The Venusian Arts » attraction http://www.venusianarts.com Mystery, Matador, Lovedrop, from VH1’s The Pick-Up Artist | Author of The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed & THE PICKUP ARTIST: THE NEW AND IMPROVED ART OF SEDUCTION Thu, 09 Feb 2012 17:09:36 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Jealousy http://www.venusianarts.com/jealousy/ http://www.venusianarts.com/jealousy/#comments Sun, 01 Jan 2012 06:53:43 +0000 LuckyD http://www.venusianarts.com/?p=5248 luckyd-jealousy

This emotion in our body is very powerful and it can affect us in nearly every decision that we make when feel it in our body. It typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection Jealousy is in fact a secondary emotion in reaction to one's needs not being met, be those needs for attachment, attention, reassurance or any other form of care that would be otherwise expected to arise from that primary romantic relationship. It can make us feel: bitter & twisted, distrustful, doubtful, green-eyed, skeptical, suspicious and wary. It is highly sensitive to context and environment that surround us and it can make us do things that we wouldn't think we are capable off. When we feel sexually jealous towards our partners our attention will focus on: 1- looking for sexual/ romantic connotations in our partner conversation with others 2- create visual images in our head of our partner bring unfaithful 3- look for evidence that our partner is having and affair. The behaviors and actions that we will take towards our relationship are: 1- seek constant reassurance that partner is faithful and loving 2- monitor and/or restrict partner movements and actions 3- retaliation for partner's imagined infidelity 4- set tests/traps for partner The evolution of jealousy greatly explains the triggers of jealousy for men and women. Jealousy in each sex has evolved to mirror the mate preferences of the other sex. Women evolved to value professionally successful men, so a rival who excels professionally activates men’s jealousy. Men evolved to value youth and physical attractiveness, so women are jealous of others who are younger or more attractive. The reasons why men and women are jealous have been sculpted by generations of mate preferences imposed by the opposite sex. Not a very nice fact but STATISTICLY 90% of murders are committed because of jealousy. The secret with jealousy… is that we can use it to our advantage. If used correctly it can work on our favor when it comes down to our relationships and to the attraction phase in pick up. Now you have to be careful not to abuse it to much, as this emotion motivates 2 radically different actions, either vigilance or violence. Vigilance would be things such as following your partner, reading her mail or phone texts or unexpected phone calls. Anger would be things such as, threatening a rival who was spotted with his partner, fighting with a rival or damage to a rivals objects. There was a specific scientific study over 10000 couple were either the woman or the man that were in a relationship together. One of the partners had feel this feeling and acted up on it to protect their investment, which in this situation was there partner, by being more controlling over the other person. Now when the couples were bought into this study, the person who was acting up on the feeling of jealousy was actually apologizing because he didn't really know why he was acting like it. He or she sais that they just feel this emotion taking over getting them to behave that way. Meanwhile the other person moaned that he or she was being to controlling and dictorial about their relationship. When the person who didn't feel jealous was bought to the side, in privacy and was ask strictly in confidence if he or she had been cheating on there partner STATISTICLY 90% of the time it was a yes. The truth behind it is that is there for a reason. Now I am not saying that just because you feel jealous your wife may be having an affair. These are only STATISTICS and scientific facts but your ancestor that acted up on this feeling instead of letting it slip by, they passed on their genes more successfully. So how can we use this feeling to our advantage whilst sarging and in our relationship? Studies have shown that jealousy can heightens passion towards partners and increases the intensity of passionate sex. Emotional jealousy is predicted to be nine times more responsive in females than in males This is believe to be simply because they tend to be more honest and in touch with their emotions than their male counterparts. When used correctly it can actually help you out. As a golden rule when dating a girl, throw a Jealousy plot line in into your relationship every once a month. This will keep your on her tip tops and re-spark attraction towards you. Girls get really jealous of each other and when she feels that there may be another competitor in front of her she will work hard for you, as she will feel fear of loss. Obviously don’t take to much advantage of this and go over the top with it, as she is a human with feelings to and if she realizes what you are doing she won't think about it to do it back to you. Have you ever wondered why women intentionally evoke jealousy in their mate by flirting with other men while in front of their mate? Well, it seems there are three reasons for this. First, women increase a man's perception of their desirability by doing so. Secondly, doing so provides the litmus test for her, which lets her evaluate the strength of her commitment. Third, the man believes he's really lucky and strengthens his commitment to her. Flip the frame on her before she does it to you. If you can just about get to the edge of nearly sparking anger or vigilance but not quite get there, then you are using this emotion correctly to your advantage. So make sure it is in a subtle way but that she feels it. Women become insanely jealous when they see their partner forming an emotional bond through a shared joke or meaningful conversation. They are more likely to aim jealous behavior at a rival, rather than at their partner and feeling jealous will cause fear of loosing resources. One thing that is different about men and women is their mating strategies. “Women place a premium on commitment and all of the cues to commitment, most centrally emotional involvement and love. Men have evolved a greater desire for sexual variety, which produces tremendous conflict between the sexes, for it violates women’s desire for intimate involvement” Men also are attracted to young, beautiful, and fertile women. These differences in strategies lead to the reason that jealousy exists between men and women. Even though men are found to be more jealous when their partner is sexually unfaithful and women are more jealous of men when they get emotionally attached, this does not mean that both sexes will be indifferent to any type of infidelity no matter if it is emotional or sexual. In the pick up stage, there are various ways that this plot line can be achieved. One of them would be to take pivots out with you whilst sarging. This will make it a lot Easier for you to open sets, as other woman will see that you have girls round you, there for this will make them realize that you are High value, which indicates that you are the prize. You will notice proximity a lot more when you do this. If you open the set in proximity they will open receptively, even if they are subconsciously putting there back to you. Ok. What if you haven't got any pivots?? Well, once you have A1, A2 & A3 up to a good standard. You can create pivots on the same night, even if sarging on your own, putting you in a good position to create jealousy when as needed. If on your own you should open an adjacent set to your the target, this will give you social proof, specially if she is HB level 9 & 10. Once you have gamed the pivots say "Come on let's go and make some friend" take then with you open your targets set with the pivots by your side and you will come across as: A- high value B- non threatening If done correctly the target would be curious intrigued towards you and jealous of the pivots. Thanks to a feeling of jealousy, She will be throwing IOI's towards you in no time and working hard against the other girls to get you to invest towards her. So, get out in the field, practice perfect, and in no time you should be having girls almost fighting over you. ]]> luckyd-jealousy

