"Inner Game" Defined - for noobs and pros alike

[Johnny Soporno]

A whole lot of wanna-be Players, Pick Up Artists ('PUAs'), and Seducers out there have been rushing into the scene in the two years or so, since The Game was released on the unsuspecting public...

It's tragic to watch as these new entrants into our wonderful Game, instead of ACTUALLY becoming Players, become 'Playas'; instead of Pick Up Artists, they become 'Pick Up Technique Zealots' ('PUTZs'); and instead of becoming Seducers, they become 'Womanizers'.

Ironically, although The Game is CLEARLY a condemnation of the jejune and hollow lives of most of its participants, an amazing number of people appear to have missed this message, instead only being intrigued by the notion of getting laid by hotter/more/any women.

In an effort to prevent spiritual and psychological decay amongst the people whom this community most stands to serve, I am going to attempt to frame things in such a way as to help neophytes and experienced participants alike to evolve into this gradually, rather than rushing in like proverbial fools.

Here goes:

"Inner Game" is a convenient euphemism for having a "Satisfied Sense-of-Self". The more richly developed you are AS A PERSON, the less crafty and manipulative you need to be as a Player, and the less you need to justify that you DESERVE the playboy lifestyle you have chosen.

Once you wrap your mind around this, everything falls into place: Inner Game isn't something you get taught, it isn't something you study - it's something you must EARN!

The irony is, ONLY YOU can award it to yourself.

This Self-Confidence is like Freedom: You must EARN it - it can't be bought, borrowed, or stolen, nor can it be given away.
(When Freedom is GIVEN to you, that's ACTUALLY abandonment. Think about it!)

By earning your OWN respect, and satisfying yourself that you are becoming more fully-realized with each new experience you have, you begin TRULY to like yourself.

We're all looking to live as playboys, but there is nothing innately positive about the 'worthless playboy' stereotype. Oh, it LOOKS like fun, but it's empty and shallow...

The paradigm I recommend alternatively is "Worthy Playboy" and I elaborate on it further now:

To become a 'Worthy Playboy' you must develop yourself as a Renaissance Man; you should endeavour to gain a broad-base of knowledge in areas you believe people who'd interest you will be versed. This will help you to remain interesting to them also; as being interesting is INFINITELY more attractive than being 'impressive'.

As a Worthy Playboy, you should be comfortable and confident enough to carry on conversations with women on subjects you have historically known nothing about, by candidly and sincerely encouraging them to share THEIR insights with you.
NEVER FORGET: Everyone's favourite subject is themselves, and NOTHING makes you more attractive to another person than being INTERESTED in what they have to say. This works for men and women alike - but women are far more impressed when they receive this attention from men (since most men are usually too arrogant to concede they might not know everything... Schmucks.)

A Worthy Playboy is never ashamed of NOT KNOWING, because A) no one can know everything, and B) women will be DELIGHTED that their knowing something you don't isn't intimidating to you - and they will be flattered that you're man-enough to let them teach something to you.
"Know Thyself" said The Oracle, and that was profound advice - FOR SELF-DECEPTION IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL.

Introspectively interrogate yourself to discover WHO YOU ARE as you develop - to ensure you haven't lost sight of yourself.

Once you KNOW who you are, you'll know what you'll do.

IF YOU ONLY DO THE THINGS WHICH MAKE SENSE TO YOU, in which you find yourself BOTH cerebrally and emotionally settled, and where your conscience is unperturbed, YOU'LL BE ACTING WITH 'REASONED CONFIDENCE'.

This is the rational way of leading your life - by following these internal guidlelines, you'll NEVER have reason for regret, and no justification for embarrassment, EVEN if things don't work out immediately! (In such cases, dispassionately step back from the experience, return to the plan to see whether the problem was situational or persistant, and modify as-necessary before trying again.)

