READ THIS FIRST - Introduction To The Community

[dirtroad]

Khaki : not just a color (fabric?) after all.

Great posts.

[Khaki]

Okay, it's done!

This is so much longer than I expected and I didn't even BEGIN to cover anything beyond some basic inner game. Hope this helps some people!

[Decibel]

Well done. You're even more analytical than I am! I need some time to digest all this, but it all looks like solid advice.

[azazels_wolf]

Good stuff! You explained a lot of important concepts. I'm gonna toss in a nomination for this.

[dirtroad]

A side note from a newbie:
I actually bought Mystery's book on iTunes - being able to go back and listen to the various chapters at any time is great. For those who don't like to read, or to be seen reading this book, I HIGHLY recommend getting the audio book. I'll be listening to the book while running around during the day, then all of a sudden I'll hear something for maybe the third time and it will finally sink in. It's good for your day game, kinda like having him in your ear telling you what to do while you are in the field. Best $14 or so I ever spent.

[Divine]

Very good stuff Khaki, a intresting read.

I have a question though.
Is it required to read THE MYSTERY METHOD/ THE VENUSION ARTS HANDBOOK if you readed Decibels guide to PUA.

I'm asking this because i'm wondering if there's the same stuff in the guide of Decibel as in the books from Mystery.

[Divine]

Nevermind, I diden't saw the last part about that Decibels guide is a supplement etc.

[RAMM]

Originally Posted by Khaki

Part 3: Getting Started

Reality and frames

One of the most important things that you can do for your game (and your happiness in general) is to live in your own reality. It shouldn't matter what other people think of you because you should be "internally validated"... that means that your sense of self-worth should not be based on factors outside of yourself.

I'm not new to the game, but I'm new to getting a lot of validation from people. I'm not yet used to that.
I sometimes have a motivation issue, so I motivate myself through validation most of the times, which is bad. I've noticed that my frame goes kaboom as soon as I stop getting enough validation for a day or two.
What do you guys do internally either to motivate yourselves or to self-validate? I'm trying to get passed this limitation.
enen as practicing the ghost, as soon as I realize that it's working, I get a surge of adrenaline and I'm on for the night, but it ruins all of my game for the rest of the week, as soon as I stop getting much attention. This is why I peacock mostly, so I can get criticized, I don't get cought into the frame by being a ghost, and then as I realize this I feel like a God(pumping up my flame) I must be nuts.. should I not care at all?

[spiderred]

Excellent Intro Thread Khaki, I enjoyed reading this.

[charley999]

The welcome letter directed my attention to the FAQ. It is much more than the information that it contains. The moderated tone and show of respect for the new member is very attractive and elicits a sense of having found something of real quality.

Then, stumbling onto this as the subsequent reading, I felt like I was finding the entry point to the delivery on the expectation that the FAQ had left with me.

Aside from the PUA aspect, it's obvious that you guys are a class act.