High Value Behaviors

[jBrett]

I wanted to make a list and post it here, since I've made a list for myself to continue to practice at all times until I've completely internalized it. These are some of the main things.

Social proof, talking to other women, talking to other people, or talking on my phone (even if I have to fake it), or texting.

Being busy, always false time constraint-ing, canceling day 2s, ending the conversation because "I have to go"

Being popular, always receiving phone calls (even if fake), always talking about how great my weekend was, and how great my future plans are. Always leaving a conversation to do something cool. Being on the phone when people call, or faking received phone calls while on the phone.

Anything else people would like to suggest go for it. These are my big ones without getting too much into DHV stories.

[Hawaii]

Posture and body language

[JCMoney]

Being UNREACTIVE...i love that one:)

[NextLevelUp]

I'm no guru so... watch out!

It seems to me that a lot of skills, behaviours and techniques in the game can be divided into to groups.

1. Those that you can get reasonable results from by implementing consciously.

2. Mirco behaviours and techniques that only give a small increase in results and are not really worth the time and effort put in. AND that you will probably gain naturally at a later stage.

A lot of the faking that you mention, fake phone calls, cancelling day 2's because you are pretending to be busy is time, energy and mental processing power you could be putting into really being busy. Then all those micro behaviours will be real.

I remember a guy who would tell girls he might call them if he wasn't busy, and he was not at all congruent with it.

Like I said earlier, you could practice it till you are congruent with it but IMO it's energy you could be spending better elsewhere.

[jBrett]

A lot of the faking that you mention, fake phone calls, cancelling day 2's because you are pretending to be busy is time, energy and mental processing power you could be putting into really being busy. Then all those micro behaviours will be real.

I agree with you to an extent, but every guy has to conciously play the game. Hardly any guy is completely real and doesn't think out their moves. Even guys who truly are busy have certain girls on their mind, and they could make time to text them and call them alot if they wanted, but they have to refrain just like I do.

Just like Style wrote about with his girlfriend, look at all the effort he put into faking it.

[Nox]

Being UNREACTIVE...i love that one:)

I totally agree. I really think that's the most important one.

The person who reacts, is the one who is trying harder. And thus, the more you react, the less value you get from another person's perspective.

You are never surprised. You've seen it all.

[Dynamism]

I totally agree. I really think that's the most important one.

The person who reacts, is the one who is trying harder. And thus, the more you react, the less value you get from another person's perspective.

You are never surprised. You've seen it all.

Yes, I'm starting to realize that this is THE most important aspect to have. On top of that, always have a little relaxed natural looking smile on your face wherever. Always. In addition to that, the unreactiveness plus great eye-contact, and people will get curious.

Others include (that havent been mentioned I think):
Patience
Being a challenge (I guess unreactiveness and other aspects are challenges also if you think about it)
Not being needy
Unpredictable
Always in a good mood/Relaxed
Lack of insecurity
When she pulls away, you pull away even more, but don't act mad, pull away further in a natural unreactive way (if that makes sense).
Confidence is a no brainer, but it kinda fits in with some others.

I've noticed that if you can handle EVERY situation with relaxation and a smile on your face, girls will become frustrated at their jealousy plots and whatnot to get you to react.

It's all good. And yes, obviously some of these overlap, but in my opinion, each one counts for 100%.

[Limelight]

Being UNREACTIVE...i love that one:)

I disagree! Unreactive will result in going home alone. What you rather want to do is being actively unreactive. I know sounds weird but it works...

Things like:
-bodyrocking
-false takeaways
-freeze-outs
are a part of being actively unreactive to the things that got thrown at you. It's like you show that you are unreactive rather than just hope that they'll catch that you are unreactive...

[jBrett]

I sort of agree with the above post too. When a girl says something that should get a reaction out of you it's really a chance to one-up her and control the frame. Just acting like you don't care is only a backup plan, and shouldn't be done all the time.

I think being unreactive is really about living your life, and not letter her and what she does affect your mood.

[Dynamism]

I disagree! Unreactive will result in going home alone. What you rather want to do is being actively unreactive. I know sounds weird but it works...

Things like:
-bodyrocking
-false takeaways
-freeze-outs
are a part of being actively unreactive to the things that got thrown at you. It's like you show that you are unreactive rather than just hope that they'll catch that you are unreactive...

That's what I was thinking too. You were more specific though. :)