Classic FR: World Top Playboy Playoff Challenge Spring 2005

Naw, I’d really like have a competition for real. In fact last night Style and I had a little contest. He bet me a dollar that I couldn’t make out with the first set I opened. I wanted to do the 5 set challenge but I was holding a boot camp and it’s day one so I can’t take more than 25 minutes per set because I have to show them how to cold approach.

Here’s what happened: in total I did like 7 sets. All opened very nicely (not a single blow out) and I was in set with each anywhere from 10 to 30 minutes. I went into isolation and kino escalation (hand holding and embracing) in all of them except one (but she had to take a photo with me and held me tight for it shrug – I came in negging too hard I surmise though if it wasn’t a boot camp I could have worked more as I easily had maneuverability by then). One of them (a 2set) a student of mine and I bounced at the end of the night … I made out with one (and rubbed her down there). So overall, since every set opened and ran very well, I’d say this is promising for a competition. It’s amazing to be able to open a set and KNOW you can go as far as you want with it and the full monty if YOUR CHOICE. The hardest part really is getting it to OPEN and build enough ATTRACTION for solid kino escalation (where they comply to your wishes to be touched). Once you have that (3 to 5 minutes in) the only way to lose is to fuck up. Just don’t do anything to compromise the attraction you built and you can just baby sit in comfort (with entertaining kino escalation) all the way to full monty, based not on time but on her comfort with each step in kino.

Now the logistics of many of them may compromise a WIN because one of the sets which blew open (we were embracing and it was very on) was – we concluded…

She and her other hot friend (Style was in with and later we pushed a student in) may have been on coke or something. She kept cutting off my threads every 3 seconds like a speed freak though I got into kino with her and could easily have continued students agreed she was acting very jittery and that’s not my interest. you never know what you’re gonna get til you enter and maneuver within the set.

Anyways, as for the first set: I went into a 2set. Tall, cute girl. Worked her for 30 minutes. Holding her, hand holding, cuddling, picture taking, and overall a great response … though the obstacle (who later bought me a drink)

Was socially retarded and reminded me of the jumping bouncy yapper dogs in old bugs bunny cartoons. So I did a take-away for a bit (locked her in with props of course) and did my boot camp. Later I waved at her and she waved me over with a big smile. I came over and some guy without a neck was pissed and started to yell at her. I never talked to him before but it appeared a jealousy plotline with an ex was developed. As her retarded friend was buying me the drink the guy said, “If you know what’s good for you you’d walk away.” I immediately went to the bouncers and bounced him the fuck out of there. I WIN.

BUT: while the retard stayed and I got my drink, the target, in a yelling fight with the guy, went outside with him to continue the argument. Oops. I owe $1 to Style for not making out with her. As you can see, with yappy and ex-con as my obstacles, I would have had to have isolated to outside the club and into the casino (as I said I would have done if it weren’t for it being a boot camp where I can’t do that) before any of this happened. So … Am I ready? You bet!

Mystery

PS: boot camp day 2 begins in less than 1.5 hours. I could have gotten a hotel last night and full montied the girl (I said to her, “you’d spread your legs for me tonight if I could stay wouldn’t you” and I rubbed her. She said, “Yea I would.” So that was a win enough because it was 4am, I had a boot camp to go to the next day and my GF was in my bed at home who is hotter. I was only demoing the MM skill set anyways. I don’t want to have to pay for a hotel (as she was sharing a room with her friend) just to have sex with a girl of lesser value than what I already have waiting for me. Shrug QUALITY PROBLEM huh.

Your Hands for Her Pleasure. Part 1

Your Hands for Her Pleasure
Part 1 or 5

Remember the rush you got the first time you put your hands inside a girls panties? There’s no place you’d rather have been than down her pants. The joys of exploring something foreign, something new, it was almost surreal. One thing we may overlook is how excited the girl may have been and how can we help create that rush for her again. She has likely had a few unskilled and rushed lovers in her past. Which means more often than not, women are not satisfied or even disappointed with sexual interactions. With vulva massage and foreplay, act as if you are an explorer uncovering the secrets to her genitals. If you press the right buttons and push the right pressure points, sexual bliss is on the horizon.

Let’s talk about some techniques to give her that same rush and feeling. These next 4 articles are going to talk about vulva massage and digital stimulation (fingering). Most sexual scripts include some type of manual stimulation, especially during foreplay. To be a skilled, sexual lover, it takes the know how and the ability to perform in the moment. I know sex can be intimidating, depending on the level of experience you have or even the attractiveness of the woman lying next to you, but we all have to fight through our demons that affect our confidence. You’re all learning ways to manage the approach anxiety; we have to also learn to ways to manage sexual performance anxiety. One of the most important ways to turn sexual insecurity into sexual confidence is mastery of technique. Behavioral change can implement cognitive change, or learning better ways to please her can help you feel better and more confident about your sexual skills. Sexual confidence often comes from repeated positive sexual experiences, which generally come from doing the right moves in the bedroom over and over again. Hearing that you helped her reach her first orgasm, someone telling you they’ve never been touched like that before, and witnessing a partner lose themselves in pleasure can make us smile, feel good about ourselves, and help us to stick our chests out a bit more. If you know you’re knowledgeable and good at something, you’ll probably do it well and feel competent when doing it.

Some tips before we get into techniques. First, set the stage for hands and fingers to perform. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve spoken to complain about men’s fingernails. Long, uncut nails or freshly cut, unfiled nails have the potential to scrape the vulva and the vaginal canal. I compare it to a tooth accidentally scraping your penis when receiving oral sex. Ouch!

