Private 1 on 1 With Matador in LA, The Birth of Achilles

What's it like when you have a Master PUA watching over you in the field and giving you instant feedback on your game? Can you imagine the confidence you would feel having a powerful Jedi at your side as you're weaving in and out of the Matrix of social dynamics. I recently had the opportunity and the privilege to be trained one on one by the star of VH1s "The Pickup Artist" and one of the legends of the game "James Matador".

Prior to this one on one I had attended a few bootcamps and had literally read and listened to EVERYTHING I could get my hands on, in regards to the game. Needless to say I was very successful in my social life and really had no shortage of beautiful women. I had met Matador at the LA bootcamp and it was his presence and deeper understanding of the game (Matador Mayhem) that got my attention right from the start. I had a similar vibe to my game and instantly knew that it was my goal to study under him as I felt he could shed some light on my game which would catapult me to a new level. 

Long story short the opportunity presented itself and I found myself sitting on 'Melrose' eating sushi in front of my, now teacher and mentor, Matador as he whipped out the laptop and started to demo for me different concepts. He listened as I broke down my game and my understandings and through guided questions helped me to come to a groundbreaking realization about my way of being that was preventing me from being much more effective. 

That night we hit the club and I went to work demonstrating my skills. Gotta say it was a little nerve racking having him stand a few feet away from me or sit inches away right next to me and watch as I was running my game. After I had isolated a few different sets and lost them, I went to him and said “why the fuck am I losing these fucking sets?” he smiled and said Ill show you and then proceeded to demo to me how I was sitting and what I was communicating. The stories from that night are stuff of legends. To get into the details would surely seem as if im exaggerating. However I can tell you that we ended up back at his house with a party of 9 women. I witnessed first hand why "Matador" has become the legend that he has as the three model type Blondes excitedly made their way into his bedroom for a "Foursome" took place! 

Even though I was running on no more than a couple of hours of sleep, the next morning I was up early and ready to take on the day. I will tell you that by the second day I cant tell you exactly what had happened but I knew I was a different man. I walked through the streets and the people were reacting very differently to me. I met up with Matador and we went through another 6 hours of theory and drilling. This day he was very interested in my experience of the night before and I was very excited to report the changes I had been feeling. I had seen my mistakes clearly and had experienced life changing results. I was ready to ask my questions to clear up a few points which I needed help on. We took a little break and were going to meet up again at night to go out. During the 3 hours in between the lecture and going out I literally had women putting their numbers in my hand. It was truly amazing. The effortlessness of it all seemed a little serial. I got dressed and ready to go out and this night I knew it was on. My game had changed and all the little tiny things I was doing that was preventing closes were taken out and I was ready to put this shit to the test in the club as I had already seen its power in the streets the mall and restaurants. We met up and hit club Delux in LA. The experience was absolutely out of this world. There is a song by Rhianna and JayZ entitled Were Gonna Run this Town Tonight and I tell you Matador and Achilles ran that town that night. The club was ours. All the women were ours. All the guys were owned. The bouncers were our fans. The hired guns were our adoring spectators. By the end of the night if you had walked in you would have thought that Matador and I were the club owners! The night ended very similar to the night before with us ending up at Matadors apartment followed by our newly acquired entourage. I will save you the details but movies and books could be written about the experiences of that night. 

By the next morning I felt different. I looked different. Everywhere I went it seemed as if I had a fuckin scent coming off of me that was bringing girls to me begging for my attention. I was at ease. I was calm. I finally had total confidence in this area of my life. I have been back for a few days now and EVERY area of my life has changed for the better. My skills are still with me and growing. Matador had told me to stay in contact with him and update him on my game and ask any questions. The next day I called him and thanked him for a life changing experience and let him know how things had changed for me. He said “Get a pen and paper and write this down” and then proceeded to breakdown in more detail what he had observed and what I needed to do to continue to improve. 

I have achieved many, many things in life and have had the privilege to study with different icons of our time in different fields including Acting and Martial Arts. After having met James Matador I am proud to call him my teacher and my good friend and let it be known that I assure you whatever stories you may have heard about the skills of the man, if you doubted it, it was due to your own inability to understand the reality he lives in. I have witnessed first hand why he is a Master PUA and I have been and am continuing to be trained by one of the best Pick Up Artists of our time James Matador.

