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Not Hooking Your Opener? Try giving it a Root

Mickey Angel — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 21:18:10 +0000

Hey guys! Ever notice that sometimes your openers won't hook. You were positive that you checked everything off the list: + Open over the shoulder + False time constraint + Body Rocking + Proper body language + Not conveying too much interest + Solid delivery + Appropriate energy level ..but the opener STILL doesn't hook! It could be because your opener doesn't have a root. A root is anything that gives your opener situational relevance. Here are some examples how you might root some classic openers: "My friend over there [point to your wing] just broke up with his girlfriend because she told lots of little lies, and we were just having a little discussion about who lies more...anyway, maybe you can help us figure it out. Who lies more...men or women?" [Who lies more opener] or "My friend over there just had his girlfriend move in...[Point to somebody who is NOT your wing...you don't want to blow our your wing] but he's still friends with his college girlfriend too...and his new girlfriend hates that. So we were all trying to give him advice about this situation. Tell me, do you think it's okay to be friends with your ex? [Jealous girlfriend opener]. Do you notice how we are tying the story back to someone in the venue at the present time? This is the root. Experiment with different ways to root your openers. It may take some practice, but over time you'll hook with even more consistency. Sarge on Fellows Mickey Angel

The Bucket List (A Gambit for A2-A3-C1)