This emotion in our body is very powerful and it can affect us in nearly every decision that we make when feel it in our body. It typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection Jealousy is in fact a secondary emotion in reaction to one's needs not being met, be those needs for attachment, attention, reassurance or any other form of care that would be otherwise expected to arise from that primary romantic relationship. It can make us feel: bitter & twisted, distrustful, doubtful, green-eyed, skeptical, suspicious and wary. It is highly sensitive to context and environment that surround us and it can make us do things that we wouldn't think we are capable off. When we feel sexually jealous towards our partners our attention will focus on: 1- looking for sexual/ romantic connotations in our partner conversation with others 2- create visual images in our head of our partner bring unfaithful 3- look for evidence that our partner is having and affair. The behaviors and actions that we will take towards our relationship are: 1- seek constant reassurance that partner is faithful and loving 2- monitor and/or restrict partner movements and actions 3- retaliation for partner's imagined infidelity 4- set tests/traps for partner The evolution of jealousy greatly explains the triggers of jealousy for men and women. Jealousy in each sex has evolved to mirror the mate preferences of the other sex. Women evolved to value professionally successful men, so a rival who excels professionally activates men’s jealousy. Men evolved to value youth and physical attractiveness, so women are jealous of others who are younger or more attractive. The reasons why men and women are jealous have been sculpted by generations of mate preferences imposed by the opposite sex. Not a very nice fact but STATISTICLY 90% of murders are committed because of jealousy. The secret with jealousy… is that we can use it to our advantage. If used correctly it can work on our favor when it comes down to our relationships and to the attraction phase in pick up. Now you have to be careful not to abuse it to much, as this emotion motivates 2 radically different actions, either vigilance or violence. Vigilance would be things such as following your partner, reading her mail or phone texts or unexpected phone calls. Anger would be things such as, threatening a rival who was spotted with his partner, fighting with a rival or damage to a rivals objects. There was a specific scientific study over 10000 couple were either the woman or the man that were in a relationship together. One of the partners had feel this feeling and acted up on it to protect their investment, which in this situation was there partner, by being more controlling over the other person. Now when the couples were bought into this study, the person who was acting up on the feeling of jealousy was actually apologizing because he didn't really know why he was acting like it. He or she sais that they just feel this emotion taking over getting them to behave that way. Meanwhile the other person moaned that he or she was being to controlling and dictorial about their relationship. When the person who didn't feel jealous was bought to the side, in privacy and was ask strictly in confidence if he or she had been cheating on there partner STATISTICLY 90% of the time it was a yes. The truth behind it is that is there for a reason. Now I am not saying that just because you feel jealous your wife may be having an affair. These are only STATISTICS and scientific facts but your ancestor that acted up on this feeling instead of letting it slip by, they passed on their genes more successfully. So how can we use this feeling to our advantage whilst sarging and in our relationship? Studies have shown that jealousy can heightens passion towards partners and increases the intensity of passionate sex. Emotional jealousy is predicted to be nine times more responsive in females than in males This is believe to be simply because they tend to be more honest and in touch with their emotions than their male counterparts. When used correctly it can actually help you out. As a golden rule when dating a girl, throw a Jealousy plot line in into your relationship every once a month. This will keep your on her tip tops and re-spark attraction towards you. Girls get really jealous of each other and when she feels that there may be another competitor in front of her she will work hard for you, as she will feel fear of loss. Obviously don’t take to much advantage of this and go over the top with it, as she is a human with feelings to and if she realizes what you are doing she won't think about it to do it back to you. Have you ever wondered why women intentionally evoke jealousy in their mate by flirting with other men while in front of their mate? Well, it seems there are three reasons for this. First, women increase a man's perception of their desirability by doing so. Secondly, doing so provides the litmus test for her, which lets her evaluate the strength of her commitment. Third, the man believes he's really lucky and strengthens his commitment to her. Flip the frame on her before she does it to you. If you can just about get to the edge of nearly sparking anger or vigilance but not quite get there, then you are using this emotion correctly to your advantage. So make sure it is in a subtle way but that she feels it. Women become insanely jealous when they see their partner forming an emotional bond through a shared joke or meaningful conversation. They are more likely to aim jealous behavior at a rival, rather than at their partner and feeling jealous will cause fear of loosing resources. One thing that is different about men and women is their mating strategies. “Women place a premium on commitment and all of the cues to commitment, most centrally emotional involvement and love. Men have evolved a greater desire for sexual variety, which produces tremendous conflict between the sexes, for it violates women’s desire for intimate involvement” Men also are attracted to young, beautiful, and fertile women. These differences in strategies lead to the reason that jealousy exists between men and women. Even though men are found to be more jealous when their partner is sexually unfaithful and women are more jealous of men when they get emotionally attached, this does not mean that both sexes will be indifferent to any type of infidelity no matter if it is emotional or sexual. In the pick up stage, there are various ways that this plot line can be achieved. One of them would be to take pivots out with you whilst sarging. This will make it a lot Easier for you to open sets, as other woman will see that you have girls round you, there for this will make them realize that you are High value, which indicates that you are the prize. You will notice proximity a lot more when you do this. If you open the set in proximity they will open receptively, even if they are subconsciously putting there back to you. Ok. What if you haven't got any pivots?? Well, once you have A1, A2 & A3 up to a good standard. You can create pivots on the same night, even if sarging on your own, putting you in a good position to create jealousy when as needed. If on your own you should open an adjacent set to your the target, this will give you social proof, specially if she is HB level 9 & 10. Once you have gamed the pivots say "Come on let's go and make some friend" take then with you open your targets set with the pivots by your side and you will come across as: A- high value B- non threatening If done correctly the target would be curious intrigued towards you and jealous of the pivots. Thanks to a feeling of jealousy, She will be throwing IOI's towards you in no time and working hard against the other girls to get you to invest towards her. So, get out in the field, practice perfect, and in no time you should be having girls almost fighting over you. ]]> http://www.venusianarts.com/jealousy/feed/ 0 Discovery’s “Turbocharged” Game Explained http://www.venusianarts.com/discoverys-turbocharged-game-explained/ http://www.venusianarts.com/discoverys-turbocharged-game-explained/#comments Wed, 08 Jun 2011 15:48:56 +0000 Mickey Angel http://www.venusianarts.com/?p=4177 discovery-mohawk-party-thumb