- Achilles

The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction

The Pick-Up Artist 2 (tv show) is a reality show on VH1 and iTunes, starring our very own Mystery and Matador. (Click for full article.)

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The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction (the book) is our new release from Villard books, by Mystery, author of The Mystery Method: How To Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, and Lovedrop, author of Revelation.

Coming off the success of his first bestselling book, The Mystery Method, Mystery once again teams up with writer Chris Odom to "impart some pearls of wisdom," and this time, he has quite a story to tell. Just as his VH1 reality show The Pickup Artist is about to debut in the United States, Mystery and his crew have withdrawn to their gorgeous Miami mansion to get into shape and plot their next move. A one-on-one pua student, Adam, comes to stay at the house and get his every question answered. As a kaleidoscope of crazy pua characters enlivens the scene, Mystery begins to draw Adam deeper and deeper into his world, where he witnesses firsthand the pitfalls of the pickup artist lifestyle, and gains an intimate portrait of Mystery's ideas and struggles. Eventually Adam must decide whether the powers of the pua game are worth the surreal lifestyle that comes along with it. As the book progresses, Mystery and his partners, Lovedrop and Matador, travel from the sands of South Beach to the strip clubs of Las Vegas, criss-crossing the country to teach their seminars on pickup and seduction. They party in the Hollywood Hills, set up their own Pleasure Bubble, and taste the high life among the towering skyscrapers of Manhattan. Along the way, Mystery reveals the next level of game theory and technique, designed to catapult timid and insecure men into a world of confidence, attractiveness, and all-around success with women. Mystery serves another rich helping of knowledge this go-around, for those readers seeking his techniques…

• A list of all the triggers that create—and destroy—attraction

• A new way to approach strangers and start a conversation: microcalibrated openers

• Mystery’s most powerful humor technique, The Absurd—so you’ll never run out of things to say again

• A full chapter on physical escalation (touching, kissing, “making a move”)

• The solution to inner-game issues, for improved confidence

• A chapter on exotic dancers and strip clubs

• How to set up your pimp pad

• Mystery's philosophy on life

• Plenty of gambits

• And much, much more…

When it comes time for Mystery to reveal the secrets of physical escalation (touching, kissing, 'making a move') he says,

"Physical escalation is actually quite easy. Just read along with me, and I will show you how. Just do what I say and it will work. Don’t worry, it’s easy, and the moves I’m going to teach you will not get you rejected. Trust me, it’s fun and you can stop anytime. Now, let’s get right into it…"

With all the good advice in this book, Valentine's day is sure to be just a little less lonely this year. We didn't know it could be so easy, Mystery. Thanks for all the good work. The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction, by Mystery with Chris Odom. Foreword by Neil Strauss, author of The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists. Also by Mystery: The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed

          Click here for more information on The Pickup Artist book…

Matador Review – Los Angeles One on One Training

Los Angeles Personal Training, Oct 31 through NOV 3

You guys get ready for this! Do not waste your time reading my post…unless of course your interested in skipping levels&being called a cheater for training with the community’s best pick up artist (Besides Mystery). You will get really good really fast within the first day! (If you apply,focus,listen, and push.) You will be shocked at the end results! However, Matador can only train you as much as you allow him. I didn’t have any boundaries as far as holding myself back so he went all out in training me.

He picked me up from my hotel in L.A then we left for breakfast at a local diner…told him if he had 4days to turn me into a master pick up artist how will he do it..? (Inside I was confident, if it couldn’t be done then i was going to be the closest one to achieve it! Didn’t say it though) So he looked at me&chuckled. Handed me a notebook with a pen and told me to write down everything he says. (No i will not post any material or core concepts he taught me sorry) So the brain transfusion began. I was a sponge in water…A student seeking out answers to questions i have continuously asked…Matador had the answers. (game applies in every convo not just pick up so I learned a life tool!)

o.k so after training all day, got dressed, its Friday night, its game time! Matador’s bodyguard is waiting for us at the red carpet in front of club Social on sunset. Matador’s cool hot girlfriend rolls with us. (she speaks fluent Italian, an actress whose been in Italian movies, &used to model) she showed me her modeling pics their hot! So were in the the v.i.p room inside the club, its Halloween, & almost every girl is hot!!! There were porn stars! (we’ll talk about that in a sec) Matador shows me how to do his “Mayhem Technique” &makes out with this 3set! His girlfriend tells me to go bring some girls to our table, so I go open, attract, and bring a 3set. Isolated my target, then realized she wasn’t my type. So opened&after a little game, made out with this other girl. Matador&I took over! We opened every set, everyone was at our table or trying to get there…Told Matador I am stepping outside for a sec&I’ll be back. When I did, noticed one of the hottest porn stars at the club was out for a quick breather! This was it! Now or never…this was…my chance! It was all on me.