Prophet — Sun, 28 Aug 2011 03:46:50 +0000

[caption id="attachment_4360" align="alignleft" width="180" caption="We're in a ball-pit... on my balcony"][/caption]This originally started out as a gambit that I would use in the field back when I first got an iPhone and was looking for clever ways to show it off in the field. The Bucket List is basically all the things you do before you “kick the bucket”, as they say. I got the idea from that movie with Jack Nickolson and Morgan Freeman. It’s a simple and extremely effective way to demonstrate your high value personality in the field, build comfort, and even set up fun and exciting dates with your target! First, you need to create a bucket list for yourself. This is your opportunity to create unique and interesting goals to achieve in your life, so take your time and really think about it. Think of all the cool places you would like to visit and the wonderful things you’ve always dreamed of doing and all the crazy/weird/beautiful things you would like to see, and write them all down. Think about things that display value and show a sense of humor and adventure. Write down really grand ideas as well as small local things you’ve always wanted to do. And here’s the key, the really sneaky part: since you’re just starting it now you can add things that you have already done and check them off. If you’ve visited somewhere cool, add it. If you’ve done something that coveys value, add it. Almost anything that you have a funny or value-laden story for can be added if you word it correctly. And you can pepper them into your bucket list as tiny possible conversational threads. To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, an excerpt of my bucket list is below. This is actually only a portion of it, as my bucket list has grown MASSIVE in size. (Side note: the woman I closed the night before I wrote this joked that we needed to hang out again just so she can read the rest of my list – how awesome is that?) There are a lot of bucket list apps out there, but I like storing mine in a note. It feels less gimmicky that way. So to “check off” items I put an asterisk at the beginning. Ride a horse in a city Walk on water (add cornstarch) Rent the party streetcar Do my own TedTalk Survive the 5K Zombie obstacle course Jump off A Bridge Get hair cut at Sweeny Todds * See the Rosetta Stone Harass a Palace Guard in London * Ride a double-decker bus Search for ghosts in the Crystal Ballroom Pick up a woman wearing the ugliest sweater in the world. Win a chess-boxing match Get shot while wearing a bullet-proof shirt. Photograph the planet earth Cross Abbey Road * Dance at a London Goth club Bats Day in Disneyland Make a scrapbook for my gnome * Walk through a drive-through Stand in a desert * Put bubbles in a public fountain Stripper Karaoke on Vegas Walk over hot coals Ski in the nude Dirty russian roulette * Throw a man off a cliff Do Shambala in BC Try Chocolate-covered Bacon * Participate In A Flash Mob * Smoke Weed on top of a mountain Sneak into a place wearing Groucho glasses Hire two private detectives to follow each other Achieve 15 minutes of internet fame Ride An Elephant Eat a Grapple Witness a healing at a Revival Sleep with a woman on every continent on earth (3/7) Swim in the Devils Pool (Zimbabwe) Have sex in a photo booth Do Burning Man * Visit a nudist colony. * Learn to dance See Evil Dead the musical. Make a black market deal in Russia. * Get away with an ocean's 11-style caper. Ruin the life of an asshole. * Have a sword fight in a public place. Now there are a number of ways you can introduce this. Mentioning your bucket list during a DHV story is a good way to bait the thread. "...so, you know, checked that off the bucket list!" You can also have your wing introduce the topic if he can do it in a casual manner. "Oh hey, Steph told me you checked off X from your Bucket List. How'd that go?" Women will typically bite on this thread, and when they ask about it, say: “The Bucket List is what I live my life by. You ever seen the movie? With Jack Nickolson and Morgan Freeman? It's a list of things that you want to do before you...you know, kick the bucket. Get it?“ Then take out your phone and show it to your set as you explain: “I truly believe in living life to the fullest… I've created a list of all the outlandish and zany things I want to do before I die. It's a long list, but I'm getting there. The ones with the marks are the ones I've checked off.” You have now literally handed your set a list of your DHVs. It’s like saying “Here, these are all the reasons why I’m awesome” totally below the radar. And ready for the best part? Eventually, someone in the set is going to ask about something on the list. You can now launch into whatever DHV story, future adventure projection, snappy one-liner, or even just a cool tidbit of information goes with any item on your list. So if someone asks me about “Throw a man off a cliff” I have a DHV story in which a thug gets himself pushed off a small cliff in a city park for harassing my girls. If someone asks me about “Photograph the planet earth” I can tell them about how (with the help of a brilliant blonde bartender I know) I’m building a high-altitude balloon to photograph the earth from the stratosphere and I’m using iPhones to track it’s location (I’m really doing this, we launched our first balloon last week). If someone asks me about “Sleep with a woman on every continent on earth” I can just smile and joke “Yup. Antarctica is going to be really hard though. I’ve looked into it and apparently it takes weeks of psychological testing before they’ll allow you to go there. They’d clearly never let you go though ” If you’re really daring, you can even use your phone as a lock-in prop and tell your DHV to the obstacles. Meanwhile your target has to stand there and look at more of the DHV spikes listed on your phone. Just be careful if you try this… you always want to make sure you’re going to get your phone back before you hand it over to someone else! If someone asks me about something that I have not checked off, I can use it as an opportunity to create a future adventure projection involving you and the set completing the item. If it's something that could be an easy Day-2, I can remember this for seeding and closing on later. And if it’s something that I can use in comfort, I can tell her “Let’s come back to that one” and then bring it up when I isolate her. If you want, you can even qualify your target by asking her what the top three things on her bucket list should be. Just be careful not to get stuck talking about your bucket list all night. Although it can be easy to just sit there and launch into thread after thread while the girls crowd around you, you are essentially ONLY talking about your bucket list. Ask her what she has/would have on her list. She will come up with a few. If not, lightly tell her she’s boring (IOD). Dislike one of them a little, but really like the rest. Many times, your target will give you one that could make for an awesome Day-2. They will give you day-2 ideas! Tell her that you are adding it to your list and then plan it briefly with her if it’s complicated. But don’t set it up as a date yet - just seed it for now. Then later on, you can close her with: “Listen, next [whatever day makes the most sense], you and I MUST check off X from our bucket lists. Here, name and number please. [number close]” The thing is, I really do live my life by my bucket list. It has led to so many adventures, experiences, awesome dates, and amazing stories! It’s a fantastic way to live and creates a fascinating and fun lifestyle that women are attracted to. Happy sarging, Prophet

How To Write DHV Stories – With Examples!

Prophet — Sun, 20 Feb 2011 18:03:12 +0000

To follow up on Discovery's recent article on creating a routine stack, I thought I'd cover one of the most commonly asked questions in the game "How do you write a DHV story?"

And let’s face it, for most guys it’s hard enough getting up the courage to walk up to a girl and say Hi, let alone coming up with cool, funny, or interesting things to tell her. And like most aspiring PUAs, when I first started learning the ropes in bars and clubs, I found that one of my biggest problems was running out of things to say. I would be talking to a fun group of girls, they would be laughing and touching me and showing me interest, and then my mind would just go blank. I would be standing there with this awesome group of girls who were totally into me and I would have no idea what to say or do next. And rather than risk doing something wrong or embarrassing myself, I would simply tell them to have a good night and politely eject out of the set.