Can you stimulate a woman's emotions? At will? Do you know exactly what emotion she will feel when you do or say a certain thing? You should. Women are emotional creatures. Their emotions drive their behaviors. And if you can influence their emotions, you can in turn influence their behaviors. And this is one of the best-kept secrets in the community. In Revelation, Lovedrop writes about installing a set of emotions in a woman in a specific pattern. Those emotions, when installed, are likely to lead to a sexual relationship. In their most basic form the emotions are listed as Interest, Vibe, Attraction, Comfort and Seduction. A couple of pages later, Lovedrop explains an 11-step emotional progression that women tend to find especially stimulating. This article focuses on Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression, and how you as a PUA can lead women through this progression. The goal: Stimulate them where they really feel it…their emotions. Now, enter Discovery. If you’ve ever been to a bootcamp with Discovery you will learn very quickly that the man is all about action and results. His mantra: Hit, Intrigue and Attract. And this ultimately leads him to the Close. It’s a 4-step game that is simple and effective. And if you’ve ever been in the field with him, you’ll see that his actions get results. Discovery has developed some kick-ass pickup skills these skills make him a more effective PUA. My goal, and the goal of this article, is to better understand Discovery’s 4-step game when compared to Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression. How can the two models – Discovery’s action-based field process and Lovedrop’s psychology-driven emotional progression – coexist in the same space? Are they the same? If not, how are they different? These are valid questions for the journeyman PUA, and my findings answer all of them. Part 1 of this article focuses on breaking down Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression. A pickup artist running tight game will most likely be leading a woman through this progression without thinking about it. An AFC might stumble upon it from time-to-time without knowing what they are doing. (Remember the time you “got lucky”?) This article is good fundamental background reading for all PUA’s who have had some success in the field and understand the basic pickup process, but want to take their game to the next level. Additionally, if a PUA has a basic understanding of this emotional progression, it will be much easier to understand how Discovery’s 4-step game works so effectively. Author’s Note: **You do not have to understand how something works in order to use it. For those PUA’s who are more action-oriented: Cut to the chase and start practicing Discovery’s 4-step game immediately! There is no substitute for field work, and you can always come back to this article if you run into roadblocks, or perhaps even save up some coin and invest in one-on-one coaching with the Discovery himself  Part 2 focuses on viewing Discovery’s 4-step game in the context of Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression. I will be comparing the two systems and showing you the similarities between both. You’ll see how Discovery’s game is simple and tight, and it still manages takes the woman through all 11 steps of LD’s progression, which is why it is so effective. Part 1: Lovedrop’s 11-step Emotional Progression Explained “Women are especially stimulated by this emotional progression” - Lovedrop, Revelation, p. 33 Author’s Note: **From a practical standpoint, this progression is a great guide to Text Game. You can literally print this out and use it as a script to guide your texts. Not a work for word script, but an outline to guide what you should say next. Try it! 1. Curiosity: For some reason, we are always comparing women to cats. Mystery even went so far as to develop a model called “cat-string theory”. Coincidence? I don’t think so. So just remember…any time you want to *ahem* attract a pussy, you have to make it curious. A well-delivered opener should accomplish this, as well as all the appropriate visual and behavioral cues (DHV’s) that lead up to that opener (Peacocking, Preselection, Leader of Men, Group Theory etc). Tactics: Disinterest, Group Theory, Visual DHV’s, Peacocking, Open Loops She should be thinking: “hmmm...this guy seems interesting” She should be feeling: Slightly curious 2. Intrigue: What exactly is intrigue? We all sort of feel what it means. But what does it actually mean? Intrigue (v): To arouse curiosity or interest by unusual, unique, new or otherwise fascinating qualities. By this definition, intrigue is really an extension of curiosity. What is it about you that makes you different from all the other guys? What qualities can you demonstrate that are unusual. What topics can you bring up that are new or otherwise fascinating? Think of intrigue as taking curiosity to a deeper level. When a cat is curious it sort of sniffs around. When a cat is intrigued, it puts its nose in it. Intrigue should be generated during the opener. This is why so many good openers that contain the so-called “chick crack” (dramatic and/or controversial subject matter, usually having to do with relationships) Tactics: Charismatic delivery, enthusiasm, artful selection of subject matter She should be thinking: “hmmm...very interesting...” She should be feeling: Like she wants to know more... 3. Tension: David DeAngelo, in his popular Cocky Comedy series, defines humor as the release of built-up tension. Tension is important, not only because it ultimately gets the group laughing, but because it can be used to build up sexual feeling. Adding tension to the group creates a kind of alpha male dynamic that lets the group know you are for real. You’re not just some clown, magician or entertainer. You’ve got an edge. Tactics: Disqualifiers, negs, roll-offs, open loops, dominance (AMOGing, Teasing), push-pull tactics She should be thinking: “hmmm...he’s got a little edge to him...” She should be feeling: a little bit of uncertainty, but also a little turned on 4. Humor: As we said before, humor can be defined as the release of built up tension. So if you’ve just built up some tension, you can now release it and generate some laughs. This is pretty easy once you get used to it. A few seconds of silence followed by a cocky-funny or absurd punchline is very effective. Tactics: Absurdities (from a DHV perspective), embarrassment, role playing, teasing, AMOGing She should be thinking: “this guy is funny!” She should be feeling: laughter 5. Fun: So now you’ve got them laughing, which by default means you’re fun. It’s time to vibe a little. Show them your carefree attitude. Smile, laugh, tell a couple of jokes, be fun. Did I mention smile? Smile! ? Tactics: Be able to be yourself and have a good time. Smile and laugh. Do a group cold-read or maybe introduce a fun group game like “Yes and…” or “The Lying Game” She should be thinking: “this guy is fun!” She should be feeling: a fun, warm carefree feeling 6. Attraction: Attraction is where the proverbial rubber meets the road. There are a ton of guys who can vibe and have a good time and be fun, but they never get laid. In order to get laid, you have to be attractive. How? In the words of Lovedrop: “Evolutionary value switches must be activated in order to stimulate this emotion” That means it’s time to tell your DHV story. She already thinks you’re interesting. She already thinks you’re funny. Now she needs to think you’re hot. Transition into the story by using a transition phrase like “Hey that reminds me of a time...” or “hey, get this...” Tactics: Transition phrases “That reminds me of a time...”, “Ohh, I’ve got to tell you about...”, “Hey get this...”, “You won’t believe it but...”