Impulse Control

[relics]

I noticed something about myself. I have the pleasant disposition of having this ability to always have a witty and sometimes hurtful remark to people whom straight off the bat give me shit. It's an impulse and i don't know whether to rejoice at having it or work at repressing it.

Some examples include

*NSHB 2.1 pushing pass me to get on the bus with an out-of-my-way-attitude*
Me: Calm down Fat Alberta, there's no food in there. (she was a a lot on the hefty side)

Her: Prettyful is not a word fuck face
Me: nor should you be human But I won't meddle in the definition of "human"

Her: Grow some Hair
Me: Grow a Chest

Her: Why are you wearing that hat?
Me: Why are you wearing a bra?

It's a great skill, but not so sure for a PUA. If I can somehow integrate it with reframes instead of straight insults, it'd be quite a skill. For now, I'm open to suggestiosn as to what to do with it.

[Johnny Soporno]

Relics, that you are at-least aware of the detrimental nature you possess is a very promising sign.

Being able to escalate rudeness (aka handle hecklers) is basically only useful when you have an audience, such as in the case of being a professional stand-up comedian, or where there are enough supporting people around to appreciate & defend you, in case things get out of hand.

Your problem clearly isn't wittiness or quickness - but discretion IS the better-part of valour, and bearing in mind your poor impulse control is a great place to begin.

I personally was JUST ABOUT to get a tattoo on my forehead which said "Poor Impulse Control"; I was going to rush into the tattoo parlour, put down my cash and make it happen. Fortunately, my procrastination kicked in, and I never got around to it. ;)

When you get the urge to defend yourself, STOP - just freeze up for a 1/100th of a second, and ask 'Is this worth it?' and 'Am I helping the situation' before you let-fly.

More often than not, you'll be thankful for this advice :)

Johnny Soporno
Worthy Playboy

[relics]

Yeahh! great to know when I'm in set. Although I need to be careful that they don't know the other person. Thanks for the insight

[xen0s]

Yea I get a bit defensive at times and I end up saying shit that pisses people off but now I try to curb it and see what happens instead..I mean say the girl who pushed pass you to get on the bus could turn around and apologize in the same time it takes for you to throw that insult.

Holding back has yielded some very interesting results. There was once some guy was running his mouth off and talking bs and I felt like calling him out but I decided against it and he just kept talking and talking and eventually dug his own grave..you could tell he was like trying to improvise here and there but eventually the questions that were being thrown at him proved to be his downfall.

[JohnJohnJohnson]

Usually when someone pisses me off, I am only half an asshole - I don't carry it through with conviction.

I was in starbucks a few weeks ago and was a truly joyful, full-blown prick to some fat idiot. A girl nearby was giving me IOI's for being outrageously unapologetic. I think it can work if you commit and make sure to keep it light. "I'm sorry, I'm just an asshole. It's genetic. [SMILE]"