And this went on and on for MONTHS until I realized the problem: I felt like I didn’t have enough to talk to talk about. This is an extremely common and debilitating problem for many aspiring PUAs out there, which is why we use canned material.

Canned material basically as any story, routine, or gambit that is previously prepared and memorized for use in the field. Have you ever told the same joke more than once? You’re using canned material. You know it’s a story that people enjoy so you tell it whenever there is a new opportunity with a new group of people to get a laugh.

And now we’re going to take your stories and amp them up. Read on and you will learn how to make your stories ATTRACTIVE instead of just enjoyable.

Your stories typically contain embedded DHVs (Demonstrations of Higher Value), which convey the qualities of the kind of man that women are evolutionarily programed to be attracted to. The kinds of DHVs you want to embed into your stories are things that flip the following attraction switches:

Preselected By Women
Protector of Loved Ones
Humor
Leader of Men
Successful Risk-taker
World Traveler
Willingness to Emote
Social Alignments

You can find plenty of examples of canned material right here on our website, both on our blog and on our forum, in our books Revelation and The Pick-up Artist, our DVD sets, and in our upcoming routines manual. This material will give you tried-and-true examples of well-designed routines, giving you something to practice and get a feel for in the field.

One you get an idea of how a DHV routine should be delivered, you can start to write your own canned material in order to start conveying real stories from your life and fully convey your personality. Now you may not feel like you have a lot of DHVs in your life, or that you have nothing interesting going on to talk about, but if you follow the steps below, you will be surprised by just how much you find you have to say and how awesome and interesting you will sound when you talk about your life.

Step 1: Find Your Stories

You have stories and experiences that can be transformed into DHV stories, you just need to sit down and write them out. Think about some of the stories you tell or have told to your friends, family, and co-workers. Go through your photos or Facebook or even Twitter to remind yourself of some of the adventures and interesting situations you have been in. Your DHV stories can come from any part of your life. They can be any time you:

Did something fun with a girl
Did something you weren’t supposed to and got away with it
Had something funny/scary/exciting happen on a trip
Took charge of a situation
Stood up to someone for someone else
Organized something exciting
Had someone’s back
Got out of an awkward situation
Did something nice for someone
Did something spontaneous
Accomplished something you are proud of
Saw something funny/scary/exciting

Anything with humor, excitement, or tension is perfect here. Light social embarrassment is great for humor because it creates tension before releasing it

Of course, if you REALLY cant find anything to work with from your own life, you can always check out Cosmo Confessions for some good stories to make your own until you start living a little more of a high-value lifestyle.

Step 2: Write Your Stories Out In Point Form

Once you have gotten all your stories together, write out the basic story points for each. You don’t have to write it all out word-for-word. Just get the basic sequential set of events down on paper for yourself.

For example, I have a story about how my little brother crashed his truck. It’s a long story, and there is a great deal that I’m going to take out of the final piece. For now though, the story points would look like this:

Was on a date with Samantha, took her home
Little brother called at 4am, usually wouldn’t answer but it was weird that he called so late
He tells me he hit a deer and that he crashed his truck, I get directions and get up to leave
Samantha gets mad, I tell her that my brother was in an accident. She wants to come but I tell her to stay
I drive around forever, and the roads have gotten really icy so I’m sliding everywhere
Find my brother, the truck is totalled. It’s been rolled so many times that the frame is twisted. There isn’t a smooth bit of metal on the truck. It’s missing two of its wheels
I run to the truck screaming his name and find him covered in blood, trying to rock it back onto it’s tires
He tells me he wants to roll it back over so he can drive it home
I take him to the hospital, he was very lucky to only have a concussion and a few bruised ribs and a few stiches here and there.
He was only in the hospital for a couple of hours. Thank god for small town emergency rooms!
On the way home, he asked me to pull over and buy him some smokes, he hands me a $20 from his pocket
I’m kind of in shock myself so I don’t look at the bill until I get to the counter and have to pay
I had the clerk the bill and it’s god blood all over it. The clerk looks at me like I’m a maniac
I smile at him and say “yeah, its been one of those nights.” He must have though I killed some guy!

Step 3: Find/Add Your DHV Spikes

Your DHV spikes should be items in the story that flip the attraction switches above. Using my example above, you can see that my DHV spikes are:

I was on a date (Preselection)
I helped my brother when he was in need (Protector of Loved Ones)
He thought he could still drive the truck home, and I scared the cashier with the bloody $20 (humor).

