getting back my confidence

[hemishar]

ok i just broke up with me ex like a year ago and i still cant forget about her. and yet i want to have fun out there meeting new HBs anyone can help me pls advice or something.

i was field testing the other day with my close friend's sister. i went to her house that night to sleep over (my close friend is not around) there were IOI all over just that i get everytime i execute a routine i get dizzy. i did the how good a kisser are you routine and guess what, my eyes started get blur and i cant think properly. even though i know her for some time. in the end i crashed and burn. i end up buying her one pack of cigs. and got nothin in return when i went to my friend's room to sleep. i was telling myself "im so f***ing dumb stupid" i need correction pls and advice. this was a big failure. but then again i stopped talking to her. for a few days. then guess what she went to call me and asked me out on a movie. but i told her im busy. i dont want to show my face to her until im ready.

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First of all, if this is your close friend's sister, are you sure you're friend won't be pissed with you if something did happen? Would you just want to use her to get over your ex, or are you looking for a relationship with her? Cover this base first.

If you still want to game her, then I think you need to check IOIs first. Being invited to a movie seems to me like an IOI, but I'm worried about how she got you to buy her a pack of cigs for no reason. How often does she do this? When she asks you out to a movie, is it really an IOI? Or is it because she can convince you to get her anything, even a free movie?
Next time she wants you to buy her something, make her do something for you FIRST. Whether you feel comfortable enough to demand something physical, or would rather make it cocky/funny and have her teach you something/make a crazy promise that you can claim whenever you want/pay you in bracelets and other jewellery from her own wrists etc.

If you still get nervous while using routines, then practicing them in the field will always help. Make it a goal to use simple routines on at least one girl every day, and the more complicated routines whenever you go to a party, and as many times as possible at that party. You know this stuff works, so there's really nothing to get 'blurry' about! :P You'll soon realize that!

For some reason no-one has replied for half a month to you on this, so I hope things have been going ok for you. Update us on the situation if it's changed, and I'm sure we'll be able to give you more advice buddy!

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