situations instead of diving deep in thoughts that are for a lack of better words “DEAD”. There are plenty of girls out there (any of the VA trainers and coaches can tell you from experience). I suggest you change the way your brain works. Positive thinking can be very useful. When you get into a habit of positive thinking, positive results will manifest itself in your life. The more positively you push yourself to think the easier it will be to see the positive aspects of any situation (e.g. your breakup). Listen to Music According to past and recent research, listening to music is one of the quickest ways to instantly change your mood. Music is very powerful in the sense that it alters parts of your brain that other things can’t. Music is what our emotions sound like so do not underestimate the power it has in getting over a relationship. Singing along will also help due to the release of endorphins. Change Your Style Reinvent yourself. Don’t let the breakup consume who you are. Go shopping; get a hair cut, shave, and gear up for the great nights there are to come. Preparing yourself for new women can do wonders for your psyche and it will also assist in helping you build your self-confidence again. Side Note: Breakups can often rob our self-esteem and confidence, it is important to realize that only you can rebuild this and relying on other women, your friends, etc will result in a temporary fix that will yield bigger issues down the road when the emptiness raises to the surface. You should dictate what builds you up because you are the only person who truly knows how YOU work. Spend time with different women Perspective is an amazing concept. Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project stated “both men and women find relationships with women to be more intimate and enjoyable than those with men.” With that said, surround your life with women, of all types and walks of life. DO NOT talk to them about your pains. The past is the past and you must force yourself to move on. Colgate’s 3 Letter Principle Write a letter to your ex, one to the world, and the most important one is to write one to yourself. Keep in mind NONE of these letters will be sent. The idea is to release the emotions that are inside. It doesn’t have to make sense nor be uniform (grammar doesn’t matter either). Write how you feel and explain your emotions of anger, frustration, disappointment, happiness etc Letter to you ex: Write all the things you wish you could say to her. Say whatever you want and envision you being face to face with her. Letter to the world: Write a letter to the universe stating all the positive and powerful things you plan on doing from this day forward. Letter to yourself: Write this letter so that you can get out the person you will become. Write it and describe how you envision yourself being at the best point in your life. After you are done, throw them out. Avoid reading them, as they will only highlight what you wrote and perhaps even taking what you wrote in. Throw it out and forget it, only after you do this will you see how powerful this is. Know the Truth We all take breakups personally. We assume that no one will understand or make us happy like our ex did. The truth is that you will not end up alone. Let me rephrase, you will not end up alone so long as YOU do not want to end up alone. DO not let your age, look, personality blind you of the rich opportunity that lies ahead. These characteristics have no direct correlation to how happy you can be. See yourself happy, visualize it and then seize it knowing that you are ultimately in control of every outcome of your life. Control the situations that you can and forget about the ones that you cannot. Final Thoughts Every relationship you experience will undergo a linear phase that will contain a start, middle and an end. Accept this. Even if you never breakup and you spend your entire life with someone, eventually you will see an end (death). Be inspired by this. Know the requirement you have for the next person in your life but also work on becoming a better person. You should push yourself every single day to be better. This with the combination of positive thinking will have you where you want to be very quickly.]]> Anguised upset business man