Your DHV spikes do not necessarily need to be over-the-top rock star lifestyle kind of DHVs people like to write. Not every story has to be about how to saved an exotic dancer and her box of puppies by getting your buddies who are martial arts experts/bouncers to help you lift a burning bus you saw crash while you were driving around in your brand new car. Your DHV spikes should never be the point of the story, and it should never feel like you are bragging about yourself (although you CAN brag about your friends). They should feel like incidental details that just get mentioned off-hand while you are telling your story.

Also keep in mind that you don’t need to hit every single switch in one single story. Usually just a couple is more than enough to make the story compelling. But if you find that your story is lacking certain DHVs, don’t be afraid to exaggerate a little and spruce them up. Maybe that girl you were with on that fun adventure was your ex-girlfriend instead of that girl you had a crush on? Maybe you had dealt with a similar situation before so you were only a little worried (even though in reality you were about to piss your pants)? Or maybe that guy you protected your girlfriend from backed right down and apologized instead of trying to intimidate you? It’s ok to stretch the facts a LITTLE when you’re writing these routines. Women do this ALL the time. It’s just a part of how flirting works.

Step 4: Watch for and remove DLVs

Demonstrations of Lower Value, or DLVs, are the opposite of DHVs. They tell your target that you are not a high value male and cause her to feel less attracted to you. Most men don’t even realize just how much they DLV themselves in the field when they talk about how they only have a few friends, or how they haven’t been in a relationship in a while, or when they brag about that time they saw something embarrassing happen to their friend, etc etc etc.

The kinds of things you want to exclude from your stories are anything that causes her to feel uncomfortable or that demonstrate that you lack the DHVs listed above or that display bad social intuition. Things like:

Anything involving bugs, feces, vomit, blood, snot, other bodily fluids, etc.
Any time you were rude to or angry at a woman, old person, child, or person in the service industry (i.e. yelling at your girlfriend)
Any time you laughed or took pleasure in something mean, cruel, or hurtful (i.e. that time your sister’s prom dress was ruined)
Any time you did something that could be considered creepy or a social violation (i.e. texting a woman more than two or three times)
Complaining about or putting down your friends or ex’s (i.e. how you’re always there for your friends, but whenever you need their help they always let you down).
Any time you followed someone else’s orders or demands
Anything that associates you with other low-value people

So in my story, I’m going to scrap the entire bit about the blood , as it’s obviously too gross and weird to be talking about in the field. Also the about Samantha getting mad that I had to leave should go too.

Step 5: Trim The Fat

As you develop your routine, it is good to remember that you will most likely be telling these stories in loud, busy bars and nightclubs. These sorts of venues are not good places for long, drawn-out routines because how suddenly you can be interrupted or how quickly your set will lose interest if your story drones on too long. Your DHV routines should be short and sweet.

Below is a basic, general structure of a DHV routine:

A few sentences to bait the group to hear your story by introducing it with a question or a statement that creates mystery and intrigue, such as “I had… the… SCARIEST night of my life last week.”
A few sentences to hook your and keep them interested. Within first three to four sentences you should have said something captivating, interesting, or DHV-laden. This way, even if you get cut off within the first few sentences, or for some reason you have to snip the thread and stack (more on that below), you should have at least uploaded value. And if you have created mystery or intrigue, your set may find themselves wanting to know the rest of the story anyway.
A few sentences to describe what happened and build tension as you reel her further and further into the story. Using pauses, inflection, and by describing what you were feeling, you draw her further and further into the story, causing her to feel the emotions of the event for herself. Build tension by leading up to something humorous or exciting.
Release the tension with your punchline, what you’ve learned, or the exciting results of the whole thing.
A secondary punchline or release, to compound the positive emotions she is feeling. This bit is optional, but it never hurts to have a second funny or exciting thing to say to add to your set’s laughter. This helps you become a “really funny guy” as opposed to “the guy that told that funny story”.

So from my example, I’m going to trim getting directions from my brother, as well as the bit about Samantha wanting to come along, since they are basically irrelevant details. I’ll also try to word it as succinctly as possible, as the less I say about something, the more questions my set can ask me.