. DHV stories: Have a default DHV story ready. Make sure it has at least 3 DHV spikes. Make sure it’s practiced and polished. Deliver it with confidence. She should be thinking: “this guy is hot” She should be feeling: attracted to you 7. Appreciation: If the girl is vibing with you, you should show her a little love. Otherwise you’ll never build that feeling of comfort that is so important. Start small and calibrate it. For example after you finish your story and she says something positive, reward her. Say something like “Wow you know I wasn’t sure about you when I met you get me. You are pretty cool.” And give her a high-five. You can also go into qualification, so you have to ask her some questions and appreciate her for the answer she gives, assuming she is giving you an answer that you want to hear. Thirdly, you can point out some intangible qualities and appreciate her for them, e.g. “You know you really have a great sense of style. So many people just don’t know how to dress, but you get it. Nice job” Then give her a little kino. When she sees you appreciate her she will know you are willing to commit value. This is a powerful connection switch. Tactics: Qualification, artful observation and appreciation of intangibles (like sense of style, classiness, willingness to take risks, etc). Fun and playful kino. (High fives, arm taps, arm over shoulder hugs) She should be thinking: This guy appreciates me for who I really am; he gets me She should be feeling: A growing sense of connection 8. Challenge: My first hot girlfriend in 9th grade told me this: “Women like a challenge”. This was mostly because at the time, I didn’t have the social intelligence to calibrate to her IOI’s. The upside was that everything I did came off as an IOD and it drive her crazy…at least for a while. And she chased me…for a while. At some point you need to show some IOI’s. A lot of less experienced PUA’s make the mistake of not showing any IOI’s and they wonder why the girl all of the sudden isn’t interested. The lesson: Women do love a challenge. And you, as the prize in this interaction, should challenge her, in a fun and playful way. Show her some love and then challenge again. She will chase you. And at the end of the day, that’s what we all really want, isn’t it? In the words of Lovedrop “Screen her, frame control her, compliance test her, bait her to chase you. Practice bait-hook-reel-release. Kino escalate” Tactics: Qualification, frame control, compliance testing, bait-hook-reel release, kino escalation She should be thinking: I don’t have this guy yet, but I can get him She should be feeling: A sense of challenge 9. Connection: Now she’s working for it, and it’s time to reward her compliance. Respond to her responses positively, demonstrating the six qualities listed below and you will flip her connection switches, and she will be drawn closer to you. The qualities you should demonstrate are as follows: 1. Understanding 2. Appreciation 3. Trust and comfort 4. Compatibility 5. Conspiracy 6. Vulnerability Tactics: Qualification, stories (childhood regression works especially well here), showing similar interests, comfort building routines such as The Cube, IOI’s. She should be thinking: I’m winning him over, and we have a lot in common! She should be feeling: Warm and connected. 10. Excitement: Too much connection with no stimulation and you will put her to sleep. Excite that girl! Revelation says little about this, which leaves it open to interpretation. Sexual excitement is the goal. It’s time to work in some heavier kino escalation routines. Find a way to kino escalate in a slightly erotic way, or at the very least, you should take on a little bit of a bad-boy demeanor and say something to make her blush. Style’s Evolution Phase Shift springs to mind here…Read: hand on back of head-hair-pulling action. Tactics: Role playing (with the proper sexual frame), being a little bit dirty, isolating for a quick kiss while preserving plausible deniability. “Stealing” kisses and touches. She should be thinking: I’m a little turned on She should be feeling: A little turned on 11. Fear of Loss: You can’t go all the way in a bar...generally speaking. You should only amp her excitement up enough to get her thinking about it. And when she’s thinking about it, that’s when you make her feel it. She has to be made to know that she absolutely wants you and she must have you. And that’s when, in my mind (and in hers), the seduction is complete. Tactics: Roll-offs, disinterest, jealousy plotlines She should be thinking: I want him She should be feeling: I want him Part 2: Discovery’s “Turbocharged” Game In this section of the Article, I’m going to explain how Discovery’s game, which comprises 4 steps, actually USES of Lovedrop’s 11 step emotional progression, but effectively turbocharges it, compressing it into a much shorter time span than the average game. Discovery says that you can go directly from attraction to qualification to seduction and eliminate most of the steps in between. How might this work based on what we learned in part 1? The key is sexual tension that is conveyed immediately through both body language, preselection, how much his girls are into him AND the conversational thread itself -- which typically conveys his sexuality. Additionally Discovery displays an almost clairvoyant understanding of his targets through psychological cold reads (it helps that he is a professional profiler). As Discovery himself says, his game is designed to “Hit, Intrigue and Attract”. And of course, this leads him to the shangri-la that all PUA's seek: Close. Let’s a closer look at each one of the four steps. 1. Open (Hit/Intrigue): Remember the mantra: “hit intrigue and attract” How is he able to do this? Avatar, vibe and violation. Picture Discovery rolling into the club with spiked bleached blond hair, wearing a kilt, carrying a dagger in his sock, surrounded by an entourage of people – usually women. Women flock to this energy. And Discovery, in turn, uses it to create a spectacle. Something out of the ordinary. And when he talks to girls, he VIOLATES. He will say things that no women has ever heard before. One of his most famous openers: “One finger or two.” [Pause] It’s calibrated of course, the delivery perfect. And anyone less than Discovery probably couldn’t get away with it. Discovery then masterfully breaks the tension with a smile-calibrated punchline. “I mean…we’re among friends here, right?” ? Everyone laughs. Back to the tension “but seriously…assuming you were appropriately lubed up....” Then he breaks the tension again, rolls off, makes a couple of more comments, smiles, touches, and lets everyone know he is a cool guy just out to have a good time. Total time: About 30 seconds. As he’s doing this, he’s being observed. And the cycle repeats itself. 2. DHV (Intrigue / Attract): In each set it is Discovery who decides whether he will stay or whether he will leave. There is value in opening, getting a reaction and rolling off, moving on to the next set. People see this and your social value goes up in their eyes. But…lets assume Discovery has chosen a target. After he opens, he immediately moves into his DHV story. Discovery generates massive attraction with his DHV stories because they are so well crafted and so well delivered. And, because he’s rolling in the entourage, and leading the entourage, he’s already demonstrating preselection and leader of men. In other words, his actions back up his words, giving the DHV spikes in his story even more credibility. Total time: About 1 minute. 3. Qualify (Attract): As soon as he finishes his DHV story, he transitions. And all of the sudden, Discovery is qualifying her into his sexual frame. Priming her for the kiss. He’s simultaneously appreciating her, challenging her and connecting with her, all at the same time. And let’s not forget the nonverbal cues. Discovery is a master of expression and he’ll be the first one to tell you that 55% of communication is non-verbal. Because he knows what he’s going for and he’s got the delivery (including body language) down cold, he’s extremely effective. 4. Close: Here is where Discovery generates excitement. It isn’t always the kiss. Sometimes it’s a feint towards a kiss. Then he’ll roll off at the last second before the target has a chance to roll off herself. Then he’ll go back in and build more sexual tension which generates excitement. He goes in, he rolls off, then back in, then roll off. It all happens in the space of a few seconds. Rolling off generates fear of loss on a subconscious level, pumping her buying temperature and attraction, which in turn allows Discovery to go back in and close the deal. Brilliant. Conclusion: Theory is useless without tactics. Tactics are nothing when not backed by theory. The knowledge and execution of both that drives success. Together they form an almost irresistible force, and when coupled with the other aspects of tight game (peacocking, rolling correctly, DHV behaviors, etc) help make Discovery one of the top Pickup artists in the world. If a PUA can learn Lovedrop’s theory and combine it with Discovery’s tactics, he will most definitely increase his skill set, and reap the benefits of being able to attract and seduce beautiful women more consistently, confidently and quickly then ever before.]]> discovery-mohawk-party-thumb

