Harlequin
01-30-2007, 12:38 AM
All things is moderation... including moderation. Monotony sucks. You know this either by pleasure or pain. If the latter then it was a real wake up call & maybe you lost a relationship because of it.
NICE is BORING. That doesn't mean being the bad boy is the only way to go. Yet, when we act nice a hot girl used to being approached constantly may well hit defcon 1, "What does this guy want from me?"
And in response to the bad boy she realises that he doesn't need anything. Allow me to elaborate. Consider that the nice guy is one that may have hurt her in the past. Some oaf, playing the nice guy could have played her... & now she's on guard. So many have observed how the bad boy thing works. Relationships & pick up are my forte... you just gotta pick yourself up first.
Nice too often means dull. Naughty is at the very least, interesting. As is juggling whilst riding backwards on a bicyle... (wait for my video response on that one) Here's a few principles to think about when you're in a relationship.
In a relationship, sure, you're going to show love & there are five ways of showing love.
Saying it is one of the weakest if you're saying it all the time.
Doing caring things.
Giving gifts "Here, I brought you a squirrel."
Saying it.
Um... spraying it.
I've forgotten the fifth one... smeg.
Show that love day & night sure, make efforts in the relationship that bring you both happiness, but have enough space from each other that your beloved can feel the loss of you each day. When you're giving your girl attention it should be like the sun is shining in her face... (not out of her arse) & when you take that beautiful energy away from her, you enhance it even more.
What is a night without the day? Cold... the sun also rises. What is a nice day for 9 months like in the arctic circle? Boring & dreadful on the eyes. NICE? Pah... always remember, dark clouds make sunbeams.
Do nice things sure but master their absence & work on push pull theory within the frame of relationship. Forget Nice. Long term, Nice is AFC territory.
Here's a simple equation, hope + doubt = passion.
If you give a girl the impression you're going to be around forever you'll run the risk of boring the pants off her instead of taking her panties down with your teeth. Scarcity increases value.
When your time is limited it becomes all the more special for each moment they have the prize of you in sight. You keep her wanting for more because she fears the prospect of you leaving... RELATIONSHIPS ARE NO DIFFERENT! Scarcity = Value. Give the gift of missing you.
Be romantic, be adventurous, you can FLIRT with your own GF didn't you know? Be playful, be naughty, be yourself, that's sexy, but don't even get near NICE. You fullfil her needs, emotional security, physical hungers, thirsts... you feed her, you cook for her, you love her, you allow her your body & when you tease her, please her & have her screaming your name you satisfy her...
With any action eliminate the nice. For example, let's say you cook for her & get all romantic, you're not trying to be nice. If you cook for her you're showing her love. There's nothing wrong with doing kind things, or being kind to someone: kindness is love in motion. There is however, the wrong intention behind it & the wrong application of nice can bore a person if you're not exciting & interesting in equal measure to just being plain nice.
Over ten years ago (fecking smeg!) I was a nice guy to the first girl I really loved & I lost her because something more exciting came her way... travel in that case but still, if I'd had been as exciting as the prospect of that travel or had my own threat of going off on my travels at the time I would have been with her for longer. It's about prizability & satisfying the human thirst for wonder & the unknown. Not knowing... the most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. Embrace the unknown right (' *,)
Nice, predictable, regular... *YAWN* average... usual... *Zzzz* normal.
Versus
Passionate! Unpredictable... Boo! (bet'cha didn't see that one comin')Extraordinary! (Shouldn't that mean, even more ordinary? English blows) Exciting! Unusual, (' *,) Natural...
Live each of your days with passion. Keep her guessing, keep her wanting. Keep taking away. Keep surprising her. Exceed your own expectations & accept that your best is good enough. Have her invest in you at least as much as you invest in her... we become part of what we invest in. So garner this principle & reap the rewards.
NICE is BORING. That doesn't mean being the bad boy is the only way to go. Yet, when we act nice a hot girl used to being approached constantly may well hit defcon 1, "What does this guy want from me?"
And in response to the bad boy she realises that he doesn't need anything. Allow me to elaborate. Consider that the nice guy is one that may have hurt her in the past. Some oaf, playing the nice guy could have played her... & now she's on guard. So many have observed how the bad boy thing works. Relationships & pick up are my forte... you just gotta pick yourself up first.
Nice too often means dull. Naughty is at the very least, interesting. As is juggling whilst riding backwards on a bicyle... (wait for my video response on that one) Here's a few principles to think about when you're in a relationship.
In a relationship, sure, you're going to show love & there are five ways of showing love.
Saying it is one of the weakest if you're saying it all the time.
Doing caring things.
Giving gifts "Here, I brought you a squirrel."
Saying it.
Um... spraying it.
I've forgotten the fifth one... smeg.
Show that love day & night sure, make efforts in the relationship that bring you both happiness, but have enough space from each other that your beloved can feel the loss of you each day. When you're giving your girl attention it should be like the sun is shining in her face... (not out of her arse) & when you take that beautiful energy away from her, you enhance it even more.
What is a night without the day? Cold... the sun also rises. What is a nice day for 9 months like in the arctic circle? Boring & dreadful on the eyes. NICE? Pah... always remember, dark clouds make sunbeams.
Do nice things sure but master their absence & work on push pull theory within the frame of relationship. Forget Nice. Long term, Nice is AFC territory.
Here's a simple equation, hope + doubt = passion.
If you give a girl the impression you're going to be around forever you'll run the risk of boring the pants off her instead of taking her panties down with your teeth. Scarcity increases value.
When your time is limited it becomes all the more special for each moment they have the prize of you in sight. You keep her wanting for more because she fears the prospect of you leaving... RELATIONSHIPS ARE NO DIFFERENT! Scarcity = Value. Give the gift of missing you.
Be romantic, be adventurous, you can FLIRT with your own GF didn't you know? Be playful, be naughty, be yourself, that's sexy, but don't even get near NICE. You fullfil her needs, emotional security, physical hungers, thirsts... you feed her, you cook for her, you love her, you allow her your body & when you tease her, please her & have her screaming your name you satisfy her...
With any action eliminate the nice. For example, let's say you cook for her & get all romantic, you're not trying to be nice. If you cook for her you're showing her love. There's nothing wrong with doing kind things, or being kind to someone: kindness is love in motion. There is however, the wrong intention behind it & the wrong application of nice can bore a person if you're not exciting & interesting in equal measure to just being plain nice.
Over ten years ago (fecking smeg!) I was a nice guy to the first girl I really loved & I lost her because something more exciting came her way... travel in that case but still, if I'd had been as exciting as the prospect of that travel or had my own threat of going off on my travels at the time I would have been with her for longer. It's about prizability & satisfying the human thirst for wonder & the unknown. Not knowing... the most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. Embrace the unknown right (' *,)
Nice, predictable, regular... *YAWN* average... usual... *Zzzz* normal.
Versus
Passionate! Unpredictable... Boo! (bet'cha didn't see that one comin')Extraordinary! (Shouldn't that mean, even more ordinary? English blows) Exciting! Unusual, (' *,) Natural...
Live each of your days with passion. Keep her guessing, keep her wanting. Keep taking away. Keep surprising her. Exceed your own expectations & accept that your best is good enough. Have her invest in you at least as much as you invest in her... we become part of what we invest in. So garner this principle & reap the rewards.