Stevejabba
02-08-2007, 06:03 AM
Method one – Conversational jujitsu.
Using this method you pretend not to hear what she is saying and misinterpret it in a sexual way, as in the following example :
PUA : Hey can you tell me where the nearest hairdressers is?
Her : Oh yeah, it’s just up there, turn left at the bank.
PUA : OK , just up there…PAUSE..Did you say you wanted to watch me wank? I’ve only just met you, my god you are forward…
This is a rather extreme, however it’s useful because it illustrates the technique. Using this kind of sexual misinterpretation is great because :
(i) You can use it at ANY point in the conversation e.g after opening, rapport stage etc etc.
(ii) It shows great confidence, and if delivered correctly is very funny – 2 ideal ingredients you want to demonstrate to a girl.
(iii) It immediately cuts through the bullshit and sets the tone of the conversation as sexual. Remember, a degree of sexual tension is a MUST in interacting with girls. We all have boring, anodyne conversations all day long : this is different and makes you stand out.
(iv) It shows you are sexually confident and direct. Again this is unusual and attractive. Ask as many attractive women as you can if they would appreciate being approached by an attractive guy who is direct and humourous.
This technique is a way of creating sexual tension and quickly changing the nature of the interaction and getting you talking as a man and woman who may be interested in sex. Use it sparingly as overuse will
reduce it’s effectiveness. It’s difficult to put an exact figure on how many times you should do this but in a 3 minute number close in the daytime, once should be enough. Try and use it directly after the opener as it’s a great way of flipping the attraction switches.
Another conversational method is to use ANY hook to turn the conversation onto a sexual / dating plane. You can use literally ANYTHING to do this, as with the example below :
PUA : So where you from?
HB : I’m from Latvia
PUA : Latvia – oh yeah, cool. I heard about that place…I read an article about it actually. Yeah, it said that the girls from Latvia are all super hot…(IRONICALLY) – I couldn’t comment , of course…PAUSE…And it also said they all seem to have a special interest in (describe yourself) e.g 5”6 guys who wear brown courdroy pants and pink socks and matching pink underwear. PAUSE…How strange. Are you aware of this phenomenon?
Your lucky day eh?
Again, use this sparingly as you do not want to appear to be a clown by using too much humour. This method is best used shortly after the opener.
Method two – prolonged eye contact.
This technique is most useful throughout the pickup. Generally you should aim to keep eye contact as long as possible but NOT IN A THREATING WAY! When in conversation with a girl, try and hold her eyes and smile at appropriate points. Don’t stare! You know you’re staring if she starts to say “what…” and appears to think something is wrong with her.
When holding eye contact, you can create attraction spikes by thinking of her in a sexual way and appreciating her beauty. However, be careful NOT to appear sleazy, as there is a world of difference between a sexual man and a sleazy one. A sexual man has an honest appreciation for beauty and gets pleasure from it, whereas a sleazy guy has a running porno video in his mind and views women as a sex object.
To practice this skill, try to keep holding eye contact in every interaction with a woman. Don’t look away and notice their reactions. If they appear uncomfortable, keep practicing and try to smile more, in a genuine and sexually interested way. As you practice this, you can let her in on the fact that you find her attractive and play with fake coyness, women can and WILL pick up on this and it becomes a sort of game, as every comment you make can become pregnant with sexual undertones.
To practice this, try and focus on something that you find physically attractive about her and gain pleasure from it and SHOW IT to the girl. Use the powerful statements in method five to enhance the effect.
Method three – pregnant pauses and sexual innuendo
When you’re confident, showing prolonged eye contact and using sexual humour, you can also use pauses and sexual innuendo. These techniques can be applied at any point during the pickup.
Here is an example, this is an actual transcript taken from a 2 minute number close, which lead to an f close on a day 2.
PUA : You look just like the cat that got the cream…(PAUSE, looking at her in smiling way, but with sexual intent)…See any interesting guys in here (INNUENDO)
HB : Not really, it’s a bad night..Except you (attraction gained within 2 seconds)
PUA : (Ironic smile) – I see..You’re very forward arne’t you? (Get closer). A bit of a naughty girl infact (Sexual humour). Do you know what happens to naughty girls (Innuendo)
HB : I couldn’t guess (fake innocence)
PUA : (Grabbing her bum). They get their arses smacked, of course. But you’d like that (sexual humour)
PUA : Where you from??
In the above example we have all of the techniques being used simultaneously, which allowed me to get a solid number close and arrange to meet her for a day 2. It was necessary to build up some comfort on text in order to solidify a day 2 but using these techniques you can get solid numbers very quickly as very very few guys out there are making this kind of impression so quickly.
Method four – Raise your standards.
As a general principle, whenever you’re in conversation with a girl, you need to keep 1 principle in mind : know your standards and stick to them. Write them down if you have to! What do you want in a girl? What qualities are an absolute MUST (try to be more specific than 32DD breasts!). When you’re talking, is she displaying qualities that you don’t like? Has she said something that on some level pisses you off? Then SHOW IT!!
