This emotion in our body is very powerful and it can affect us in nearly every decision that we make when feel it in our body. It typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection
Jealousy is in fact a secondary emotion in reaction to one’s needs not being met, be those needs for attachment, attention, reassurance or any other form of care that would be otherwise expected to arise from that primary romantic relationship.
It can make us feel: bitter & twisted, distrustful, doubtful, green-eyed, skeptical, suspicious and wary.
It is highly sensitive to context and environment that surround us and it can make us do things that we wouldn’t think we are capable off.
When we feel sexually jealous towards our partners our attention will focus on:
1- looking for sexual/ romantic connotations in our partner conversation with others
2- create visual images in our head of our partner bring unfaithful
3- look for evidence that our partner is having and affair.
The behaviors and actions that we will take towards our relationship are:
1- seek constant reassurance that partner is faithful and loving
2- monitor and/or restrict partner movements and actions
3- retaliation for partner’s imagined infidelity
4- set tests/traps for partner
The evolution of jealousy greatly explains the triggers of jealousy for men and women.
Jealousy in each sex has evolved to mirror the mate preferences of the other sex. Women evolved to value professionally successful men, so a rival who excels professionally activates men’s jealousy. Men evolved to value youth and physical attractiveness, so women are jealous of others who are younger or more attractive.
The reasons why men and women are jealous have been sculpted by generations of mate preferences imposed by the opposite sex. Not a very nice fact but STATISTICLY 90% of murders are committed because of jealousy. The secret with jealousy… is that we can use it to our advantage. If used correctly it can work on our favor when it comes down to our relationships and to the attraction phase in pick up.
Now you have to be careful not to abuse it to much, as this emotion motivates 2 radically different actions, either vigilance or violence. Vigilance would be things such as following your partner, reading her mail or phone texts or unexpected phone calls. Anger would be things such as, threatening a rival who was spotted with his partner, fighting with a rival or damage to a rivals objects.
There was a specific scientific study over 10000 couple were either the woman or the man that were in a relationship together. One of the partners had feel this feeling and acted up on it to protect their investment, which in this situation was there partner, by being more controlling over the other person. Now when the couples were bought into this study, the person who was acting up on the feeling of jealousy was actually apologizing because he didn’t really know why he was acting like it. He or she sais that they just feel this emotion taking over getting them to behave that way. Meanwhile the other person moaned that he or she was being to controlling and dictorial about their relationship.
When the person who didn’t feel jealous was bought to the side, in privacy and was ask strictly in confidence if he or she had been cheating on there partner STATISTICLY 90% of the time it was a yes.
The truth behind it is that is there for a reason. Now I am not saying that just because you feel jealous your wife may be having an affair. These are only STATISTICS and scientific facts but your ancestor that acted up on this feeling instead of letting it slip by, they passed on their genes more successfully.
So how can we use this feeling to our advantage whilst sarging and in our relationship?
Studies have shown that jealousy can heightens passion towards partners and increases the intensity of passionate sex. Emotional jealousy is predicted to be nine times more responsive in females than in males This is believe to be simply because they tend to be more honest and in touch with their emotions than their male counterparts.
When used correctly it can actually help you out.
As a golden rule when dating a girl, throw a Jealousy plot line in into your relationship every once a month.
This will keep your on her tip tops and re-spark attraction towards you. Girls get really jealous of each other and when she feels that there may be another competitor in front of her she will work hard for you, as she will feel fear of loss. Obviously don’t take to much advantage of this and go over the top with it, as she is a human with feelings to and if she realizes what you are doing she won’t think about it to do it back to you.
Have you ever wondered why women intentionally evoke jealousy in their mate by flirting with other men while in front of their mate?
Well, it seems there are three reasons for this. First, women increase a man’s perception of their desirability by doing so. Secondly, doing so provides the litmus test for her, which lets her evaluate the strength of her commitment. Third, the man believes he’s really lucky and strengthens his commitment to her.
Flip the frame on her before she does it to you.
If you can just about get to the edge of nearly sparking anger or vigilance but not quite get there, then you are using this emotion correctly to your advantage. So make sure it is in a subtle way but that she feels it. Women become insanely jealous when they see their partner forming an emotional bond through a shared joke or meaningful conversation. They are more likely to aim jealous behavior at a rival, rather than at their partner and feeling jealous will cause fear of loosing resources.
One thing that is different about men and women is their mating strategies.
“Women place a premium on commitment and all of the cues to commitment, most centrally emotional involvement and love. Men have evolved a greater desire for sexual variety, which produces tremendous conflict between the sexes, for it violates women’s desire for intimate involvement”
Men also are attracted to young, beautiful, and fertile women. These differences in strategies lead to the reason that jealousy exists between men and women. Even though men are found to be more jealous when their partner is sexually unfaithful and women are more jealous of men when they get emotionally attached, this does not mean that both sexes will be indifferent to any type of infidelity no matter if it is emotional or sexual.
In the pick up stage, there are various ways that this plot line can be achieved.
One of them would be to take pivots out with you whilst sarging. This will make it a lot Easier for you to open sets, as other woman will see that you have girls round you, there for this will make them realize that you are High value, which indicates that you are the prize.
You will notice proximity a lot more when you do this. If you open the set in proximity they will open receptively, even if they are subconsciously putting there back to you.
Ok. What if you haven’t got any pivots??
Well, once you have A1, A2 & A3 up to a good standard. You can create pivots on the same night, even if sarging on your own, putting you in a good position to create jealousy when as needed.
If on your own you should open an adjacent set to your the target, this will give you social proof, specially if she is HB level 9 & 10.
Once you have gamed the pivots say “Come on let’s go and make some friend” take then with you open your targets set with the pivots by your side and you will come across as:
A- high value
B- non threatening
If done correctly the target would be curious intrigued towards you and jealous of the pivots. Thanks to a feeling of jealousy, She will be throwing IOI’s towards you in no time and working hard against the other girls to get you to invest towards her.
So, get out in the field, practice perfect, and in no time you should be having girls almost fighting over you.