Wouldn’t that affect your ability to focus on the pleasure of the moment? Don’t set the stage for her to focus on a scrape in the vagina rather than the way you’re fingering her.

More nail advice. Be careful with the vulva/vagina massages after hot wing night at Hooters or eating that spicy burrito from your favorite Mexican spot. Salsa, hot sauce, and lemons are just a few examples of things that can burn when exposed to a tear of the skin on the vulva or in the vagina. Ever had shampoo get inside your urethra (pee hole) in the shower? Ya, burning like your penis needs to call 911. The same can happen to her, so keep those fingernails clean, wash your hands before and after sexual interactions, and don’t be known as the “hot salsa” guy to a group of girls. Aspire to be known as the “magic hands” guy!

Find a way to soften up your hands. For those that hit the gym, lift weights, and do manual labor, our hands can go from soft to a rough callous mess in no time. I remember the days of lifting weights and feeling pride over my scruffy hands. Today, I’d rather sexually please the girl than impress my fellow gym rats. It doesn’t feel good for a woman to have rough hands scraping across her vulva. It’s like expecting a feather massage and getting sandpaper. Some options are manicures, wearing workout gloves, scrubbing your inner hands with pumice stone, and using hand moisturizer. So keep those nails trim, filed, clean, and make sure your hands are soft and inviting for repeat vulva visits.

Public service announcement: Saliva just isn’t enough! Think back to the times you were rubbing a woman’s genitalia, digitally stimulating her (ok, fingering her), and the lubrication seemed to gradually fade. What did you do, keep spitting in your hand? Do you think she finds that sexy? Some women produce enough lubrication for clitoral, vulva stimulation and vaginal penetration, but most don’t. Biologically, vaginal lubrication was meant to facilitate penile entry for eventual ejaculation and procreation, not necessarily long foreplay sessions. You will find a great number of women complain about men rubbing their clitoris and vulvas while the surface is dry and fingering her when there isn’t sufficiently lubricated. Don’t blame her or yourself, its nature’s fault for not taking pleasure into consideration. Guys, it can be a lot like receiving manual stimulation. How do you like a dry handjob? Don’t those usually work a little better with lube? My advice: go to your nearest sex toy shop and buy small, individual sized packets of lube. Keep one or two in your pocket at all times in case a vulva comes knocking at your door. Each packet is inexpensive (few bucks), can be used for handjobs and vulva stimulation, as well as eventual (or should I say hopeful) penile/vaginal/anal penetration. Remember, use water-based lubricants, not water soluable (can have oil) or oil-based, as water-based lube is latex compatible for condom use. Also, the word on the street is that lubes with the ingredient glycerine/glycerol can increase female yeast and are linked to reoccurring yeast infections. Check the lube ingredients and ask your sex shop salesperson for help. It might mean the difference between her getting a bacterial infection and you getting a repeat invitation to come over. The next 4 articles will focus on vulva stimulation techniques, clitoral stimulation techniques, vaginal stimulation techniques, and combination techniques. So lets start talking about what our hands can do to get her panting, moaning, and her heart pumping.

Dr. Hernando Chaves is a Clinical Sexologist and Psychotherapist in Beverly Hills, CA. He holds a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology, a Master of Arts degree in Marital and Family Therapy, and a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality. Dr. Chaves is a sex educator and college professor, teaching introduction to human sexuality and advanced human sexuality. He is a Sex Coach and resident Sexologist at www.askmen.com, offering guidance and technique training to become a better, more skilled lover. As a public speaker with national and international experience, Dr. Chaves encourages the pursuit of sexual knowledge and healthy sexual expression.

Women Are Like Cats Part 1

Women Are Like Cats Part 1

Opening How do you approach a woman?

When you first meet a new cat, it’s usually startled when you first approach. It may not necessarily take flight but it will take precautions until it feel’s your not a predator with any type of agenda. Until the cat gets more familiar with whom you are and the scent you carry; you must believe that you are approaching with no intentions to “picking up the cat.” Notice that usually when you try to move around with the cat after first meeting it, it tends to want to disperse away. Well the same result would occur with a woman due to the high level of compliance you’re asking while she has little data and not enough comfort with you. Just like how you can tell the current emotional state/mood of a cat by the angle of its ears, you can tell about a woman by her current emotional state and conversation she gives you which are feedback you can acknowledge to know what input you’re receiving, therefore making it easy to communicate with her because you understand where she is in that moment.

Is it an indication of disinterest, demonstration of lower value, compliance test, indication of interest, or a demonstration of higher value? None the less the more time you spend in field then the more calibrated and awareness you will have of your environment, particularly social settings. In other words you will always know of what’s REALLY going on while others think they do. (People with really advanced game know what I mean. So remember when a movement is implemented it should be calibrated, smooth, confident, playful, and accurate. At the same time have that belief of being internally strong with no regrets or reasons why you as a man can’t step up if something caught your curiosity. However, don’t put yourself in a situation where you become that guy, “I must pet this cat.” Then you will notice your possibilities slimming down especially when you feel she’s got potential From there if you continue to game in the wrong direction you got yourself a restraining order. So how would you approach a cat? That’s how you approach a woman.

-Rizen

About Rizen

Rizen is a VA Coach living in Los Angeles. Aside from that he is a current college student in the process of majoring in public relations, a recording hip hop artist who’s secretive about his works for confidentiality agreements, a global traveler who not only has a diverse background or speaks fluent English and Arabic knowing Arabic in seven different dialects. In addition, travels frequently through out the year around the world enhancing both himself and his crafts to better reach his preference of taste, in what he considers an amplified set of skill sets.