is it wrong to take her away?

[vamp]

hi again its your local vamp back with a question for anyone who wants to comment....

my friends and I were talking to day and the subject came about my friend wanting a girl but the only problem is that she has a boyfriend.(to me not a problem.) and I asked him: Q= vamp A= vamps friend

1) Q: what do you wana be with her for?
A: i like her, we talk everyday, she call's me every night.....ect. ect. a bunch of IOI's (I kind of zoned out.)

2) Q: what does she say about her boyfriend?
A: she complains alot about him.

3) Q: do you feel you are better then him?
A: HELL YA!!! *slams coffee cup on table*

4) Q: you do realize that if you get her from him, later down the line she might do the same thing to you?
A: well... i dont even know if i wana brake them up...

( this is where i need you guys to tell me if this is wrong or not...)
I tell him: v=vamp f=friend(s) (not word for word but something like it)

v: the road to hell is paved with good intent

f: ya so

v: you dont get it... your putting her through hell

f: HOW?!?!?!

v: you see you think your helping her with your good intent by letting her stay with her man and them "working it out" but she already has told you that she hates him and that shows shes already in hell. she is showing interest in you with all the things shes doing....she wants to get her out of it. you got to realize she wants out and she just might need you to show her that your a better guy and you two should be together.

f: how the hell do you take a bible quote and make it so evil

v:what *grin* you know that you are more of a man then he is and you will treat her twice as good as that guy will so why not make her life better??

f(S): that is so wrong but true

now is that such a bad way to look at this situation
~VAMP~

[A.J.]

lol to me this is basically how i feel about going after girls with bf's, if you know you can make her life even a little better by getting her to leave her bf for you, then you should :)

[-Silver-]

And both of you fail. Miserably. How many times am I going to have to point it out on this forum...? I'll write it in bold for you:

A relationship involves TWO people

You're looking at this from your own perspective. You think 'I can definitely be a better boyfriend than her current partner! That would make her happy, so I should do it! It would make me happy being able to screw her, so it's a win/win situation right?' Wrong! What do you think the other guy is going to feel? If you take her away from him, is he going to say: 'Oh well, I had my time with her, and this guy might be a better boyfriend to her. Good luck to the both of them!' and skip down the road with a smile plastered on his face? I'm not even going to tell you how he's likely to react, because even a 10 year old can work it out. You do realize that if you're getting caught up with a girl who's in a relationship, and thinking she's better than all the single girls, then you're getting one-itis right? And i'm a firm believer that one-itis (or love as it is also known) is not always a bad thing. If you're in love with your girlfriend then great! If you're in love with a single girl who likes you, awesome! If you're in love with a girl who already has a boyfriend, then snap out of it! That's one of the situations where love needs a cure, and your one-itis should be cleared.

Trust me when I say that a moral high ground is incredibly attractive to girls. If you make it clear that nothing will happen between you and the girl while she still has a boyfriend, then she'll only like you more. Whether that's enough to make her leave her boyfriend for you or not doesn't matter, because you shouldn't be aiming to hook up with her in the first place. If the girls that I know have problems with their boyfriends, I don't seize the opportunity to boyfriend destroy, with the ultimate goal being to get in their sexy, wet lingerie! I give them genuine advice to help fix and improve their relationship, because my ultimate goal is to make girls happy. That's why so many girls come to me for advice. They're attracted to me, but they know nothing will happen while they have a boyfriend, and although this has lead to one of the girls breaking up with her partner, she genuinely was in a failing relationship at the time. All of the girls I sleep with are single, and every girl I know loves my morals.

If you want to be the guy that feels the need to sleep with every girl he meets, regardless of the consequences that he will have on the girl's relationships, and her current boyfriend's feelings, then fine - go ahead. But there's no way that will gain any of my respect. Stop looking at this issue from your point of view, and think outside the box for once. There are more emotional impacts from relationship changes than simply your own and the girl's.

-Silver-

[vamp]

and then what.... oh i alrady know he will just stay in the "FRIEND ZONE" and now the couple are on the verge of brakeing up because there is "something" she found in his cell phone but my friend cant get in because he is stuck in the frind zone... you see i do think out side the box and if i wanted to i could have made it so the girl didnt feel this pain she does now... but no.... now my friend and this girl are both sad (for different things) and the only one who wins is the guy that sounds like he out right should not even have that girl... yup this SURE is fair.... now they are both in their own little hell....

!~VAMP~!

[David24]

and then what.... oh i alrady know he will just stay in the "FRIEND ZONE" and now the couple are on the verge of brakeing up because there is "something" she found in his cell phone but my friend cant get in because he is stuck in the frind zone... you see i do think out side the box and if i wanted to i could have made it so the girl didnt feel this pain she does now... but no.... now my friend and this girl are both sad (for different things) and the only one who wins is the guy that sounds like he out right should not even have that girl... yup this SURE is fair.... now they are both in their own little hell....

!~VAMP~!

im sorry to ask vamp, but how old are the persons involved? because it sounds a bit like some high school drama to me...
I fully agree with silver, tell youre buddy to get over it and move over to some other girl...
he is making this a one itis, and I'm in the exact same situation as him, but its a single girl! im making a girl my one itis, but I found out just from going out once a week ill get over her! so just tell youre friend to try to think about something else and fill his time with reasonable things to do like sports,clubbing, picking up girls randomly and practicing his game...
also tell him to just remain her friend as silver said, and if she really is into him then the oppertunity will come=)

ciao

[vamp]

he's 20 first year collage student.... and your right it is high school drama. to tell you the truth i dont care about his drama...