TDoodle
02-19-2011, 12:15 PM
For you to understand what I'm wanting help with, I have to tell you the whole story:
So on Valentines, I went to the bar that I used to work at last winter because they were have a 'singles sexy valentines day', meaning drink specials, and the waitresses (there were 2 of them) were dressed up in lingerie.
I show up and sit at the bar, a couple minutes later the owner (Sally - names are changed) sees me and convo went:
her: what do you think?
me: I like, are they single?
her: She says the one in the black (the blonde) is.
me: you should introduce me
her: I will, then you should send her a candygram
me: huh?
her: write something on that pad of paper and it can stay anonymous, then give it to the bartender and he will deliver it for you
----
A little while later the one that has a boyfriend comes over and Sally introduces me, tells her that I used to work for her and then introduces me to the bartender. Then she is taking pictures of the two girls with regulars. She asks me if I want a picture with the blonde (Ashley), I said ya. She calls Ashley over and we take a picture, we look at it, and Ashley says that her eyes are closed, I said that we need another picture. We take another picture, and happy with it. Then Sally tells me to write a candygram, I ask what do I put in it. Then we are thinking about it then she tells me to write (yes they are cheesy): "We are made to be in pictures, but you are the picture of love", then left my name and number at the bottom. Gave it to the bartender, and he gave it to her, and I was watching out of the corner of my eye, while I was watching the TV. I could see a smile come across her face, and she came over and said thanks.
Then over the next 1/2 hour-45 minutes, she came behind the bar (right ahead of me), a couple times. Once she checked her phone on the back bar, I asked her what her tattoo said, and then made small talk for a bit. Then the second time, she came over and asked how my night was going, small talk made again, this time I also said "I almost wore that exact same thing", she laughed and said that I should have, we could have matched", then Sally went outside for a smoke, I joined her to get some fresh air. ----
Convo:
me: so do I ask her to go for a coffee or what when I leave?
her: when are you leaving? instead write another candygram
me: soon, gotta work at 6am (its now about 10:15pm), what do I write in this one?
-now we are spitballing about how to ask for going for coffee, instead we came up with "Gotta work at 6am, it comes too quick. I've seen many a sunrise, but you take the cake" then my name and number again.
Oh before this, Sally and Ashley were talking at the bar, and Ashley said to Sally (Sally told me all this later so this is how I know it)
Ashley: that guy at the bar gave me a candygram
sally: (playing dumb, not knowing what is going on) who?
ashley: That guy, Joe, what do I do with it? do I put it in my purse?
sally: you do with it what you want, but I will let you know that when he worked for me, he was honest, loyal, reliable, trustworthy (and said a couple more things), if that is something that you want, then go for it
----
So while I pay my bill, Ashley comes over and puts her arm on the bar and faces me and says :"You're leaving? I thought you were gonna stay until midnight."
I respond with "If I didn't have to work at 6, I would" This time I handed her that candygram, and she leaves (with a spring in her step), reads it and is awwwwww, THANKS. and has a huge smile on her face. So see goes and serves a few tables, I talk to the husband (the owner of the bar) for a few minutes, then tell Sally thanks (since she is talking to a customer), then I am on my way out (I'm obv not leaving without saying bye to Ashley, who is standing at the bar), I go to put my arm around her shoulder, but she turns to me and gives me a hug. And then our convo goes something like:
her: thanks for those candygrams
me: no problem
her: you gonna come in again?
me: when are you working again?
her: wed at 6
me: We'll see you then
-----
Then I leave. I also told Sally to talk me up to Ashley, and she said she will
NOW...... (Thanks for staying with me this far, almost done!)
Tuesday, that is all I can think about is AShley (BTW she is HB8, maybe 8.5, in lingerie a 12 :D)
I text Sally, telling her that when I left Ashley initiated a hug, and inquired when I would be in again, and then I also asked if she can email me those pics of us. she said she will as soon as she gets them from the guy that has the camera. Then Sally said that AShley told her that the 6am sunrise line was the sweetest thing that Ashley has ever read.
