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Royas
09-16-2007, 07:25 AM
Hi,
First off you need to know this thread hasn't got anything interesting in it. No really, nothing original, plain and probably badly written (English is my second language). I wrote it here because it would be lonely on my hard drive. It's a boring field report of a young man starting out his game and is mainly for myself. I felt the need to write what happened but hey...maybe someone hasn't got anything better to read for the moment and probably can relate to a few things that happened, anyway here it is.

So I'v been reading all kinds of material since july (started with DeAngelo stuff and eventually discovered and got hooked by Mystery and his method). Reading and not practicing until last night. I had a little game before hand, I would appreciate myself as 80% AFC if that makes any sense.

So I have all this knowledge in my head, I'm psyched up, made a friend read some to eventually build him into my wing. Tonight was the night we would make the decision of improving ourselves and our lives, if we opened sets it was on, if not then we would dwell in Afc and yes, shame.

I'd been reading and watching a few videos all afternoon, got my "routine" planed and made a sheat in my backpocket. I planned to go through the entire attraction sequence (A1 to A3). For a first night it was more than enough.
I knew where I wanted to practice and already had AA-nothing new here, then my friend calls and invites me to join him and his friends to a distant nightclub. The idea seemed good, I could get lots of practice and also meet and socialize with his friends.

So I meet them over there, psyched up, have a nice golden shirt (my idea of beginning peacocking), cool jeans and looked handsome and fresh- was in a great mood and eager to start off.

As I get introduced to the group (mixed group with couples and singles) one of the girls, pretty petite brunette in a sober red dress asks me where I'm from.
So bear in mind, my head is filled with the method from those many books and videos, she's a healthy woman so I automaticaly respond in a cocky playful attitude.
I keep a straight face, look her in the eyes, stand proud : "Well I come from over there (thumb points backwards), was in a car a minute ago".
She looks at me impassive then asks the same question.
"What do you mean ? Where are you from ?"
"That's a boring question. Tell me, what's your favorite color ?"
"Huuh, black."
"Wrong, red."
"I don't get it..."
"Well, didn't it occure to you that question might hurt me, somewhere deep inside..."
She slightly frowns. I'm thinking I'm cool, then the group heads to the club, pay our way in (lucky me goes through without paying, pure coincidence one of the bouncers is my neighbor) so I wait for them inside.
My friend comes in first, looks rather bothered and tells me, "dude I don't know what you said but my friend's didn't appreciate what you told them".
I don't get it, what the f*** did I say ?! Apart from the girl I teased a little as if she was my sister, I was polite.
I'm confused but never mind, I'm in a good mood, didn't have to pay and I'm gonna open for my first time :)

The group and I find a place, take a few drinks. The music is blasting out, crappy techno-electro whatever, really loud though. I chat a little with the guys and ask my friend to watch me open a set. There were many but as I saw mixed sets (so that's guys and girls) I saw a huge wall, gonna have troube plowing thought that but one thing at a time.

I take a few steps, notice a 3 set leaning on the bar, turn my head, body facing out and engage.
"Hey did you see the fight outside ?" Two of the girls lean in, the music is dreadfully loud.
"No"
"Well these two chicks were fighting over a guy name George, haha what kind of name is George ? Anyway it was really violent and the bouncers separated them."
They nod, one of them looks rather interested, didn't look at the other one (makes me realize I forgot to keep eye contact).
I take a step as if leaving, "oh by the way, I have a question"
(forgot to use a time constraint :( )
"a guy stays friends with a ex girlfriend, is that cheating ?"
"No" she shrugs.
"ok thanks...yeah but, well this is a double question actually. I have this friend he's dating this girl for over a month, they're doing great she's always at his place. Recently she found a box under his bed with a shit load of old love letters and photographs of his ex's and she's really mad, what do you think about that ?"
Not only I had to repeat a few phrases because of the music but one of their friends hands them drinks, the girl I'm talking to turns her back and talks to others (revealing this was a 5 set) and the second girl who was close by leans on the bar purposely ingnoring me.
I ask her, "what do you think ?"
Shrugs.
OK, I tell myself, well never mind, music's shitting the whole thing anyway. (although I'm troubled it went so bad, hence find myself writing about it the day after :confused: ).
"Hey, do you believe in spells ?" I tell her.
"No" she says, looking bothered. Never the less, I'm here to practice I don't care.
"Give me your hand...no the other one". Now I didn't know what I was doing, I think I wanted to take her place lounging on the bar, anyway I tried to make her spin, and she did, reluctantly with a <what the fuck does is this weirdo doing ?>. But she just spinned and didn't move as I tried to take her place (indeed, very embarassing). I smile weakly and left, I had clearly freaked her out...

I opened my first set : wouhou :D
First I blamed the music for how it turned out, then my total lack of skill but that was still better than not trying so I won, great for me.

