added HB10 on myspace but said she only excepts people she knows

[danny_dz]

so what can i respond to change her mind. shes good looking but I dont want to sound like a AFC. any help with any openers to change the scene to my favor.

[azazels_wolf]

Some just won't budge because they've had a very close call (stalker, sexual harassment, etc.) and are very paranoid as a result. I have a friend who had a complete stranger track her down and try to assault her....needless to say, she never adds anyone again who she doesn't know.

However, if she's just trying to be careful, you could say something like:

"Are you always this picky? ;)
Then why don't you make the effort to get to know me right now? You'll be missing out on something great if you don't. Take a look at my profile."

You can also DHV by including an interesting comment about one of her interests.... that will give her the impression that you're interested in her as a person, and have something in common.

[Alexkx3]

3 replys of the top of my head.

Yep thats right, i'm actually a 60 yr old stalker, whos hiding right outside your house now, in the bushes ;p
Nevermind, you just seemed interesting, I had to say hi.


Yeah, my ex used to get creepy guys, who'd message her all the time, one actually stalked her, where she worked!!! Needless to say i sorted him out. lol
We actually met on myspace come to think of it.

Well, i dont know you either, you may very well turn out to be some crazy stalker lady, i always seem to attract them on myspace. So i'm taking a risk adding ya.

[mashOne]

I usually prefer to come under the radar...one girl had an interesting profile about various experiences that she had...

so start of with saying, that iam not looking to date date you. but i see that you have so many interests (include her interests) that are actually very similar to mine, and i thought i had to respond to you..you can call me friends,aquaintance,activity partner whicever suits you..

you can IM me and we can talk for a bit and we can arrage for a coffee or whatever.



Its easy to demonstrate value when you disqualified yourself...even if u dont know that activity u can still go with her and ask her to give you some lessons or introduce you to that activity. and if u do well, and if u spend time to get to know her, u can escalate slowly but surely

[Cass]

You have already shown intent.. You may aswell have said can I buy you a drink.

It amounts to the same thing.

Also she is already in a defensive mindset. Which is a strong frame to brake. Women act on emotions Men act on Logic.

She is already acting on her emotions, as you gained an emotional response.. pm her address just out of interest....

also.. NEVER ADD SOMEONE IF YOU INTEND ON MESSAGING HER..

she can add you later.. or you can after you hook her. Once ive opened/hooked and got interest I then add them..

if she hasnt already by now. But that comment is in the same cat as. Who are you? Do I know you? Why are you here?

If its early days for you maybe practice on a few lower value girls and get your routines right..

Cass

[Cass]

I usually prefer to come under the radar...one girl had an interesting profile about various experiences that she had...

so start of with saying, that iam not looking to date date you. but i see that you have so many interests (include her interests) that are actually very similar to mine, and i thought i had to respond to you..you can call me friends,aquaintance,activity partner whicever suits you..

you can IM me and we can talk for a bit and we can arrage for a coffee or whatever.



Its easy to demonstrate value when you disqualified yourself...even if u dont know that activity u can still go with her and ask her to give you some lessons or introduce you to that activity. and if u do well, and if u spend time to get to know her, u can escalate slowly but surely

Never start of a conversation by saying I am not looking to date you.. ever..

That doesnt disqualify yourself its actually underlining interest..

its like when people say look I dont mean to offend you but.. or Look dont take this the wrong way..

Only a low value female would take that opportunity..