How to Generate Your Own DHV Stories, With Examples
June 14, 2009 by Caddy
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How to Generate Your Own DHV Stories, With Examples.
One topic within the art of pick up that many new and experienced PUA’s find difficult is the creation of DHV routines. Luckily, we at Venusian Arts can reach deep into your background and experiences to help you bring forward the coolest things from your own life to talk about in set. Using your own stories means they are congruent with you, and therefore easier to convey with good delivery, passion and energy. This article is gonna show you how.
As a re-cap from the Mystery-Method, DHV stories are aimed at demonstrating the ‘key attraction switch’ flicking qualities of Leader / Protector / Pre-Selection / Successful risk taker / willingness to emote. There are others (well traveled, experienced etc) but these are the main things we should convey in A2 and beyond.
People sometimes think DHV stories need to be seriously hard hitting and jammed with very obvious DHV ‘spikes’. For example…”hey get this, I just got back from Sydney, well the plane was late and my ex girlfriend, who was waiting at the airport for me was late for a modeling shoot, and already had a parking ticket on her Ferrari” [demonstrates
But you know, demonstrating attraction switches can also be as simple as saying something like “my ex-girlfriend called me, she was freaking out, I mean REALLY scared, so I got her to focus, I told her “listen to me babe, trust me, everything is gonna be fine”” [demonstrates pre-selection, protector and some leader qualities].
“I don’t have any DHV stories” is something I’ve heard more than anything from PUA’s since I’ve been teaching Game. Guess what? you all have experiences that can be turned into DHV stories, whether your 18 or 80. I’ll show you…lets get that grey matter working, get a pen and think of a time when you…
• Had something interesting, funny or unusual happen to you
• Were there for someone with a problem (friend had a dilemma, spoke to you for advice)
• Stood up and supported somebody (it was hard for him, so I stood up and said lets do this together. I mean my friends and I are totally there for each other)
• Calmed someone down (“she was really scared, I told her to focus on me and that everything would be ok”)
• Organized something for friends (holiday, away trip, day out etc)
• Were chased by a girl (“she was bombarding me with text messages”)
• Did something with a girl(s) (“My friend Jane and I went to….”)
• Took a beating for someone (It was gonna be bad, but we faced it together)
• Told somebody what to do (“they didn’t know what to do next, so I told them to…”)
Hopefully you get the picture of the sorts of questions you should be asking yourself, so we should have some stuff to work with now. With some thought, we can move from the output of these questions to a DHV story.
Example 1 BAD FLIGHT: I had some bad-ass turbulence on a flight once, everyone was screaming, very scary. I told a girl sitting next to me it’d be ok, even though I was crapping my pants LOL.
Wow something crazy happened to me on a flight to Hawaii recently, everybody is feeling relaxed, the stewardesses are serving drinks with their fake smiles going on. Anyway, then the plane starts to bounce, a little at first. Then more, people start to feel nervous. Suddenly it all kicks off, Bang, Bang, Bang, drinks everywhere, said stewardess off the ground, people start screaming. There’s a girl next to me in tears, I’m trying to keep her calm telling her it’ll all be fine. She starts to dig her nails into me! Next thing its all deathly calm and quiet. Severe turbulence the pilots said! After that we both ended up drinking our fair share of duty free a. to keep her nice and calm and b. for me to blank out the pain from where I’d allowed her to dig her nails!
Example 2 POLAND NOSE BREAK: I was out drinking with 2 women friends and had my nose broken in a street brawl. Got it fixed, it was all fine.
I was on holiday in Poland, my second home. I lived out there for a year when I was younger. Well I’d been drinking in a bar with a couple of girls I know. Anyway, one goes outside to order a taxi, and the second girl and I follow her soon after. Outside my friend is being hassled by these 3 drunken guys, I can sense her unease. So I roll over to see what’s happening and they hear me speaking, and presume I’m German, well Poles and Germans don’t always get along so a fight breaks out. When the dust settles, the girls are fine thankfully but my nose is broken. I’m like “ok hospital it is!” where the doc manually fixes my nose! Get this, he then takes out a mirror and says “Is that how it looked before? Well I don’t know, so I open the door and ask the girls and they are like, yeah babe it looks as good as before! LOL [ Protector / pre-selection / well traveled]
So you can see aspects of the questions I asked earlier drawn together in a number of life events, then with a little work these are pulled into DHV stories. The two above are real events from my life, about 90% factual with a sprinkling of embellishment for effect ;¬), and have been run successfully a thousand or more times in A2.
