JuiceTerry
02-15-2007, 03:06 AM
great article on how you have to trick nature to make love work. It's gold but its far too long for a thread here so I have just copied and pasted the interesting chunks.
It is worth visiting the link below to read the full article.
A Valentine's Greeting
Chemistry of Love
By Dr. SUSAN BLOCK
http://www.counterpunch.org/block02122005.html
Just look at nature: exclusivity in love is rare as an endangered species. The Nile crocodile, the American toad, the wood roach, the klipspringer, the siamang, the reedbuck, some beetles, most birds, muskrats, some bats, beavers, deer mice, a few monkeys, some wild dogs, and the ironically named dik-dik are monogamous creatures. At least, they're into serial monogamy. But that's about it.
Monogamy is not the norm in nature, since it's not normally to a male's genetic advantage to stay with one female when he can get it on with several and recycle more of his genes. For females, monogamy isn't natural either. Despite the old saying, Hoggamus higgamus, man is polygamous. Higgamus hoggamus, woman's monogamous, studies show that human females aren't much more faithful than males, even though almost all societies punish women for cheating far, far more than men.
Hoggamus, hiscuous, nature's promiscuous. From nature's viewpoint, romantic love merely serves an evolutionary purpose for both sexes: to make us so HOT for each other that we reproduce. Otherwise, considering the high cost of child care, we very well might not.
We fall in and out of love so we'll mix up our genes (I call it "Integration through Intercourse"), increasing their odds of "winning" the human race, genetically speaking, if not environmentally.
Never mind that society values long-term monogamy. Nature isn't so pious. Anthropologists tell us that nature only provides for us to feel "in love" for a few months, or at most a few years, enough time to rear a child through babyhood, somewhere between the three-year tingle and the seven-year itch.
At this point, theoretically, the kid is brought up by the "village," tribe or school system, leaving the parents relatively free to fall in love with someone else and start the process again. In modern terms, you could say that's when Junior goes off to kindergarten, and Mummy and Dadda go off and have affairs.
It all seems like a nasty trick that Mother Nature is playing on those of us who'd like to make love last. Especially around Valentine's Day. And there's only one solution.
If you want to make love last, you just have to trick nature.
It is worth visiting the link below to read the full article.
A Valentine's Greeting
Chemistry of Love
By Dr. SUSAN BLOCK
http://www.counterpunch.org/block02122005.html
Just look at nature: exclusivity in love is rare as an endangered species. The Nile crocodile, the American toad, the wood roach, the klipspringer, the siamang, the reedbuck, some beetles, most birds, muskrats, some bats, beavers, deer mice, a few monkeys, some wild dogs, and the ironically named dik-dik are monogamous creatures. At least, they're into serial monogamy. But that's about it.
Monogamy is not the norm in nature, since it's not normally to a male's genetic advantage to stay with one female when he can get it on with several and recycle more of his genes. For females, monogamy isn't natural either. Despite the old saying, Hoggamus higgamus, man is polygamous. Higgamus hoggamus, woman's monogamous, studies show that human females aren't much more faithful than males, even though almost all societies punish women for cheating far, far more than men.
Hoggamus, hiscuous, nature's promiscuous. From nature's viewpoint, romantic love merely serves an evolutionary purpose for both sexes: to make us so HOT for each other that we reproduce. Otherwise, considering the high cost of child care, we very well might not.
We fall in and out of love so we'll mix up our genes (I call it "Integration through Intercourse"), increasing their odds of "winning" the human race, genetically speaking, if not environmentally.
Never mind that society values long-term monogamy. Nature isn't so pious. Anthropologists tell us that nature only provides for us to feel "in love" for a few months, or at most a few years, enough time to rear a child through babyhood, somewhere between the three-year tingle and the seven-year itch.
At this point, theoretically, the kid is brought up by the "village," tribe or school system, leaving the parents relatively free to fall in love with someone else and start the process again. In modern terms, you could say that's when Junior goes off to kindergarten, and Mummy and Dadda go off and have affairs.
It all seems like a nasty trick that Mother Nature is playing on those of us who'd like to make love last. Especially around Valentine's Day. And there's only one solution.
If you want to make love last, you just have to trick nature.