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Rusty
01-28-2007, 07:40 AM
I didnt get laid. I should of, but i didnt.

Where to start. I was supposed to be on a day2 but unfortunatley i got stood up. The HB was supposed to call me and tell me what time to come but she didnt. So i never went to the cinema, i wasnt willing to wait at the cinema and hope. BTW i dont have her phone number. I've grown alot over the last few months and i know not to dwell. So i call one of mates and we go to a bar.

I wasnt sarging, i was distracting myself from the poor result. I spoke to some HB's there that were cool. But to cut this short we stayed for a few hours and then left to get some beers for the house. But then we bump into my mates flatmate (emo kid) with his HB10 girlfreind (i kid you not) and a chineese HB9 (who's single!).



Game comence
Flick alpha and fun mode up 2 notches. I chat to them, i play with them and i ignore the one i liked, only to tease her a little about her attidude. Anyway we get in the house and we all start drinking. My mate who is an unfortunate AFC starrs complementing the HB9. I was just DHV'ing, I chat about my book and we chat about other writers. I was doing so well, i was fortunatley the alpha male of the group. So after DHV'ing (which was natural) and slight negging i decide to hone in on the target.

We talk about her homeland. My mate was beating around the bush, he didnt now where she was from.
Rusty- So where abouts are your family from?
HB9- China... origianlly
Rusty-Ahh China, so you speak mandarin
HB9 (smiles)- Not really, my mom speaks cantonease
Rusty- So she's from Hong Kong
HB9-How do you know
Rusty (smiles)- Just an incling.
Rusty- You know what i love.... asian cinema
HB9- (eyes open) me too
Rusty- House of flying daggers is.....
HB9-wow, i love that, i've never known another guy to like that
Rusty-I'm not your regular guy... what do you think of Korean cinema

And then a lesson of Korean cinema begins. Kino has began, i'm stroking her leg. The whole room is on me.
Rusty- Hey put your mobile number in here, we should go out sometime'
HB9- Sure

We switch Numbers. I run a palm read on her... which isnt that good. I interact with the group and we have a laugh. Then i run this *brand new* ESP trick i've been working on.

I write the number 77 on a piece of paper and i put it in my pocket. I ask HB if she wants to play a game, they always comply. I tell her she'll have to focus on our connection. I tell her to hold my hands, look in my eyes and think of a number between 1and10. I tell her to write it down real fast. I write down what i think it is (7). Now i say together this will make 1 number. She pulls out 7 and I pull out a 7..... everyones shocked. Then i say thats nothing... i get the piece of paper out of my pocket and show her the number 77 pre-written, i tell them that it was a 100 in a hundred chance. And they are sooo stunned, they was absoluley shocked.

Anyway, back to normality. We all go up stairs, me and HB9 are crashing at my AFC mates house. The emo kid with his HB10 GF go off to there room and we 3 go to my mates room. This is where i fuck it. I had all the attraction there.

My mate, starts talking non-stop to HB9. Talking about Radiohead and what not... i stay quiet and lie on the bed. So i text her during their little convo. YOUR CUTE. She recieves the message and smiles.. They chat on the bed for like half an hour all the while i just go to sleep. We all lay on the bed. I start to take my shirt off... but they felt awkward so they slept with their clothes on... so did I. And thats about it. We just laid their the 3 of us, sleeping. I thought HB9 would grab me or something but she never. I kind off warmed up to her, but the warming up wasnt replicated.... i got an off vibe, if you know what i mean.

Damn, i couldnt go caveman either because my mate was there. I couldnt do anything. My afc freind goes to the toilet... i lean up and look at her but there doesnt seem to be much desire on her part. I go all AFC and tell her i might call her and we can get some coffee.... she tells me she's quite busy (IOD). And thats about it.... we get some sleep, in clothes and no touching. Its like god damn Dawson's Creek.

I go home in the morning and thats about it. The good things are i got her number.... i can build attraction..... and we had a good time, until the end. I have absolutley no regrets with this one.... i feel i did all that i could. I made it pretty clear i wanted her (after i built attraction). I follow Deangelos concept... make the ho say NO, its better than worrying or regreting like an AFC.

Anyway this all happened about 10 hours ago. I've just sent her a message 'hey HB, nice meeting you last night. Wanna come for a coffee tommorow?'. The way i see it is i've made in no uncertain terms that i want her (after DHV'ing), and its now up to her.

So thats it..... what are your thoughts?

Rusty
01-28-2007, 09:34 AM
Fresh news Champs
I've recieved a text from her... Result. But i want your opinions on it.
'hey there, I'm at work tomoro... i'd love to have a coffee wit u but i'm not really free til the weekend due to work, horseriding,newcastleetc... plus my car broke lol! But i'll meet up wit u then! sorry i'm not making excuses!xXx'

And thats is what she said, precicly.

Obviously i'm a big boy and i can make my own mind up about things...... but what do you gus think?.... how would you make your next move?

Thanks Champs
Always keeping yall in the fold
Rusty

Sheek
01-28-2007, 09:50 AM
Fresh news Champs
I've recieved a text from her... Result. But i want your opinions on it.
'hey there, I'm at work tomoro... i'd love to have a coffee wit u but i'm not really free til the weekend due to work, horseriding,newcastleetc... plus my car broke lol! But i'll meet up wit u then! sorry i'm not making excuses!xXx'

And thats is what she said, precicly.