The second question I get asked a lot is “how do I bring these stories into the conversation?”. It’s EASY guys, here’s how. I use what I term “lead-in statements”, usually 2 or 3 sentences that can move the conversation from virtually any topic (routine or fluff!) into my story, examples below…
To get into BAD FLIGHT DHV ROUTINE-
I just noticed, you have a smile you can turn on and off on demand (neg)!
I bet you’d be awesome calming people down in a crisis
It reminds me of a time when…something crazy happened on a flight recently….
OR
I just noticed, are those real nails? (neg)
Ooh I get nervous around girls with nails like that LOL
Its just that…something crazy happened on a flight recently….
OR
Hmmm…I’m guessing you work as an air stewardess? Its just you are very well kept…and you have that ‘blonde’ look ;¬) (neg)
I bet you’d be awesome calming people down in a crisis though
Its like on this flight I had recently…something crazy happened…
So in summary, you’ve seen a couple of examples of DHV stories, how to generate them and how to bring them in to the conversation. Of course it takes practice, and delivery is soo important, but this should get you thinking. In future I’ll write about how we weave in Kino and compliance testing into our DHV stories, and remember that at bootcamps we spend time with you developing your personalized DHV’s, then perfecting them with you in-field.
Now I’m gonna open it up to you guys. Post back a couple of sentences briefly describing an event from your life and I’ll turn a few of them into DHV stories. Lets develop some material with which to rescue the bored HB’s of the world from being asked “do you come here often” and “what do you work as” ;¬). Lets do it brothers….
Caddy
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This is exactly what I have been strugglin with! This is what I needed so I can create bullet points and advance in my game. Thank you
Here’s one I’ve been trying to mold into a DHV story. I went skydiving for the first time with a bunch of my friends. I was actually first out of the plane. All went fine with my jump but my friends chute was tangled and he spun out of control for a bit. Since it was tandem, the instructor finally fixed the chute but he still had a rough landing.
Great stuff Caddy! Was definitely worth reading.
Perhaps you may like to consider writing more on tips on how to produce your own DHV stories and transitioning the conversation to the stories.
Thanks man!
i have a friend in college who used to starve himself because he never knew where he’d find i next dollar.. so i would go out to eat and bring him back whole plates.. i never told him that was y i was bring so much food to him because i didnt wanna hurt his pride.. but i couldnt stand buy and watch him n need.. long story short i had to get a second job to support tha both of us
So Kid Gemini – Thats definitely something worth developing…I’d take it somewhere as follows…
“I love to embrace new experiences. I’d been wanting to experience the thrill of jumping out of plane for a while, so I recently got a few of my buddies together and arranged for us to do a skydive. On the day, a few of the guys were nervous but I convinced them it’d be fine, and next thing we are 5000 feet up in the back of a rickety little plane. So time comes to jump and its clear that I should be first out so…out I go. Amazing feeling of freedom, fantastic, but as I look up I see the rest of the guys following. Thing is, one of the guys I could see started to spin unusually – his chute was tangled! My heart was racing, he looked in serious trouble, but luckily I saw his chute fixed itself and we all got down ok. If he’d have died I know he woulda killed me for getting him to do the jump in the first place
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Awesome Caddy, great stuff! I’m going to go ahead and modify that a bit more to add the details. It’s amazing how a story like this even without the DHV spikes garners attention from people at the bar. I had told this story a while ago and a girl was actually dragging me around by the arm telling complete strangers about my experience. I am curious to see how powerful it will come across with your modifications! You rock!
Caddy! Would be great if you could help me develop my own DHV story too…This has always been the best experience of my life since it was really life-changing for myself. Actually, I’ve been using this for comfort building, but would be great if you could help me reframe this to an attraction story.
2 years ago when I was 19 years old, I did a 6-month journalism internship in Beijing, China (was my first time traveling alone). Over there, I finally learned how to be an independent person, and I’ve lived with lots of expatriates….