Can you stimulate a woman's emotions? At will? Do you know exactly what emotion she will feel when you do or say a certain thing? You should. Women are emotional creatures. Their emotions drive their behaviors. And if you can influence their emotions, you can in turn influence their behaviors. And this is one of the best-kept secrets in the community. In Revelation, Lovedrop writes about installing a set of emotions in a woman in a specific pattern. Those emotions, when installed, are likely to lead to a sexual relationship. In their most basic form the emotions are listed as Interest, Vibe, Attraction, Comfort and Seduction. A couple of pages later, Lovedrop explains an 11-step emotional progression that women tend to find especially stimulating. This article focuses on Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression, and how you as a PUA can lead women through this progression. The goal: Stimulate them where they really feel it…their emotions. Now, enter Discovery. If you’ve ever been to a bootcamp with Discovery you will learn very quickly that the man is all about action and results. His mantra: Hit, Intrigue and Attract. And this ultimately leads him to the Close. It’s a 4-step game that is simple and effective. And if you’ve ever been in the field with him, you’ll see that his actions get results. Discovery has developed some kick-ass pickup skills these skills make him a more effective PUA. My goal, and the goal of this article, is to better understand Discovery’s 4-step game when compared to Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression. How can the two models – Discovery’s action-based field process and Lovedrop’s psychology-driven emotional progression – coexist in the same space? Are they the same? If not, how are they different? These are valid questions for the journeyman PUA, and my findings answer all of them. Part 1 of this article focuses on breaking down Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression. A pickup artist running tight game will most likely be leading a woman through this progression without thinking about it. An AFC might stumble upon it from time-to-time without knowing what they are doing. (Remember the time you “got lucky”?) This article is good fundamental background reading for all PUA’s who have had some success in the field and understand the basic pickup process, but want to take their game to the next level. Additionally, if a PUA has a basic understanding of this emotional progression, it will be much easier to understand how Discovery’s 4-step game works so effectively. Author’s Note: **You do not have to understand how something works in order to use it. For those PUA’s who are more action-oriented: Cut to the chase and start practicing Discovery’s 4-step game immediately! There is no substitute for field work, and you can always come back to this article if you run into roadblocks, or perhaps even save up some coin and invest in one-on-one coaching with the Discovery himself  Part 2 focuses on viewing Discovery’s 4-step game in the context of Lovedrop’s 11-step emotional progression. I will be comparing the two systems and showing you the similarities between both. You’ll see how Discovery’s game is simple and tight, and it still manages takes the woman through all 11 steps of LD’s progression, which is why it is so effective. Part 1: Lovedrop’s 11-step Emotional Progression Explained “Women are especially stimulated by this emotional progression” - Lovedrop, Revelation, p. 33 Author’s Note: **From a practical standpoint, this progression is a great guide to Text Game. You can literally print this out and use it as a script to guide your texts. Not a work for word script, but an outline to guide what you should say next. Try it! 1. Curiosity: For some reason, we are always comparing women to cats. Mystery even went so far as to develop a model called “cat-string theory”. Coincidence? I don’t think so. So just remember…any time you want to *ahem* attract a pussy, you have to make it curious. A well-delivered opener should accomplish this, as well as all the appropriate visual and behavioral cues (DHV’s) that lead up to that opener (Peacocking, Preselection, Leader of Men, Group Theory etc). Tactics: Disinterest, Group Theory, Visual DHV’s, Peacocking, Open Loops She should be thinking: “hmmm...this guy seems interesting” She should be feeling: Slightly curious 2. Intrigue: What exactly is intrigue? We all sort of feel what it means. But what does it actually mean? Intrigue (v): To arouse curiosity or interest by unusual, unique, new or otherwise fascinating qualities. By this definition, intrigue is really an extension of curiosity. What is it about you that makes you different from all the other guys? What qualities can you demonstrate that are unusual. What topics can you bring up that are new or otherwise fascinating? Think of intrigue as taking curiosity to a deeper level. When a cat is curious it sort of sniffs around. When a cat is intrigued, it puts its nose in it. Intrigue should be generated during the opener. This is why so many good openers that contain the so-called “chick crack” (dramatic and/or controversial subject matter, usually having to do with relationships) Tactics: Charismatic delivery, enthusiasm, artful selection of subject matter She should be thinking: “hmmm...very interesting...” She should be feeling: Like she wants to know more... 3. Tension: David DeAngelo, in his popular Cocky Comedy series, defines humor as the release of built-up tension. Tension is important, not only because it ultimately gets the group laughing, but because it can be used to build up sexual feeling. Adding tension to the group creates a kind of alpha male dynamic that lets the group know you are for real. You’re not just some clown, magician or entertainer. You’ve got an edge. Tactics: Disqualifiers, negs, roll-offs, open loops, dominance (AMOGing, Teasing), push-pull tactics She should be thinking: “hmmm...he’s got a little edge to him...” She should be feeling: a little bit of uncertainty, but also a little turned on 4. Humor: As we said before, humor can be defined as the release of built up tension. So if you’ve just built up some tension, you can now release it and generate some laughs. This is pretty easy once you get used to it. A few seconds of silence followed by a cocky-funny or absurd punchline is very effective. Tactics: Absurdities (from a DHV perspective), embarrassment, role playing, teasing, AMOGing She should be thinking: “this guy is funny!” She should be feeling: laughter 5. Fun: So now you’ve got them laughing, which by default means you’re fun. It’s time to vibe a little. Show them your carefree attitude. Smile, laugh, tell a couple of jokes, be fun. Did I mention smile? Smile! ? Tactics: Be able to be yourself and have a good time. Smile and laugh. Do a group cold-read or maybe introduce a fun group game like “Yes and…” or “The Lying Game” She should be thinking: “this guy is fun!” She should be feeling: a fun, warm carefree feeling 6. Attraction: Attraction is where the proverbial rubber meets the road. There are a ton of guys who can vibe and have a good time and be fun, but they never get laid. In order to get laid, you have to be attractive. How? In the words of Lovedrop: “Evolutionary value switches must be activated in order to stimulate this emotion” That means it’s time to tell your DHV story. She already thinks you’re interesting. She already thinks you’re funny. Now she needs to think you’re hot. Transition into the story by using a transition phrase like “Hey that reminds me of a time...” or “hey, get this...” Tactics: Transition phrases “That reminds me of a time...”, “Ohh, I’ve got to tell you about...”, “Hey get this...”, “You won’t believe it but...”