Breakups are never easy. They inevitably mean change, which for some may be easier than others. When you are in a relationship, you become content with the comfort blanket you significant other provides. For those who experience a divorce, it can often seem like “starting fresh” is nearly impossible. No matter how hard one tries, there’s no shortcut to get over the grieving process. The only way to take that first step is to embrace it. At some point or another relationships will experience hardships and to understand that breakups sometimes benefit both parties is to understand that not all “tragedies” are bad. Here are a few tips to help prepare yourself for what is to come. Release Your Inner Anger Anger can manifest itself into outrageous things. For some it could be transferred onto those who are closest to them. For others it can be against their past girlfriend for causing pain and hurt. Most however, tend to be angry at themselves. “What could I have done differently?” “What did I do wrong?” and “What could I have done differently?” are all questions that one asks in beginning to rationalize their breakup. The lack of control one experiences during a breakup can cause anger if not more commonly frustration. Everyone deals with anger differently. The important aspect is to release the anger. If that means joining a gym (which benefits you in more ways than one), screaming as loud as you can, etc you MUST release that lingering anger. This does not mean you call your ex and yell at her. Transferring your anger on anyone (especially your ex) will not help. Even when appropriate (you ex cheats or hurts you) yelling will only highlight the fact that you are in the bitter stage of the break up. Reframe your mind It is normal to kick start your brain into thinking how you could have avoided the breakup. It is natural to attempt to make sense of the situation in order to get over the pain. It is even common to play the break up if not the whole relationship in your head until you can “see” where things went wrong. Doing this gives you something to do however it won’t get you anywhere The truth is you may never understand why this happened. The reasons she gave you may not be the actual reasons at all for why the breakup occurred so taking her words literally may not be the best thing. Whenever you begin to think of her or any situation around her you have to force yourself to STOP and redirect your thoughts into something more productive. Take a deep breathe, notice what is going on around you and focus your energy in proactive situations instead of diving deep in thoughts that are for a lack of better words “DEAD”. There are plenty of girls out there (any of the VA trainers and coaches can tell you from experience). I suggest you change the way your brain works. Positive thinking can be very useful. When you get into a habit of positive thinking, positive results will manifest itself in your life. The more positively you push yourself to think the easier it will be to see the positive aspects of any situation (e.g. your breakup). Listen to Music According to past and recent research, listening to music is one of the quickest ways to instantly change your mood. Music is very powerful in the sense that it alters parts of your brain that other things can’t. Music is what our emotions sound like so do not underestimate the power it has in getting over a relationship. Singing along will also help due to the release of endorphins. Change Your Style Reinvent yourself. Don’t let the breakup consume who you are. Go shopping; get a hair cut, shave, and gear up for the great nights there are to come. Preparing yourself for new women can do wonders for your psyche and it will also assist in helping you build your self-confidence again. Side Note: Breakups can often rob our self-esteem and confidence, it is important to realize that only you can rebuild this and relying on other women, your friends, etc will result in a temporary fix that will yield bigger issues down the road when the emptiness raises to the surface. You should dictate what builds you up because you are the only person who truly knows how YOU work. Spend time with different women Perspective is an amazing concept. Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project stated “both men and women find relationships with women to be more intimate and enjoyable than those with men.” With that said, surround your life with women, of all types and walks of life. DO NOT talk to them about your pains. The past is the past and you must force yourself to move on. Colgate’s 3 Letter Principle Write a letter to your ex, one to the world, and the most important one is to write one to yourself. Keep in mind NONE of these letters will be sent. The idea is to release the emotions that are inside. It doesn’t have to make sense nor be uniform (grammar doesn’t matter either). Write how you feel and explain your emotions of anger, frustration, disappointment, happiness etc Letter to you ex: Write all the things you wish you could say to her. Say whatever you want and envision you being face to face with her. Letter to the world: Write a letter to the universe stating all the positive and powerful things you plan on doing from this day forward. Letter to yourself: Write this letter so that you can get out the person you will become. Write it and describe how you envision yourself being at the best point in your life. After you are done, throw them out. Avoid reading them, as they will only highlight what you wrote and perhaps even taking what you wrote in. Throw it out and forget it, only after you do this will you see how powerful this is. Know the Truth We all take breakups personally. We assume that no one will understand or make us happy like our ex did. The truth is that you will not end up alone. Let me rephrase, you will not end up alone so long as YOU do not want to end up alone. DO not let your age, look, personality blind you of the rich opportunity that lies ahead. These characteristics have no direct correlation to how happy you can be. See yourself happy, visualize it and then seize it knowing that you are ultimately in control of every outcome of your life. Control the situations that you can and forget about the ones that you cannot. Final Thoughts Every relationship you experience will undergo a linear phase that will contain a start, middle and an end. Accept this. Even if you never breakup and you spend your entire life with someone, eventually you will see an end (death). Be inspired by this. Know the requirement you have for the next person in your life but also work on becoming a better person. You should push yourself every single day to be better. This with the combination of positive thinking will have you where you want to be very quickly.]]> http://www.venusianarts.com/how-to-start-fresh-post-breakup/feed/ 9 The Rebirth of AMOGing http://www.venusianarts.com/the-rebirth-of-amoging/ http://www.venusianarts.com/the-rebirth-of-amoging/#comments Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:02:06 +0000 Colgate http://www.venusianarts.com/?p=3156

By: Colgate and Discovery

The concept of being able to acquire a skill set in order to handle the Alpha Male in the group. The idea for most to be able to blow out the guys that generally succeeded in getting the girls prior to our knowledge of pick up can make any person excited. The reason why AMOGing works is because you can systematically take the attention away from other men who are competing for attention. By holding court, re-framing, and being in your own head space, you can successfully handle the threads AMOGs will throw at you.