It was an experience of many first-times.. first time to a club, first time to get laid, first time traveling alone, etc….
I’m starting boxing lessons. I figure it could be a good protector of loved ones, also maybe pre-selection (my ex had wanted me to do it for a while, or something). You could even hit upon willing to emote? i dunno… either way i’m trying to think of a cool way to word it.
Hey TY Buddy,
First thoughts on the starving buddy story is that as it stands its difficult to turn into a solid attraction story for A2 because its fundamentally not a captivating tale, but I think it is good material to bring in to your qualification or comfort stages to demonstrate you watch out for people and you understand how peoples emotions work. Something like…
“I get the impression you’re a really good friend, that you’re there for people to rely on. That is so important to me. My friends and I are totally down for each other. At college one of the guys was going through a really tough time financially, but he is a proud guy so its not like we could lend him money directly. Well he was almost starving himself, so when I used to eat out I’d always bring platefuls of food back and then just say I wasn’t hungry any more and offer it to him.”
I’d be tempted to leave out the part about getting a second job to support him – could come across as you have low value friends who exploit you – first thing I’d ask if you told this to me was why couldn’t he get a job himself? Again maybe there’s more to the story and good reasons for this but as it stands in your post above it seems overall more a DLV than DHV to me.
Hope this helps,
Caddy
Hey guys i just wanted opinions on my dhv story, im an actor and just before i go into a dhv story i would do the 5 questions test the one where they have to get them all wrong but on the 4th question i say “so how many was that again?” if they catch me out on that then ill be like ohh hahaha u got me uve played this game before havent u?” thell be like no and ill be like haha got u on the 5th one, then i say “you really are gullerble arnt u, u remind me of my ex girlfriend she was gullerable and bait of a nut aswell, it reminds me of last week when (this is where i start my dhv story) basically im an actor, and i got a phone call from my uncle last week saying a producer would like to speak to me about a script, my uncle kind of works as my agent also, and anyway i say yea thats fine so i go to london and meet my uncle and this producer at leicester square, so we are discussing this script over lunch and im like yea i like it i would like to take u up on ur offer. so thats kool and we are eating lunch when he gets a phone call, when he gets of the phone he says to me “that was the women who i want to play female lead along side u in this film and she wants me to meet her now at picadilly circus would u like to come?” so i say yea ok why not, so anyway in the car on the way there i say to him “so whats this girls name then?” he says her name is lucy and shes really beautiful and shes reli nice i shud get along with her, so im like oo ok thats werid my ex gf used to be called lucy, shes also an actress and we just laugh about it and we leave it there. so anyway we get to picadilly circus and he says to me, thats her over there, and from behind she is the spitting image of my ex gf and i was really worried as i was walking closer to her, then she turns around….. youll never guess who is there infront of me? ……. yea it was only my ex gf, she new i was coming here for this role cuz she was txting me about it. so i pull her to one side and say “why did u bother doing this when u new i was gonna be male lead?” and she was like “well in the script the female lead is gf to the male lead and i thought as me and u have been together in reality we could bring realism to the scrpit” now wot do u girls think, is tht just a lie to spend more time around me? or wud u say thats a legitimate reason? all u girls think alike so what u girls think about tht?
So guys thats my dhv story please tell me some feed back, it looks long in writting but when saying it out it dont take very long to go through. feed back would be great
Hi Marcus and von_halen
Definitely material there to work with for both of you, but I’ll need a little more info from you first…
Von – Have you started the boxing lessons yet? What I’m looking for is something interesting that might have happened at your training sessions, an interesting anecdote in itself that we can weave some DHV’s into? If not, have you done any similar ‘tough’ sport, such as American football or martial arts?
Marcus – Developing a story based on this will work well – travelling like this demonstrates worldly experience, the journalism career thing is interesting and a DHV and there’s also some ‘successful risk taker’ in there related to the lone travelling before we even get started, so it definitely has potential. What we need now is an interesting or funny story from one of your ‘first’ experiences on which to focus the piece.
So guys, think interesting event in the context of Beijing and Boxing respectively as a start point, then we can weave in DHV’s from that context.
Example…if something crazy / funny / interesting happened one time Marcus went to a club in Beijing, well that interesting event is the focus of the DHV Story, into which we can thread our DHV spikes…but the story should be interesting even without the spikes – so we focus everything on the interesting event….
