I went from just getting shut out and hanging in the corner like a dork fly on the wallpaper to being able to talk to girls and have some of them hang onto my arm, smile while being chatty, laughing, or just sometimes want to keep talking for a little while..
No full lipaction but I’m getting girls to show me their more private tattoos (in a restaurant) lean in alot and have many women hang right around where I am, and I like it already….I just need to relax more and get into more practice in conversations, definitely getting them used to kino and me being a touchy-feely-fun guy.
If you talk about a NERRRrrrdddd/dork you would look me up until I was probably 15. It’s not that I was terribly fat or ugly but man social, whoah I was more like clueless.
THE INSTRUCTORS AND GUYS THAT WORK AT VA ARE THE FUCKING MAN DUDE. They will hang out with you, they hang out with each other and answer your questions when they could be at the hotel hanging in a jacuzzi, mackin women, being crazy around LA. They really try to get you comfortable and impact a huge amount of information and stuff into your head and go out of their way to reach out to you when you’re there in the club sweating your balls off thinking holy shit dude I’m going to crash here, they are there to help you through it.
I have a longer version that tells you all they did for me personally and what I got for my money’s worth from the three days. Check it out below this post.
So like a lot of guys I started off a month ago just
being kind of intimidated by women pretty easily and
vaguely random girlfriend-shows-up-in-my-life
relationships.
At the end of the bootcamp it’s like huge pieces of a
Jenga jumble of my old belief system just come
crashing down, I mean all the field experiences I had
with Hawaii were really eye opening let alone what the
others presented..and I found myself realizing HOW I
had gotten some girls really interested the few times
I did or they opened me whereas when I was trying the
old job interview boring ass shit they hear all the
time, it won’t.
First off we have Mystery
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sWnPH-kXeZM
, now there’s a ton about the man that you won’t even
realize at first except that he’s real open and a fun
thinking guy you’d love to be the friend of. I had
trouble keeping up after I was prepped watching
several spaced hours of his teaching footage, paying
careful close attention to what he says in The Game
especially when he’s revealing things to Neil, and how
he really treats you like you’re a full cool-capable
human being who could add to
society if he just knew how and could be made happier
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or if you see how he talks about multiple threading, I
mean when he talks about switching between
different subjects not just in canned material but
other things he’s thought of or situational
openers/gambits that he’s using. He will use the
google earth opener that requires a lot of careful
attention to words and delivery, have a 5 questions
game going be laughing and making a comment off
another girl, I mean when you see him click it’s
insane. Then he’ll just be kinoing and letting them
talk and talk him/themselves up while he goes and bam
starts integrating sets especially with other
wings/buddies who can share in the spoils of good
conversation.
YOU COULD WRITE 200 PAGES ABOUT WHAT HE PRESENTED IN
THAT TIME AND IT WOULD STILL BE A WEAK
IMITATION because so much was asked and there were so
many detailed and subtle parts to it, and even
after all the prep work I did before this seminar I
STILL had 3 pages of self made notes as well as things
I thought of since then based on the material he
presented.
What’s not to like about the guy??
Matador can be best described as a guy who also didn’t
understand why he wasn’t having a huge amount
of fun despite his goals and then totally transformed
himself in and out. When he’s telling everyone to
GET ORGANIZED AND BE THE MAN YOU WANT TO BE and he
kicks the fucking chair away he’s saying
our avatar has to be congruent with the person we plan
and work to be, period. How and why he is getting
as much body language congruency and power is because
he is his own boss, James Matador, period, and
the last three years have given him more than the last
twenty before, and if you saw as many hot girls
hanging around him as I did you won’t have any silly
questions whether "does it really work" "are girls
wanting guys" "can I really get there" YES YOU CAN but
you cannot be a pussy and you have to work for it it
is not a free lunch ladies and gentlemen. And thank
you for the fashion tip the chain didn’t fit my day3
outfit.
Lovedrop, what can you say, he has a real thought out
approach I mean I think if you talk about words having
power he was a guy who you realize gets girls to think
in a different way and he just made things like
kino escalation make a lot more sense even to the
introspective kid that can sometimes come out in any
one of us. And he’s like not sure…then try it or do
what you’re already doing and see if that works…no,
go DO IT. And in terms of concrete snippets, facts,
observations about my own approach I made the most
paper notes during his talk out of anyone else’s and
that tells me that this boy has done his homework.
(The Game isn’t about catching butterflies with a net
it is being the Bright Light that everything gets
attracted to)
(As social animals we can share emotional information
not just numbers or facts..which one is more related
to our species development anyway? HOW DO WOMEN OFTEN
COMMUNICATE?)
