"Inner Game" Defined - for noobs and pros alike

[Johnny Soporno]

A whole lot of wanna-be Players, Pick Up Artists ('PUAs'), and Seducers out there have been rushing into the scene in the two years or so, since The Game was released on the unsuspecting public...

It's tragic to watch as these new entrants into our wonderful Game, instead of ACTUALLY becoming Players, become 'Playas'; instead of Pick Up Artists, they become 'Pick Up Technique Zealots' ('PUTZs'); and instead of becoming Seducers, they become 'Womanizers'.

Ironically, although The Game is CLEARLY a condemnation of the jejune and hollow lives of most of its participants, an amazing number of people appear to have missed this message, instead only being intrigued by the notion of getting laid by hotter/more/any women.

In an effort to prevent spiritual and psychological decay amongst the people whom this community most stands to serve, I am going to attempt to frame things in such a way as to help neophytes and experienced participants alike to evolve into this gradually, rather than rushing in like proverbial fools.

Here goes:

"Inner Game" is a convenient euphemism for having a "Satisfied Sense-of-Self". The more richly developed you are AS A PERSON, the less crafty and manipulative you need to be as a Player, and the less you need to justify that you DESERVE the playboy lifestyle you have chosen.

Once you wrap your mind around this, everything falls into place: Inner Game isn't something you get taught, it isn't something you study - it's something you must EARN!

The irony is, ONLY YOU can award it to yourself.

This Self-Confidence is like Freedom: You must EARN it - it can't be bought, borrowed, or stolen, nor can it be given away.
(When Freedom is GIVEN to you, that's ACTUALLY abandonment. Think about it!)

By earning your OWN respect, and satisfying yourself that you are becoming more fully-realized with each new experience you have, you begin TRULY to like yourself.

We're all looking to live as playboys, but there is nothing innately positive about the 'worthless playboy' stereotype. Oh, it LOOKS like fun, but it's empty and shallow...

The paradigm I recommend alternatively is "Worthy Playboy" and I elaborate on it further now:

To become a 'Worthy Playboy' you must develop yourself as a Renaissance Man; you should endeavour to gain a broad-base of knowledge in areas you believe people who'd interest you will be versed. This will help you to remain interesting to them also; as being interesting is INFINITELY more attractive than being 'impressive'.

As a Worthy Playboy, you should be comfortable and confident enough to carry on conversations with women on subjects you have historically known nothing about, by candidly and sincerely encouraging them to share THEIR insights with you.
NEVER FORGET: Everyone's favourite subject is themselves, and NOTHING makes you more attractive to another person than being INTERESTED in what they have to say. This works for men and women alike - but women are far more impressed when they receive this attention from men (since most men are usually too arrogant to concede they might not know everything... Schmucks.)

A Worthy Playboy is never ashamed of NOT KNOWING, because A) no one can know everything, and B) women will be DELIGHTED that their knowing something you don't isn't intimidating to you - and they will be flattered that you're man-enough to let them teach something to you.
"Know Thyself" said The Oracle, and that was profound advice - FOR SELF-DECEPTION IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL.

Introspectively interrogate yourself to discover WHO YOU ARE as you develop - to ensure you haven't lost sight of yourself.

Once you KNOW who you are, you'll know what you'll do.

IF YOU ONLY DO THE THINGS WHICH MAKE SENSE TO YOU, in which you find yourself BOTH cerebrally and emotionally settled, and where your conscience is unperturbed, YOU'LL BE ACTING WITH 'REASONED CONFIDENCE'.

This is the rational way of leading your life - by following these internal guidlelines, you'll NEVER have reason for regret, and no justification for embarrassment, EVEN if things don't work out immediately! (In such cases, dispassionately step back from the experience, return to the plan to see whether the problem was situational or persistant, and modify as-necessary before trying again.)

By proceeding ONLY with Reasoned Confidence, the only guilt you need EVER feel is the guilt of letting yourself down; the ONLY embarrassment, the embarrassment of making the same mistakes over again; the ONLY regret, the regret of not having come to this epiphany earlier.