The weird thing about AMOGing is that, while strangers will do it to you without hesitation, your best friends will too (keep in mind, when in-field your wing should never attempt to AMOG you). What I have noticed is that when two people have a connection in their friendship, they tend to banter with each other more than two individuals that do not share that connection. This is how Discovery and I developed the concept of WING-MOGING.

Wing-moging is a concept where wings can display a strong brotherhood and camaraderie by banter with each other. The routine not only displays a connection between the two, but also has DHV spikes embedded in that will set off attraction switches. The reason that the attraction is generated when viewing the display of connection is due to her sub conscious thought that is she aligns with one of the guys, she is guaranteed the social network, protection, resources and love from his wing and the other guys in his group.

The guys who have a strong connection with each other and have a tight "Entourage" game, can also be remembered much more by using wing-mog tactics. This will lead to the entire group being invited to better social occasions, girls tell their friends about the "friends" and say things like "you should meet these guys, they are so much fun”. You gain instant pre-selection to other targets by the girl who witnessed the wing-moging. Girls will invite us along because she knows her friends will appreciate her for meeting such awesome guys (which is rare). By Discovery and I using our wing-moging tactics, we can add to the social value and energy to the group. The possibilities become endless.

Example: Let's say Discovery is making fun of my beard

Discovery: What’s with the animal on your face bro?
Colgate: Man the chicks won't let me shave it, you should try it baby face!
Discovery: You know my girls like that "I've just had a face wax feel". Anyways your new Miss November girl surely can't like the feel of a badger scratching her bikini line!
Colgate: Man, (with exaggerated hand gestures) Miss November isn’t interested in my facial badger, she wants access to my Jurassic Park area! (Strokes groin area with cheeky smile)
Discovery: Why's that bro, cause it hides a monster? (said teasingly)
Colgate: Hey we are among friends here (puts arm around group and pulls them in and whispers) honestly more like a hamster. (when delivery is flawless the result is shrieks of laughter)
Colgate: So bro now that we are sharing how did the operation go (more serious tone)
Discovery: I will only get into it because I feel we are amongst friends, but it hurt like childbirth. You women have breast augmentations, BUT did u know you could literally double your length and increase your girth by 3 time!!! (pause) Now that the bandages are off, (release) I am so proud of my 3 inches!!!!
(Both guys howl with laughter while displaying to the group a connection in their friendship)

The idea is to generate a great vibe, embed DHV’s, show a tight brotherhood, while also not compromising each others values. Keep in mind this is not AMOGing, this is not meant to blow anyone out of the set. If anything it raises the value of both guys. Discovery and I can not tell you how many times this routine has led to us to being upgraded to V.I.P booths, celebrity after parties, invites to exclusive events, etc. We have also used it to skip lines at exclusive clubs when we have not had any pre-selection at all. When the guys have a strong frame and they demonstrate their brotherhood on the in they can easily persuade the bouncers that they offer value to the club. It is a very powerful gambit to add to you arsenal.

A word of advice, the delivery of both guys must be not only flawless but must also be genuine. Practice this enough until it comes off natural and real. It should not be scripted or feel scripted. When tight friends’ vibe together the energy they transmit is very powerful, Discovery and I developed this concept intuitively due to our tight brotherhood.

Another idea to keep in mind is that it can be done in front of other guys. Those guys who normally might try to be difficult or attempt to AMOG will sit back and observe both guys wing-moging. This will leave them with no place to interject and attempt to AMOG because they can not compete with two dominant forces putting out a great vibe, therefore, this is ideal for mixed set.

