Jealousy: Learning to Control It

Jealousy, what is it exactly?

A lot of people make it seem like such a negative feeling. From this impression, most of the time people feel that they have to resort to violence or anger. But this does not necessarily have to be the case.

“Jealousy leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to the dark side” – Yoda.

Jealousy is something triggered off in our minds to send us a message. It’s trying to tell us that we are attracted and in some way emotionally invested with a member of the opposite sex. A woman, for instance, first knows she’s attracted when she becomes jealous. This hard-wired emotion is built to protect what we want for ourselves and to help motivate us to go get the very thing in which we are jealous for. Some say this is a problem, but where there is a problem, there is always an opportunity for growth.

Despite the temptation to do so in the field, don’t let this emotion take you over. Instead we use it to your advantage: mostly with the hotties in the bar that you want to have attracted to you, but for anything really. And that’s where the jealousy plotline comes in, why it works, and how it can become very useful to you. Now I’m not about to get into all the different ways you can do this i.e. using a pivot, displaying major DHV that a female can relate to etc – that’s all covered in Revelations (you HAVE bought that by now, haven’t you?) This article is mainly here to inform you on how to identify jealousy within yourself, within others and how to deal with it from there.

Now we all know what jealousy is. However, most people seem to believe we always act on the facts presented to us. WRONG! If that were the case then you’d be able to go to the bar tonight and never have to worry about loosing your cool to a feeling of jealousy. But this is not the case. Chances are that you act on it as an emotion and thrash out just like a jealous person would next time it comes around. As a PUA you should know that you should always be aware of your emotions. So the next time something happens to you while you’re out in the field, on a day two, or even in a relationship you need to identify the fact that you are feeling jealous and decide to deal with things rationally.

Now what? Well, what’s the situation? Jealousy is usually triggered in the field by a member of the same sex imposing on your set. You need to calm down and deal with it RIGHT NOW. Don’t over react in these situations like a typical jealous person would. Jealousy will only get you the opposite of what you want. So what does that mean? It means stop being a little bitch and take control of the situation. Acting distant or moody or getting snappy with people isn’t going to help you. Starting an argument or making your target feel bad for talking to another guy is certainly not going to help you. You are only feeling jealous because you don’t feel in control, or you are feeling insecure about what is happening and don’t know what to do. As such you will act in a very reactive manner and the results of this are usually poor. Re-evaluate the situation and take control; is it another dude hitting up your girl? Act intelligently and unreactively and everything you’ve learned about dealing with these guys will give you a clear idea of how to deal with him. AMOG the guy and lower his value, go off and open a nearby set, spike the target’s buying temperature and make the OTHER GUY jealous. There is no need to feel jealousy yourself, but there is plenty of need to make other people feel it.

After analyzing the effects jealousy can have on us and how much it can change a social scene, don’t you think it can have the same effect on others? Of course it can, except the only difference is that the people you’re going to be pushing it on don’t know how to deal with it. They will act in the way every other jealous person out there does and if you can do it properly it will almost always work out in your favor. Make a man jealous and he is going to react in ways that’s only going to make you a heck of a lot cooler. Make a girl jealous and you’re only going to make her more attracted to you.

So always keep your cool, analyze any situation you’re in and NEVER let your emotions take a hold of you. You’re a pick up artist, you’re one cool guy. Take hold of any social scene you’re in and play your game to its best. And remember to always keep your smile on you at all times.

- Wild Card

About Wild Card

Wild Card is a seduction writer operating out of Toronto. Aside from his work for Venusian Arts, Wild Card is a card dealer and drummer in a classic rock/new rock band. In his spare time, he takes every opportunity he can to have crazy adventures with his wingmen, Showcase and Prophet.