Field Report: Back to Business!

[tony77]

After trying to get over a cold I managed to do some sarging this evening but had some AA. I went to my usual sarging venue, which is the bookshop I normally daytime and night sarge. I foudn it hard to open sets infront of other people and I couldn't really open girls who I had already made eye contact with. It was lookign pathetic as i coudl only muster the courage to ask this girl if i coudl sit down to read a book but then I managed to open this girl wiht an opinion opener about me looking for a birthday gift for my sister.

Me: "hi I need a quick opinion, I'm looking for a birthday gift for my sister, any ideas?"
Her: she laughs "oh theres some picture frames over there"
Me: "ahhh thats actually not a bad idea thanks"

There were plenty of girls i could have opened but either I couldn't think of anything to say or i had some anxiety. So then I went to a bar where it seemed to be full of guys mostly wiht some sets. I didn't even geta drink, just made my way to the toilet and to get tehre i had to go through the rest of teh bar where i noticed some potential sets to open. On my way back i opened a 2 set with another opinion opener.

Me: "HI I need a quick female opinion, who should pay on the first date?"
Hb1: "the man"
Me: "really why?"
Hb1: "because if he is a gentleman he should pay"
Me: "well I never said he was a gentleman"
Hb1 ( the other girl does join but I can't remember what she said) "oh so doesn't he like her?"
Me; "wel you see my friend Mark doesn't know her that well and he wants to see how it goes" "I think both should pay"
Hb1 "well if he wants to woo her he should pay"
Me: "well thats interesting because i once had a date with some girl, bought her dinner and I never saw her again"
Hb2 "well some girls are like that"
I'm trying to leave, looking at my watch but the first girl is still talking to me which suggests I coudl ahve stayed longer.

Next bar I try to make some small talk with teh bar maid about it being quiet on Valentines day but she says its only early. I notice 2 girls making chit chat wiht the bar man about having seen him somewhere before. I think theres somethign to be said for working in a bar but not sure if I woudl like it. I make some small talk with him as I noticed he has some furry handcuffs so i coment about them. I left without opening any of the sets and coudl kick myself because a 4 set of Oriental girls walked in and one of them had fantastic legs. Call me weird but I love girls with nic ely shaped calves but I don't want to have to struggle through teh language barier and besides it looks too premeditated to go all the way over to their table where they are about to eat.

It seems that i am stuck! When i sarge its the same old same old and I hardly ever escalate. I run through the opener, DHV a little but I seem to run out of steam or I just feel like ejecting or I just get anxiety. I ifnd it ard to open sets in front of other people. Maybe I'm being hard on myself but I feel so pathetic compared to other guys who can open and get lays so easily!

[Everest]

I know exactly where you're coming from. For me, the reason to stuck there was my inner game. Although I didn't know that back these days I believed if I stay in set they will get to see who I'm really are and they will loose attraction. So I left. LOL! I felt not worth to be around them. Not true, HB1 kept talking to you, which is an IOI I guess. She is SEXUALLY interested in you. So, I suggest some inner game techniques like Affirmations and EFT here. So far about the inner game. (I've got still a problem here, see my FR)

For the outer game:
Me: "well I never said he was a gentleman"
I like that. You can hold your ground and you are fun. Did you do it like :D or like :cool: ?

Me: "well thats interesting because i once had a date with some girl, bought her dinner and I never saw her again"
Me, personally, I wouldn't mention a girl that left me after a date. It's not bad, just a little social proof thing. Instead I think i would have busted on her a little bit for chasing you just because you have money. ("Are you really that superficially?")

Instead of leaving them (which I did for weeks, LOL) stack an opener, give them a neg (they already liked you, so i would take just a small, more teasing one) and game on. You know what you've got to do, don't ya?

Don't make my mistakes, dude. ;)

[tony77]

Thanks Everest! you're probably right! I do need to work on my inner game more and write out more affirmations. I did Ross Jeffries NLp technique to help me open sets and although I didn't open immediately i guess I did manage to build up steam by opening that 2 set but lost it again by the time i got to the next bar!

[Hawaii]

1. Don't milk your openers. Go into A2 sooner after you open instead of dragging out the thread
2. How do you know the 4 set of Asian girls did not speak English if you did not even open them? Don't judge a book by its cover. Just because they are foreign does not mean they grew up in a foreign place or even speak a foreign language. Im Asian, and have been in the USA all my life and the only language I speak is English. No offense.
It sounds like you were making excuses not to open. You are a pickup artist, not an excuse artist.

[tony77]

Hi Hawaii

I am from England over here there are not that many Oriental girls who are not from overseas, i.e not born here! In the past i have opened some cute Japanese girls just by asking for directions and this one Japanese girl virtually walked me to the station! I do get anxiety sometimes but these girls i saw were being taken to their table and it would have looked too premeditated to approach them as they were not sat in my line of vision.