Then on facebook Sally said: "when she told me about that last note you gave her... she said it in front of a guy regular. And the guy even said " wow " what a line. Ashley was smiling ear to ear and she told me she gave you a hug and that you said you were coming in on Wed"
So I show up about wed at 7 (there was a snow storm happening), and AShley texted Sally saying that she wouldn't make it in, and she forgot to msg me to let me know. So I haven't seen Ashley since monday. She works sunday night at 5.
Wed, I was planning on asking her for her number and to go for a drink (where we can actually sit and talk with out distractions)
Now, I'm planning on showing up at about 5:30 (don't want to be there right at 5 or earlier, to make it look like I'm desperate/needy), now she is 19, judging by the way she has reacted to my notes and giving me the hug and asking when i will be in again, I can't see her getting all the 'attention' that a HB9 would get and then she just blowing them off because of it. So I think it is genuine. I am regretting doing one thing....and that is Mystery's finger magic trick (the one where she holds her fingers up and I say that we are now together, and I'm leaving - so the fingers separate - then I say that we will be together again, while moving my finger around hers while they move together), I think that really would have done it.
How do I play this on sunday? My plan was to go in, and say "Hi gorgeous" she will prolly have a huge smile on her face when she sees me, then give her a hug, then playfully push her off of me and say "I'm mad at you" she'll look all worried, and ask why, then I will say that I came in on wed and she wasn't there, and seem somewhat upset and then before she can really say anything, I will say "ok I can't stay mad at you". then I'll chat with here for the night, and then before I leave I will ask her for her number and go for a drink.
Is that a good plan of attack? Should I toss that Mystery finger trick in there on sunday? Instead of saying 'i'm mad at you', should I also add "I don't think it will work out between us, I'm divorcing you" (and just do some improv )?
But like I said, I don't think she has had this kind of attention before since being 19, so I dunno how if negs will really work with her, I think she may actually get offended, I would like to toss some kind of joking around in there, so she can see that I like to be playful. I would really like to get to know her.
PLEASE HELP!
BTW thanks for reading that, I know it is long.
EDIT: Oh ya, forgot to mention that waitresses are meant to be 'nice/flirt' to get extra tips, BUT she wasn't even serving me
So on Valentines, I went to the bar that I used to work at last winter because they were have a 'singles sexy valentines day', meaning drink specials, and the waitresses (there were 2 of them) were dressed up in lingerie.
I show up and sit at the bar, a couple minutes later the owner (Sally - names are changed) sees me and convo went:
her: what do you think?
me: I like, are they single?
her: She says the one in the black (the blonde) is.
me: you should introduce me
her: I will, then you should send her a candygram
me: huh?
her: write something on that pad of paper and it can stay anonymous, then give it to the bartender and he will deliver it for you
----
A little while later the one that has a boyfriend comes over and Sally introduces me, tells her that I used to work for her and then introduces me to the bartender. Then she is taking pictures of the two girls with regulars. She asks me if I want a picture with the blonde (Ashley), I said ya. She calls Ashley over and we take a picture, we look at it, and Ashley says that her eyes are closed, I said that we need another picture. We take another picture, and happy with it. Then Sally tells me to write a candygram, I ask what do I put in it. Then we are thinking about it then she tells me to write (yes they are cheesy): "We are made to be in pictures, but you are the picture of love", then left my name and number at the bottom. Gave it to the bartender, and he gave it to her, and I was watching out of the corner of my eye, while I was watching the TV. I could see a smile come across her face, and she came over and said thanks.
Then over the next 1/2 hour-45 minutes, she came behind the bar (right ahead of me), a couple times. Once she checked her phone on the back bar, I asked her what her tattoo said, and then made small talk for a bit. Then the second time, she came over and asked how my night was going, small talk made again, this time I also said "I almost wore that exact same thing", she laughed and said that I should have, we could have matched", then Sally went outside for a smoke, I joined her to get some fresh air. ----
Convo:
me: so do I ask her to go for a coffee or what when I leave?
her: when are you leaving? instead write another candygram
me: soon, gotta work at 6am (its now about 10:15pm), what do I write in this one?