By proceeding ONLY with Reasoned Confidence, the only guilt you need EVER feel is the guilt of letting yourself down; the ONLY embarrassment, the embarrassment of making the same mistakes over again; the ONLY regret, the regret of not having come to this epiphany earlier.


Promise yourself regularily, "I will never do anything I wouldn't do" - and keep that promise faithfully - your internal consistency and congruency depends on it. Your ethical system should NOT have a 'margin release key' - that is the road to conscious hypocrisy (See "Self-Deception" above) and is nothing less than personal treason.

Explore your world - expand your horizons, develop new friendships with people of high integrity and ethics, and remain true to yourself and your word. Your relationships and your reputation are your strongest weapons in the battle against psychological misery and emotional defeat - make certain they are solid, just, and dependable as best you can.

As you progess, you will become comfortable that ANY PERSON (man or woman) with whom you interact will feel and be better-off for knowing you [even if it's simply because you proved to them that GOOD MEN still exist, and find THEM interesting] and that they will feel better about themselves because they've spent time with you.

What could be a more-attractive attribute to have?

Most of all, YOU MUST BECOME SELF-ACTUALIZED - in other words, you need to find your comfort with yourself based on your confidently and successfully following your own path, and NOT narcissistically through the approval of others.

Permitting yourself to be held-back from progressing because you fear the disapproval of people you don't admire is MADNESS!

Lead your own life, and conscientiously ensure you make all your descisions with Reasoned Confidence, and when you are met with disapproving or taunting jibes from 'the peanut gallery' just take note of it - then

DO AS YOU WILL, and watch as your detractors become your admirers. There's no arguing with success.

Good luck to you all,

I hope you find value in this.

Johnny Soporno

[Solus]

Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno

'Pick Up Technique Zealots' ('PUTZs')

Haha, I love you Johnny Soporno! 'PUTZs' is my favourite new piece of PUA acronym/babble speak. More seriously, there's a lot of value in this post - I'll be reading this a few times over in the next few days.

[Ocean]

Johnny - I sincerely thank you for this post.

[Dynamism]

This truly is the way.

You feel fucking good knowing that you are in an environment with people who are fun-loving and intelligent. I wish more people faced their fears and tried new things in order to grow. The "routines" part of the MM cam be fun but frankly nothing comes close to having great inner game, or at least being on the royal road to achieving that.

[thunderleg]

Inspirational post Johnny soporno.

Many thanks

[Hero]

Originally Posted by Johnny Soporno

"I will never do anything I wouldn't do" - [/color]and keep that promise faithfully - your internal consistency and congruency depends on it.

I'm confused. I thought I wasn't supposed to be stuck in my "comfort zone". I have to a neophile instead of a neophobe. Otherwise I would never try new experiences that's always scary when you try it for the first time.

Johnny, I think you're already done with the "I have to get out of my comfort zone" phase. So that part of your article, the part where you say "I will never do anything I wouldn't do" is for the pros... but are you sure that's meant for noobs as well?

[Smurk]

What's the point of this post. Your advice is merely YOUR perspective. So what if im a womenizer(dont leave me around your girl(or girls, or whatever) )

You're caught up in this inner game bullshit.

Aside from running your Deep throating college(I'd NEVER let half of those girls touch my man stick,they're ugly as fuck) do you actually SARGE? and get RESULTS,like do you go OUT?No not for beers.

I doubt it very highly, i will put 500 dollars down that you wont pull on command,you're just a KJ who actually knows how to type well.


Stop swagger Jackin, RJ already covered this

Hoe!

[Johnny Soporno]

Originally Posted by Smurk

What's the point of this post.

To provide a functional and definitive interpretation of 'Inner Game' which will allow anyone who reads it to better-understand why all the successful, established Players continually evolve into espousing the critical and essential urgency of pursuing Inner-Game.

Originally Posted by Smurk

Your advice is merely YOUR perspective.

My advice is just that - my advice. I give it to you, and to the whole of the Community, for free - and you may value it as you will.

