My Gf Cheated On Me

[Z0RR0]

how do you tell if your gf cheated on you?
The world can flip around in just a couple of seconds..
Ok, So a couple days ago, i broke up with my gf, i'm 16, and she was about to be 18. we been going out for 6 months, and i trusted her, and my gut feeling and instict told me she was 100% faithful. I broke up with her on the phone, and as soon as i did she said "I'VE BEEN CHEATING ON YOU!, i fucked this dude yesterday, and i made out with this dude the other day"
I was shocked.... first i thought it was a mind fuck, but then some of it made a bit of sense, but it didn't seem right...
I thought she was trying to make me mad, or she was tryign to see if i cheated on her, (she caught me flirting with other girls from text messages on my phone) and she wanted me to be like "o yeah, i cheated too!"
I didn't know what to think
i never cheated on her, but i made all these things up to crush her feelings, like i fucked other girls, and all this shit and then she says she fucked another dude while we were together, and
another dude.... i was shocked....
I didn't know whether she was mad, bull shitting, or if she was telling the truth
Cuz i trusted this girl so MUCH, i fucked her without a condom a lot of times.. she was a virgin when i first fucked her, i knew that to be true, and now it's like, WTF? HAVE I BEEN GOING OUT WITH A WHORE? HOW COME I WAS SO NAIVE? it hurts, it's like the whole world just flipped upside down, reality changed you know?
Some of what she says doesn't make sense, but i don't know
I havn't talked to her in a couple of days, and this shit is killing me
I don't know wheather she cheated on me, or she didn't
and i still have feelings for her, and i miss her...
If she didn't say she cheated on me, i think it would be fine..

Do you guys know any ways to find out the truth? wheather she cheated on me or not? i don't really kno her friends too well, and they wouldn't take my side anyways. Now i also gotta go get checked for STD's... cuz i don't know whats up anymore with this bitch, I don't know it's been killing me that she would cheat on me, and also that i'm not sure if she did...
Any suggestions, or thoughts

I am planning to call her tomorow, and ask her straight up if what she said was true

By the way, i probablly left our relationship, but basically, she was in love with me, she was real needy, bought me a lot of stuff, she was terrified with the idea of being cheated on, yet she does it to me suppusbly...

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[A.J.]

Cuz i trusted this girl so MUCH, i fucked her without a condom a lot of times.. she was a virgin when i first fucked her, i knew that to be true, and now it's like, WTF? HAVE I BEEN GOING OUT WITH A WHORE? HOW COME I WAS SO NAIVE?


no condom? thats kinda stupid for guys our age man, even with her on the pill i still use a condom just incase (and btw she can have an STD even though she had never had sex before)

oh and dont call the girl a whore, if she cheated on you then you were either doing something wrong or because a guy came around with tighter game then you. either way dont call her a whore

also im guessing you dont have very much experiance just from the way i interpretated the story; but the reason your feeling like you want her back is because she made you feel as if she had broken up with you in a way. think about it, if she had broke up with you you would likley feel the same way. and by her telling you she cheated on you, it made you feel less secure in the fact that it was your decision to break up, weather she intended this or not its still a pretty harsh mind fuck

there is no way of knowing for sure if she cheated on you or not, just talk to her in person (not over the phone) and ask her who/ why she cheated. normally this situatuion would be fine except you a) broke up with her over the phone (kinda a mean thing to do) and b) lied and told her you cheated on her. if you hadent dont that you could have explained the real reason you were breaking up and truthfully ask her why she cheated. in that case she would have likley understood and told you the truth, good or bad

unfortunately now shes likley going to say she cheated only to protect her ego and make you feel self consious for as long as possible about breaking up with her. just because she loved you doesnt mean she wont want to make you squirm when you finally decided to hurt her

[twizt]

just get over it. go game tonite. does not do you any good psychologically to even think about this shit anymore than you already have.

By the way, i probablly left our relationship, but basically, she was in love with me, she was real needy, bought me a lot of stuff, she was terrified with the idea of being cheated on, yet she does it to me suppusbly...

telling you she slept with other dudes doesnt mean she loves you. seriously dude, stop lieing to yourself to make the situation feel better. dont bother her about it. go game, she might see u with other girls, jealosy plots, etc.

you are uneffected by her bullshit, you know girls like her, and you don't care. she's replaceable.

if this isn't motivational enough, then i dont know what to tell you.