Step 6: Add Pauses

Adding pausing to your stories enhances the tension and excitement, while also helping you slow down your delivery. This will make your story more captivating. In fact, if you get your delivery down, you can tell stories about absolutely NOTHING and people will sit and listen to you intently. Try not to go crazy with pausing, or it will lose it’s effect and you will end up sounding like William Shatner.

Use pausing to build tension before releasing it. Reel them in by pausing, then release then tension with something humorous or exciting.

Good pausing:

and I come around the side and I seem him... and this WAVE of relief washes over me…and he's trying to rock… the TRUCK… back onto it's wheels... because he thinks he can drive it home!

Bad pausing:

…and I… come around… the side… and I seem…him… and this… wave… of relief… just washes… all over me… and he’s trying to rock the truck back onto it’s wheels, because he thinks... he... can drive it home!

In the end, my finished routine will look like this:

PUA: I had… the… SCARIEST night of my life last week!

It was like 4am and I get this call from my little brother. Now I had been out with some friends all night and was in bed… so normally I wouldn’t even answer it. But it just felt weird… you know? Like if he was calling at this time of night…something… must… be wrong. So I answer and he sounds really out of it… he’s like “hey kev I dodged a… deer and I had an accident... Can you come pick me up?” And obviously, it's my little brother… so I just hop right out of bed and I'm like "babe, Samantha, my brother’s in trouble so I gotta roll but I'll be back."

So I'm way out on some backroad… and I come around a corner... and I see all this… wreckage strewn across the road... and then I see his truck… and it's laying on its side… and it's been rolled so many times… that the frame is actually twisted.

And my heart… STOPS… because I don't see my brother anywhere… I’m fearing the worst… I jump out of my car and start running towards the truck cause I can see it sorta… rocking back and forth… And I'm screaming his name... and I come around the side and I seem him...

…and this WAVE of relief washes over me…

…and he's trying to rock… the TRUCK… back onto it's wheels... because he thinks he can drive it home!

And that's why I love my little brother.

[cue laughter, IOIs, and stack forward]

That's it for now guys. Build yourself some DHV material and start practicing it.

Happy sarging,

Prophet

Personalized Stack Creation

Discovery — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 20:43:00 +0000

I am new to the Game, what should I use first?

I have few good things to say, how can I piece them together?

I want to personalise my routines, what is the structure?