Originally Posted by Smurk

You're caught up in this inner game bullshit.

I'm sorry you've become prejudiced against the notion of Inner-game. I hope that you'll revisit this definition at some point in the future, when you've learned more about the nature of your life, and at that point you will be in a position to read it without such a vitriolic hostility.

Originally Posted by Smurk

Aside from running your Deep throating college (I'd NEVER let half of those girls touch my man stick,they're ugly as fuck) do you actually SARGE? and get RESULTS, like do you go OUT? No not for beers.

I doubt it very highly, i will put 500 dollars down that you wont pull on command,you're just a KJ who actually knows how to type well.

Thank you for noticing my typing skills.

I don't drink, so going out for beers is outside of my agenda.

I don't 'sarge' in a traditional sense: I do go out, I meet interesting and attractive women, and I bring them home with me. I don't take phone numbers or go on 'day 2s' with girls I haven't at least gotten head from on our first encounter.

There's more detail in the profile Style published about me a couple of months ago - you can read it online at www.JohnnySoporno.com - it is the first thing which comes up when you visit that site. (To see more photographs from that address, click on the link above the article which points back to Flickr.com, or alternatively visit www.WorthyPlayboys.com, which is another of my photoalbums.

Here is a picture of myself and two collegues, notorious Inner-Game advocates Steve P. and Zan, speaking to the attendees at last year's Cliff's List Convention...
(You wouldn't have liked it, we were discussing first-night stands (same-day F-close pulls with women of quality whom you'll keep in your roster for the long-term) and other things which require solid inner-game.)




Finally, I have gone back through the photographs at www.SS4G.com, looking for the 'ugly as fuck' girls, and I'm afraid I am unable to find ANY ugly girls in the entire set! Please take half-an-hour and go through them, keeping track of any whom you wouldn't permit to touch your 'man stick', and let me know, okay?

You may rest easy, regardless - I'm prepared to ABSOLUTELY GUARANTEE that you'll never have to worry about any of the SS4G grads coming anywhere near your "man stick", or any other part of you, frankly.

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

[Greystoke]

Originally Posted by Smurk

What's the point of this post. Your advice is merely YOUR perspective. So what if im a womenizer(dont leave me around your girl(or girls, or whatever) )

You're caught up in this inner game bullshit.

Aside from running your Deep throating college(I'd NEVER let half of those girls touch my man stick,they're ugly as fuck) do you actually SARGE? and get RESULTS,like do you go OUT?No not for beers.

I doubt it very highly, i will put 500 dollars down that you wont pull on command,you're just a KJ who actually knows how to type well.

Stop swagger Jackin, RJ already covered this

Hoe!

Please send your hard-earned cash to Johnny Soporno. Now!

JS, I want you to confirm that you got that $500, which I am sure you will donate to a cause-worthy charity of your choice.

Smurk, if you want to challenge one of the best gurus on the planet, you better keep your word... and your dick in your pants, insolent KJ.

[Johnny Soporno]

Originally Posted by Hero

I'm confused. I thought I wasn't supposed to be stuck in my "comfort zone". I have to a neophile instead of a neophobe. Otherwise I would never try new experiences that's always scary when you try it for the first time.

Thanks for asking, Hero -

Where I say "I will never do anything hat I wouldn't do!" I am speaking explicitly the case where I would not do something because philosophically, spiritually, and conscientiously I would be acting against my own reasoned confidence - against my own values.

I can see where the confusion arose - if you interpret my "wouldn't do" as based on ones track-record of what you HAVE done, then yes, it is counter-progress.

In the next paragraph beneath the one which raised this contention, I describe the necessity to continually expand your world-view, experience-base, etc - so I had failed to consider that, taken as an exclusive-encapsulation, your interpretation was possible.

My error! Thanks for bringing this to my attention - I will try to craft a more concrete version before I post this next.

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy