Classic FR: Fall 1998

Alright gentlemen, at 9 p.m., I readied and went to meet my friend Tal and his buddy Action Fighter downtown. We ate at a cool food joint and discussed the chance of my meeting the famous Angelina Jolie from Hackers. We discussed and planned. It was my party invite and I invited my friends so I had dibs on Angelina. We agreed on that. They said that since I was the guy who worked his ass off to get good, it was only fitting that I landed her in order to complete my training as Action Lover. Se we get to the place for 11:20pm. Action Fighter couldn’t get in ’cause the ticket was for only 2 so I asked the guy if I could go up and find the film-makers to get my friend in and they let me in (I think it was my confident and PLEASANT demeanor.) We go in and I meet a couple of people I knew. We walked around and the place slowly picked up over time. A photographer I knew through a biz acquaintance was there and he took some pics of me. Me, Action fighter and Tal just waited around and nothing happened for the first hour. We just looked busy and chatted and hung which was tough to do. We saw Rosanna Arquette there but I didn’t intro myself to her. We were waiting for Jolie to come. I thought, when she comes, I have to be all set up to meet her. I figured, first, she must be intro’d to me, and second, I must have women around me to appear as positive testimonial to my coolness. So I intro’d myself to 2 women who were not my type at all just to get something going around me. This is known as BASING. This is where you start a BASE of women around yourself to DRESS yourself in female-atude. One of them liked Tal too so he enjoyed the yak. Better than hanging alone waiting for the cream of the crop to still arrive. Well, Jolie wasn’t coming so I dumped the 2 girl BASE and walked around. Jolie NEVER arrived which sucks because I asked the photographer to get Jolie to come and meet me. That would have been cool because she would have felt like ‘I’ was important enough for her to want to meet ME. He would say to her that he wanted to take a picture of the two of us and I would be surrounded by several people and the HYPE would be around ME. If only she were THERE. Mind you, I’m not pissed or anything. It was a long shot worth trying for. She could have had a boyfriend or been married but at least I went there.

Ok, so I end up meeting a couple cool black dudes and we shoot the shit for a bit. They were sort of a second BASE. Tal, Action Fighter (AF) and I go get a drink at the complementary bar. We only ordered coke because drinking lames out the brain for the sharpness required for the game. None of us drink. The ‘drink to loosen up’ excuse is invalid from a scientific standpoint. Playing the game is INCLUDES over-riding your emotions. See, beautiful women by their presence will create a STATE-CHANGE in you. They don’t have to talk; they just have to BE THERE. You will get nervous and horny and weird. This feeling will make you behave like EVERY other guy. This state-change is an indicator that the woman is WORTHY of your attentions. However, you can’t let this STRONG EMOTION alter your approach. This is an internal issue that happens on TOP of the external issue of attracting her. It’s a BITCH of an emotion too though because it makes you WANT her so bad that you will be NICE to her. What the NICE GUYS don’t realize is that only men who are around women a lot don’t have this state-change and therefore do not behave like horny-toads. So you must act like you don’t FEEL this inside and suppress the feeling. Good news is, when you ARE around women a lot, the feeling gets weaker. You can control this STATE-CHANGE as you can nervousness before public speaking and such. You just ignore the feeling. Only YOU know you have this internal issue. Hiding it is the big thing. When you are drunk, it removes this feeling, but it ALSO removes your sharpness and focus.

Ok, so Tal, AF and I go for another walk about in the place. We chat with our 2 girl BASE and Tal gets attention from one of them. They are not WORTHY but they DO invite us to their home party tomorrow. I could tell that this invite thing was designed for Tal. The girl must really like her. She isn’t WORTHY for him though. But hey, we plan on going. See, they actually had already written the directions for us when we returned to them. Weird but cool. The other one said, “There will be lots of single women there for Tal.” I replied, “I’ll try to convince Tal that that is important to him.” I was playing coy for him. They leave the party and we move on. There are 2 very attractive ladies near the speaker. I approach them and initiate my attack. Right behind them is a producer who was listening in and he gives me his card. In minutes I have the girls and this producer dude follow me to where my BASE 2 of the 2 black dudes are. We all chit chat and laugh and have fun for about 10 minutes and then I ask the blond girl (call her Tat here in NG) to come with me to a quieter area. I do this because it is a wonderful controlling and leadership display. I also got her away from the rest so only she and I could talk. But I looked cool to her because the producer thought I was cool and showed it, shaking my hand several times and the 2 black dudes were cool to me too. Anyway, we go to a quieter place but she asks if her friends could come. I say sure. So Me, Tat and 2 other cute girls go and sit somewhere else in the place. Oh by then, AF already left to go to his girlfriend at home. He’s not into the game, just appreciates what I do and watches me work. Ok, so I talk to Tat (who is at least a 9 if not more (24 yr old beauty – a therapist) and the other 2 sort of dissipate for a while because they know Tat likes me. We talk for an hour. Our talk includes connecting, how the mind is incredible, we talk about cosmology (an interest of mine) in an emotional way, and other stuff. She wore a black dress which was cut above the knee and her body was fucking awesome man! Fuck! I treated her like a friend. I did the pull my finger script on her and it really put me in control. Tal wanted to leave so I asked her for a ride home and she agreed so he took off. We will go to that party tomorrow. Ok, so I told Tat that I had a few rules in case she ever called me (I didn’t give her my #, I just told her my rules.) I actually TOLD her these. Swear.

