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Rhythm
08-30-2007, 06:05 PM
Firstly, what is with this underground community? It has exploded with newbies and guys who havn't even read the pilot book.

But I haven't come here to bitch or complain. I have come on here again to voice my dilema.

I have read Style's book and am 2/3rds of the way through Mystery's book. I am quite an intuative person by nature and have developed a new thirst for worldly knowledge eg. 9/11, religion, war and America etc.

I live in Somerset and all the clubs around here are very loud, too loud to have a conversation with anyone without shouting at them and distorting your voice to a louder, yet more agressive tone. I am all up for talking to a girl and getting to know her before deciding if I should continue or not, but the club scene is NOT the place to be doing that. Not around here anyway, it's way too loud, and all the pretties are on the dancefloor!

I haven't got a problem with going fishing out in the middle of the floor but I ALWAYS find myself waiting for a more assuring signal before I make my move on the dancing HB. This never happens, I know this, but I think the reason why I can't bring myself to make a bold and undeniable advance is that I can't afford to let my guard down...

None of you know me, but I have a story behind my wall of ego. I have been able to entertain crowds of strangers through my witty personality in the past so I know I've got it in me. The thing is that the HBs all stay on the dancefloor and I have such a hard time trying to make a move on them! Only when I'm drunk, I make advances and get to kiss/dance/get phone numbers, but I don't want that(when drunk that is).

If I can dance, why is it so hard to dance with HBs?

I think I need to put myself out there in the field and take some newbie tasks/missions. I could always do with feeling more comfortable around attractive girls so that I could in turn, lessen my fear. But what about the dancefloor - that I love?!

Thanks for reading. Thought I should just get it down in writing so I can try and get past this with some outside help.







I know I'm being silly, overthinking, and worrying about nothing in terms of the big picture. It's just, I'm sick of kicking myself after everynight I come home from a night out... just like now.

Poetry
08-30-2007, 07:49 PM
PS: Anyone considering 9/11, religion, war, and America as there lineup of worldly knowledge; needs a dictionary and a thesaurus

Maybe a few IQ points.

TacoRemix
08-30-2007, 07:53 PM
So what was the question? Why you can't dance with HBs? You are putting them on a pedestal, you need to loosen up, look at how you're acting. "what the hell? i'm being a little bitch right now!" that's what I say to myself, then I man up and go for it! Dance because you want to dance, not for the HBs.

adept2007
08-31-2007, 02:51 AM
In the crowded clubs where the musics loud, I try to rely on non verbal IOIs, ie. eye contact, proximity, ect, and I try and make myself seem the life of the party dancing in a group of friends/wings or pivots...the method i usually use is to find that occasional ioi and then just go up and start dancing with the HB...is there a smoother way to do this/one not initially IOI dependent? one more game oriented, because it seems that this approach leaves you at risk for the easy shoot down before you can DHV, bridge, throw out a neg ect. Any advice on this?