“…That reminds me about this crazy night in a club in Beijing!…Last year I was travelling around China, I was there doing a 6-month journalism internship and it was an exciting time of many firsts ;¬)…”
Hope that makes sense. Have a think about the interesting events and we’ll build your DHV stories from there :¬)
im going out tomoz night and im going to be sarging and if possible some quick feedback on my story above would be really helpful thanks
Brilliant from the expert of structure approach…. hallelujah
Iamking, I had a quick look at this. I tried shortening it a bit and it could do with being shorter still, but I wanted to get it back to you so you can take it infield today.
Overall, it has DHV spikes but the story in itself isnt very interesting. I could however see women being interested in responding to the question at the end though, but to get them to listen to this consistently, you’d need some attraction first. so I’d be tempted to use this as my 3rd or 4th piece – following a good open and attraction sequence. Try it like this…
…“you really are gullible arnt u, u remind me of my ex girlfriend she was gullible. that reminds me – last week i got a phone call about a script, so I had to go to london and meet my agent, urgently. He then says he has a meeting with the women he wants to play female lead and asks me to go along
On the way there he says her name is lucy and shes really beautiful and i shud get along with her, so im like oo ok thats werid my ex gf used to be called lucy, whose also an actress and we just laugh about it and we leave it there.
so we get there and as we are walking over, well from behind she is the spitting image of my ex gf and i was really worried as i was walking closer to her, then she turns around… yea it was only my ex gf, she new i was coming here for this role so i pull her to one side and say “why did u bother doing this when u new i was gonna be male lead?” and she was like “well in the script the female lead is gf to the male lead and i thought as me and u have been together in reality we could bring realism to the script”
now wot do u girls think, is tht just a lie to spend more time around me? or wud u say thats a legitimate reason?
Hey Caddy, good stuff! what do you think of this. My ex girlfriend in Hawaii lived in the neighborhoold just above me.I used to go to her house and she would point for me to look at Tori who she lived with and that she has a huge crush on me(and the girl is like 12).So I would tell her c’mon she’s 12…what are you talking about.And I would see her looking and just staring at me googly eyed.My gf was a beautiful blonde,5’8″,with blue eyes and worked at Ferragamo(which is a high end shoe manufacturer).And she was chosen for her beauty and the fact that she was fluent in Japanese and English and a good salesperson.So now every Sports Illustrated swinsuit issue has Tori Praver in it.The funny thing is I can’t even look at her that way.She’s like my little sister!
hey caddy thanks for the advice i have changed my dhv story abit, what do you think of this, i start of with opinion opener, i will tease/neg there responce, then i will use my time restraint followed by a transition, transition being the best friends test ” you know what i noticed about u girls, ur close friends arnt u, yea i cud tell etc etc…..” then from there i will say so yea thts how i cud pick up u was close friends then say to the target, “and also i noticed something about u, ur nose wiggles when u speak haha quite cute then turn away and say to the friends, so who is most gullerble out of u girls, infact let me look at who i think looks the most gullerble then i pick the target. from there i do my 5 questions routine the one where she was to get all the questions wrong but on the 4th i say “how many was that?” if she is clever and catches me out on the 5th question ill be like “haha u caught me out uve played this b4 havnt u?” ALWAYS CATCHES THEM OUT ON 5TH ONE! anyway i say haha i new u was most gullerble i cud see tht gullerble innocent look in ur eyes,(This is my dhv story now)>>> “u remind me of my baby nephew check this out, last week i was at the pool with my baby nephew, i love my baby nephew he lives with me and he is glued to my hip, anyway there he was trotting around as i was speaking to my ex gf and her friends, then next thing i no i see him playing with this older boy about 6 years old, now im protective over my baby nephew but i thought nothing of it, so anyway i turn away for 5 secs and when i look back this boy is looking over into the pool and my baby nephew has dissepeared so i instantly run to the pool see my baby nephews worried lil face going under water so i dive in clothes on and everything. craddle him out the water and luckily he was ok, so i told the other lil boy of for wot he had done and my ex gf came over askin wot happend, but listen to wot happend next!! next thing i no i feel a wack on the back of my head it stunned me abit i must admit, i turned around nd this boys dad had punched me from behind, so i lose my temper and i hit him back and im on top of him then just as i look up, i see this big fat jolly green monstar coming my way the wrong side of 30 stone this women was, and shes rolling my way, worst thing was she had no bra on, u cud see them things swininging from below knee height them things should not be allowed on our streets they looked lethal, anyway she dived on me and my ex gf and tried grabbing her of me and they started havin abit of a bitch fight, so i jump up in my ex gfs defence and try breaking it up but as i grab this women i rip her top the worst thing i ever done, cuz this saggy baggy boobie flops out her top, her nipples was like steel bullets ive never saw nothing like it and worst thing was this saggy boobie was flying towards my face, u ever saw the matrix when he has to dodge backwards to dodge a bullet well i had to do this to dogdge these bullet nipples it was a scary experience, anyway girls moral of story is dont ever get into a fight with a women with saggy baggy boobies if she catches u with one, it might be lights out haha.
