Online Gaming Assistance

[Perception]

So I was on match.com and I found this girl who goes to the same school as me and our profiles matched up perfectly. Im not paying 40 bucks a month for a dating service. So I found her on face book sent a non-predatorial face book message saying i found you on match.com etc etc etc and just thought id sya whats up. Well it bit and she requested me as a friend.

What are the differences in online gaming and in person gaming that I should know about. Is A1-A3 etc still doable or should I take a different route.


ANy help is cool my brotha's

-Perception

[WebGamer]

I do a lot of web gaming. Thus the name.
If I were to give advice I would say this.
NEVER type an e-mail or IM chat like it was a text message! You just look like a tool. Separarte yourself from all the others by using full words and sentences with proper grammar and punctuation, even if she does not.
Stay in control. Do not let her command you or make you jump through hoops.
It's easy to do push - pull. Don't ever send two queries in a row. You can send one and if she doesn't respond send something else, but don't refer back to the last message she didn't respond to. Just keep moving forward.
Don't be surprised if there are big gaps in the conversation.
Otherwise... game as usual.

[Perception]

So we talked last night through AIM.

I got in from being out and saw her on so I said whats up. Things were going good. I started off w/ a female opinnion thing about my friends and I and then stacked to a new thread once that lost flame. She was being very non talkative so I said "are you always this rude and non talkative lol?" (Neg) and she came back with "Ooo Im soo sorry but the Red Sox Game is on and it's almost over" and then it was over and things went back. We talked about some very basic things.

Im not good w/ online game (this is my first time actually) but I took at her asking me back what I asked her (for example I said what do you want to be when your old with greay hairs) as IOI's. So every time I brought something up she would IOI back (if this is indeed IOI'ng). We talked for aout 20-25 minutes and the vibe was really good so we both asked if we would be online tomorrow she said yes. I said yes, but I have somethign better. I want to play a numbers game and I want to see what are the most creative ten digits you can give to me.

She found this very very funny and gave me her number. I said you play the game well. She said good night and I said nice talking to you and she said nice talking to you too.

Any suggestions? When would be a good time to call and what should it consist of? My immediate plan was to call her tonight around 7PM and jsut say whats up. Not talk for long, maybe ten minutes and explain to her that im going out with my friends and that I'll give her a call tomorrow.

Thanks everyone,
Perception

[gaash2]

match is like $6 a month.. The key I have found, for online game is to do as little game as possible online.. Ask to meet up as soon as possible, even on the first e-mail! (Say something like, Im more of a face to face guy lets meet up for a drink or even more direct works as well)

So I was on match.com and I found this girl who goes to the same school as me and our profiles matched up perfectly. Im not paying 40 bucks a month for a dating service. So I found her on face book sent a non-predatorial face book message saying i found you on match.com etc etc etc and just thought id sya whats up. Well it bit and she requested me as a friend.

What are the differences in online gaming and in person gaming that I should know about. Is A1-A3 etc still doable or should I take a different route.


ANy help is cool my brotha's

-Perception

[WebGamer]

I would agree with gassh on the immediate hook up idea. Try not to play too much e-mail tag as it just ends up with a bunch of shit tests and you can't have that.
As for you phone call tonight... I would have a FTC ready about someplace or something cool you are just headed out to do. Keeps the convo short and sweet and makes you look like an active guy with shit to do.
Keep us posted on how it's going.

[Perception]

Called her and she sounded very busy. She said can I call you later and I said you dont even know who this is then the phone broke up and her line died. So within 30 secs she called back and said "Im sorry I didn't mean to sound rude like that I just am busy and had someone else on the other line" and I said "No problem". I heard other people in the background and coudl tell she wasnt going to be able to talk so I said "You busy?" and she said "Yea" and I said "okay will I'd hate to bother you" and she interjected and said "no your not bothering me im just doing alot of things right now" Then she said can I call you later if your around I said sure...

She called me talked for ten minutes and it wnet good..got her laughing recycled some threads/topics that had value. Told her I was going to call her tomorrow. Tomorrow when we talk if it goes good I will ask her to meet up sometime during the week maybe at my school (we go to the same school). Something arbitrary and non-threating and theirs a bunch of people too. Then go from their

Hows this sound

[Perception]

Update:

October 20th 2007: Went to a bodybuilding show and called her during intermission. She agreed to hang out some day during the week.When I asked her it sounded like she was goign to literally jump out of the phone. Strong strong strong IOI's here, lots of attraction based.

