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Thread: Same sticking points
04-17-2017, 11:14 PM #1
Same sticking points
So I am not 'new' here but new to this layout of the site , it's been a while.
I am back because I have not reached the levels I wanted to.
Started in the game when I was just 15 years old. Massively obese virgin...about 3 friends , I'd fluked a gf at 13 but that was only experience. Typical afc loser kid.
Lost a shed load of weight , gained confidence through game . By 17 I was in shape , very cocky very arrogant . Like many newbies I'd taken the wrong reading of the game but it still helped a bit . Ended up getting into a relationship at 18 , she helped calm the arrogance down a bit . Didn't last though .
My game got to a stage where I was relying mostly off night club pulls , not so much game more booze filled nights. Fun but emotionally unfilling 😅As well as a few hot female friends I did nothing more than k close despite my best efforts .
Time rolled on however (I'm now 24l) and I got fed up of clubs and fed up of the single life . Ended up on Tinder where I have found my relationship just fade out after about 2 months. Girls get attached very quick , I follow suit , it's all great . Like I connect with them great... then it changes and they grow colder and colder and it ends . Same pattern, none of these girls hate me or anything, no arguments or classic relationship ending stuff, they just 'fizzle out '. Feeling it happen right now actually. Any ideas what could be causing this pattern ? It must be something I'm doing...or maybe not doing because I'm the common theme !
Last edited by jazzy_ways2; 04-17-2017 at 11:17 PM.
04-19-2017, 07:01 PM #2
lol, dude you you just stoke my exact pattern lol. The same thing happens to me a lot. I Like that pattern sometimes because I don't want anything serious right now, just to have fun. What causes this pattern, in my opinion, is a lack of tension and no consistency. Look throughout all of your interactions and see if one or both of those elements are present.
04-23-2017, 02:17 PM #3
Glad to know its not just me in this pattern! Lack of tension is something I can definitely see - when I relax and start to settle in old , for lack of a better word AFC behaviours creep in. Could you explain a bit more about the consistency though- consistency in what sense?