FIVE WING-MOG TIPS

1. Divide holding court: By dividing the attention, both guys can hit the attraction switches equally and be perceived as high value.
2. Feed off each others energy: When both guys are enjoying each others stories and adding value through laughter, the group will feel the emotional richness and enjoy the company of both guys.
3. Don’t under any circumstances make each other look bad: Wing-moging is meant to increase the value for BOTH guys. Do not make each other look bad, by one guy making his friend look bad, it in turn lowers his value.
4. Be comfortable displaying physical contact with each other: Hug your wing and do it comfortably. Not only will this give you plausible deniability to hug the girls more but it will visually show the connection of the brotherhood.
5. Be okay with laughing at yourself: If you are comfortable with laughing at yourself and your wing is as well, both of you can gain from the possibilities by telling stories of each other (be sure to embed DHV’s).

This concept has proven effective in many dynamical situations. We have ran venues with our vibe and have people remember us on a first name basis wherever we go. People are attracted to people who show appreciation for other people. They will not only attempt to be a part of your social circle, but they will go out of their way as well.

- Colgate

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It's the last hour before you head out. It is familiar for all of us whether we were aware or not. It is basically the last few preperations before heading out to that target rich venue in to what is expected to be a great night. This does not include the usual such as showering, shaving, picking out outfits, etc. This is what you do in the last hour before you role. Before we do head out, we have to prepare ourselves on all levels so that we can present our best selves. So what areas must we work on in order to accomplish this, well here are the most important ones: 

Get into a talkative state: This is extremely important because if you are not in a talkative state by the time you arrive at the venue, you are simply wasting precious time that you could have put to more beneficial use. There are 2 ways that I recommend that guys approach this objective.

If you with your buddies run your material on them: Practicing your routines and gambits on the guys that you’re going out with is a great way to get into a talkative state. It actually serves as a multi-purpose drill because not only will you get into a talkative state but you will also get feedback on your delivery and tonality. If you’re by yourself, call a friend, parents, uncle, etc and talk to them about their day: This is also a great way to get into a talkative state if you are sarging by yourself. By calling someone you get to talk to someone you are comfortable with and as a result you will get into a talkative state.

Run through your cheat sheet and stack cards: This is extremely important so that the information you have is fresh in your head. Nothing spoils a set more than when you are in it and run out of things to say. As result, you are left lingering there and it lowers your value. Ideally, you should go through your cheat sheet and stack cards twice. Why not even three times. The more you familiarize yourself with your material the better it will sound. Just avoid sounding robotic in your delivery; this could also ruin a set.

Have your default opener memorized: We have all been there, we see a set and then……NOTHING! We didn’t follow the 3-second rule and walk up to the set because we had nothing to say. It’s a feeling every guy feels. Some of us turn our bodies away from the set (DLV), some walk past it or hover (DLV), and some blank out and can not think of anything to say. By having a default opener you can assure that this will not happen to you. Also it becomes useful when situations present themselves to you and you need a quick opener to get things rolling. Run your opener smoothly and persistently and you will become a master at it.

Smile for 3 mins straight: When you smile you feel better. This is due to the endorphins that your body releases when you are smiling. By keeping a smile (even a fake smile), your body will flush itself with endorphins and get you in a great mood. It is important to get into that happy and carefree state of mind before walking into the venue. By smiling in your power hour, you will walk into the venue with the biggest smile.

Breathing exercises: Nothing relaxes the body more than simple breathing exercises. Most people underestimate the power of breathing exercises due to the action being so mundane and familiar. Practice breathing in fully from the nose, then hold your breath to the mental count of 4, and finally release your breathe slowly through your mouth. Repeat 4 more times or until you feel relaxed.

20 push ups: Push ups are a great way to release that extra bit of tension before stepping out of the house. It will exert the negative energy away from your body and simultaneously pump testosterone and endorphins through your body. If push ups are too difficult, try doing 20 jumping jacks, or jog in place. The idea is to get into a great state of mind while inhibiting all the bad emotions and tension that may linger sub consciously. Once you’ve completed the objectives above, you should be feeling great. You should be prepared, relaxed, happy, and determined to make the night the best night possible. Remember stay agenda free and out come independent and you will excel your interactions. Keep in mind to always learn from every interaction and keep barreling through. Mastery happens with patience, experience and persistency, but it does happen.

-Colgate

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