1. If you call my pager, don’t leave a pager #.
2. If you call my pager, rather than saying via voice mail, “Hey, call me”, instead type in your # or I won’t call you.
3. If I call you and you can’t talk, don’t say, “Can you call me back?” I won’t. Instead, say, “I’ll call you back.” And then actually CALL me back.
4. If I call you, when you find out I’m ME, instead of saying, “Hey, what’s up?” I would prefer you saying, “Oh HI sweetie, how nice of you to call!” I told her I would do the same in return.
“Is all this fair?” She agreed.

I had the chance to make her friend like me too. I got Tats friends respect when she noticed I didn’t let Tat shit on me. I gave Tat rules and basically behaved like a man. I was confident and in control and lead the conversation. I listened and asked questions too which gave me valuable info with regards to her VALUES. Great insights I learned this week here in NG. Man, has NG helped me. Thanks guys BTW.

I also told her that I would NOT ask for her #. Why? I said, “Because I’m not like every other guy. You will have to WORK to get it off me. AND, if you say, can I have your #, I won’t find that creative enough so I will actually say NO. You will need to be creative, fair?” She says, “Ok I’ll need to think about this.”

Ok so we went to her car and I made jokes about her CLUB. You know, The CLUB, that bar on the steering wheel. Ok, so she drove me all the way home and that really allowed us to get to feel friendshipy comfortable. Her friend was in the back asking me questions. Like, she was qualifying me for her friend. I believe I passed all the tests nicely. Halfway home I mention, “You realize if you don’t ask for my # I will say, “Pleasure meeting you” and just get out of the car.” She says, “I was thinking about how I am going to ask.” When we got in front of my place she didn’t say anything but I could tell she really was going to so as a joke I said, really quickly, “pleasure meeting you” and opened the door and got out.

“Wait”, she said. I sat back down, door open. “Yes? What?”
She said, “can I have your number?” I said, “No! Boring. Try again.”
“Oh come on, don’t be difficult. Just gimmee your #.” I looked back at her friend and said, “If some guy said, “oh come on, don’t be difficult. Just gimmee your #.” Would you? She said no. “This won’t do. Try again. Be creative and sincere.” I was toying with her and actually making her nervous about losing me. “I would very much like to have your #”, she said.
I said, “Why?”
“Because I want it. Just give it to me.”
“NO”, I said, “why do you want my number?”
“How else will we see each other again?”
“Because I want to.”
I reply, “Why can’t you look at our time together as a fun time, a cool memory, and leave it at that? It’s like a nice package, we had a good time and that’s that.” She said, “Well, wouldn’t you want to OPEN the package?”
FUCK IM good. I WANTED her to say that. I MADE her say that with this game. I ‘permitted’ her to have my number but only AFTER I did the CREATIVE CLOSE script. It was awesome, I ran her through hell to get my #. She had to EARN IT! The girl in the back thought I was very cool and agreed with me and said to her, “you have to earn his #. He’s a man of value. He’s worth more than just a, “I’ll call you.”

We planned to see each other on Sunday (Saturday I have that party). After I got her # but before I gave mine I said, “before you get to have my number, you will agree to call me tomorrow, just to touch base. Is that fair?”
“Yes that is fair. ” “Not too early though, I’m planning on sleeping in.”
They waved several times as they drove off.

I made her WANT me. I made myself WORTH it. In a way, I acted like a girl. I was coy and hard to get. Fuck girls are good at this. How the hell do they do it so well so early? Anyway, thanks to the SS newsletters and your posts, I have really gotten my shit together. I came upstairs and IMMEDIATELY began posting shit here. Its 6:05 a.m. now and there you have it. Oh, BTW: remember that 10s # I got last Wednesday? Well, I had called her 2 days later and she said, “I’m busy can you call me back?” That sucked. So before the FILM PREMIERE I called her again and she was getting her hair done. She was busy tonight (I had invited her to the FILM thing). She didn’t try to get together another time nor did she sound so interested. So you know what I did? Now this hurt. I deleted her # from my list. I figure: I did all I can do to attract her LIVE that night I met her and I remember doing very well. She loved me. But on the phone she wasn’t all that into me. So I gave her 2 tries and she just didn’t bite like as if she was interested. I won’t call again. If she doesn’t call, that simply means she doesn’t want to be with me. Simple and direct, yes? I can’t convince her any MORE by calling her. I did all I can do and it is now up to her. I will only lower my standards by calling again. So I deleted the #. If she calls, BONUS. If not, I did the best I can … oh, AND I got a # today from a beautiful girl that I would love to be a girlfriend. Wow … ok, now get THIS! Remember that photographer at the party? His camera was digital and he took a picture of Tat and me. I asked him to email it to me and he agreed. So, that means you guys get a pic. But only if you ask me privately and are cool about it. Don’t burst my bubble!

JIMMY the HuN BTW did NOT show up. He did NOT email me. He did NOT do anything. Of course I won’t call this a cop out on his part because I DID give him short notice. Besides, at $100 a #, I’d only have made $100. Thing is, it’s the only # I wanted! She is amazing and I am in LOVE! Wow. JIMMY, come out another time. Hey dude, honest, come out to the house party tomorrow. Or is that today? Saturday night anyway. Email me and we can meet up if you are up to a friendly game of The Game. Don’t let me down. I’m ready to uphold my reputation and nothing you can say but “OK, I’ll be there” will uphold yours.

Mystery

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