The Ghost and the Flame are two concepts about how you should “be”. These are a set of attitudes that you will develop along your journey as a pickup artist. Here are some exercises and tips to help you develop Ghost and Flame attitudes more quickly. Master them and you too can become a Jedi.
Ghost:
A. Frame-Game. Practice with your friends or a wing. Have them neg you AMOG you. Practice not letting it affect you and respond to them by changing the frame and not falling into theirs. Example….
Wing: “Hey man, nice shirt, I had one just like that in high school”
WRONG: “This shirt isn’t from high school” (you answered his question directly, thereby accepting his frame and allowing him to be alpha”
RIGHT: “Man, your wife and kids called, they want to know when the heat is coming back on”. (You totally ignored his frame about the shirt and introduced one of your own)
Keep going back and forth, ignoring the frames your wing introduces and introducing frames of your own. The loser is the one who falls into the other’s frame first. (I suggest he buy the winner a drink of his choosing)
Once you get good, you’ll be able to recognize frames in public and avoid falling into them. That’s one way to be alpha. Experiment in social situations.
B. Inner attitude training. Try to feel the feeling of the “Ghost” on the inside. Do this alone. In front of a mirror. Stand in front of the mirror and continuously think to yourself, “it’s no big deal”. Feel that feeling. Focus on it. Do this for 5 mins straight. Notice how it feels. Remember it. Practice generating i.e. “faking” that feeling in public situations. Soon it will become a habit and that feeling will become real.
Flame:
A. DHV Stories: Find the 3 coolest things about your life, the 3 coolest experiences that you are most proud of and make them into DHV stories. Practice them with your wing, and then tell them in social situations. Practice working DHV’s into your natural way of speaking. EG, whenever you tell a story you should have some preselection in it. “I was with my friend Kristen one time…” (even if you have to make that part up…)
B. Tell some jokes and run some game, but don’t “Jump around”. Be cool and grounded. Speak slowly. Measure your words. Change your pitch. Speak with pauses. Bust out some playful negs on your friends. Especially the alpha ones. Playfully AMOG them but be ready for them to battle back! Don’t be an ass though.
C. Be touchy-feely. Alpha guys are constantly touching other guys. Clapping them on the shoulder, patting them on the back. Punching them on the arm. They are touching women too. Hugs, hand games, putting them on their arm. Just remember to roll off of the girls before they roll off of you.
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I love this article. It’s one of my favorite parts of the Mind of Mystery, Love drop’s explanation of the yin yang thing and the whole “care bear stare” analogy is probably one of the most brilliant discussions I have seen in any program related to seduction. Thanks for the reminder
Beautiful! Thanks for the practical advice. Will do this with a couple of guys, we’re meeting to roleplay this exact kind of stuff for the “field.”
Brilliant. I really admire that you want to help guys. Because the Alphas work as hard as they can to keep guys down.
this article and helpful!
thank you guys! good game and all …
When you say “measure your words” that must mean to not get carried away with a run on sentence.
Very interesting article
Thank you.
This is a great tactical advantage. I myself have put it into practice, but, the idea itself has not been put into words so specifically until now. Living in Miami, there are some of the most beautiful girls in the world… however, there’s a caveat: You can NEVER let them know this about them, or, battleship sunk. Therefore, it is paramount to become A. comfortable B. witty C. different and A+. confident. To be any less than this just gives the bodybuilders the floor. The flame sense is great too. Builds character. I’m glad to be a part of the VA and as always, this makes me want to put my game to work. Good lookin out, and good luck to the newcomers. This is sound advice. I once kiss closed a gorgeous milf at a WalMart bus stop by chillin on the bench with the interesting look of a open-minded “Ghost” and, well, knowing the time (recognizing that as an IOI, she asked) and practicing what to say next. Used a lot of canned lines and games, got to know her in the process. Good Hunting to all of ya, and keep the ideas fresh and worked. Your fellow PUA – “Jonny BadNews B.” Peace.
Oh yea, Sterling, I think measuring your words means to keep it simple, as you suggested.. but also to recognize your OWN value and put weight to your words. Make em count. Make em impress. Correct? -BadNews