from there i go into so whats u girls names then? then i push and pull, then i ask how the no each other etc…… cud u shorten this story anyway? what cud i do to improve this story any tips? if this story cudnt be used at this stage cud u give me any pointers on how to develop a short story which is interesting and dhv? my bday tomoz and im gonna be out so if i cud get a responce before then wud be great thanks caddy
Allright guys, New to this site and here is my story. Feel free to comment for improvement.
Last summer I was in Rome for a week. I had been partying the previous night with few locals that I know. So, I woke up late and just remembered that I had to pick two tickets to attend the Popes mass. Once I got to Santa Ana, which is a few train strops from Vatican, I see this really cute girl following me for a few blocks. I turned around and asked her in English, if she was American. Turns out, she was lost and we hit it off from there. I ended up showing her Rome and we traveled to Florence the next day. We are still friends and as a matter of fact I am planning to go to Paris with her for my birthday.
Hey Jamie,
To be honest, this the story doesn’t really demonstrate much other than some pre-selection, and we should be trying for interesting stories ideally with leader & protector & preselection early in the sarge. Also, the preselection spikes are too forced – talking too much about her beauty etc it would come off strange. But here is an idea on how you could still use a shorter version of this story…
Early in the pickup I’d be disqualifying myself to the target with any neg followed by something like “Aww im kidding come here, I’m gonna adopt you as my little sister ” then stack forward with more routines. Then, whenever she gives you an indicator of interest (IOI), say “Hey stop doing that, your my little sister remember!, Its just like..”….and your into your story…
…“When I was in Hawaii I used to go to my ex-girlfriends house, and her little sister Tori had a huge crush on me (she was like 12!) And I would see her looking and just staring at me googly eyed. Now they are a good-looking family! And that little girl grew up to be THE Tori Praver who models in every Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue! I cant even look at it lol she’s like my little sister!
Caddy
responces asap please
Hey Caddy!
I hit some bad turbulence on a flight recently so i thought sod it, im gonna try out Caddy’s bad flight routine (well it kinda happened to me!)
I was surprised how well it opened up an empathic link. The 2 set i told it to laughed with a sympathetic grimace on their faces when the nails part came in. They felt my pain!!
It was like i ‘took one for the team’ in the name of compassion!
Something so simple demonstrated the ‘leader of men’ aspect perfectly.
Cheers mate!
Hey Caddy!
I was recently on a real bumpy flight and, after reading your post, thought sod it, next time i run game im gonna try out the bad flight routine (well it kinda happened to me!)
What surprised me was how it created an empathic link.
As i told them about the fingernails the two set laughed with a sympathetic grimace on their faces. They felt my pain!
It was as if i ‘took one for the team’ in the name of compassion.
Something this simple displayed the ‘leader of men’ aspect perfectly.
Cheers mate!
I bought my g’f one time a pet because she never had a pet growing up and wanted one real badly. A few days later she had to take a plane back home because she had recess from school and they wouldnt let her stay at the school during break. We got to the airport and they said that her pet couldnt be allowed on the plane so she wasnt able to go home that night. That night I got her a hotel room so shed have a place to sleep. Next day I allowed her to use my expensive duffel bag to sneak her pet on the train because they didnt allow pets on there. This kept her from having to take the pet back to the shelter and her and the pet arrived home safely without ever being discovered.
