Field Report: Got Flaked on so went Solo sarging Friday night!

[tony77]

Last night i was supposed to meet some girl from the internet last night but she flaked. I drove about 20 smiles to this town to meet her, text her and then she sent me some message basically saying she wasn't comfortable enough to meet me yet. So i thought screw her , I'll go and do some sarging. So I drove into Oxford and hit some bars but I did have some AA because I got way too anxious trying to open a 4 set sat down but because I hesitated and didn't use the 3 second rule, they left. I had a perfect opener that i thought of which was connected with my date.

So I'm at the bar, just got my second coke, because I don't like to sarge with alcohol and I ask the barmaid a questions.

Me: "excuse me can i have a female opinio?" "I'm supposed to be on a date but she has cancelled on me, what would you do in my situation?"

Her: "well what time were you supposed to meet her?" (its 10:30pm)
Me:"at 10pm"
Her: "Maybe she got stuck in traffic"
Me: "yeah but she should have text me"
Her: "Did you text her?"
Me: "yeah but no answer so i think she's got cold feet"

The 4 set have left because I've been too much of a pussy to open them. There were 3 people standing near them and i was scared they'd hear and AMOG me as there were 2 guys there but dam it I should just use this as practice. So then I go to the toilet hoping to open the 2 set i see sat down but got AA! Then I see this hot black girl and her friend who I had seen walking around. THey had settled on this table so i opened them quite quickly with my opener.

Me: "Hi can i have a quick female opinion?" "I'm supposed to be on a date and she has cancelled on me, what would you do in my situation?"
HB Black tall (Tall cute black girl, gorgeois about a HB9)"Oh my god thats terrible" "I'd delete her number (laughing)
Me: "I think I will delete her number"
HbBlack tall:" hey don't listen to me" (both have beautiful smiles)
HBshorter black "so what was her reason?"
Me: "all i got from her was that she can't make it"
HbBlack tall: "did she give you any notice?"
Me: "well she text me about 10 minutes ago"
the other girl is laughing which i should have negged her on and should have negged the other girl.
Hbblack tall:"Oh thats awful"
Me: "well thanks I'm goign to go now"
and the other girl is laughing which i should have negged on. I guess they were both attracted to me!

So the next bar i go to I open the barmaid there as its quite packed. She is a cute petite girl, about a HB8.5

Me: "bit quiet in here" (it was very busy)
Her: "yeah I know, the other bar is opening tonight"
Me: "hey can i ask a female opinion? I'm supposed to be on a date but I've been stood up, what would you do in my position?"
Her: "i'd go out by myself and get totally slaughtered"
Me: "well I don't drink"
her: "well we have some cocktails you can try"
Me: "non alcoholic?"

Couldn't really hear what she was saying but dam this girl is so cute. A 3 set walk in and i let one of teh girls get to the bar, drank my drink and left.

[gamble]

stop asking for a female opinion. you NEED one, not you WANT.

[Mild_Seven]

Good for you for sarging and giving it a go even though you got stood up. It's good to always have a backup plan in case that happens (even a second girl scheduled for the same night...you can always do what chicks do and just cancel one of them if neither of them cancels you first).

Good job for making approaches and trying to fight through your approach anxiety. Talking to the barmaid can be a first step to get some of your anxieities out, plus you can act like you know her already and build a bit of social proof before opening some sets. But after you do that, just get the fuck out there and approach. The worst they can do is walk away. That's already happened to you, and did it cause you any severe trauma? Probably not. The best that can happen is that you meet a hot woman who wants to jump your bones. Isn't that worth the risk of a little embarrassment? Do it, get out there, approach sets and more sets (you didn't do enough).

Using an true story opener like that can be good, but I don't think that particular opener is good because it demonstrates lower value. You basically told those sets that you are undesirable to other women. You never want women to think that about you. You blew yourself out the minute you said the opener.

Work on approaching (you have to learn how to deal with AA), giving a false time constraint and doing your opener. I wouldn't worry about the negging at the moment, because it sounds like you're going to do it wrong and it's not essential if the girls are attentive and into the conversation

[tony77]

Thanks Mildseven!

One suggestion i got from another site was say that it was my friend who got stood up and ask them what he should do so it seems like I am being teh good friend. What do you think? Then I can go into DHV with stories and routines. I do like to use a lot of David D stuff but I want to be able to use the whole M3 model in my approaches but its hard to think in my mind what come next. A1 to A3 is easy but its getting to comfort.

[Astonish]

i agree as well... i mean telling a group of girls that you just got stood up at the last minute will get you some pity but at the same time it lowers your value. If you gave a good reason why she couldnt make it (fake it if you must) and that its too early to go home etc. you should be sweet. Just my thoughts.

Astonish

[Mild_Seven]

One suggestion i got from another site was say that it was my friend who got stood up and ask them what he should do so it seems like I am being teh good friend. What do you think? .

That sounds like a reasonable opinion opener. Just make sure they don't think that your "friend" actually means you. Give your friend a name to reduce the chances of them thinking that.

Then I can go into DHV with stories and routines. I do like to use a lot of David D stuff but I want to be able to use the whole M3 model in my approaches but its hard to think in my mind what come next. A1 to A3 is easy but its getting to comfort.

Don't get carried away with the cocky funny stuff. Being playful and teasing girl in a way that's obvious your joking is good, but a lot of guys blow the cocky part and leave the girl thinking he's an asshole or a phony (for example, a nice guy who's trying to act like the man). A lot of beginners have a really hard time being congruent with cocky funny stuff. I'd work on the M3 model for now until you get comfortable with it and start getting confidence from the success you see. Then I think you'd be at a better place to start with C&F stuff.

That advice comes from my ongoing journey. Feel free to discard whatever you know is not applicable to you.