No hesitation I open, negged, non verbal false time constraint, used a DHV I learned that day(along with some other things he taught me) then everything started making sense It was all coming together now, its easy to run game…She was jumping through my hoops&the convo escalated through the stages.(Open, Attraction, Qualification, Comfort) Dude inside i was like WHOA! (applying matadors concepts was key though) So i rolled off at an high attraction point (lethal) then went inside the club found and opened another set. The porn star follows me! And COCK BLOCKS the 3set of girls i had just opened! So i look at her…she looks at me…I smile…then total make out! I spot Matador close by looking at me like, your a quick learner, good job bro! (I think he had expected that from me though.) He was in proximity & giving me briefs on how to play it, which was a good way for the girl&I to get the chance to get to know each other better, didn’t know any other way considering how many times she was getting hit on… So thats how i played it, then rolled off again… So shes chasing me through the club, &the camera crew is chasing her for pictures! Finally i give up, she was just too persistent lol she tells me she’s tired of people touching her&taking pics&wants to leave now.

Matador tells me to meet him at this 24hr restaurant close by. So i left&got a head start with my girl. We get there and waitress tells me there is an hour wait! Matador is stuck in traffic, (horrible on sunset during wknds) &unfortunately for me, my girl is so hot i get AMOG’D by Mystery‘s stunt double…(its Halloween) but i disarm him&3 of his friends with some Matador AMOG tactics (genius). One of the guys was desperate and tried a last attempt by telling me he wants to show me a magic trick…I looked at my target and tell her “look honey dinner&a movie” she laughed I did 2…(it was our moment) Then I txt Matador to tell him whats going on…He txt back “Be there in a minute”

So the alpha guy of the group starts threatening me he’ll bring Tyler Durden to take my girl. So i tell my target to walk away she does, then I looked at the guy&tell him im Matador’s student where the hell are your girls?! (no disrespect to Tyler Durden) anyways the guy doesn’t believe me…Then Matador jumps out the car! This dudes jaw drops! And doesn’t say a word. We go inside the restaurant where my target&I built more comfort. And lets just say…the rest…is whatever your imagination wants it to be (just dnt get weird lol) &no i wont say the porn stars name, we still talk…

On Saturday Matador critiqued my game and we discussed new topics. By night time i felt like a full grown Bull around a bunch of calves! We went to a different club from the one on Friday&I hooked a 3set that ended up being a 6set! My target, a exotic Australian dancer! Who was on tour with her friends..Matador had already hooked in 2-2set’s&was on the third. Our table had too many girls, it was getting irritating though because i just wanted to get to know my target. So after befriending her group was able to isolate. Guys she was tough! I ran 3dhv’s with a combination of other things, she liked me just wont let me kino escalate…So Matador says roll off&fire a jealousy plot line(taught me a gd way to do it, never fails) So i did…But she didn’t like it because she was getting really jealous! So after a while looked at her, smiled, and asked if she’ll behave…She responds with a make out (i guess thats a yes) and then we bounced to matador’s gd friend’s mansion…whose now my friend as well. Lets just…say…the rest…is for your imagination as well…

Sunday we worked on more game. Then we went shopping&put together a custom avatar for my identity! Looked really good plus i kept getting opened by different girls. That night we went to Neil Strauss’s house, where he hosted a pick up artist party! Which i cant discuss (respect to Neil&Matador) what happens inside stays inside…but it was Freakin FUN!!!

Monday he went over any questions&we reviewed everything i learned that night. (not 2brag but call it how it is) Matador&I took over the whole floor (He took us to a club-lounge which gets PACKED on Monday) I stole a 2set from these 2 guys (nothing to be proud of) and Matador got lost in a crowd of 7 girls (so jealous) &then bounced these 2 cool Russian girls to a restaurant…then Matador wanted to go home&chill with his girlfriend, I don’t blame him. (Respect) So i had to hold down court with the 2set. Lets just say…the rest…hmm actually!…you know what…yea…for your imagination!

