juggling gf and other women

[Gooble G. Gobble]

this stems from the honesty in a relationship question posted a week earlier. i want to stay 100% honest and not feel bad for "cheating".

so,

how do u juggle a committed woman, with other sex partners. she hates the idea, so now we're just friends (havent carried it out yet). obviously i told her how i felt (my precious feelings), and it still feels like a relationship, but im free to go out. i still have this negative programming stopping me.

how do i get over it so i can really enjoy my manhood? how do u keep her committed? how does this work?

[relics]

What are you talking about?

Clear it up more

[Gooble G. Gobble]

i have a gf but i want to have the freedom to F*%$ other women. isnt there a way to keep my gf around, be in a relationship with her, and still go out, have sex with other women and not feel ashamed about it? i dont want a dishonest relationship. how do i go about it? how do i keep her committed? does that clear it up?

[relics]

Yes. A whole lot.

You seem to be describing an open or multiple relationship. I think you're describing an open relationship. Yes, it's quite possible to do this. I have never gotten in an open relationship but I think I can give you some tips as I have...and still am in multiple relationships

When you start talking about this make her know that you are not looking for the traditional "I'm seeing you and no one else" relationship. Talk about what you want in the relationship, and how deep emotionally you want to be with her. Don't bring up other women in your conversations with your primary and at the same time; You CANNOT have a double standard. If your'e not comfortable with her sleeping around with other guys....then this will not work out for you. You can't be jealous so just walk it out.

Be open and honest with her. Make it clear what you want and be congruent with it. If she won't allow it and wants to keep the relationship...you need to figure out beforehand whether or not you want her that bad.

There's a big chapter about this in the Magic Bullets book and this is all just from the top of my head. I suggest you check out other sources.

[Cedar]

...i want to stay 100% honest and not feel bad for "cheating"...

Don't involve her in your alternate lifestyle. Most girlfriends won't accept this. You avoid lying and cheating by never discussing the relationship, and by being discreet. Most guys fuck up both of those because they wat to be 'honest.'

Being honest is nice guy behavior. Nothing good comes from that. Let go the need to be honest. Yeah, you're going to hurt a few girls before you learn to balance that lifestyle. Chalk it up to learning.

If you're not willing to loose your current gf over this lifestyle, then don't do it.

[relics]

No, Honesty is the key.

Be honest to the points of the questions she asks you. Don't OFFER information.

[Gooble G. Gobble]

sweet thx for ur guys's advice. magic bullet's book? is it an ebook? i still have some bad programming concerning open relationships. any insights into how i can cure myself?

[Cedar]

i still have some bad programming concerning open relationships. any insights into how i can cure myself?


Go break some hearts until you figure out a balance.

[princesachula]

Honesty is best.....if a guy told me that I' d accept his opinion then do what I want anyway, but I DO appreciate REAL people and honesty is REAL. Guys lose with me when they lie....real players will play in your face...and if they're your groupy they won't care