This question comes from a user on the Venusian Arts Forum:
Q:
As a rule, would you say it is correct to neg obstacles (plus anyone who is showing defiance- in the punishment/reward subroutine) 1st if they are showing most defiance? This has been my assumption recently.
A:
I set these variables in my mind as I enter the place (based on previous interactions in the venue or my spidey senses — based on informed pre-conceived generalizations of the type of groups Ill likely encounter in the venue.) I enter and presume the first set will be GOLD, as in very receptive.
If not, Ill turn the set GOLD (change their state) and prop them near the entry to the club so we can welcome entrants. That often cures a shitty night as those entering only need a single nasty dude to grunt at them on their way in to change the way they perceive the general receptivity of the room. Based on the receptivity of the second set i enter, i judge how the 3rd will run. If I judge the place is, as we pro-PUAs call, a shit-hole, Ill instantly calibrate to this truth and open later sets less politely, and enjoy working the room with negs (even triple whammy negs) in my opener. In short: presume the room is filled with the innocent and spiritually brilliant, until proven otherwise. Rub your hands, grin, and say, "Game On Motha Fuckas." Negs are fun!
If anyone else has any questions, post them here in a comment, and if you're lucky, you'll get an answer :)
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Ok,
Q: what to do when you neg waay too much?
Because:
I mean im very creative, and sometimes i just neg so much because its fun for me, and being a photographer i often neg my models a lot.
so there was this girl who was laughing at my negs, they are always playful. but suddently she snaped!
and started yelling at me, she said to go and look myself at the mirror because i teased her on one of her portfolios photos as being kinda weird :p
i was shocked and at the same time it was a hilarious moment for me because i said to myself
“oh man you just crossed the line…” hahahaha
anyways, I apologized to her telling her that that was how I was, and that i was being playful. no need to curse (because she did).
and then.. she started laughing back, she was joking too,
hell of an actress!
anyways I felt it was kinda like a shit test, but it was really funny.
BUT what if she was saying it for real, that would have been a painful situation…
Hi Mystery,
I am from India. I hope you know that these tricks u teach don't work here as the girls get intimidated as soon as we speak to them. They only pay attention to us if we know them. They don't talk to strangers and more over they don't like people who love more than one women. I would like to know how to work out something with these ladies in India. I know that i didn't post the question in the right column but i would like to contact you. As i am here i cannot come to attend your classes. So please help…
Hi Mystery. it's good to see your currently active on this site. I've read your book "The Mystery Method". It's the best book on how to attract high quality women I've ever read.
What would you say to a women who tells you she has a boyfriend or mentions her boyfriend?
I remember what you said in your book about how she might not even have a lover and is just testing us.
As far as I see she's disqualifying herself. Which makes her a low probability prospect.
I used to say to women who ever mentioned the "boyfriend" word. "Forget him, I'm better. You dont want to be with him, you want to be with me. For I'm the guy you've never met before". But I've found out after about a dozen failed set attempts that this statement is too strong for them to handle and they walk away quickly. I think because they've never heard a guy say that before.
I wish you all the success your looking for in 2011.
cool post. so are you working on any new products to launch soon?
Is that true that you come to melbourne this weekend ? If yes, i really would like to meet you . U can write me an email if you want to . Would be great !
mystery,
you once wrote a post about conveying a strong identity with storytelling and an avatar. my questions is: how do you choose one? i mean there are different types that would fit me well, i just don’t which is best.
thanks!
how do you get good fast at the game?
hey mystery,
I was wondering about the steps you would take to formulate a dhv and also little bits showing your value in general.
thanks
mystery, all these girls seem to love justin bieber..WTF! dude has no game, is a pussy, so gets laid on his fame or what?
Hey shendo,
I have an article on that very subject on the way, look for it here on the blog soon!
hey mystery!!
love to ask questions directly from nr 1 pickup artist ha!
question: do you got some tips/material for loud club game?
> i know you say to avoid them, to run better game in quiter areas, be we have these popular clubs in town were all the hotties go you know, but these whole clubs are loud as fuck, so when i am out with my entourage how do i approach these environments? my personal experience was that the openers should be short at least, because they can't almost hear you.
well thanks anyaway, best Zippo
PLEASE ANSWER THIS MYSTERY!