This sounds obvious but it’s surprising how many guys will try to hide their distaste in the hopes of getting into a girls knickers. In truth the opposite is true : if you show you’re a man with standards and will call her on shoddy behaviour, then you’re much more likely to gain attraction.
Here is the key : it’s how you show disdain that matters. DON’T get into a prolonged logical debate about her behaviour or what she has said. Use your body and a quick word to convey distaste. Turn away from her a little if she genuinely pisses you off. It’s not necessary to tell her off, just say “I see” as you backturn, or even “that’s a little weird”…Then fall silent. You’ll find that if she’s attracted, she’ll claw at you and try to explain her position or apologise. This is a great opportunity to be won over (if you agree with what she’s saying) and gain control of the frame.
Method five – tell her what you want / shock tactics.
This technique is very powerful, and can literally transform the dynamic of an interaction with 1 clear sentence. It sends a very direct signal to her that you are interested and that you want her ;delivered at the right time it’s a devastating technique and can instantly transform an interaction and set the tone to whatever you want.
When in a conversation, you can bust out these kind of powerful statements but they have to be used at the right time. Use the conversational pauses, look directly at her and then deliver the statements. You can start off with the tamer ones and move up the ladder to the more powerful ones :
(i) When was the last time you got really drunk? (Gets rapport and sets tone for day 2 meeting, gets personal)
(ii) Those earrings (or X Y Z adornment) really say a lot about you (playful and slightly ironic)…What do they say?? Curious arnet you..They tell me that (go into cold read). (Gets personal, instant DHV and shows you are paying attention, creates attraction, sets dating / sexual frame)
(iii) There’s something about a girl like you that’s very sexy. I think it’s....the combination of x quality and y quality. We’d be good together, imagine what our kids would look like (humourous) As long as they got my looks, it would be cool anyway (Immediatley sets tone for dating frame, gets her thinking of you in a bf / gf way, funny)
(iv) This is getting boring – when was the last time you got fucked properly? (WHAM!! Very powerful, can be used to create massive sexual tension, gets her thinking of sex WITH YOU, in a very powerful direct way)
You have to consider the effect that you want to achieve in order to evaluate the best time to use these statements. In the above four examples, you might use (iii) immediately after receiving an IOI, whilst invading her personal space.
You might use (iv) on a day 2, in a natural pause in the conversation, after sexual tension has been created but before you have kissed. Especially effective if you are talking about boring subjects that neither of you are interested in, as conversation fillers, especially if she is the nervous type.
You must use your judgement about when to use these statements. You can practice by writing out some simple, declarative, powerful statements that you want to achieve a particular effect, then bringing them out at particular points in the interaction.
Using this method you pretend not to hear what she is saying and misinterpret it in a sexual way, as in the following example :
PUA : Hey can you tell me where the nearest hairdressers is?
Her : Oh yeah, it’s just up there, turn left at the bank.
PUA : OK , just up there…PAUSE..Did you say you wanted to watch me wank? I’ve only just met you, my god you are forward…
This is a rather extreme, however it’s useful because it illustrates the technique. Using this kind of sexual misinterpretation is great because :
(i) You can use it at ANY point in the conversation e.g after opening, rapport stage etc etc.
(ii) It shows great confidence, and if delivered correctly is very funny – 2 ideal ingredients you want to demonstrate to a girl.
(iii) It immediately cuts through the bullshit and sets the tone of the conversation as sexual. Remember, a degree of sexual tension is a MUST in interacting with girls. We all have boring, anodyne conversations all day long : this is different and makes you stand out.
(iv) It shows you are sexually confident and direct. Again this is unusual and attractive. Ask as many attractive women as you can if they would appreciate being approached by an attractive guy who is direct and humourous.
This technique is a way of creating sexual tension and quickly changing the nature of the interaction and getting you talking as a man and woman who may be interested in sex. Use it sparingly as overuse will
reduce it’s effectiveness. It’s difficult to put an exact figure on how many times you should do this but in a 3 minute number close in the daytime, once should be enough. Try and use it directly after the opener as it’s a great way of flipping the attraction switches.
Another conversational method is to use ANY hook to turn the conversation onto a sexual / dating plane. You can use literally ANYTHING to do this, as with the example below :
PUA : So where you from?
HB : I’m from Latvia
PUA : Latvia – oh yeah, cool. I heard about that place…I read an article about it actually. Yeah, it said that the girls from Latvia are all super hot…(IRONICALLY) – I couldn’t comment , of course…PAUSE…And it also said they all seem to have a special interest in (describe yourself) e.g 5”6 guys who wear brown courdroy pants and pink socks and matching pink underwear. PAUSE…How strange. Are you aware of this phenomenon?
Your lucky day eh?
Again, use this sparingly as you do not want to appear to be a clown by using too much humour. This method is best used shortly after the opener.
Method two – prolonged eye contact.
This technique is most useful throughout the pickup. Generally you should aim to keep eye contact as long as possible but NOT IN A THREATING WAY! When in conversation with a girl, try and hold her eyes and smile at appropriate points. Don’t stare! You know you’re staring if she starts to say “what…” and appears to think something is wrong with her.