The following morning my flight departed back to Houston,Texas. Overall I think you should do the 1 on 1 training if you don’t mind going back home seeing other people be envious of your new power. &some guys would misuse this knowledge for their selfish purposes. (Its not cool to hurt a girl, we are men&should protect them at any cost from creeps!) If your not a bad guy then what are you waiting for?! You got to create your lifestyle nobody will hand it to you. Make it happen! Matador you changed my life by sharing with me your wisdom. Which allowed me to achieve a higher intuition level&even a greater level of awareness. And for that…not only do I appreciate…..but would like to take a moment…and Thank You! Was fun being their, as friend, student, and protege….Ttyl brother

Question and Answer with Mystery Part 2

AFC: Last Saturday I met this young woman and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her since then. She’s the first thing I think about when I wake up, the last thing before I fall asleep and even at that I’ve been finding it hard to get to sleep because my mind is so full of thoughts of her.

Mystery: Please remember that realistically, she is only an OPTION. These emotions are not healthy until AFTER the relationship has started. ALSO, men who have many women vying for their attention would be USED to women and therefore would not go al GAGA over OPTIONS. This makes you look WEAK in her eyes.

AFC: My heart aches when I’m not near her and my head spins when I am near her. Ok…yes I’ve fallen deeply, way to quickly…but I can’t help myself.

Mystery: Unless you are willing to WALK AWAY, it is unlikely that you will obtain her. You will go through what most NEWBIES go through. You will pine for her and some other guy (like me) will slip in a take her from you. The best you can do is become a FRIEND – which hurts even more because you’ll have to become friends with her boyfriend too. Save time by PRETENDING to be used to women already. Be willing to walk away and give some neg hits once in a while. Trick yourself into thinking she is ugly but entertaining. Then you will not let her shit on you in any way.

AFC: And that’s exactly the message I got from her. ‘I’m not looking for anybody, I don’t want anyone in my life right now, I’m just here to have fun’ is exactly what she said to me. It was a good learning experience for me.

Mystery: It’s a good bet she IS looking for someone but if just fed up with the fact she can’t find someone who appeals to her. If you can CONNECT with her, you’d be in. Do 3 neg hits, a connection pattern and some humor like the pull my finger joke and she would change her mind and you would have a g/f who was a 10. And she’d have a b/f who was funny and had a connection with her and confident.

AFC: That’s all fine & good I suppose. But the one I approached had come alone, and had no noticeable friends around her.

Mystery: She came alone to be harassed by men? Don’t you see she’s lonely? No guys try to get past the beauty bullshit and make her feel a connection. 10′s have their own set of problems. It’s not harder to get a 10, only different.

AFC: Getting a flock of women around me in this early stage of my ‘playa’ development was out of the question as well. Maybe in the future.

Mystery: Yeah, this DOES take a considerable degree of confidence. I know, it took me a long time to get this shit together this way. I became a performing artist and this stage stuff helped me get confident with the girls even more. Thing is, I think I’m more of a pick-up artist than a performing artist. I just got good at performing to meet more girls I guess. More options.

AFC: Please….I’m begging for some advice here – I can’t let her pass me by.

Mystery: realistically, with this emotional approach, you ARE going to let her pass you by. Be willing to walk away FIRST. You are only excited about her as an OPTION. Before you met her she wasn’t an option. If another girl came into your life that was beautiful and pleasant to you, you would call her an option too and no doubt your emotions would go haywire. As you experience more you’ll realize there are TONNES of OPTIONS out there. You just have to MAKE them YOUR options. I wager you DON’T get her but if you follow my advice, you’ll increase your slim chances at least.

Good luck though.

Matador One on One Review by Torero

One on One review by Torero

It’s one thing to read his articles about the art of pickup and to watch him talk and teach on VH1′s TV show
“The Pickup Artist”, but it’s a whole other thing to have a one on one weekend with James Matador.
There are many things that factor into the art of pickup and Matador demonstrates them in each and
every one of his pickups. His game is tight and his keen eye to read and respond to the current
emotional state of the room is truly uncanny.