Hey Caddy,
How would I DHV being a model? I’ve tried multiple times to put this into a story but it always comes across as bragging and insecure. I feel if girls new this, then I could up my game fast!
Thanks,
Kaiser, Glad it worked well for you. A lot of the guys in the UK adopted that one too so its been successfully field tested a thousand times i reckon. Plus I still use it sometimes – great for building in some kino and Compliance, will write about how to do that sometime.
Regarding the pet story above, again its not a great hard hitting DHV story, but is material we can work with.
This is how I’d roll it – After I’d hooked the set I’d start playing with the ‘Attack Kitten’ roleplay, which goes something like this…
Oooh your feisty, but soo cute…you can be my ickle cute attack kitten, with a big collar, and when the sexual predator ninjas try and get me you can pounce ion them, can you pounce? aww your so cute, just like my little sister [Credit jlaix]…
…It reminds me, my ex-girlfriend was desperate for a pet, she never had one when she was younger, so hey I bought her a little cutie cat (or whatever). Not long after she had to rush back home for some family problem. She went to get her train but they wouldnt let her on it with the cat, and she just wouldnt leave it. She was getting really upset, so I calmed her down and hatched a plan >:¬) I lent her my duffle bag, then told her to sneak onto the train whilst I distracted the attendant. Her and the pet arrived home safely without ever being discovered -sweet :¬)
This at least demonstrates preselection and that you were thoughtful, could calm her down and tell her what to do to succeed. Not the greatest story ever, as above try for some more solid leader and protector stuff, but run this infield a few times and see whether you can get good responses with it.
me and my boxing friends who i box with, we decided to climb the highest moutains in wales, and we was climbing one for hours and it become dark and pitch black, me and my pals had a minus cap uno with the touch on the cap, and anyway we was going up this steep mountain at a pace we was reeaaallly high up, but all of a sudden guess what happens….. my cap dies on me and i find me self all alone in pitch black, cuz i had no light i lost my friends, but i carried on running simply out of instinct cudnt see a thing and then all at the same time i jst see a light beam infront of me, it was my friend vince but jst infront of me was the edge of the mountain…. one more step from me and id of been mince meat… now me sophie and laura was debating this before, what do you girls think do u believe in fait or coincidence? ” guys what do u think of tht dhv, if this can be improved help me out abit add bits take some out…… asap please
Hi, cool article, but i’m not sure how to turn my personal stories into DHVs. Here are a few of them.
- A friend called me, needed me to come with my car because one of his friend’s flat burned down, and he needed to take away what was left of his stuff.
- Another friend was kicked out by his roommate at 11PM and told him ‘if your stuff is still here tomorrow i put it on the sidewalk’ so he called me to help taking his belongings.
- One of my ex girlfriends became kind of a psycho when i left her, kept sending mails to me, once she even called me on the phone, had me believe i was talking to my actual new girlfriend, and when i realized who she was, she knew where i was going to meet my girlfriend and said she’d be there, so i had to come up with a plan to keep her safe from her (gave her the key to my place and sent her first because my ex didn’t know what she looked like) so that if she attacked somebody, it would be me and me alone.
- I had a girlfriend abroad when i was a student and had no money, i could only pay the train, and i used to sleep in the streets or in bars because she could not let her parents know she had a boyfriend. I even slept in their own attic once, with them ignoring i was there. I’ve had many weird stories with this girl. I had dinner with her and her mom, we made her believe i was just a schoolmate, we had to make up stories about school during the whole dinner. Then i had no place to sleep in, she discretely called a friend to ask if i could sleep at his place, he said ok, but it was far away, so she asked her mother to take me there, told her it was my grandmother’s place, but i had to guide her, while not knowing at all where we were going…
Hope you can turn this into great stories!
Hey Chad, Easy one that…how to DHV about being a model….Try lines like…
“…Damn I’m really tired from the shoot today” (use the word shoot, and let them probe you on it)
“…this photographer at work today…”
“…I totally understand, its like the world I work in is completely focused on looks” (begs the question – “What is the world you work in???”
