House parties and Arra cool guys

[Danneskjöld]

So you know those groups of stereotypically cool guys. They get girls, they're funny or whatever. Keep them in your head. You may be friendly with some of them or have spoken to them/met them previously. Your a cool guy, not some weirdo btw.

Now imagine this scenario. You go to a house party and you see them. You come up to say hi or ask a question and they either a)dont hear you, b) completely ignore you. I think b) because its not like your invisible or some shit.


This has happened to me alot. I don't get it who is the toocool group/individual and who is not. So I don't greet everyone I know anymore. It reduces my value in front of girls who are around them when I'm standing outside a group of guys talking and being ignored(like I could scream or start doing a naked tribal dance in order to peacock my "hi" and they will respond but not worth it). Btw you know its not everyone its only some groups or some individuals which have this kind of behavior.

Now sometimes later on they'll come by and say hi very enthusiastically after I'm talking to a really hot girl or just hanging out. We can laugh and bounce of each other and suddenly be good buddies. Its fucked up. Anyway, my question and point is. What is this behavior??? I don't know how to read it. I cant tell which individual/group I shouldn't say hi to because I know/met them and which I should(remember sometimes its obvious and in this case its not).

Now I just go up to guys who I can sense will respond. But I was always under the impression that if I go to a party with lots of people I don't know and I see someone I've met/spoken to a few times I should go up and say hi.

I know some of you can relate if you've been going to house parties...

[Ambisire]

I understand what you are talking about. With the cool guys who think they're the shit and feel like you're not worthy, you need to either take charge full on or make them respect you. There are two ways guys respect you: 1) You have talent and girls dig you, they look up to you. 2) You physically dominate them or show the potential to physically dominate.

Don't go around and introduce yourself at a house party to everyone. That lowers your value. Smile (as an alphamale) but not with teeth (not like a dork. A cool grin for the ladies) and make solid eye contact. "Center yourself" is what hypnotica says. Chest out and show knuckles. I don't know if it's natural for me but I can look intimidating to others. I'm not very big, I just lift and it shows but I'm not very bodybuilder at all. However, I found that the confidence that I carry reflects onto others and my martial arts training supports that. Guys respect me. I make the effort to be courteous but stand my ground even in the littlest situations when it's a crowded party and a group of people are pushing their way through to get to the keg. I stand my ground and let them bump me but Im ready for it. (Visualize yourself being a wall almost)

That is the initial respect body language that I run through at a party. Very passive.

Now for the active part. I take a walk around very confident and solid around the party and take a look around, making eye contact with whoever will dare look at me. Not in a threatening way but very alphamale, bringing them into my reality. I grab a beer. I make conversation with the guy next to me. Just small talk. No routines and shit. Just to warm up my conversational skills and get into the social mood. Now I have a friend, and he most likely introduces me to his friends which are about 3-4 guys at the party already. We're now cool with each other. I introduce my friends that I'm here with (and maybe the girls. Only if I don't care) and now the people that know ME have doubled.

Something that I realized recently that I do at parties without even knowing for the longest time, is that I get to know the host and get real cool with him. Ask him about the apt or some shit and find some common ground. Once he gives me the statement, "dude help yourself to whatevers in the kitchen. We got beers, hard shit, etc. Have a great time". it's the okay. I go to the kitchen and when new comers walk in through the kitchen I say, "How's it going guys. Beers are in the fridge. Help yourself." And they have no idea whether I'm the host, or how I know the host and so they don't question me and say, "thanks dude." Ive established that this is my territory.


This is all analytical shit. I probably sound like a real asshole but I'm a very analytical person so I tried to describe it down to the T. Hope it helps. Good luck

[Sean John]

Learn to establish yourself as an alpha male. Men will respect you and women will love you (lead the men and the women will follow.) There are various methods to do this, I'd recommend Carlos Xuma's ebook 'Secrets of the Alpha Male'

Good luck.

[xenos]

You only need to put your efforts toward establishing you as an Alpha Male to the females. After seeing that, all other AFC males are automatically put 'in their place.'

Let's face it too, most 'cool guys' are just immature AFCs who have no shame, no self restraint and no standards.