When holding eye contact, you can create attraction spikes by thinking of her in a sexual way and appreciating her beauty. However, be careful NOT to appear sleazy, as there is a world of difference between a sexual man and a sleazy one. A sexual man has an honest appreciation for beauty and gets pleasure from it, whereas a sleazy guy has a running porno video in his mind and views women as a sex object.
To practice this skill, try to keep holding eye contact in every interaction with a woman. Don’t look away and notice their reactions. If they appear uncomfortable, keep practicing and try to smile more, in a genuine and sexually interested way. As you practice this, you can let her in on the fact that you find her attractive and play with fake coyness, women can and WILL pick up on this and it becomes a sort of game, as every comment you make can become pregnant with sexual undertones.
To practice this, try and focus on something that you find physically attractive about her and gain pleasure from it and SHOW IT to the girl. Use the powerful statements in method five to enhance the effect.
Method three – pregnant pauses and sexual innuendo
When you’re confident, showing prolonged eye contact and using sexual humour, you can also use pauses and sexual innuendo. These techniques can be applied at any point during the pickup.
Here is an example, this is an actual transcript taken from a 2 minute number close, which lead to an f close on a day 2.
PUA : You look just like the cat that got the cream…(PAUSE, looking at her in smiling way, but with sexual intent)…See any interesting guys in here (INNUENDO)
HB : Not really, it’s a bad night..Except you (attraction gained within 2 seconds)
PUA : (Ironic smile) – I see..You’re very forward arne’t you? (Get closer). A bit of a naughty girl infact (Sexual humour). Do you know what happens to naughty girls (Innuendo)
HB : I couldn’t guess (fake innocence)
PUA : (Grabbing her bum). They get their arses smacked, of course. But you’d like that (sexual humour)
PUA : Where you from??
In the above example we have all of the techniques being used simultaneously, which allowed me to get a solid number close and arrange to meet her for a day 2. It was necessary to build up some comfort on text in order to solidify a day 2 but using these techniques you can get solid numbers very quickly as very very few guys out there are making this kind of impression so quickly.
Method four – Raise your standards.
As a general principle, whenever you’re in conversation with a girl, you need to keep 1 principle in mind : know your standards and stick to them. Write them down if you have to! What do you want in a girl? What qualities are an absolute MUST (try to be more specific than 32DD breasts!). When you’re talking, is she displaying qualities that you don’t like? Has she said something that on some level pisses you off? Then SHOW IT!!
This sounds obvious but it’s surprising how many guys will try to hide their distaste in the hopes of getting into a girls knickers. In truth the opposite is true : if you show you’re a man with standards and will call her on shoddy behaviour, then you’re much more likely to gain attraction.
Here is the key : it’s how you show disdain that matters. DON’T get into a prolonged logical debate about her behaviour or what she has said. Use your body and a quick word to convey distaste. Turn away from her a little if she genuinely pisses you off. It’s not necessary to tell her off, just say “I see” as you backturn, or even “that’s a little weird”…Then fall silent. You’ll find that if she’s attracted, she’ll claw at you and try to explain her position or apologise. This is a great opportunity to be won over (if you agree with what she’s saying) and gain control of the frame.
Method five – tell her what you want / shock tactics.
This technique is very powerful, and can literally transform the dynamic of an interaction with 1 clear sentence. It sends a very direct signal to her that you are interested and that you want her ;delivered at the right time it’s a devastating technique and can instantly transform an interaction and set the tone to whatever you want.
When in a conversation, you can bust out these kind of powerful statements but they have to be used at the right time. Use the conversational pauses, look directly at her and then deliver the statements. You can start off with the tamer ones and move up the ladder to the more powerful ones :
(i) When was the last time you got really drunk? (Gets rapport and sets tone for day 2 meeting, gets personal)
(ii) Those earrings (or X Y Z adornment) really say a lot about you (playful and slightly ironic)…What do they say?? Curious arnet you..They tell me that (go into cold read). (Gets personal, instant DHV and shows you are paying attention, creates attraction, sets dating / sexual frame)
(iii) There’s something about a girl like you that’s very sexy. I think it’s....the combination of x quality and y quality. We’d be good together, imagine what our kids would look like (humourous) As long as they got my looks, it would be cool anyway (Immediatley sets tone for dating frame, gets her thinking of you in a bf / gf way, funny)
(iv) This is getting boring – when was the last time you got fucked properly? (WHAM!! Very powerful, can be used to create massive sexual tension, gets her thinking of sex WITH YOU, in a very powerful direct way)
You have to consider the effect that you want to achieve in order to evaluate the best time to use these statements. In the above four examples, you might use (iii) immediately after receiving an IOI, whilst invading her personal space.
You might use (iv) on a day 2, in a natural pause in the conversation, after sexual tension has been created but before you have kissed. Especially effective if you are talking about boring subjects that neither of you are interested in, as conversation fillers, especially if she is the nervous type.
You must use your judgement about when to use these statements. You can practice by writing out some simple, declarative, powerful statements that you want to achieve a particular effect, then bringing them out at particular points in the interaction.