. DHV stories: Have a default DHV story ready. Make sure it has at least 3 DHV spikes. Make sure it’s practiced and polished. Deliver it with confidence. She should be thinking: “this guy is hot” She should be feeling: attracted to you 7. Appreciation: If the girl is vibing with you, you should show her a little love. Otherwise you’ll never build that feeling of comfort that is so important. Start small and calibrate it. For example after you finish your story and she says something positive, reward her. Say something like “Wow you know I wasn’t sure about you when I met you get me. You are pretty cool.” And give her a high-five. You can also go into qualification, so you have to ask her some questions and appreciate her for the answer she gives, assuming she is giving you an answer that you want to hear. Thirdly, you can point out some intangible qualities and appreciate her for them, e.g. “You know you really have a great sense of style. So many people just don’t know how to dress, but you get it. Nice job” Then give her a little kino. When she sees you appreciate her she will know you are willing to commit value. This is a powerful connection switch. Tactics: Qualification, artful observation and appreciation of intangibles (like sense of style, classiness, willingness to take risks, etc). Fun and playful kino. (High fives, arm taps, arm over shoulder hugs) She should be thinking: This guy appreciates me for who I really am; he gets me She should be feeling: A growing sense of connection 8. Challenge: My first hot girlfriend in 9th grade told me this: “Women like a challenge”. This was mostly because at the time, I didn’t have the social intelligence to calibrate to her IOI’s. The upside was that everything I did came off as an IOD and it drive her crazy…at least for a while. And she chased me…for a while. At some point you need to show some IOI’s. A lot of less experienced PUA’s make the mistake of not showing any IOI’s and they wonder why the girl all of the sudden isn’t interested. The lesson: Women do love a challenge. And you, as the prize in this interaction, should challenge her, in a fun and playful way. Show her some love and then challenge again. She will chase you. And at the end of the day, that’s what we all really want, isn’t it? In the words of Lovedrop “Screen her, frame control her, compliance test her, bait her to chase you. Practice bait-hook-reel-release. Kino escalate” Tactics: Qualification, frame control, compliance testing, bait-hook-reel release, kino escalation She should be thinking: I don’t have this guy yet, but I can get him She should be feeling: A sense of challenge 9. Connection: Now she’s working for it, and it’s time to reward her compliance. Respond to her responses positively, demonstrating the six qualities listed below and you will flip her connection switches, and she will be drawn closer to you. The qualities you should demonstrate are as follows: 1. Understanding 2. Appreciation 3. Trust and comfort 4. Compatibility 5. Conspiracy 6. Vulnerability Tactics: Qualification, stories (childhood regression works especially well here), showing similar interests, comfort building routines such as The Cube, IOI’s. She should be thinking: I’m winning him over, and we have a lot in common! She should be feeling: Warm and connected. 10. Excitement: Too much connection with no stimulation and you will put her to sleep. Excite that girl! Revelation says little about this, which leaves it open to interpretation. Sexual excitement is the goal. It’s time to work in some heavier kino escalation routines. Find a way to kino escalate in a slightly erotic way, or at the very least, you should take on a little bit of a bad-boy demeanor and say something to make her blush. Style’s Evolution Phase Shift springs to mind here…Read: hand on back of head-hair-pulling action. Tactics: Role playing (with the proper sexual frame), being a little bit dirty, isolating for a quick kiss while preserving plausible deniability. “Stealing” kisses and touches. She should be thinking: I’m a little turned on She should be feeling: A little turned on 11. Fear of Loss: You can’t go all the way in a bar...generally speaking. You should only amp her excitement up enough to get her thinking about it. And when she’s thinking about it, that’s when you make her feel it. She has to be made to know that she absolutely wants you and she must have you. And that’s when, in my mind (and in hers), the seduction is complete. Tactics: Roll-offs, disinterest, jealousy plotlines She should be thinking: I want him She should be feeling: I want him Part 2: Discovery’s “Turbocharged” Game In this section of the Article, I’m going to explain how Discovery’s game, which comprises 4 steps, actually USES of Lovedrop’s 11 step emotional progression, but effectively turbocharges it, compressing it into a much shorter time span than the average game. Discovery says that you can go directly from attraction to qualification to seduction and eliminate most of the steps in between. How might this work based on what we learned in part 1? The key is sexual tension that is conveyed immediately through both body language, preselection, how much his girls are into him AND the conversational thread itself -- which typically conveys his sexuality. Additionally Discovery displays an almost clairvoyant understanding of his targets through psychological cold reads (it helps that he is a professional profiler). As Discovery himself says, his game is designed to “Hit, Intrigue and Attract”. And of course, this leads him to the shangri-la that all PUA's seek: Close. Let’s a closer look at each one of the four steps. 1. Open (Hit/Intrigue): Remember the mantra: “hit intrigue and attract” How is he able to do this? Avatar, vibe and violation. Picture Discovery rolling into the club with spiked bleached blond hair, wearing a kilt, carrying a dagger in his sock, surrounded by an entourage of people – usually women. Women flock to this energy. And Discovery, in turn, uses it to create a spectacle. Something out of the ordinary. And when he talks to girls, he VIOLATES. He will say things that no women has ever heard before. One of his most famous openers: “One finger or two.” [Pause] It’s calibrated of course, the delivery perfect. And anyone less than Discovery probably couldn’t get away with it. Discovery then masterfully breaks the tension with a smile-calibrated punchline. “I mean…we’re among friends here, right?” ? Everyone laughs. Back to the tension “but seriously…assuming you were appropriately lubed up....” Then he breaks the tension again, rolls off, makes a couple of more comments, smiles, touches, and lets everyone know he is a cool guy just out to have a good time. Total time: About 30 seconds. As he’s doing this, he’s being observed. And the cycle repeats itself. 2. DHV (Intrigue / Attract): In each set it is Discovery who decides whether he will stay or whether he will leave. There is value in opening, getting a reaction and rolling off, moving on to the next set. People see this and your social value goes up in their eyes. But…lets assume Discovery has chosen a target. After he opens, he immediately moves into his DHV story. Discovery generates massive attraction with his DHV stories because they are so well crafted and so well delivered. And, because he’s rolling in the entourage, and leading the entourage, he’s already demonstrating preselection and leader of men. In other words, his actions back up his words, giving the DHV spikes in his story even more credibility. Total time: About 1 minute. 3. Qualify (Attract): As soon as he finishes his DHV story, he transitions. And all of the sudden, Discovery is qualifying her into his sexual frame. Priming her for the kiss. He’s simultaneously appreciating her, challenging her and connecting with her, all at the same time. And let’s not forget the nonverbal cues. Discovery is a master of expression and he’ll be the first one to tell you that 55% of communication is non-verbal. Because he knows what he’s going for and he’s got the delivery (including body language) down cold, he’s extremely effective. 4. Close: Here is where Discovery generates excitement. It isn’t always the kiss. Sometimes it’s a feint towards a kiss. Then he’ll roll off at the last second before the target has a chance to roll off herself. Then he’ll go back in and build more sexual tension which generates excitement. He goes in, he rolls off, then back in, then roll off. It all happens in the space of a few seconds. Rolling off generates fear of loss on a subconscious level, pumping her buying temperature and attraction, which in turn allows Discovery to go back in and close the deal. Brilliant. Conclusion: Theory is useless without tactics. Tactics are nothing when not backed by theory. The knowledge and execution of both that drives success. Together they form an almost irresistible force, and when coupled with the other aspects of tight game (peacocking, rolling correctly, DHV behaviors, etc) help make Discovery one of the top Pickup artists in the world. If a PUA can learn Lovedrop’s theory and combine it with Discovery’s tactics, he will most definitely increase his skill set, and reap the benefits of being able to attract and seduce beautiful women more consistently, confidently and quickly then ever before.]]> http://www.venusianarts.com/discoverys-turbocharged-game-explained/feed/ 2 The Rebirth of AMOGing http://www.venusianarts.com/the-rebirth-of-amoging/ http://www.venusianarts.com/the-rebirth-of-amoging/#comments Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:02:06 +0000 Colgate http://www.venusianarts.com/?p=3156