LET ME START BY SAYING THAT I HAVE BOUGHT BOTH YOUR BOOKS, WATCHED BOTH SEASONS OF THE PICK UP ARTIST, BOUGHT YOUR DVDS, AND WATCHED EVERY YOUTUBE CLIP IMAGINABLE OF YOU AND MATADOR. BEFORE YOUR ADVICE I WAS AVERAGE WITH GIRLS AND NOW I WOULDN'T SAY I AM A MASTER BUT I'M REALLY GOOD THANKS TO YOU. MY FRIENDS NOW ASK ME FOR ADVICE LOL. BUT ANYHOW I KNOW ALL OF THIS STUFF BUT I HAVE NEVER HEARD ANYTHING ABOUT "MATADOR MAYHEM". THIS SOUNDS GREAT! I CONTACTED YOUR PEOPLE ASKING IF I COULD PURCHASE A DVD OR EBOOK ON THIS TECHNIQUE BUT NO LUCK. SO MY QUESTION IS WHAT EXACTALLY IS THE "MATADOR MAYHEM" AND HOW DO YOU PERFORM IT. I HEARD MATADOR MADE OUT WITH 23? DIFFERENT GIRLS IN A WEEKEND USING IT. ALL I KNOW IS ITS SOMETHING ABOUT BE VERY ALPHA MALE CAVEMAN LITERALLY PICKING UP GIRLS AND BEING OVERALLY TOUCHING FEELY. SO WHAT ARE THE STEPS TO IT? IF YOU ANSWER THIS I WILL PERSONALLY WRITE YOU OUT A CHECK AND SEND IT TO YOUR HOUSE LOL SERIOUSLY. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE. ANY INFO WOULD BE AWESOME! THANKS I KNOW YOU WON'T LET ME DOWN!
Would you say that your principles would also apply to men or just women?
HI mystery,
whats the best way to deliver a neg? should i always have a smile on my face when i neg?
Ey man.
Got a question about where it's best to say this rutine.
"You know, your almost as beautiful as me.. no im just kidding…. Your not even close,."As a neg, obv playful.
Or as an opener more like: "Finaly someone who's almost as good looking as me.. No im just kidding, ur not even close, so, how do you guys know each other ."
Made it myself, so don't know what you think, just give me your comments on it, Thanks.
hi!
i KNOW everything about u MYSTERY from STYLES, coz' i was reading ur students BOOK. My question is actually i'm a bit confused i don't know where to start.
1. I'm not shy ,2. i don't have fear of rejection. 3.I can make girls laugh 4. i can make them fall in love with me
But the problem is i'm MARRIED and i want to know should i still go and approach other woman and make them fall in love with me …what kind of woman should i look for???? my wife loves me she do everything i say and does everything that a woman in love should do..she is perfect for me.But, it's me bloddy me who is not satisfied with this relationship..i want more from my life. Is it possible for me to survive and keep my life straight at the same time with extramarital affairs??????? Should i go for 7 hour rule and use women as tissue paper. I know lot of question's, but if u can give me just one answer, maybe , i'll get some knowledge how to do those things i want to do in my life. Right now, i'm having sex with woman on net they say all sort of naughty wild things to me and now i can't take it anymore .I want to do it in real life. My wife and family is a threat for me if do anything silly. CAn u plz.. plz.. plz.. plz.. give me some advice :-* LOVe u man not in that sense.
Thnx a lot for your advice
That’s the question I really wanna ask after reading “The Game” and “The Mystery Method”. And I think being the greatest pickup artist in the world, Mystery would be the best one to answer it. As the skills are getting open to all men, do the skills really work anymore? I mean, even women themselves could have read the books! Would they still respond to the routines?
Dear Mystery.
Negs are meant to be fun and playful. However, they often lead to insult through misuse. What happens when a neg goes wrong. How do you recover from a complete insult to a woman where the set is turned against you. A woman once told me she wanted to punch me in the face. That was wild! Cheers.
DJ Dynn
Hi M:
Physically, I am a 9.5. I get a lot of attention from HB7s and down. These girls approach me, but they’re nervous so they always end up asking me right out of the gate: what do you do? My usual response has been: (smiling) what does someone like me look like they do? But no matter how playfully I deliver this statement it really flusters them. Now I just tell them cause it’s actually cool, but I’d rather not blow my cover so early…
What are three alternative ways to handle this pattern?
Sincerely,
JS