Obviously i'm a big boy and i can make my own mind up about things...... but what do you gus think?.... how would you make your next move?

Thanks Champs
Always keeping yall in the fold
Rusty

Text her back something like:

"Sounds good. I'm kinda busy too, so next weekend works for me."

One thing I've learned is to not listen to the people that say "lol dat mean she duznt wanna c u lolz." Plant seeds & they'll grow, man. Tell her next weekend is cool, call her on wednesday/thursday and talk a bit, and make plans some time in your conversation.

Astonish
01-28-2007, 11:11 PM
I agree with Sheek. You want to appear busy and social even if you arn't. The only possible problem i would have is that its a coffee date. Im not a coffee drinker so i might be a bit bias :P. On my day 2's i like to be doing something, like going to the toy shop and playing all the games (just an example) - make it memorable.

I love the 77 routine thing. it sounds like an excellent variation.

I'm not too sure if texting 'you cute' to her at that moment in time was the best thing to do. Perhaps a joke statement like 'i once won the world series of vaccuming... it sucked'. It would still make her smile without conveying interest especially when she's about to go to sleep with two other guys she just met.

Hopefully im on the right page.

Nice FR though rusty.
best of luck
Astonish

DrSwift
01-29-2007, 03:59 AM
I made the mistake of 'sleeping' but not having sex with hot chicks SOOOO many times in the past. There was even one time when I made the mistake with the same chick TWO NIGHTS RUNNING! I convinced myself I was getting 'mixed signals' at the time. TWF. Anyway older and wiser now. I've learned my lesson.

You know what the most important thing is?

Forgive yourself.

Then learn from it.

Then it won't happen again.

I'm so glad I ballsed up all those times. Because it's taught me a valuable lesson. I would regret it if it weren't for the fact that there's so many fish in the sea.

As an aside the chick I did it to twice was really cold and almost bitchy towards me afterwards (so what who cares?). At first I thought she was thinking I was just a wuse and she'd seen through me (it was something I felt I *did* rather than something I felt I *was* back in those days). It only occured to me a long time afterwards that she thought that I wasn't interested in her and she wasn't hot enough. In fact she probably thought I *used her* for a place to stay in a city where I didn't have a flat. (which is not entirely untrue).


Anyway sounds like the game is definatly still afoot for you Rusty.

Oh and in a situation where your AFC friend was about ASD would rear it's head. Kiss close maybie. Not much more is likely without isolation (in that circumstance. If your friend had game well I suppose you could have had a mfm threesome on your hands - if you like mfm that is) but seriously dude you weren't likely to have taken it *too* much further in that situation and getting a text from her is a good sign.

Oh and it's not AFC to invite her for coffee BUT if you do it you've really got to make it clear that *you're* busy too (just like she did. Learn from chicks. They get a lot of field experience of being asked out. In that respect they're practically PUA's themselves). Remember David D's old advice of mention two times your busy before the one you're free.

Otherwise good work Rusty and do let me know how things go bro!

Rusty
01-29-2007, 05:06 AM
Okay, Update.

After receiving her message i decided to send a return message. This is what i put precicly 'horseriding lol, a girl of secret talents, I'm busy all Friday night with this ART show but saterday i'm all yours... i'll see you then. Take care XX'

So that was done 8pm last night. Its the next day now and no response. Looking back at the text i didnt leave her will a loop.

Two questions
1. Should she respond th that text?
2. If she doesnt respond should i still assume i'm seeing her on saterday.... and tet her friday to arrange times?

Whatcha think?

Jester
01-29-2007, 02:11 PM
answer to your questions....
1/ she had no reason to reply so she didnt. It was a closed conversation peice.
2/ Yes definately assume that. Call, not text, her on friday to make a time. Your best bet would have been to actually make a time when you sent the text you mentioned ie Sat Im all yours... so see you at blah blah at 3pm. Work for you?

You hadnt made any definate plans or times for your timebridge, just a vague see you saturday.

By asking her if it works for her, you get her commitment. Mentally this is a big thing, its alot different thinking I said I am meeting Rusty at 3pm at blah blah, to Im meant to Im meant to be meeting Rusty on Sat but I dont know where or when.

If its in her mental diary there is a far greater chance of her turning up.

DrSwift
01-29-2007, 04:06 PM
1. should she respond to that text

maybie. maybie not. As Jester said you didn't suggest an exact time and require a response in your message.

It's still possable she intends to send you a message to confirm it (else call her on Friday as Jester suggested).

Remember though that some girls will play games with making you wait for texts (so that you'll think all those 'does she like me' 'what does this mean' and 'scarcity value' type thoughts').

As I said some girls are quite field-trained that way. When you use a lot of these PU techniques remember you're effectively turning all the things girls do on their head.

I guess the long and short of what I'm saying by that is:

should she reply?

should you care? (no you shouln't. Game other chicks while you wait or something. Call her on friday if she hasn't contacted you by then). Don't let her play you. Just stop thinking about her for a few days.


2. assume you're meeting her make arrangements a day or two before by phone call or something.

gabrieldutchie
01-02-2010, 01:03 PM
you should have put the simple text that was provided.. you TRIED to be funny in your return text and ended up dancing monkey.. hope she responds..

but for the future.. KISS (keep it simple stupid!!)