By: Colgate and Discovery

The concept of being able to acquire a skill set in order to handle the Alpha Male in the group. The idea for most to be able to blow out the guys that generally succeeded in getting the girls prior to our knowledge of pick up can make any person excited. The reason why AMOGing works is because you can systematically take the attention away from other men who are competing for attention. By holding court, re-framing, and being in your own head space, you can successfully handle the threads AMOGs will throw at you.

The weird thing about AMOGing is that, while strangers will do it to you without hesitation, your best friends will too (keep in mind, when in-field your wing should never attempt to AMOG you). What I have noticed is that when two people have a connection in their friendship, they tend to banter with each other more than two individuals that do not share that connection. This is how Discovery and I developed the concept of WING-MOGING.

Wing-moging is a concept where wings can display a strong brotherhood and camaraderie by banter with each other. The routine not only displays a connection between the two, but also has DHV spikes embedded in that will set off attraction switches. The reason that the attraction is generated when viewing the display of connection is due to her sub conscious thought that is she aligns with one of the guys, she is guaranteed the social network, protection, resources and love from his wing and the other guys in his group.

The guys who have a strong connection with each other and have a tight "Entourage" game, can also be remembered much more by using wing-mog tactics. This will lead to the entire group being invited to better social occasions, girls tell their friends about the "friends" and say things like "you should meet these guys, they are so much fun”. You gain instant pre-selection to other targets by the girl who witnessed the wing-moging. Girls will invite us along because she knows her friends will appreciate her for meeting such awesome guys (which is rare). By Discovery and I using our wing-moging tactics, we can add to the social value and energy to the group. The possibilities become endless.

Example: Let's say Discovery is making fun of my beard

Discovery: What’s with the animal on your face bro?
Colgate: Man the chicks won't let me shave it, you should try it baby face!
Discovery: You know my girls like that "I've just had a face wax feel". Anyways your new Miss November girl surely can't like the feel of a badger scratching her bikini line!
Colgate: Man, (with exaggerated hand gestures) Miss November isn’t interested in my facial badger, she wants access to my Jurassic Park area! (Strokes groin area with cheeky smile)
Discovery: Why's that bro, cause it hides a monster? (said teasingly)
Colgate: Hey we are among friends here (puts arm around group and pulls them in and whispers) honestly more like a hamster. (when delivery is flawless the result is shrieks of laughter)
Colgate: So bro now that we are sharing how did the operation go (more serious tone)
Discovery: I will only get into it because I feel we are amongst friends, but it hurt like childbirth. You women have breast augmentations, BUT did u know you could literally double your length and increase your girth by 3 time!!! (pause) Now that the bandages are off, (release) I am so proud of my 3 inches!!!!
(Both guys howl with laughter while displaying to the group a connection in their friendship)

The idea is to generate a great vibe, embed DHV’s, show a tight brotherhood, while also not compromising each others values. Keep in mind this is not AMOGing, this is not meant to blow anyone out of the set. If anything it raises the value of both guys. Discovery and I can not tell you how many times this routine has led to us to being upgraded to V.I.P booths, celebrity after parties, invites to exclusive events, etc. We have also used it to skip lines at exclusive clubs when we have not had any pre-selection at all. When the guys have a strong frame and they demonstrate their brotherhood on the in they can easily persuade the bouncers that they offer value to the club. It is a very powerful gambit to add to you arsenal.

A word of advice, the delivery of both guys must be not only flawless but must also be genuine. Practice this enough until it comes off natural and real. It should not be scripted or feel scripted. When tight friends’ vibe together the energy they transmit is very powerful, Discovery and I developed this concept intuitively due to our tight brotherhood.

Another idea to keep in mind is that it can be done in front of other guys. Those guys who normally might try to be difficult or attempt to AMOG will sit back and observe both guys wing-moging. This will leave them with no place to interject and attempt to AMOG because they can not compete with two dominant forces putting out a great vibe, therefore, this is ideal for mixed set.

FIVE WING-MOG TIPS

1. Divide holding court: By dividing the attention, both guys can hit the attraction switches equally and be perceived as high value.
2. Feed off each others energy: When both guys are enjoying each others stories and adding value through laughter, the group will feel the emotional richness and enjoy the company of both guys.
3. Don’t under any circumstances make each other look bad: Wing-moging is meant to increase the value for BOTH guys. Do not make each other look bad, by one guy making his friend look bad, it in turn lowers his value.
4. Be comfortable displaying physical contact with each other: Hug your wing and do it comfortably. Not only will this give you plausible deniability to hug the girls more but it will visually show the connection of the brotherhood.
5. Be okay with laughing at yourself: If you are comfortable with laughing at yourself and your wing is as well, both of you can gain from the possibilities by telling stories of each other (be sure to embed DHV’s).

This concept has proven effective in many dynamical situations. We have ran venues with our vibe and have people remember us on a first name basis wherever we go. People are attracted to people who show appreciation for other people. They will not only attempt to be a part of your social circle, but they will go out of their way as well.

- Colgate

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“Do you think spells work?” Sometimes this will send the woman off on a long blab, but if the conversation needs to be kept going, the follow-up routine is:

“The reason I’m asking is because my friend over there met a girl in a club last week. He wasn’t interested in her sexually, because she wasn’t really his type.” (Here the woman might say “Sure,” in which case you reply “No, really!” and touch her arm or waist.)

“Anyway, she hung out at his house and after she left, he found a metal ring wrapped around a scroll and some feathers under his couch. Well, he took it to a magick store and they said it was an attraction spell. And now, the strange thing is, he can’t stop thinking of her. Do you think it’s the spell or just psychological?”

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I was observing a natural work a set the other day when I came upon an epiphany in terms of how kino works in its progression. I realized the term “escalation” did not properly encompass the whole process of what happens when kino occurs during a pickup scenario. I sat down and mapped it out and came up with what I think is a better way of describing how kino helps in building attraction. I was able to break it down in three overlapping steps similar to how attraction, comfort and seduction overlap thus does kino compliance. These three steps I have dubbed the “3 Rs” which are Receptiveness, Response, and Reciprocation, respectively.

In the beginning stages of kino escalating, gauging the indicators of interest (IOIs) is crucial in continuing kino and further ramping it up. In the first few minutes, kino should either step up gradually with slow attraction building (or rapidly if kino plowing targets with high body temp already) or should cycle up and down according to IOIs and IODs. The receptiveness of the kino will be indicated by direct body language and facial expressions. When a target smiles during kino this will be an indication of continued receptiveness. However, confused looks or expressions of distaste to any kind of touching should be calibrated with kino IODs. The receptiveness should be focused upon until major positive physical response mechanisms are present.

Once receptiveness is indicated the target or set should begin to respond favorably. In addition to body language, the kino should cause the target to begin to touch her hair, scratch herself, lean into you or other IOI responses that indicate that kino is being received favorably. This is where overlap occurs in that these responses are a physical phenomenon one can observe, but yet will overlap the receptive behavior. When referring to responses I generally am noting larger physical motions that are easily observed and congruent with the receptive indicators already mentioned. Responses can be negative, however. If receptiveness is plowed through and comfort is not established kino can still be met with a response such as turning away or backing up from unwanted kino. Therefore any ambiguous or negative response should be met with caution that includes building more attraction and cycling through less aggressive with more aggressive kino till positive responses occur.

After major positive responses, the last stage in the kino compliance cycle should occur. This involves reciprocation. Not only should a target respond with IOIs from your kino but they should begin to kino back too. Once this occurs it is a green light towards more intense kino that loops back through the 3 Rs. If, for example, you touch a woman’s hips and she touches yours this indicates you should now test for receptiveness towards more aggressive kino when the proper time calls for it (kiss closing in a seduction location is a great example of this cycling process). Once reciprocation occurs, the last level of kino should be a baseline for continuing to cycle kino and escalate again. The 3Rs should once again be favorable before advancing kino even further.

I feel this is a much more representative description of kino escalation then the term itself provides. Kino compliance with 3R cycling should yield positive results when practiced properly.

Have fun and keep Sarging.

Simeon

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Jealousy, what is it exactly?

A lot of people make it seem like such a negative feeling. From this impression, most of the time people feel that they have to resort to violence or anger. But this does not necessarily have to be the case.

“Jealousy leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side” – Yoda.

