Herpes

[FourRightChords]

Statistically speaking, there's a decent chance that even 'avoiding it like the plague' won't do much...one in five adolescents/adults in the US has had a genital herpes outbreak. 20% is a pretty damn good chance you're gonna hook up and not know she has it.

I'm sure part of the problem with its prevalence stems from lameass high school health classes teaching that HSV-1 (cold sores, primarily) can't cause genital herpes outbreaks. Check the CDC fact sheet on it...cold sores can.

But, to address the initial question. A latex condom can, in fact, prevent transmission, under the condition (one of those ''if and only if'' scenarios) that all affected areas are covered. If she's on daily suppressive therapy (Valtrex, I think) she's a LOT less likely to spread it, especially when --not if-- you wrap it up.

It's still a risk, but when 1 in 5 have it, the odds are already stacked against you in any encounter. At least this one told you up front.

[Couture]

What the fuck, 1/5 people have herpes? That's got to be bullshit man. I pray to God that's bullshit.

edit: FUCK!!!!! http://www.globalherbalsupplies.com/herpes/stats.html

THANKS A LOT - My dick just shrank.

[FourRightChords]

Look at what's even scarier on that site...it's not kids who're being irresponsible; adults have a higher incidence rate than adolescents.

[Proof]

I passed up sex with an SHB actress because of herpes. I would rather miss out on the opportunity then get the gift that keeps on giving. I will take an STD for no one.

[Couture]

LOL the gift that keeps on giving... you have a sick mind in a cheerful, christmasy way.

[ganglord]

My saying is this..

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas... except for herpes. That shit follows you home.

[FourRightChords]

Oh c'mon, better herpes than warts. A pill a day, or liquid nitrogen on your cock every two months? Let's be rational here...

Although 'clean' is still my preferred status...

[Girl_in_the_Room]

Originally Posted by FourRightChords

. . . .But, to address the initial question. A latex condom can, in fact, prevent transmission, under the condition (one of those ''if and only if'' scenarios) that all affected areas are covered. If she's on daily suppressive therapy (Valtrex, I think) she's a LOT less likely to spread it, especially when --not if-- you wrap it up.. . . .At least this one told you up front.

I will never forget when a guy I was dating did NOT tell me he had herpes until I asked directly about any STD exposure (he had used condoms consistently with me and thank god I hadn't gone down on him yet). Made a bee line to the doc's office and was just freaked. My doc said that you almost have to have a latex suit... Total safe sex practices even with oral sex is critical.

Thank GOD I was healthy (and am healthy to this day!). Knowledge is power. This woman had the total decency to tell you. That had to have been tough for her. Because she is terrified of rejection. That nobody will ever love her. That her options and chances of love and happiness, and maybe even children someday, have been shattered. (not saying this is true, but I remember what went through my head before the test results came back).

If you honestly like this woman as a person, then become very well educated on the topic (as the guys here have suggested) and make an educated decision that is really best for you.

all the best,

gitr

[hacker_pua]

Originally Posted by Hipshot

During comfort, still at the pickup location, she tells me her last BF gave her genital herpes and she's afraid she can never have sex again without spreading the infection. I didn't know what to say except that we'd figure it out together and where there's a will there's a way. Are condoms good enough? Just wait until there's no outbreak? Can either of us safely do oral? Can she give me cold sores from kissing? How long do symptoms take take to show up? Where would I look for the medical info? I hate to pass her by, partly because she's way hot, and partly because I really like her honesty. Any ideas?

Dude, what the fuck is wrong with you? Why the hell would you even REMOTELY consider persuing this? That sounds very AFC-ish. Oh, and I don't give a shit about what sd007 had to say, it still is NEVER worth it even if she's the "one".

[Pipedreamz]

Originally Posted by Girl_in_the_Room

I will never forget when a guy I was dating did NOT tell me he had herpes until I asked directly about any STD exposure (he had used condoms consistently with me and thank god I hadn't gone down on him yet). Made a bee line to the doc's office and was just freaked. My doc said that you almost have to have a latex suit... Total safe sex practices even with oral sex is critical.

Thank GOD I was healthy (and am healthy to this day!). Knowledge is power. This woman had the total decency to tell you. That had to have been tough for her. Because she is terrified of rejection. That nobody will ever love her. That her options and chances of love and happiness, and maybe even children someday, have been shattered. (not saying this is true, but I remember what went through my head before the test results came back).

If you honestly like this woman as a person, then become very well educated on the topic (as the guys here have suggested) and make an educated decision that is really best for you.

all the best,

gitr

Im pretty sure its illegal to have sex with someone when you know you have an STD and don't tell them about it, so you can sue the person. There is no cure for herpes right now but there are some things that can help treat it. It is a reoccuring virus that comes and goes every so often but you can never get rid of it... so a lot of ppl with herpes usually date other ppl with herpes because it stops the spreading