[caption id="attachment_4658" align="alignright" width="162" caption="Creating a Personal Stack"][/caption] Greetings fellow Pickup and Social Artists. My name is Discovery and over the next few weeks I am going to be answering the above questions and helping your prepare for the festive season. After all everyone out to celebrate and no one to play with - we cant have that now can we! At bootcamps our Master Trainers, Mystery, Lovedrop, Matador and yours truly continually get asked the same questions - one being - “Which are the best Routines?” My colleague Lovedrop (co Author of The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, Revelation and The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction ) would say “with great delivery and good Vibe you can say anything” and I 100% agree. Of course you have to get great delivery and have had enough experience with the Flame and Ghost Vibe to pull that off. But if you are starting out or want to get back to basics, what should you use? Just looking on my mind-map right now, I presently have 158 polished routines that am well known for sharing at bootcamps, much to our students delight. Do I use them all - NO! - I simply used the routines as an objective for polishing my delivery and if truth be told, while I was new to the game, to help me focus on the delivery of the Gambit and not the responses I was getting from women (yep, they weren't always great lol). For those of you who don’t know, it took me exactly 2 years from attending my first Bootcamp to Mystery presenting me at the Miami Bootcamp last year, his personal Master Pickup Badge. Ok, so am more like a Junior Master in comparison to my esteemed colleagues, but nevertheless the hard work paid off. So let me help you cut a lot of crap and bad advise out the way so you can start to experience some rewards and begin enjoying this wonderful ‘Game’ of Social Interaction (no you cant ask Father Christmas to delivery it on the Dec 25th either! ;-) Back to that question; “Which are the best Routines?” Put it like this, let’s say you want to start bodybuilding and grow your size and muscles and you were to bump into Ol Arny (Arnold Schwarzeneggar) while visiting California, you wouldn’t be able to resist would you - “Hey Arny, what routine are you using to look as good as you do?” - His response might be.... “Split training 5 x per week, 2 jogs and 3x 1 hour Cardio machine, combined with Cabbage diet, low carbs and lean meats” - He might not bother to mention monthly visits to the Surgeon for botox boosters, but hey, you got good advice right! WRONG!!!!! - what you got was - What is working for him now! Remember you are starting out, so you should be asking.... yep you got it.... “ What did you use to GET STARTED?” Now if you came to one of our Bootcamps and were to meet Matador or Mystery - unless you are at their level or close, you probably don’t want to ask - what Microcalibrated, non-Opinion Opener are you using now (I’ll cover those in later articles), but you want to ask them again - “Dude, what Routines did you use to get you started and get some results?”. So right now, I’m going to show you some examples of mini stacks many Master PUAs have used to get themselves going. At bootcamps we give out mini Stack Cards with an example on the front and place for you to write your own on the back - for now you can just write this down on a scrap of paper or even in a text to yourself (great to pull out mid conversation [disinterest] check, have a laugh and return to the conversation) Basic Starting Stack, Example 1 Opener(A1) “Hey Guys, How long should you wait before changing your Facebook status to Single” False Time Constraint “I can only stay a moment” Neg (target) “Does she have an Off Button? (role eyes and smile) Observation (A2)** (look like you are about to walk off and then notice something) “Wow, you guys have been friends for a while right! - [Girl Coding Routine] Exit That’s it - just to get you talking - dont forget a fun playful vibe and attitude, if you then have to exit simply say: “Ok Guys, that’s all you get, I so cant be rude to my friends” Smile and Exit Basic Starting Stack, Example 2 Opener(A1) “Breast Enlargements, Yes or No?” False Time Constraint “Hey, real quick as my friends and I are celebrating [open loop]” Opener(A1) continued. “Would you tell your good buddy that his girlfriend was planning to have her breasts done for his birthday (pause) if you knew he wouldn't like it?” Neg (target) “OMG, ADD Girl (role eyes and smile) annnnd back to me” Opener(A1) story part. “The thing is, her twin sister just had hers done - do you think she’s really doing it because of her or for him?.... I mean, would a girl really go under the knife just to be competitive with another girl” [this is an example of a phased opinion opener that drips intreague with each phase - you have to have a friendly vibe to pull this one off - all in the delivery ;-) ] Challenge (A2)** (look like you are about to walk off and then notice something) “You know you look like you could be a good liar - lets find out!” - [Lying Game/5 Questions] Exit “Gotta rejoin my friends, Pleasure meeting you - come by and say Hi later!” Smile and Exit So there you have it guys, 2 simple Stack systems to get you moving. In the next article I will be sharing with you an intermediary stack, including use of DHVs and Qualifiers. Oh and don’t forget many of our VA360 Coaches offer a Personalised Stack Routine Creating service. Wait until you are at the intermediate phase though to get best value. As always Gentlemen, it’s been a pleasure sharing with you. Have a great weekend :-) Discovery **Note: although A2, the observations, challenges, humour stories, keep you in the set and demonstrate your Value as an interesting guy, they are merely ‘Buying Temperature’ and NOT core DHVs - Demonstrations of HIGHER Value (of an Evolutionary nature that flip unconscious, psychological attractions switches (covered in other articles).

Facebook Opener (Day, Bar, Social Game) by shaun michael adams aka Discovery

Discovery — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 19:48:30 +0000

Ok so I have been pressured at many bootcamps to get my ass on here and share some of the stuff we are using infield. Now I get AA on these forums as I know how long it takes me to right stuff. So am going to practise with short and sweet little tit bits throughout February (my birthday month;-) that you can begin using as they have been field tested to the hilt.

this opener (1 of 3 to do with Facebook) actually was field tested in Starbucks, West Hollywood when I was out visiting Mystery and the gang. Now guys if like me you are from the Uk and not used to seeing super hot women, man this starbucks had more hotties than I see in a month in Nottingham, UK lol. But this Starbucks is special as it was right over the road from Vivid Porn Studios and it just seemed to be a haven for hotties.

So there is me beavering a way on my laptop, while being constantly distracted (God I was like a dog with 2 dicks and a street full of lamp posts!)… So anyway I was working on some new Day Game openers and stuff I could use in normal social settings and kept having a browse at my facebook, pondering on whether or not to remove my then recently ex’d girlfriend – well we had split up after 9 months (this was during the end of my 1st year in the game) – I had, had to feel the pain, knowing she would move on and as a hotty would get all the attention in the world and I would have to get out of my comfort phase and get my sarging head back on.