Jealousy is something triggered off in our minds to send us a message. It’s trying to tell us that we are attracted and in some way emotionally invested with a member of the opposite sex. A woman, for instance, first knows she’s attracted when she becomes jealous. This hard-wired emotion is built to protect what we want for ourselves and to help motivate us to go get the very thing in which we are jealous for. Some say this is a problem, but where there is a problem, there is always an opportunity for growth.

Despite the temptation to do so in the field, don’t let this emotion take you over. Instead we use it to your advantage: mostly with the hotties in the bar that you want to have attracted to you, but for anything really. And that’s where the jealousy plotline comes in, why it works, and how it can become very useful to you. Now I’m not about to get into all the different ways you can do this i.e. using a pivot, displaying major DHV that a female can relate to etc – that’s all covered in Revelations (you HAVE bought that by now, haven’t you?) This article is mainly here to inform you on how to identify jealousy within yourself, within others and how to deal with it from there.

Now we all know what jealousy is. However, most people seem to believe we always act on the facts presented to us. WRONG! If that were the case then you’d be able to go to the bar tonight and never have to worry about loosing your cool to a feeling of jealousy. But this is not the case. Chances are that you act on it as an emotion and thrash out just like a jealous person would next time it comes around. As a PUA you should know that you should always be aware of your emotions. So the next time something happens to you while you’re out in the field, on a day two, or even in a relationship you need to identify the fact that you are feeling jealous and decide to deal with things rationally.

Now what? Well, what’s the situation? Jealousy is usually triggered in the field by a member of the same sex imposing on your set. You need to calm down and deal with it RIGHT NOW. Don’t over react in these situations like a typical jealous person would. Jealousy will only get you the opposite of what you want. So what does that mean? It means stop being a little bitch and take control of the situation. Acting distant or moody or getting snappy with people isn’t going to help you. Starting an argument or making your target feel bad for talking to another guy is certainly not going to help you. You are only feeling jealous because you don’t feel in control, or you are feeling insecure about what is happening and don’t know what to do. As such you will act in a very reactive manner and the results of this are usually poor. Re-evaluate the situation and take control; is it another dude hitting up your girl? Act intelligently and unreactively and everything you’ve learned about dealing with these guys will give you a clear idea of how to deal with him. AMOG the guy and lower his value, go off and open a nearby set, spike the target’s buying temperature and make the OTHER GUY jealous. There is no need to feel jealousy yourself, but there is plenty of need to make other people feel it. ;)

After analyzing the effects jealousy can have on us and how much it can change a social scene, don’t you think it can have the same effect on others? Of course it can, except the only difference is that the people you’re going to be pushing it on don’t know how to deal with it. They will act in the way every other jealous person out there does and if you can do it properly it will almost always work out in your favor. Make a man jealous and he is going to react in ways that’s only going to make you a heck of a lot cooler. Make a girl jealous and you’re only going to make her more attracted to you.

So always keep your cool, analyze any situation you’re in and NEVER let your emotions take a hold of you. You’re a pick up artist, you’re one cool guy. Take hold of any social scene you’re in and play your game to its best. And remember to always keep your smile on you at all times.

- Wild Card

:)

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1. Only focusing on exercise

This is the most critical error most people trying to lose fat make, nutrition accounts for 70% of your fat loss plan. Yes you read that right 70%, the exercise only accounts for 30%, and so all those of you who are sweating it out at the gym only to go back to burger and fries and dinner are simply wasting your time. You need to really focus on eating the right macronutrient ratio so your body can start metabolizing fat rather than storing it. For most people the right ration of macronutrients are 40% carbohydrate, 30% protein and 30% fat, however each person needs different volumes of food each serving according to their body shape and goals.

2. Following Generic Diets

Following a generic one size fits all diet can only get you so far. Your specific body shape and size is unique, therefore your diet should be too. Your diet and nutrition plan should be customized to your body, your lifestyle and your goals. Most of the popular diets you read about aren’t customized to you specifically and this is where they fail. If you really like eating carbs and decide to go on a zero carb diet to lose weight, you will eventually break and go off the diet. If you are allergic to certain foods, or are a vegetarian, or just don’t like certain foods you shouldn’t be forced to eat any of them on your diet. Most generic diets fail when it comes to this kind of personalization and as a
result are useless to most people.

3. Not Doing Resistance Training

Strength training (or weight training) is one of the most important things you can do for weight loss. It builds muscle and helps burn fat all at the same time. During a strength training workout you will burn fat and calories during the workout, but you will also have a lasting calorie burning effect because your body will be busy building some new muscle. This is the true key to effective weight loss, each pound of muscle you put on your body burns an extra 50 calories at rest, this can mean an unbelievable 19 pounds across a year simply by putting on 3 pounds of muscle!

4. Doing the Wrong Type of ‘Cardio’

While nutrition and resistance training is a huge component of fat loss. Cardio training helps burn a few more calories and conditions your heart and cardiovascular system. However training in your fat burning zone is NOT the most effective way to shift those unwanted pounds. Traditional long slow cardio workouts will burn some calories and build your conditioning, but they’re not the most efficient way to train. Interval training can achieve greater fat loss in less time than training in the fat burning zone. The most efficient way of blow torching unwanted fat is to complete high intensity interval training, this means using the work rest formula which will get your metabolism racing long after you finish your work out.

5. Not Eating the Right Kinds Of Food

Even though eating less total calories is the only real way to lose weight, eating the right kinds of foods can really help make this easier and satisfying. Let’s say your body burns 1700 calories per day, and you only eat 1000 calories for the next 10 days. You will no doubt lose weight. You will lose weight even if all 1000 calories were from chocolate cake or cheeseburgers. With that said, it wouldn’t be very satisfying to eat that way every day, those types of foods will typically leave you wanting more because of their high sugar load, and they also don’t take up much space in your stomach because they are so dense. You will end up becoming hungry faster and feeling less satisfied than if you ate nutrient dense foods like vegetables and fruits. The total amount of calories you eat is always the factor that will determine if you gain or lose weight, but the kinds of food you eat will determine if you will feel satisfied and happy while you’re losing the weight. This is why the kinds of food you eat matter.

6. Failing to set an outcome goal

‘If you don’t set a destination goal how will you know if you get there.’ One of the most crucial aspects of losing weight is to set a clear SMART goal. It needs to be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timed. On average it is possible to lose a couple of pound a week, with this in mind if you want to lose a stone of body fat, it would take around 7 weeks to lose. Now that you have a clear goal you can start getting feedback on your progress, if for example it is week four and you have only lost a pound you know something isn’t working, you need to review what you are doing and try something else. Without that regular feedback you never know you are on track, so set a clear outcome with a time of when you want to achieve your desired body weight.

7. Not training hard enough

If your doing your cardio reading a magazine simply forget fat loss, if you are not sore from your workout you didn’t train hard enough, it’s as simple as that. You only need to train for around 50 minutes maximum, it should be hard and intense and leave you fatigued. To build the muscle needed for effective weight loss you need to create muscle damage, this means over loading the muscle, if your workout is not making you sore in the next 24-48 hours you need to change your workout routine. Each program should only last for four weeks before your body will get used to it, so rotate your training program.

Steve Jacks


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