(lots of other stuff…)
I thought Kosmo‘s speech was really good and I was
pissed off that I didn’t get him so much at first
until I went out and tried it and then thought of what
I had seen the other guys do and WHAT WORKED. GIRLS
RESPOND TO ENERGY NOT ROBOTS ACTING POSSESSIVE OR
WEIRD. They just like us (or some of us!!!@@) WANT
TO HAVE FUN. They are not wired on what time did you
file that report oh yeah we have a meeting at 11:35
and there were 5 pens there and I had 10 emails from
management pile up and SHUT UP you need to be kind of
like a kid you know you love a girl that cracks you up
or forces you out of your head too so BE THAT GUY life
is supposed to be fun before people make it so
complicated and self centered bring out some joy share
it with girls too because they’re people not just your
friends. They happen to have a pussy and may decide to
gladly share it with a funny, fresh, cool guy who
doesn’t need them and enjoys meeting people and adding
value!@
Wow dude Discovery was an amazing dude too he had two
separate presentations and I almost felt like a bozo
when I complimented him on his badass outfits because
he like stood back and was thinking wow is that all
this guy took away from me talking he must be not
listening to a goddamn thing I’m saying.
He had scary good verbal and kino/body language
openers just basically had girls doing stuff you’d
kind of think was porno movie except he’s really just
a fiesty English/Irish sounding fella who does not
give a shit he knows he’s the baddest ass freak that
girl’s ever going to talk to and THEY RESPOND TO HIM
THAT WAY.
When he talked about the color/trait presentation and
observing others I know he was talking about how to go
about making fast decisions based on BL and the kinds
of routines/way you interact with a mixed set. There
were three separate guys who witnessed some approaches
and although his energy is also really attention
getting he, like the rest of VA, wants everyone to do
well and has done amazingly few approaches considering
his aggressive style and success rate but the cat is
smooth, bro. And you feel it you know when he moves
through the crowd they will notice Him and not the
other way around. Him and Kosmo made me realize that
yes it is really possible to be fun and forceful in
different ways yet be totally sincere and have a great
time.
I was also glad to be able to meet Joe D. who totally
is the fun talkative guy I AM WITH MY FRIENDS and such
a great warm character who was open and awesome, he
totally hung with the VA crew and would talk to any of
the students/people who came up and wanted to ask
questions or even just be with us, and he WASN’T EVEN
OFFICIALLY PRESENTING his ass could’ve been home
talking to girls kicking back in the jacuzzi or
something
man.
and last but not least….HAWAII
OMG dude that kid has mad respect from me he took us
Chewie Everett and myself out to several different
venues through seating changes and time changes and
targets/parties switching locations and all throughout
demoing for us correcting us helping us get our sets
in asking "What’s going on" "Where are you getting
stuck" "DO THIS OPENER PLEASE follow up with this get
in there man make it happen" "Here bro I’ll go in no
reason to be worried guys just watch
close" then afterwards "Did you see how it hooked how
the bodylanguage was different SAME WORDS" and all
this kinda stuff it really helped wow I realized how
it was possible and I felt like something really
changed like I *could* do this if six months ago he
was not the badass asian kid who was cooler than
anyone in there and just had NO FEAR you could also
tell the man was congruent inside and out he wasn’t
taking shit from a girl and if she was being boring or
uncompliant, NEXT!@ Because he knew how to be playful
and fun and GET IN THERE……I had gotten a call one
night after I went home for going out again but I
think my phone was off then I was like AHHHHHHHHH I
would so have paid $$$ to get that night back with my
bro Hawaii man he really cared about the three of us
to get experience in the field. GLAD WE GOT THAT
SECOND COOL PIC BRO hehe nice. I thought to myself
drunk one evening yo I wonder if that kid played
Starcraft ever I’d so be a good wing to him but I
guess I’ll just buy him a drink sometime once I get
field experience and see the cool cats at VA man. Dude
send my warm happy cool fuzzies for the other bros
that were out there and could’ve done other shit WISH
I HAD MORE TIME AND WAS LESS STRESSED BEING OUT IN THE
NIGHT enjoyed all the conversation and hanging out
with those cats too man.
All these guys really cared. They stayed late, they
stayed for a lot of each other’s stuff, they tried to
joke around and help us through what was or wants to
be a great transitional period for us guys out there,
and I felt there was a certain real effort being taken
to get to everyone they could. Every VA guy in that
room even some of the other kids Jorg and Freddy and
several more that were hanging out with students and
people helping each other too.
I’m also happy got some numbers of dudes in the
northeast and we’re making it happen now! THANK YOU
ALL Viva Los Angeles!!@
- Mike
