Advice

[apg96]

Ok so im a virgin now in college. Not because i couldnt get laid but b/c (as cheesey as this sounds) i didnt want to lose it to the girl i was dating. We broke up and havnt really gotten back into dating for whatever reasons.

Anyway, i know that in the coming months i will be getting laid. The question is do i tell the girl before that im a virgin, tell her after or not tell her at all.

Of course if she revealed she was too i would tell her. But im concerned with not being good. And whether it would be better to be perceived as bad in bed or to be a virgin in college. Mind you im only 18.

Im also worried that the girl may get spooked with me being a virgin and prolly losing it in such a stupid way (im guessing).

[Valentine]

Ok so im a virgin now in college. Not because i couldnt get laid but b/c (as cheesey as this sounds) i didnt want to lose it to the girl i was dating. We broke up and havnt really gotten back into dating for whatever reasons.

Before the Arts I didn't want to lose mine until I was married.

Anyway, i know that in the coming months i will be getting laid. The question is do i tell the girl before that im a virgin, tell her after or not tell her at all.

I don't think you need to bring it up. If she asks though, tell her the truth

Of course if she revealed she was too i would tell her. But im concerned with not being good. And whether it would be better to be perceived as bad in bed or to be a virgin in college. Mind you im only 18.

Then concentrate on being good when it matters. Don't neglect foreplay, White Tiger Tantra is pure gold. Do you masturbate? If you do, practice tightening your pelvic floor muscles, it's a real neat trick for keeping things from ending too soon (it's also the key to achieving male multiple orgasms). And most importantly - you need to display sexual confidence.
I know, I know, success breeds confidence... but if you 'believe' that you can do the shit, she'll pick up on that and it will help arouse her.

Im also worried that the girl may get spooked with me being a virgin and prolly losing it in such a stupid way (im guessing).

Hey, just don't make a big deal out of it. Guys don't get asked about their virginity unless they come across as lacking confidence, you know about not putting the pussy on a pedestal - similarly don't give virginity too much thought, just do it, lol.

[apg96]

thanks for the great reply. I wasnt so much worried about cumin to early, as to just being bad. It most cases like when i get blow jobs i would last at least 20 minutes.

So any pointers on maybe some moves, or should i just concentrate on foreplay

[sting]

APG,
don't worry. most college guys suck in the sack.
no need to bring up the topic with the girl - no good will come of it, and bad might.


good luck, bro,
Sting

[Johnny.Vegas]

Yea like the guys said, if you make a big deal about it, then it will be a big deal. But if you know your gonna rock her world with foreplay etc, then you'll be fine.

Plus I live on campus at my Uni here in Australia, and the stories I've heard from female friends of guys (the ones who seem to be getting lots of play) absolutaly sucking in the sack is quite shocking...so if you got some tight foreplay skills, that should put you ahead already

[Valentine]

thanks for the great reply. I wasnt so much worried about cumin to early, as to just being bad. It most cases like when i get blow jobs i would last at least 20 minutes.

So any pointers on maybe some moves, or should i just concentrate on foreplay


Technically, as far as penetrative sex is concerned, there's not much difference between a good lover and a bad lover - I mean, how the hell can anyone get 'thrusting' so wrong?

Sometimes, her level of attraction for the guy is the only difference between getting bad sex and getting good sex. Brad Pitt and George Bush could use the exact same techniques on a girl, but you just know that more women are going to cum with Brad than with George.

Foreplay is key to great sex, it's about stimulating blood supply to the erogenous zones, and when the those areas are engorged with blood they are a hell of a lot more sensitive - just like our dicks.

During penetrative sex, being confident and taking the lead is a turn on for most women, switching positions too so you can enter her from different angles and stimulate different areas of her genitalia. Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes/wants while you're doing the deed, communication during sex can be very useful for fullfilling her needs.

[Jester]

No definately dont tell her. It will put her off. Girls ALWAYS want a guy that is experienced, they worry that inexperienced guys will damage them.


But im concerned with not being good. And whether it would be better to be perceived as bad in bed or to be a virgin in college. Mind you im only 18.