October 21st 2007: The plan was to meet at my school but shes a huge huge baseball fan and a couple of my buddies and I decied to go watch the Red Sox game at a pool hall/bar/hang out sort of place. I figured I would invite her and her friends to come. I call her at 4PM, no answer.

Now heres where I know I broke the rule but I will tell you why; this is clearly not a case where she was ignoring me or their was no attraction. This goes beyond that so I called her again at 7PM. She answers. She said she was sleeping and she was very very sorry about not calling me.

I say want come with me and my friends? She said I'd love to but I can't I told my friends I would watch it them. I say okay well I'm going to get going but if you and your friends have a change of heart then come by (FTC) but I want to show you something first. I tell her to get a pen and paper and do this number game thing with her over the phone. Were locked in now to a good convo and we cover everything...we talked for an hour. I've realized the guy definately has to take lead. But again, for every question I asked she responded back with a question.

An hour passes (what the fuck?) and I quickly realize game time is approaching so I say listen I have to go join up with my friends so lets set something up for Tuesday. "Tuesdays not a good day for me, I am sorry but I have to do things with my sistr right after". Now my response would of been okay when you want to do something give me a call but she goes "how about Thursday" and we agree to get soemthing to eat on Thursday after her classes.

My honest evaluation is that we've built up some great phone attraction. She said "you know I feel really really comfortable around you" which is huge. If everything goes good in person and nothing changes I would go as far as to say she has the makings of "girl-friend" material. We've entered the comfort phase over the phone and I think thats probably a good place to pick up on Thursday.

[CrazyWilly]

I would say you are doing well. A couple minor things to mention, having a level of comfort on the phone doesn't always transfer to comfort in person. Make sure you start at A1 and build when you finally meet her in person. Personally I would arrive 5 minutes late and have a reason why you were late that DHVs you.

Beyond that, avoid one-itis. Keep in mind that until she is hooked completely, you need to appear busy and fun. As such, suggest the one free night you have. If she suggests a different night, hem and haw for a minute, say you have to see if you can cancel some other plans and you'll get back to her. Anyway, just my two cents.

[Perception]

October 23rd

We met up today and had coffee at school. Things could not of gone better. I walked in and she was their an hour early. Wasn't fully positive if it was her or not so I sit down and start doing some home work. I said to myself, if thats not her, I am going to open up another set a few tables over so when she walks in and sees me for the first time I am socially proofed.

It happened to be her so she walks over with a smile. She sits down and I say let me shake the hand of the girl who's taken up so much of my time. She giggles, shakes my hand and sits down. She was with her sister so I said "you can invite your sister over" and she says "no!" lol. Attraction is their I didn't have to do A1 she basically did it for me. So we moved into A2. I gave a neg or two (very light and playful), a little indicator of disinterest, and of course some DHVing. Text book stuff right here and she ate it all up. Again this was very playful.

I also ran right into Kino about 10 minutes into the convo. I started with the "hand squeeze test". I put my hands out and said give me yours. She takes my hands and drops hers. Then I pull my hands back and say you failed. And she says "Wait how did I fail. You have to tell me how I failed because I want to do it with you!" So she grabs my hands and we just start giggling. Nice Kino going on. Throughout the convo their was some slight touching going on mostly of the hands, wrists etc.

Then we moved to Male to Female Interest. I gave her a line about being adorable and we just kept talking about different things. One of the things I pride myself on is that I can take a word or a phrase from a conversation thread and open up another, relevant thread. So I eventually get around to saying "You know we're going on a date right?" and she looked very happy and said "I'd love too". More talking, lots of giggling. Shes very sarcastic but still shy because she doesn't want to say the wrong thing.

Comfort came. About a half hour straight of comfort building.

So its about time for her to go to class and she gets up and I walk her back over to her table. She introduces me to her sister and me and her sister and I engage in a conversation. I can tell she approves of me. Again I am realizing that you can convey a good image of yoruself simply being able to be talkative.

Total duration of time of talk=hour and a half.

[craigmobley1]

Just a VERY general rule that has worked for me...

3-5 emails...and you should exchange phone numbers.

If the girl is genuinely interested this is very easily done.
If she's not interested / never gonna give you her number anyway...this keeps you from continuing to invest valuable time in nonstop pointless
email traffic.

[Perception]

Thought I would give everyone an update. This girl is now my girlfriend and, as of now, I can say Im very happy about it and very happy about how she is and what I've gotten to know so far.

[volcom916]

thanks for the update man. Sounds like you found a cool chick! Congratz