cunninglinguist
04-06-2011, 04:20 PM
OK I've made a few field attempts and I feel this has some potential but isn't there yet so some help on crafting the finer points would be appreciated. It might be useful as an opener or once a conversation is going.
This is a true story. My ex called me a few weeks ago and said the theater hadn't paid her and she needed to borrow $500 to pay her rent. I'm not rich but I had the money and we've been good friends since breaking up so I agreed. Anyway I spent that much in one night buying bottle service in Hollywood the week before.
Maybe insert a question here, like, but I didn't really know how to discuss it with a girl I had just started seeing.
Or better yet, put the whole thing in the third person, I got this friend and his ex wanted to borrow money.
What makes this good material:
* I have $500 dhv
* I'm generous dhv
What needs work
* I talk about having money dlv (smells like bragging maybe?)
* The ex is still in my life / boundary issue (well on the other hand it gives you something she wants to talk to you about)
* ... and there is this girl I'm seeing (removed if you go third person ... but then you lose the DHV spikes)
There's another part to this story which can stand alone:
I do feel bad about the way we broke up because I was her first man in 10 years. No she wasn't celibate, she was a lesbian when we met. But since I broke up with her she hasn't had any successful relationships with women - they're too much drama she says - and the two men she's tried since then were miserable in bed. So yes I guess what I feel bad about is she was having perfectly good lesbian relationships and I ruined her. So yes it was that guilt that made me pony up the money.
A humorous side note is that we had to be totally in the closet about our relationship. I'm not bullshitting about this either. Apparently the lesbians in that part of the country were a judgmental bunch who haven't got time for bisexual women. You're either gay or you're not gay, and if you just had a boyfriend you lose your chance with their whole posse. So she would have been ousted if they found out. Maybe they did and that's why it's been 2 years and still no girlfriend.
What makes this good material:
* First man in 10 years
* I converted a lesbian
* I'm incredible in bed (must be the yoga)
* They've never heard anything like it
What needs work
* Sexual discussions as openers can be sketchy
* Images of me having sex with an ex is not a romantic discussion for her
* Again with the bragging
This is a true story. My ex called me a few weeks ago and said the theater hadn't paid her and she needed to borrow $500 to pay her rent. I'm not rich but I had the money and we've been good friends since breaking up so I agreed. Anyway I spent that much in one night buying bottle service in Hollywood the week before.
Maybe insert a question here, like, but I didn't really know how to discuss it with a girl I had just started seeing.
Or better yet, put the whole thing in the third person, I got this friend and his ex wanted to borrow money.
What makes this good material:
* I have $500 dhv
* I'm generous dhv
What needs work
* I talk about having money dlv (smells like bragging maybe?)
* The ex is still in my life / boundary issue (well on the other hand it gives you something she wants to talk to you about)
* ... and there is this girl I'm seeing (removed if you go third person ... but then you lose the DHV spikes)
There's another part to this story which can stand alone:
I do feel bad about the way we broke up because I was her first man in 10 years. No she wasn't celibate, she was a lesbian when we met. But since I broke up with her she hasn't had any successful relationships with women - they're too much drama she says - and the two men she's tried since then were miserable in bed. So yes I guess what I feel bad about is she was having perfectly good lesbian relationships and I ruined her. So yes it was that guilt that made me pony up the money.
A humorous side note is that we had to be totally in the closet about our relationship. I'm not bullshitting about this either. Apparently the lesbians in that part of the country were a judgmental bunch who haven't got time for bisexual women. You're either gay or you're not gay, and if you just had a boyfriend you lose your chance with their whole posse. So she would have been ousted if they found out. Maybe they did and that's why it's been 2 years and still no girlfriend.
What makes this good material:
* First man in 10 years
* I converted a lesbian
* I'm incredible in bed (must be the yoga)
* They've never heard anything like it
What needs work
* Sexual discussions as openers can be sketchy
* Images of me having sex with an ex is not a romantic discussion for her
* Again with the bragging