Get David Shades first 2 ebooks and teh sex revolution handbook. Then you will have NO worries about being good. Infact, believe it or not, you will start to worry that you are too good because girls will cling to you like shit to a blanket. Really good lovers are hard to find, so Im told.

[cc0marti]

Don't tell her, When you are having sex with her and you are on top move your hips and pelvis around in a circle with each thrust instead of just back and forth. This will help with girls who can't have vaginal orgasms but only clitoral (this is most girls). When you are on the bottom, push your belly up and out, so that every time they thrust their clit rubs against your belly (the one time being a fat ass helps). When you are switching positions, as someone else mentioned, don't ask, grab her by the hips and gently but firmly turn her over for DS, then maybe to the edge of the bed so your feet are on the floor. This shows that you are in charge in the bedroom. Comment - If you are okay with this, watch soft-core porn, pick a couple things the guys does and copy them in the sac (be sure it's not hardcore-not yet). Comment - If she is hot and you want to keep her, always work on her coming first and she will be more in the mood to do what you like after. Plus she'll brag to her girls. Just some thoughts.

[moen88]

Girls tends to ask how many girls you have been with. Its like if they dont get an answer or have done a "research" about you, its like their natural FBI-style approaches to get it out.

First time I had sex, everything went rly great. Afterwards when we were lying in the bed and she was all pleased, needy and wanted to kiss me more.. she said: "ahh, that felt good" and gave me a needy kiss.. ...just a minute afterwards she laid back and said:"how many girls have you actually had sex with?"(GREAT time to ask that -_-)
I answered with a clever smile and a calm ironic voice, "baby.. I've only done it with like.. 1........*pause* or 2 girls;)"
she smiled and giggled "yeah, sure:)"... and tried to guess..
she:"ten? :)"..
me:"I've allready told you ;)"..
she:"twenty?" ..
me:"nope"..
she:"what.. thirty?.
me: "Do I have to tell you I'm a virgin?.."

she looked me in my eyes quietly with a tense smile..

I smiled.. gave her a little teasing blink ";)".. and went for a shower.

she accepted the answer with a smile and didnt bother me with it anymore.

[Cleric]

When I was younger, I knew a guy at a summer college retreat who had his game going on and was a virgin. He even wore a t-shirt that said "Virgin". There must have been at least 5 girls trying to be his first. He took the stereotype and totally reversed it. It was brilliant.

[7tomms]

I wouldn't tell her, unless she asks... My advice to you is.. just take it slow when you do.. dont rush.. build that sexual tension and desire in her.. I didn't suck the first time I got laid. Start with the ear and work your way down get her excited tease her.. when all that is done bang her how you want to, she'll be fine..

another thing.. you should google sex tips,ect.(not to discredit ones written by males, but I found the ones written by females themselves the most accurate) so you'll be atleast somewhat prepared.. I was thinking about what I did before I got laid the first time.. also try not to be nervous.. she'll pick up on that..

Tomms

[HBPornstar]

I had replied to another thread very similar to this last night, and I think you will find this quite helpful. Please look here: Sex Advice for Beginners (http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/showpost.php?p=29867&postcount=7)

Cheers!

[sigma]

PLEASE read hbpornstars post, it is very good actually


if your life is going to have lots of sex in it, you must be abel to really please a woman. They have bodies that are very different than ours... learn how they work !!!

[Decibel]

Telling her: Sure, if she brings it up, tell her, but at your age it's common for guys to be virgins. Who the F cares?
Lasting: A nice thick condom should get rid of most enjoyment for you.
Tricks: The best sex happens above the waist, with what you do with your hands and mouth, etc. Not sure girls care as much about what's going on down below until they're ready to climax.

[HBPornstar]

Lasting: A nice thick condom should get rid of most enjoyment for you.
Tricks: The best sex happens above the waist, with what you do with your hands and mouth, etc. Not sure girls care as much about what's going on down below until they're ready to climax.


Wow, I'm going to assume your suggestions are tongue-in-cheek. I do love a wacky sense of humor like mine :)

I'm sure apg96 does too, seeing as his post was about whether or not to tell his lover if he is a virgin, not how to make sex less enjoyable, or how to piss off girls in bed! ;)