Fantasy
09-27-2007, 06:32 AM
everyone has got something or even a lot of so seen as "darksides" which you can not be social proud of just because most of the others will refuse some of your attitudes and behavings. some of them i call them "moralistic people" are the worst problem ever.
it makes a difference to be "human" or "moralistic". the first one is good, everyone should be handled with all the respect he or she deserves.
but i don't agree with "moralistic standards". cause often they make no sense for the people involved at all.
moralistic standards are traditional standards of behaving. maybe or maybe not in former times they made more sense. often the only sense was to keep the power for the people who had much of it.
for example: what would i do if i know a good place to have some fun? of course i don't want to get it so crowed. so i can tell people this area is bad because there are dangerous animals or other bull****. the feeling whats left: this place is bad! and they will going to tell everyone not to go there...and stop people of thinking their own way.
on the other side people who are following that rules without thinking are often very frustrated not to have that fun they want. of course not because their superego often forbid to have fun at all so they will go chasing the others who have got. thats sad but thats the way it is.
so imagine someone of these will find a weakness of you. how can you protect yourself of this insane?
i guess on the one hand its very important to keep your frame! don't agree with their frame u will seem guilty! so no excuses at all! try to be diplomatic and maybe soften it (but not too much). bring it to another frame which allows the moralizer not to get so angry anymore but refuse to agree with him.
if he will go on chasing you you might have to think about how to lower his value infront of the others when he is going to tell bad stuff about you.
if you have got enough value u can disqualifie him or her just by telling stories in a frame he or she doesn't look good at all. but do it in a indirect way so that the others just get the idea oft it and you can not be blamed for saying ugly **** about him or her.
what do you think how to handle such situations?
it makes a difference to be "human" or "moralistic". the first one is good, everyone should be handled with all the respect he or she deserves.
but i don't agree with "moralistic standards". cause often they make no sense for the people involved at all.
moralistic standards are traditional standards of behaving. maybe or maybe not in former times they made more sense. often the only sense was to keep the power for the people who had much of it.
for example: what would i do if i know a good place to have some fun? of course i don't want to get it so crowed. so i can tell people this area is bad because there are dangerous animals or other bull****. the feeling whats left: this place is bad! and they will going to tell everyone not to go there...and stop people of thinking their own way.
on the other side people who are following that rules without thinking are often very frustrated not to have that fun they want. of course not because their superego often forbid to have fun at all so they will go chasing the others who have got. thats sad but thats the way it is.
so imagine someone of these will find a weakness of you. how can you protect yourself of this insane?
i guess on the one hand its very important to keep your frame! don't agree with their frame u will seem guilty! so no excuses at all! try to be diplomatic and maybe soften it (but not too much). bring it to another frame which allows the moralizer not to get so angry anymore but refuse to agree with him.
if he will go on chasing you you might have to think about how to lower his value infront of the others when he is going to tell bad stuff about you.
if you have got enough value u can disqualifie him or her just by telling stories in a frame he or she doesn't look good at all. but do it in a indirect way so that the others just get the idea oft it and you can not be blamed for saying ugly **** about him or her.
what do you think how to handle such situations?