See how you being a model is all implied – like they have to make the connection that is your job, but its such an easy connection to make ;¬) Then they work out your a model, they say something about it and you play it down :¬)
someone fancy answering my dhv story
Hey caddy,
Thanks a lot man, ill definately try this next time I’m in field. Being a model is like 3 dhvs in one: good health, money,and preselection is assumed, but then usually girls will start asking me the same boring who do u model for, can I see ur abs, how much money do u make etc etc. 1ould I just cut their threads and move onto my next topic or what?
Thanks
Caddy if you can help out with this sticking point of dhv stories it’ll be awesome!!!!!!
I always get to a point in my sarges when the hb qualifies herself to me, passes my compliance & trust tests but then wants to know more about myself and a good dhv story would elevate my game to new level!
I graduated from an ivy league university and females always seem to be impressed by this..i was also apart of a fraternity and recently I went out sarging with my frat brother as a wing and as we were talking to two hb’s, my wing was kicked out of the bar by the bartender because he didnt tip and complained about the drinks..how can i turn my boring smarty pants education or this incident into a dhv???
slick rick…. how does your routine usually go give me a little run down on how you run a set from your opener untill the point shes qualifying herself to you? I find that its really hard to use the m3 model in places like clubs simply cuz its to loud people dont want to stand there trying to hear what a stranger has got to say…. so SLICK RICK if you could give me abit of an insight on how you work your sets to get them to qualify all the time …..
‘speak my mind’
it says.
You are good at this.
that is all.
g.
Oh, incidentally, and perhaps unnecessarily – do you have any tricks whatsoever for making them work for a story?
I notice they’re all fairly short, so you’re not conspicuously entertaining, but still anyway you get them to ask for a story, or participate more before giving it to ‘em?
With examples!
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Iamking… I can’t really say I have a specific routine which I run every time, it varies based on the sets. I like to look at the set for a second, look at the vibe they have and calibrate what opener to use be it situational or indirect. I do alot of rapport building and i have a willingness to walk away which helps out ALOT with qualification
Hey Caddy thanks for the input.Heres another..I was leaving the club and bump into these 2 girls,new attorneys and one had the same birthday as me.Well we’re walking back to their place and one says she has to go pee.Next thing I know she’s off behind some bushes right off the side of the street.When I was leaving the next morning we laughed about it….
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Hey Caddy what do you think about this one? Check this out.Moms come up with every excuse in the book.So I’m trying to get my mom to excercise right and when we do it together she catches on and does pretty good but she wont do it on her own.Anyway Its 30 minutes to her house and I care about her so its worth it.But when I get there she’ll start saying things like”I just laid down” or I just got the kids to bed” and sometimes she’ll make me wait 20,30 or even an hour before she’l come down the stairs so we can push play.Never try to get your mom to excercise.
[...] Would defenitly not use it to open. What DHV spikes did you put in the story? It’s a fun anecdote from your childhood. It (probably) gives her insight in your personality. Shows her that you have emotions too But I can’t really see DHV spikes Is it better to tell such a story in C1? Read this? How to Generate Your Own DHV Stories, With Examples | The Venusian Arts [...]
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Caddy i have a story about when i was on a train it was only me n this other girl on the carriage and she was sleeping and a bum was walking around and he sat next to her as she was sleeping she didnt realise that he was next to her, he then started touching her leg and she woke up and screamed so i got up and made my way over…i told him to leave her alone and he took a swing at me and i ended up knocking him out and she gave me a hug and got off the train
i jus need a new way to word this i think its a really good story it portrays the protector but at the same time this really did happen to me soo itd be easey to tell this to people without feeling like a fake:P
Hey Caddy! There's one time where I realize I woke up late at a hotel to go to the Tempe Music Festival with my dad and brother and ran to the elevator. I stood there with a couple of people for nearly 5 minutes bc I didn't know where the stairs were and I'd assume any second the elevator would show up. one of the people standing next to me was this tall guy with jeans, a hoodie, long hair and aviators. needless to say, my dad finds me and tells me we have to go NOW! as i'm running to him, he shouts "that's john mayer!" i turn around to look and all the way down the hall, sure enough, the guy i was standing three inches from was JOHN MAYER! i wanted to go back for an autograph, but my dad was furious as it was so we went and split. sure enough, later that night, john mayer's on stage wearing that exact outfit.