[stolen crown]

you are 16 and there is a world of ass infront of you...move on...as if she never existed also stay away from virgins once you nail them the first time you end up with a clingy nutjob or a whore and you can never tell which side of the line they are going to land on.

[m0nkeymafia]

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[OPEN-FIRE]

oneitus

GFTOW

= go fuck ten other women

[LordSinistR]

dude you NEVER tell a woman you cheated on her even if you did!

she probably said that cause you broke up with her and hurt her. women are hard wired and go into survival mode and feel they have to hurt back. i doubt she cheated on you.

let go and move on. this is the best thing you can do.

[Couture]

Welcome to the club..

But everyone has got to get played at least once in their life - its like you have to learn this kind of stuff the hard way.

[Unique_pua]

Tough love.

But listen now, this here could be the best thing that's ever happen to you.
This can actually be your turning point where you say "no fucking more" and just GFTOW. IMO I think she just said it just to piss you off, but let's say she actually cheated on you for the sake of the argument.

So fucking what if she cheated on you? You know (obviously since you hang on this forum) that women act on their EMOTIONS, not their LOGIC. That's why I'm fucking a model that has a boyfriend these days, because I know this and act on it.
It looks to me like you have a One-itis issue going on here, and it will never go away completely.
Just cut her off, and get your sorry ass in the field and get some pussy. TONIGHT!

You know your mind is fucking with you when you make up rasionalisations that she cheated on you. You start think about bullshit things like "well, she could have done it between the two hours when I did'nt see her the other day"... Trust me, I've been there...

Unique

[Cleric]

She didn't cheat on you. She's 18 and being stupid and says stupid things that 18 year old girls say.

ANOTHER THING - YOU BROKE UP ON THE PHONE!!!! Very, very DLV. If you've slept with her, you owe her a face to face break up. And yes, I've been there and done it too - I'm just saying, don't make my past mistakes.

Cleric

[city_knight]

Why are phone break-ups so bad? Same end result.. she gets the idea that you no longer want to fuck her..
Seriously, why do girls require personal delivery of bad news? I try to break up with girls when they are surrounded by their friends so they can immediately fall back into their support network.

[WANine]

you're 16, she's 18, chances are she was cheating on you. Half these idiots can disagree with me because they're just that, idiots, but girls like older guys, not younger guys, especially at that age. Sure I don't have concrete proof, but I have common sense. And it isn't a crazy idea to think an 18 year old college or high-school senior girl was cheating on a 16 year old boy.

Sorry to have to tell you that. Don't call her, don't let it bug you, whatever. Get out and flirt.

[flashgordon]

sounds like she was looking for a reaction.
Dont worry what you feel if you feel like shite happens to everyone and it will happen to you again. move on.

[Insomniac]

sounds like she cheated.....it happens to the best of us. It hurts for a long time, especially when you really liked her or even loved her. But shit happens and you can't change the past. Fuck a few more girls and it gets easier trust me, not that it's gonna completely go away, but at least it's easier. Truth is there may always be something there that you miss, but the sooner you move on the better. And if the girl really did cheat on you, then it's almost always a mistake to go back and try and work it out. So it looks like at this point it's time to say fuck it

[ganglord]

I don't think it matters if she did or she didn't except for whether or not you think you may have an STD because of it.

Once you get that resolved you are going to have to do something that is very hard. You need to simply move on.

Here is why it is hard. You are 16. The older people get the less they remember how huge a relationship is to a 16 year old. When I was 16 I basically divided my life into a handful of categories and valued somethings more than others. Relationships: 65%, Friends, 25%, School 5%, Work 5%.

I wanted to be in a relationship. If I didn't have that I couldn't be happy. I felt jealous of the guys who were in them and felt like a failure. As I got older and I had a bunch of relationships they started meaning much less to me but at 16 this was probably a very big part of your life and to hear news that it might have had less value than you thought it did is a burden.

You are lucky though because you have this community. You get a place to vent anonymously, a bunch of people who want you to succeed and the resources to actually do it.

I do agree that even if she did cheat on you there is no reason to call her a whore. It is counterproductive, unfair to her and gives her the upper hand in a situation that should be about you, not some girl that you are no longer with.

Take a look in the mirror. That is the prize. Your job is to make that the reality. Worrying about the fidelity of someone who is no longer eligible for the prize will only delay the time between now and the next woman you get with.