My three days with Matador began on Friday afternoon at the hotel lobby when we went through the
psychology and the theory behind pickup. Why do women act the way they do? What are they looking
for? We covered most of the theory and began with Openers. Matador demonstrated the proper body
language that needs to be demonstrated. “You just need to be comfortable with who you are and show
it.” I asked how to do that. “It’s easy. Check it out”; he gets up and starts walking around the lobby,
pretending to see a girl and giving her a nice little kiss. I looked around and see the people next to us,
the waitresses and the bartender are all watching him. But Matador is completely calm and cool as if
nothing is happening and he’s completely comfortable in his skin and he does not feel awkward by the
social pressure to act “normal”. Later that night went to a club and I met Lovedrop, Rizen and three
other girls who came with them. One of the girls, Erika introduced herself and told me that she’ll be our
wing for the night and therefore it will be a lot easier to open and attract. After about five minutes, I see
Matador talking to this couple. He’s completely dominating the conversation and she is giving him IOI’s
even though she seemed to be with the guy. After the about five minutes or so the guy leaves and it’s
now Matador and the girl. After a couple minutes he brings her over and introduces her to the rest of
our group and moves on the next. That night I opened as many sets as I could and I got one number
although I didn’t feel it was a quality pickup.

The next day I spent with Rizen. He helped me get some avatars and later we covered the
theory behind attraction. We met with Matador and Lovedrop later that night and went to another club.
I was feeling much better and decided to start using what I had learned earlier. I opened an 8 set and
ended up isolating one of the girls from the set. After that, I was feeling pretty good and started
approaching more and more girls. Right before the end of the night I was talking to this hottie when I
noticed Matador at the bar talking to this girl. All of the sudden he picked her up and put her on the bar
and started making out with her. After about 10 seconds or so he turns around and starts making out
with this other girl behind him. Again after another 10 seconds or so, he moves on the third girl. I look
around and I see people watching him as if he is doing magic. My girls started asking me: “Oh My Gawd,
who is that guy? Do you know him?” It was very impressive.

I learned a lot in my three days as I recognized my sticking points as well as proper delivery of the
routines. I also learned that there is no magic formula. You need to be able to calibrate and think on
your feet. Not only that, you need to be able to talk and talk and talk. Be interesting and funny. You can’t
premeditate every move before you walk in to a set.

The good
You see how it’s done. You get first hand feedback where you go wrong. But keep in mind, you’re on your own to a certain extent. You get comments like “Go get a girl and bring her to our group,” or “open the girl next to us.” and from that point on you’re kind of on your own. It’s not like you were wearing an ear-
piece in your ear and repeat the lines as you hear them from the instructor.

The Bad
The cost. I can’t tell you if it’ll be worth it for you. It depends on you, and what you will get out of it varies from person to person. I can tell you that it’s not for everyone. There is no magic formula. It’s trial and error.

Do looks matter:
Yes and no. If you’re good looking it will be easier to open and break through the initial “who the f… are you and why are you here” but if you can’t talk and can’t keep them interested, it really doesn’t matter how good looking you are.

Classic FR- Friday Night with Mystery, Fall 1998

Ok, I went to an area of town known for bars and cafes and restaurants – I went by myself and had never gone there before. I got into some cool adventure but after several no-gos I ended up at a regular club right downtown. I got NOTHING. I went from club to club and while I had fun (I must have talked with 10 girls in the whole night) NOTHING panned out into COOL GROOVES.

So I ended up walking into a place and bumped into a girl from a year ago who was so happy to see me. I remember her and I not cutting the bacon ’cause while she is VERY PRETTY (I met her at a fashion show where she was modeling originally) she wasn’t very SEXUAL. Thing is, she her male friend and I (the male friend was JUST a friend) went to another club together. She was hanging off my arm and she kept touching my chest and stomach and was so flirty and she bit my cheek and nuzzled me and everything. I played VERY hard to get and she told me she had lost her book with my # in it and wanted my # again. I RELUCTANTLY gave it to her and she says she’ll call this week. Thing is, while pretty, I don’t know if she’ll copulate with me. That’s all I really want to do with her – if she would fuck me, Id hang with her – but if not, I wouldn’t want to just be friends and always have to ABSTAIN from my desires. That would get to me. I’ll tell ya what happens. I went to another club and nothing there and then for pizza and met a girl outside who I chatted with a bit and then a girl inside the pizza place. Point is, I didn’t get anywhere with them but I approached, met and chatted and left looking very cool. I was wearing a suit and the girls were CLUB girls so I looked a bit out of their range.