-now we are spitballing about how to ask for going for coffee, instead we came up with "Gotta work at 6am, it comes too quick. I've seen many a sunrise, but you take the cake" then my name and number again.
Oh before this, Sally and Ashley were talking at the bar, and Ashley said to Sally (Sally told me all this later so this is how I know it)
Ashley: that guy at the bar gave me a candygram
sally: (playing dumb, not knowing what is going on) who?
ashley: That guy, Joe, what do I do with it? do I put it in my purse?
sally: you do with it what you want, but I will let you know that when he worked for me, he was honest, loyal, reliable, trustworthy (and said a couple more things), if that is something that you want, then go for it
----
So while I pay my bill, Ashley comes over and puts her arm on the bar and faces me and says :"You're leaving? I thought you were gonna stay until midnight."
I respond with "If I didn't have to work at 6, I would" This time I handed her that candygram, and she leaves (with a spring in her step), reads it and is awwwwww, THANKS. and has a huge smile on her face. So see goes and serves a few tables, I talk to the husband (the owner of the bar) for a few minutes, then tell Sally thanks (since she is talking to a customer), then I am on my way out (I'm obv not leaving without saying bye to Ashley, who is standing at the bar), I go to put my arm around her shoulder, but she turns to me and gives me a hug. And then our convo goes something like:
her: thanks for those candygrams
me: no problem
her: you gonna come in again?
me: when are you working again?
her: wed at 6
me: We'll see you then
-----
Then I leave. I also told Sally to talk me up to Ashley, and she said she will
NOW...... (Thanks for staying with me this far, almost done!)
Tuesday, that is all I can think about is AShley (BTW she is HB8, maybe 8.5, in lingerie a 12 :D)
I text Sally, telling her that when I left Ashley initiated a hug, and inquired when I would be in again, and then I also asked if she can email me those pics of us. she said she will as soon as she gets them from the guy that has the camera. Then Sally said that AShley told her that the 6am sunrise line was the sweetest thing that Ashley has ever read.
Then on facebook Sally said: "when she told me about that last note you gave her... she said it in front of a guy regular. And the guy even said " wow " what a line. Ashley was smiling ear to ear and she told me she gave you a hug and that you said you were coming in on Wed"
So I show up about wed at 7 (there was a snow storm happening), and AShley texted Sally saying that she wouldn't make it in, and she forgot to msg me to let me know. So I haven't seen Ashley since monday. She works sunday night at 5.
Wed, I was planning on asking her for her number and to go for a drink (where we can actually sit and talk with out distractions)
Now, I'm planning on showing up at about 5:30 (don't want to be there right at 5 or earlier, to make it look like I'm desperate/needy), now she is 19, judging by the way she has reacted to my notes and giving me the hug and asking when i will be in again, I can't see her getting all the 'attention' that a HB9 would get and then she just blowing them off because of it. So I think it is genuine. I am regretting doing one thing....and that is Mystery's finger magic trick (the one where she holds her fingers up and I say that we are now together, and I'm leaving - so the fingers separate - then I say that we will be together again, while moving my finger around hers while they move together), I think that really would have done it.
How do I play this on sunday? My plan was to go in, and say "Hi gorgeous" she will prolly have a huge smile on her face when she sees me, then give her a hug, then playfully push her off of me and say "I'm mad at you" she'll look all worried, and ask why, then I will say that I came in on wed and she wasn't there, and seem somewhat upset and then before she can really say anything, I will say "ok I can't stay mad at you". then I'll chat with here for the night, and then before I leave I will ask her for her number and go for a drink.
Is that a good plan of attack? Should I toss that Mystery finger trick in there on sunday? Instead of saying 'i'm mad at you', should I also add "I don't think it will work out between us, I'm divorcing you" (and just do some improv )?
But like I said, I don't think she has had this kind of attention before since being 19, so I dunno how if negs will really work with her, I think she may actually get offended, I would like to toss some kind of joking around in there, so she can see that I like to be playful. I would really like to get to know her.
PLEASE HELP!
BTW thanks for reading that, I know it is long.
EDIT: Oh ya, forgot to mention that waitresses are meant to be 'nice/flirt' to get extra tips, BUT she wasn't even serving me