Question and Answer with Mystery Part 2
August 19, 2009 by Mystery
Filed under Featured Articles, Mailbag Q&A
AFC: Last Saturday I met this young woman and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her since then. She’s the first thing I think about when I wake up, the last thing before I fall asleep and even at that I’ve been finding it hard to get to sleep because my mind is so full of thoughts of her.
Mystery: Please remember that realistically, she is only an OPTION. These emotions are not healthy until AFTER the relationship has started. ALSO, men who have many women vying for their attention would be USED to women and therefore would not go al GAGA over OPTIONS. This makes you look WEAK in her eyes.
AFC: My heart aches when I’m not near her and my head spins when I am near her. Ok…yes I’ve fallen deeply, way to quickly…but I can’t help myself.
Mystery: Unless you are willing to WALK AWAY, it is unlikely that you will obtain her. You will go through what most NEWBIES go through. You will pine for her and some other guy (like me) will slip in a take her from you. The best you can do is become a FRIEND – which hurts even more because you’ll have to become friends with her boyfriend too. Save time by PRETENDING to be used to women already. Be willing to walk away and give some neg hits once in a while. Trick yourself into thinking she is ugly but entertaining. Then you will not let her shit on you in any way.
AFC: And that’s exactly the message I got from her. ‘I’m not looking for anybody, I don’t want anyone in my life right now, I’m just here to have fun’ is exactly what she said to me. It was a good learning experience for me.
Mystery: It’s a good bet she IS looking for someone but if just fed up with the fact she can’t find someone who appeals to her. If you can CONNECT with her, you’d be in. Do 3 neg hits, a connection pattern and some humor like the pull my finger joke and she would change her mind and you would have a g/f who was a 10. And she’d have a b/f who was funny and had a connection with her and confident.
AFC: That’s all fine & good I suppose. But the one I approached had come alone, and had no noticeable friends around her.
Mystery: She came alone to be harassed by men? Don’t you see she’s lonely? No guys try to get past the beauty bullshit and make her feel a connection. 10′s have their own set of problems. It’s not harder to get a 10, only different.
AFC: Getting a flock of women around me in this early stage of my ‘playa’ development was out of the question as well. Maybe in the future.
Mystery: Yeah, this DOES take a considerable degree of confidence. I know, it took me a long time to get this shit together this way. I became a performing artist and this stage stuff helped me get confident with the girls even more. Thing is, I think I’m more of a pick-up artist than a performing artist. I just got good at performing to meet more girls I guess. More options.
AFC: Please….I’m begging for some advice here – I can’t let her pass me by.
Mystery: realistically, with this emotional approach, you ARE going to let her pass you by. Be willing to walk away FIRST. You are only excited about her as an OPTION. Before you met her she wasn’t an option. If another girl came into your life that was beautiful and pleasant to you, you would call her an option too and no doubt your emotions would go haywire. As you experience more you’ll realize there are TONNES of OPTIONS out there. You just have to MAKE them YOUR options. I wager you DON’T get her but if you follow my advice, you’ll increase your slim chances at least.
Good luck though.
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mystery I need know when you come from to argentina……i don´t care if you teke 1 year or 2,
bot i goin to work all day and nigth to pay you………a need 3 day of workshop…or 1 i don´t care…..
i read ¨the game¨ from neal strauss….is awsome………
sorry for my error on inglish…..I don´t know write well…..
thax any way
That is what I love about Mystery. He gets to the point without an bs and tells you how the world really works. Not as Disney or Movies have tried to persuade the masses. Long Live Mystery!
Hey I got a questton. Im still in College and live on poverty level status, but I’m pretty happy go lucky from time to time, its like surfing, some days are better than others, and the closest seduction lair is like a hour away from my current location… So anyways I would love to go to a boot camp–are there any payment plans for college guys, newbie drills, or a little less expensive books to help me out… I know the “How” (Like the charming voice tone)… Its more of the “What” to say! I go dry really easy…..
Q1.mystery actually i am from india where girls r more protected than in the western …..
Q2.do u think mystery method is still applicable to them………..
wat do u think if someone involves himself in a fight due to a girl , i knw fighting is very sick but do we avoid it because some guys r completely psycho……should we or should we not approach a set of bf n his gf in dat case……plz guide me through this , i m totally confused.