I would like to find my TYPE of woman. Where would I go? My TYPE is an intelligent model. A REAL model, not a wannabe. I’m a performing artist and want a model. It’s that simple. I don’t know where they ARE though. All the gorgeous girls today were soooo young. I like young, but they were sooo youth culture. I want class. Where are they? I looked and looked. Oh shit, remember the voluptuous girl I snacked on about 2 weeks ago? She was in one of the cafes I checked out. We talked for a brief time and then I took off playing “I don’t care, I’ve got better people to do”. I wonder if she’ll call me or email me or something. Who knows? She was a cutie but if she aint interested I can only move on, right?

Sorry for not being more into NG lately. I’ve had some stress from shows I had to perform the last week.

Oh, my HB friend (she is a 10!) on my birthday told me she loved me. I mean LOVE. She was crying and everything and we had a fight because her 3 friends (all 6.5 and UNDER) liked me and I was being flirty with them because it felt good and she got all pissed over that. It’s not like Id actually DO any of em, fuck! I mean ugs. Thing is we all went to her friends place and 2 of the girls took their tops off and got on the bed with me (I was just lying there watching) and the girls started to French kiss each other on my asking them to (I LOVE lesbianism). Then the 3rd girl came in and I told all three to kiss and they did. Then one of them started rubbing my cock through my pants (they were not beauties but 3 girls frenching each other 6 inches from my face will get me going I learned) and I asked her to stop and told them it was all good and that I just wanted to watch. Thing is, my HB friend was weirded out and called a taxi. She wrecked the whole scene. I left with her and we argued in the car. She was so in love with me (and to think I thought she and I had an UNDERSTANDING) and when I told her I want going to get INVOLVED with the ugs and just wanted to enjoy watching the lesbianism part (she likes lesbianism too it turns out) she said, “Why didn’t you tell me that?” I said, “Fuck, how am I supposed to know you needed me to TALK to you.” thing is we fought and haven’t spoken since. I’ve been busy anyway. See, I don’t fight. I never ever raise my voice. But she did to ME. That’s not acceptable behavior so I left.

Well anyway, it’s now 4:40am. I had a rather lonely evening. I met many girls but nothing really worth mentioning. Not great looking, or my type, or old enough, or mature enough, or into me enough.  It was a fun game though tonight. at least I tried.

Kino Compliance: The 3 Rs

I was observing a natural work a set the other day when I came upon an epiphany in terms of how kino works in its progression. I realized the term “escalation” did not properly encompass the whole process of what happens when kino occurs during a pickup scenario. I sat down and mapped it out and came up with what I think is a better way of describing how kino helps in building attraction. I was able to break it down in three overlapping steps similar to how attraction, comfort and seduction overlap thus does kino compliance. These three steps I have dubbed the “3 Rs” which are Receptiveness, Response, and Reciprocation, respectively.

In the beginning stages of kino escalating, gauging the indicators of interest (IOIs) is crucial in continuing kino and further ramping it up. In the first few minutes, kino should either step up gradually with slow attraction building (or rapidly if kino plowing targets with high body temp already) or should cycle up and down according to IOIs and IODs. The receptiveness of the kino will be indicated by direct body language and facial expressions. When a target smiles during kino this will be an indication of continued receptiveness. However, confused looks or expressions of distaste to any kind of touching should be calibrated with kino IODs. The receptiveness should be focused upon until major positive physical response mechanisms are present.

Once receptiveness is indicated the target or set should begin to respond favorably. In addition to body language, the kino should cause the target to begin to touch her hair, scratch herself, lean into you or other IOI responses that indicate that kino is being received favorably. This is where overlap occurs in that these responses are a physical phenomenon one can observe, but yet will overlap the receptive behavior. When referring to responses I generally am noting larger physical motions that are easily observed and congruent with the receptive indicators already mentioned. Responses can be negative, however. If receptiveness is plowed through and comfort is not established kino can still be met with a response such as turning away or backing up from unwanted kino. Therefore any ambiguous or negative response should be met with caution that includes building more attraction and cycling through less aggressive with more aggressive kino till positive responses occur.

