offguard breakup prevention?

[jonesmgguinness]

I've been applying the MM and its been working quite well. I had successfully attracted and started dating an 8. She was always telling me that she enjoyed spending time with me. And I made sure to keep things playful when we were together so things wouldnt become boring.

I only saw her once last week because the both of us were busy with work but yesterday, she tells me that we need to talk. I asked her what was on her mind and she said we need to talk about what we're doing. When she told me that, I had a feeling in my gut that the end was near. It very surprising because of her words and actions. So she comes by last night and says what are we doing. I tell her i would like to continue seeing her and she said that she wants to see other people. My reply to her was 'ok. this sucks but no big deal.' she then launched into the 'i still want to be friends' bit. I told her sure but it was totally going to be weird for a while. She gave me a hug and i told her 'thanks for being honest' as she left.

After thinking about it all last night, my question is this: Is there anything that i should be watching for so I'm not completely taken off gaurd again?

Thanks,

j.

[Tarzan]

You are better off not worrying about it. Even worrying about if it is boring and stuff like that leads you to appear insecure/ not true to your emotions. Prizability: it doesn't matter to you whether she finds you boring its up to her to make sure your interested. If you are looking for signs for the relationship being over then you will not only attract more of the relationship falling apart (using law of attraction) but convey this insecurity of the relationship not working out. Just as one of my exes would constantly convey her insecurity that I might cheat on her even though I tried my best not to... it not only was very annoying to be constantly battling her fear but it also ultimately made me cheat on her even tho I regreted it. I felt like I was punished for something I wasn't even doing... at least I shud cheat to deserve it. Of course there were other factors, but if she would have been secure in the first place I would love her more and not be as concerned...

[jonesmgguinness]

i didnt even think about that side of the situation. thanks bro, very much appreciated!

[Decibel]

You may want to take this opportunity to see if you're really in favor of monogamous LTRs. Many guys who enter this community have multiple partners (serially or simultaneously). I prefer having multiple LTRs, with a few new girls here and there to liven things up. If you release yourself from the 'dating' frame, you might be ok with her seeing other guys while you see other girls, and then still hooking up with her on a long-term basis.