My friend/future wing tried with an adjacent set, did rather good and ejected.

Neither of us tried anything more of the night, music was just too damn loud and we talked about where to practice next and what we did wrong.
Chatted with his group from time to time.
I tried Mystery's parallel finger's spell (the one he teaches Pradeep in VH1's PUA). I just wanted to practice, turns out it didn't work, and her boyfriend was behind her, cool stuff...
Then I wanted to try something else with another of the girls in the group, <5 questions game, ordinay chat>. But still I remained in that playful teasing attitude wich never made her smile and eventually made her walk off.

Later my friend told me both girls were a little weird but never the less I was clearly coming off unfriendly to them, something completely opposite of who I am. I now realize I could have easily befriended these girls by ordinary talk and maybe pepping in a few interesting stuff or remarks but I just started off too...weird I guess.
Better luck next time, hopefully I'll be writing about some form of a success !

Kusala
09-17-2007, 05:26 AM
Hi everybody,

first of all I will ask you to excuse my english since I'm french, so do not hesitate if you don't understand what I'm trying to mean ;)

Now, let's begin : I'm the friend Royas is talking about in his report and I'm an absolute rookie in the Game. My knowledge about this activity relies on the 3 first chapters of Neil Strauss' book, 5 episods of Mystery's show on VH1 and some tips Royas gave me during our talk... impressive hu ?

Our Saturday night 'sarge' had for purpose to make our first step in the game and to have fun with my friends. Well..what a step guys ! Really instructive because we all make (I hope !) mistakes but what differenciate us are the ability to discern what went wrong, and the will to still going over it without doing the same mistakes. So what went wrong saturday night ?

First, I mis informate Royas about that red-dressed girl. I spent 2 hours before with my 2 others friends trying to pull her in confidence. She is really shy, not communicative and snappish for sure !! But after 2 hours at the buddy's party, I can finally talk to her 'normally'. The fact is...she was drunk..AND one of my friend was already on her (I told royas about this but did not tell him which girl and which friend it was...)
Since the nightbox' parking field, Royas started to practice Game's tool, openers, routines...but, sorry buddy, no one worked and my group of friends started to ask me 'you're sure he is one of your friend ?' :p
Royas was soooo mechanical (I won't blame him for that since I would be more robotic than him if I've been in his shoes) BUT he quite never smiled ! For knowing him very well, he hadn't the body language of someone enjoying himself or the group he was in...but in every days life, he's way funnier and communicative than me !

So you're right when you said you should have acted naturally and not like Goldorak !

Now you're wondering what have I done?

Well I spotted a two set, and applying the 3 sec rule I openned it quickly with the happy smile I had during all that day. My left shoulder facing their front, it occured something like that:
Me <smiling>: Hi ladies, I have a question for you and I need you to be honest with me.
Them : <smile> Ok
Me : it won't be long, my friends are waiting on the dance floor (at this point I noticed they were at least 10 years older than me :eek: )
Them : <node still smiling>
Me : <taking a serious embarrassed tone> Okay...would you guys date a man who...well...still sleep with his teddy bear ?
Them : <giggle>
Lady 1 : no
Lady 2 : no
Me : oh ? why ? I thought it was cute !
Lady 1 : it depends on the age but I think definitely no..
Lady 2 : me too...not enough manish
Me : ok...so you would NEVER date that kind of man?
Lady 1 : I think not
Lady 2 : and you're too young for us
Me : <laugh> I'm honoured to be the one you're thinking of when you speak about dating
Ladies : <laugh>
Me : <approaching my face from lady 1 then stepping back and talking to lady 2> Have you ever noticed she blinks when she speaks ?
Lady 1 <laugh>

I kept talking to lady 1 while lady 2 disposed of their empty glasses. At this point, I wasn't interested anymore and quickly left the set to go dancing, always smiling.

So what went wrong with me ?
I didn't have a good aim (sorry ladies)
I haven't the balls to continue, and I regret this just by curiosity of how far I would have push the Game
I forgot how to show DHV and didn't neg enough.
But I really had fun because I took it as a game and never expected a miracle at the first test !

Later, I try the 'choose a number from 1 to 4' with the red dressed girl... I guessed correctly twice and failed at the third...Her hands were responsive and I never broke eye contact. Eventually, I concluded by a 'not bad, we have a good connection; but I think we can enhance our communication' and left to go dancing.

Tjoobie
09-17-2007, 05:51 AM
Well, first off, I also am rather new to this game (about 2 months into it, so not so new), but what I can tell you helped me alot. When I first started I started opening people with the canned material that everybody uses, it went well, but it really went nowhere from there. I think the best way to start out is to practice your openers, talk with them for a little while until a little bit of dis interest comes over them, then eject. Start off doing alot of Practice in A1, then onto A2 when you master A1, and so on and so forth.
Good luck and happy sarging.