After major positive responses, the last stage in the kino compliance cycle should occur. This involves reciprocation. Not only should a target respond with IOIs from your kino but they should begin to kino back too. Once this occurs it is a green light towards more intense kino that loops back through the 3 Rs. If, for example, you touch a woman’s hips and she touches yours this indicates you should now test for receptiveness towards more aggressive kino when the proper time calls for it (kiss closing in a seduction location is a great example of this cycling process). Once reciprocation occurs, the last level of kino should be a baseline for continuing to cycle kino and escalate again. The 3Rs should once again be favorable before advancing kino even further.

I feel this is a much more representative description of kino escalation then the term itself provides. Kino compliance with 3R cycling should yield positive results when practiced properly.

Have fun and keep Sarging.

Simeon

About Simeon

Simeon is a VA Coachoperating out of California. After winning the title of Master Pick-Up Artist on Season 2 of VH1?s The Pick-Up Artist, Simeon has chosen to further his training with Mystery and Matador as he continues the everlasting journey of improvements in the pickup arts. Now he has chosen to give value to others by teaching the arts that have so dramatically transformed his life so that others may share in the enjoyment that pickup creates through the rigorous but rewarding journey of pickup artist training provides.

Bodybuilding

Bodybuilding

When I was around 21, I got into bodybuilding. I played football, basketball, martial arts, track, & pole-vaulting in high-school. I grew up in Texas and being big and muscular increased your social value immensely (as most high schools I assume).

When I turned 21, I started to lift for aesthetic purposes, not just for athletic performance. At my peak I managed to get to 245 and 3.8% body fat benching 450lbs for 4-5 reps.

In short, I looked like a real amateur bodybuilder. Anybody who knows me from a couple of years ago can attest to that.

Here is my experience of various dynamics during my journey.

ATTENTION FROM WOMEN

This result was two-fold. I am around 6’2”. When I hit around 205 at 5% body fat, I noticed a night and day difference with women throwing IOIs at me. When I started to increase to 220lbs at 6% I noticed it started to go down. When I hit 245lbs @ 6-7% body fat I noticed it go down a lot. Some girls would still throw IOIs, but most were scared of me. In addition, some simply gave me deliberate IODs.

To put 205@5% into perspective: It would look like Brad Pitt in Fight Club or Troy.

At 220lbs@6%, it would look The Rock in Scorpion King.

At 245lbs@6-7% body fat, it would look freakish and like the guys on the cover of Muscle and Fitness and maybe FLEX (the guys on the cover of FLEX are pros and still are at another level above).

This was back before I knew anything about the community. In my mind:

More Muscle = More Social Value = More Women.

My conclusion: The Brad Pitt Fight Club look works the best for pua goals.

RESPECT FROM MEN

QUICK NOTE: Bodybuilding and fighting are two different art forms. Weight training-not bodybuilding-helps the latter. Do not think that just because you are big you can fuck with anyone. There are some scary cats out there. Avoid fights if possible is my best advice. It is not conducive to our survival goals.

Pros and Cons here: On one hand, you almost get instant respect from men. Men simply do not want to fuck with you. From bouncers, businessmen, athletes, musicians…etc. They all start throwing submission IOIs to let you know you’ve got them in this area. Some want to align with you, some want to distance themselves from you, and some outright resent you and talk shit behind your back.

Another pattern I observed. Rich guys will want to be seen with you (when you’re really big). They will want you to roll in their entourage. They will buy you drinks, throw women on you, and introduce you as their friend.

Cool guys, who you want to be like, will give you a level of respect instantly into their social circle, provided you are not a socially unintelligent person. In other words, they will give you access to their world, provided you don’t do anything stupid.

People in general will give you compliance easier. It’s the small things you notice in everyday situations from waiters, people standing in line…etc.