I was trying to move on quickly, but kept getting shitty messages about me and the women in photos I was getting tagged with (IOI? I don’t know, felt more like bitterness to me) but it was causing problems with the friendship I really wanted us to retain. I had found strength to move with some great advice from my friend James Matador…. And my dilemma was….. whether or not to remove her from my facebook and all the back lash it would create.

so what the hell, I typed it out there and then in Starbucks W. Hollywood and to get me out of the headspace of where and when to run it, I agreed with myself, the minute I stop writing it, I will run it on the first 8+ that walks by.

10 minutes later, finished, a girl that a year ago I would have considered way out of my league walked by with a vibrancy in her step and a smile that said I am something special (the ones we tend to shy away from .

Here is what happened on that day in its raw format:

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Me: “Hey, let me get your thoughts on something real quick.”
[i didnt wait for her to respond]

Me: “How long, if at all, should you wait before removing an ex from your facebook?”

HB: “Well how long have you been split up?”

Me: “Well only a month, but I’m out here and she’s touring and I keep getting all these questions about what am up to because she has seen me tagged in various photos while I’ve been out here.”

HB: [slings her bag off her shoulder and sits down] (I like forwardness of American girls) “ooo this is an interesting one”

Me: “Grab a seat why don’t you” [neg with playful attitude]

Me: “So anyway, I always used to tell her that if I were away doing shows [open loop] and she ever felt uncomfortable about any pictures she saw me tagged in, not to keep it inside and be frustrated, but ask me and I’d be happy to fill her in on what was going on”

HB: “Oh that’s nice of you” [I never caught onto the IOIs until later reflection, which is normal when you are running new material as you are too focussed on getting it out to practise - and that's why you shouldnt be changing your material every week to find the next best opener!]

Me: “woah there, slow this down, by me a coffee before you hit on me like that” [cute laugh in return to neg 2]

Me: You know I felt for her…. a. she was in less of a position now to ask the questions and b. I didnt have the opportunity to re-assure her – so she was kind of like getting a double emotional wammy…. and all because some women dragged me into a harmless photo at a friends party [pre-selection].

HB: mmm she ponders

Me: “well right or wrong I just told her, look…. you’re not going to like it, but we are both going to be meeting new friends and getting back to growing our social garden and I dont want you feeling niggled every weekend when you look on my facebook, so am taking you off for a month or so, so we can both relax and not feel judged”.

HB: “Yeah that’s fair – So what you doing in Hollywood?” [IOI]

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Now just so you know how it all went, she invited me and a friend to a house party in the hills (after a bit of text game later the next day) which I went to with Matador and the host (a Director of some old Movie that I had never seen, but Matador had) really liked us, which in turn added to our value with her. She turns out to be one of the Playboy Golf models (not the Mansion types, but more the everyday pretty types Playboy uses for corporate events) – and has loads of contacts – now I was only there a couple of days, so rather than play and run, I decided (friend zone I hear you shout ) to put her into my non FClosed cool GFs – who has since hooked me up with no end of parties and her friends in Hollywood and LA…. ahh good times, as I stare out my apartment window at the rain of Nottingham .

so in summary:…………

1. Hey, let me get your thoughts

2. How long, if at all should you wait before taking an ex of your facebook

3. let her speak for a moment then cut in

4. FTC – well what I said to her was xxxxx

Nice and simple!

Yeah I know… and in the day time (more so as she sat down indicating she did have time too) or social settings I like to extend the openers as to also demonstrate value with embedded DHVS.

I like this opener as its about relationships, dilema, facebook (I call it Fakebook for laughs) which is all current, your touring GF of value, the fact that she is still chasing you somewhat, that you have your social life going on, and some open loops for further conversation. All in all – solid ‘chick crack’!
Definitely in this original format was suited to more calmer environments for delivery.

Try it out and let me know how you get on – lets see if we can get 50 guys to try it out – once 10 of you do, I will share the other 2 versions that I have created since then about Facebook.

There! I told you I get sucked in and takes me ages to type out!!! Hope you got some benefit

ps. any opinion opener I use, is taken from my real life, which is kind of a personal rule of mine in the game.