Promise yourself regularily, "I will never do anything I wouldn't do" - and keep that promise faithfully - your internal consistency and congruency depends on it. Your ethical system should NOT have a 'margin release key' - that is the road to conscious hypocrisy (See "Self-Deception" above) and is nothing less than personal treason.

Explore your world - expand your horizons, develop new friendships with people of high integrity and ethics, and remain true to yourself and your word. Your relationships and your reputation are your strongest weapons in the battle against psychological misery and emotional defeat - make certain they are solid, just, and dependable as best you can.

As you progess, you will become comfortable that ANY PERSON (man or woman) with whom you interact will feel and be better-off for knowing you [even if it's simply because you proved to them that GOOD MEN still exist, and find THEM interesting] and that they will feel better about themselves because they've spent time with you.

What could be a more-attractive attribute to have?

Most of all, YOU MUST BECOME SELF-ACTUALIZED - in other words, you need to find your comfort with yourself based on your confidently and successfully following your own path, and NOT narcissistically through the approval of others.

Permitting yourself to be held-back from progressing because you fear the disapproval of people you don't admire is MADNESS!

Lead your own life, and conscientiously ensure you make all your descisions with Reasoned Confidence, and when you are met with disapproving or taunting jibes from 'the peanut gallery' just take note of it - then

DO AS YOU WILL, and watch as your detractors become your admirers. There's no arguing with success.

Good luck to you all,

I hope you find value in this.

Johnny Soporno

[Solus]

Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno

'Pick Up Technique Zealots' ('PUTZs')

Haha, I love you Johnny Soporno! 'PUTZs' is my favourite new piece of PUA acronym/babble speak. More seriously, there's a lot of value in this post - I'll be reading this a few times over in the next few days.

[Ocean]

Johnny - I sincerely thank you for this post.

[Dynamism]

This truly is the way.

You feel fucking good knowing that you are in an environment with people who are fun-loving and intelligent. I wish more people faced their fears and tried new things in order to grow. The "routines" part of the MM cam be fun but frankly nothing comes close to having great inner game, or at least being on the royal road to achieving that.

[thunderleg]

Inspirational post Johnny soporno.

Many thanks

[Hero]

Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno

"I will never do anything I wouldn't do" - [/color]and keep that promise faithfully - your internal consistency and congruency depends on it.

I'm confused. I thought I wasn't supposed to be stuck in my "comfort zone". I have to a neophile instead of a neophobe. Otherwise I would never try new experiences that's always scary when you try it for the first time.

Johnny, I think you're already done with the "I have to get out of my comfort zone" phase. So that part of your article, the part where you say "I will never do anything I wouldn't do" is for the pros... but are you sure that's meant for noobs as well?

[Smurk]

What's the point of this post. Your advice is merely YOUR perspective. So what if im a womenizer(dont leave me around your girl(or girls, or whatever) )

You're caught up in this inner game bullshit.

Aside from running your Deep throating college(I'd NEVER let half of those girls touch my man stick,they're ugly as fuck) do you actually SARGE? and get RESULTS,like do you go OUT?No not for beers.

I doubt it very highly, i will put 500 dollars down that you wont pull on command,you're just a KJ who actually knows how to type well.


Stop swagger Jackin, RJ already covered this

Hoe!

[Navy236]

Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno

To become a 'Worthy Playboy' you must develop yourself as a Renaissance Man; you should endeavour to gain a broad-base of knowledge in areas you believe people who'd interest you will be versed. This will help you to remain interesting to them also; as being interesting is INFINITELY more attractive than being 'impressive'.

That is not a tactic or a technique, that's a total overhaul of one's personality.

Game is when you get better women without changing a single thing about yourself. You're talking about self-improvement, and there are psychologists who are much better at it than any unqualified ("lay") seduction guru.

[Sanj]

OMG - you guys just don't get it do you? (Navy and Smurk)

This is a post not only filled with value, but one which is over flowing with absolute gems. The 'inner game' is essentially game - these are the fundamentals. If PU is about primarily picking up girls for you - then you won't find much value in this post. However, If you are on the path to become a better person - then I think you'll find immense value in this post.

Anyways - to every man his own.

Peace~Sanj.

[Equal]

This is the type of post that would not be allowed in the new underground community - no offense or anything.

Equal