One funny story, I ran a red light at about 60mph, simply because I thought I could make in the yellow on pacific coast highway. I was in a national park and I noticed the park ranger slow down as I sped up. I was going to try to make the light and he was going wait for the next one. I ran it and he turned his sirens on and pulled me over. Why would I do such a thing you may ask? Well, I didn’t think these guys handled traffic violations. I thought they monitored park activity such as fires, vandalism…etc., things like that. In short, it was stupid, but that’s what my rationalization was at the time. As he is pulling me over, he asks me if I have been drinking which I said no and then asked me to step out of the car. After I did, he took one look at me and asked me, “Why shouldn’t I give you a ticket.” I told him, “that was a completely stupid thing I did and it won’t happen again.” He let me go! Some may say that was completely random. However, I disagree. Nothing is completely random, nothing is an accident. Even if people themselves are not aware of what they are doing, they’re emotions are reacting nevertheless. In this instance, his emotions & logic decided to give me a pass, if I simply gave him this one little compliance test. He didn’t want a cute logical answer, but wanted an emotional one. Notice how I never answered the question that he asked? Why would he do this in the first place? I believe, by the intimidation factor of this huge guy being presented to him on a one-on-one basis on the side of the road.

Women will want to show you off. Hold your arm like they are so proud to be there. Even though it all breaks down to value, there is nothing like seeing the love and adulation in a young girl’s face as she is looking at you and you know it is real.

CONFIDENCE

At gladiator dimensions, you’re CONFIDENCE is SUPER-HUMAN. I am not saying it is entirely real…just describing how you FEEL. You feel entitled to any girl in the venue. You FEEL entitled to TAKE what you WANT. You feel like you can slam dunk a basketball (which I could barely do)…you FEEL like you can accomplish anything after enduring the discipline and pain it takes to get there. YOU FEEL FUCKING AWESOME. Almost anything you wear looks good, you feel like a Ferrari on a road filled with Cadillacs. You feel peaceful. You feel clean. You feel energetic. You feel younger. You feel like you’re not aging. You feel DANGEROUS. Your feel POWERFUL…physically & mentally. Remember, don’t go into the gym get up to 225lb on bench with a gut and say you don’t feel these things. This is how I felt when my body was at a level where someone would pay me to photograph it.

HOW TO GET GOOD

A rough but effective game plan to get your body to where you want it to be is a follows:

First, outsource the knowledge. A lot of you guys are busy on your wealth and relationship nodes of your life. You don’t need to immerse yourself in the world of bodybuilding. Here is the solution and eventually you will acquire the knowledge yourself.

Find a trainer that LOOKS like a bodybuilder from a reputable GYM. You may not want to look like him, but he will have the knowledge and drive to take you to where you want to go because he has done it himself. They may be exceptions to the rule; however, I don’t want to waste any time finding out. Also, you have to believe in your trainer as a teacher/role model and he needs to earn that respect as he is yelling at you to grunt out another rep on the leg press as you have a white-hot burn going through your legs.

Second, you must hit your training, diet, supplementation, and rest in unison. If anyone of those areas is left undone, you will not get the “Perfect Look”. There are some major mistakes I see a lot of guys do. The will either:

1) Over train
2) Not know how to train, but think they do after reading a few pages of muscle and fitness.
3) Train and then go eat a pizza afterwards and wonder why their ab wall doesn’t show after the million crunches leg raises that they’ve done.
4) Not rest enough…I knew one guy do did fifteen sets of 8 on bench press as his first chest exercise! WTF!
5) I saw this same guy repping with the same weight for about 2 years!

The list could go on an on. In short, seek out those you have the knowledge and motivation that you need TODAY and who have proven successful at the task you are about to perform.

Here is a rough summary:

1) Seek out a QUALIFIED TRAINER based on my text above (this is an important step).
2) Follow his instructions exactly…believe in him even if you don’t see results at first. (That’s why step #1 is important, he needs to inspire, motivate, and earn your respect).
3) Believe that this body (the archetype I found the best for our PUA goals) is something worthy and worth fighting for. You have to want it. I illustrated my experience, so you’d know it is a huge DHV prop to your avatar.

CONCLUSION

For RELATIONSHIP purposes…I think it is an excellent sport that does provide the ROI you are looking for.

For HEALTH purposes…I think it is an excellent sport that does provide the ROI you are looking for.

For WEALTH purposes…I think it is an excellent sport that does provide the ROI you are looking for.

In this regard, remember I mentioned that High-Value guys will want to align with you. I can’t tell you how many different wealth-building alignments are spawned from guys wanting to be your friend and throwing value your way.

All-in-all the BODYBUILDING activity permeates through multiple areas of your life that are consistent with PUA goals. I high recommend it for the reasons in this post.

-Matador