I am clearly not Mystery, but I do have my opinions. I tend to think of Mystery, as much more than just my mentor, but almost as my conscience and i’ve absorbed much of his [GENEROUSLY OFFERRED] knowledge and personified it in my own practices.
One thing you guys should remember, is that STATISTICALLY it takes about 10,000 HOURS to FULLY MASTER a craft. NONE of this change can happen instantly for you, nor can you just hope for the change to occur. You need to really identify WHAT it is you WANT in this life and it is ONLY with hard work and UNWAVERING DEDICATION that you will attract it to yourself.
Arya
23yrs old
P.S> to the college student: the closest ‘seduction lair’ is not an hour away, you are making excuses to yourself bro.. There are 9s and 10s everywhere whom have apts/ houses/ dorms etc.. There is always a bigger picture than the one you see man, stop with the excuses.. You’re asking, How does he know this?? I’m a f**king college student too, who is broke like you… but i’m getting laid (and refuse not to)
I totally agree with mystery because the above AFC was me exactly 8-10 months ago. I still face this problem but to the same extent. Do not make any girl as your first option. I am still in progress to become a PUA. I overcome this frustration by opening another set immediately in order to overcome the obsession caused by the option ( the girl supposedly your “dream girl”.
“P.S> to the college student: the closest ’seduction lair’ is not an hour away, you are making excuses to yourself bro.. ”
-Correct me if I’m wrong, but I think he meant an actual PUA Lair (where guys get together to learn and find wings etc), not a bar/club or other environment to practice…
Love Mystery’s work! Only getting back reading it after a time off the whole PUA scene!
hi mystery im giomar. im from dominican republic, i just want to say hello hehe…..HELLO!!!.
you are my idol and my guru and i dont know.
i hope you read this.
Hey Mystery,
2 part question. I find the idea of evolutionary psychology and social dynamics absolutely facinating and I’d like to see you share some of your favourite books or reccommended reading with us all.
Secondly, to continue the theme of these comments, I’m in Brisbane Australia. What needs to be done to get some bootcamps up here? I am planning to attend either the Sydney or Melbourne sessions next year (probably Sydney) but I would be exstatic to have bootcamps operating in my favourite part of the world.
Good Good, options! Very easy to do after the second girl is in.Its easy to feel softer about the situation.
Hi Mystery,
My friends who are apart of this great community tell me I’m a natural. I agree in that my numbers are high, and my quality is almost always between 8.0 to 9.5. However I need guidence. I guess I’m trying to say, that I am not happy with 8.0-9.5 I want 10s-11s. My game has no structure, I have no method, I simply wing it. I want the crown that you hold. I want to be the #1 PUA in the world. Not for pride or glory, but for me, and the women I am with. Pleasing women is what I was programmed to do. I enjoy a woman’s climax almost as much as she dose. Before I end up writing a million pages let me close with, I need your and and PUAs help to get me started on fulfilling my goals. To be the best you must learne from the best.
Thank you for your time.
i had a girlfriend. when we finished the relationship i stayed with a friend her. She told me that she want back to me, but she didn’t know about us /me and her friend/. Now i want back to her , but i dont know how. Please help me! Thanks…
Hello Mytery,
I read all your books. It works !!!!! Thank you very much …
Greetings from Germany
hi guys whats up. Danger Mystic here. i would love to tell you my whole story….first off i learned of mystery first when i typed into my computer “how to get girls?” i read everyones messages and have to say to the guy coming back from a break…take it easy. why do we take breaks…because we just do….we need them. i was obessessed with a girl and couldn’t really understand why…one-itis to the worst degree…im not with her i lost my job because of my inablitly to cope and im going broke. i would have never had sex with her without pick-up. i became a pick-up artist that day. i will get back up. i will get a new job. i will not die. i will become a better pick-up artist……..and i will do it on my terms. cope with succuss. there sould be a warning label on this info. “warning u will get laid and watch out cause you might get also get screwed ” all that aside. i had to learn a hard lesson. ill be better after i recover. so take a break….breath recover. its cool. if you or i miss a girl its her loss anyway. danger mystic.