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Mojo
01-23-2007, 08:04 PM
Walking into the room you spy three set of hotties. Just your type. You’re looking good, good posture; you’re ready to go getta ho. Perfect! But, wait. Why aren’t you approaching? Come on. You are a PUA. You know the skills. Come on! Geesh. Whah? You say you aren’t in the mood? Not in the mindset…..

We all had that experience. Not in the proper mindset. Getting into the proper mindset is crucial when gaming. When I have it I am on fire, when I don’t I am extinguished. First, I would like to share a few techniques that help us get pumped up before finding someone to pump. Then, I would like to invite you to recommend any other techniques not mentioned here. Finally, it would be useful to know which techniques work the best (for you).

1) Using Anchors to attach distinct mindsets somewhere on the body ready to be used when needed. The anchors have to be distinct. One technique I observed a NY PUA using was wrapping a rubber band around his wrist. Each time when he was at the peak of the mindset that he wanted to “save” he would snap the rubber band against his wrist. Then it was just a matter of snapping the rubber band against his wrist to evoke it.

Another NLP technique that I found very useful is using the natural anchors already existing between your mind and body. Get into the correct body position! The body and mind are connected. That is, when you feel down/sad, your body assumes the down/sad position. Even when you are happy, if you slouch your shoulders, look down, and form your body to what it would be if you were sad, your state couldn’t help but change from happy to sad. The reverse, of course, is true. If you remember a time when you were confident or on fire, remember your posture and then emulate it. I have found this immensely useful.

2) Calling up friends and bullshitting while heading to the gaming venue. Shit, your friends are your friends cause they get you in a good mood. Use it. Call them, shoot the shit a bit, and then call another. You will be feeling pumped up and sociable in no time.

3) Blast bouncy, upbeat music when heading to the venue. Have you guys heard of “Sargin” by Turkish? Link here: http://www.myspace.com/turkishdjdave. Good music to get you pumped up… whatever suites you.. hip hop, rock, techno, house… create a CD tailored just for this.

4) Surrounding yourself with high-energy guys that ooze positive energy. The mood of the group has a huge impact. Get some seasoned PUAs together and the group just oozes cool-ness. And when you have that vibe going, girls just gravitate toward your group. The opposite is also true. It is tough when you have a couple of guys just standing and observing. Pick your wingman wisely.

5) Self re-affirmations. I am sexy. I am unstoppable. I am the biggest, baddest pua with the fucking mostest, etc. … When I know I can fuck any girl in the room, I can. Beliefs are a powerful thing.

6) Look good. Make sure clothes are ironed and stylish. Join a gym. You would be amazed how better you sleep at night, how more alive you feel, and how much longer you can pound the ho giving her a feeling of pua heaven. Mrapta had mentioned the following technique he uses when going to the gym:

“Before each gym session, I sit down, close my eyes and picture myself as a yellowing greasy sponge, filled with Anxiety, Fear, Shyness and Inaction. As I work out, I picture the Sponge releasing those attributes and absorbing Confidence and Humour. At the end of the session while I’m in a shower, I picture myself as a brand new lean white sponge filled with Confidence and nothing else.
Not only that, a fair amount of physical movement is VERY important to keep my energy levels up. At least I dont fall asleep while commuting anymore”

Evoking the proper mindset is key to unlock the hearts of HBs. The above techniques help you get it. Now if you can recommend any other techniques have at it! Also, are any of these techniques more useful to you than others? It would be great to know which ones are most effective.

Mojo

Johnny_Favorite
01-25-2007, 01:28 AM
Good post. Suprised there aren't more responses.

I like the idea of visualizing when you've had a successful interaction and trying to evoke those feelings.

I really enjoyed this post.

Lovedrop
01-25-2007, 03:56 AM
i like td's post on his blog about self-esteem and ego, when it comes to personal state management.
but that's just my opinion.

the traditional mm answer is to stay in the field as much as possible. there is a certain zen to it.

Nitro
01-25-2007, 04:55 PM
i like td's post on his blog about self-esteem and ego, when it comes to personal state management.
but that's just my opinion.


Wow, this is like a fresh breath of air. It make change of the scarcity mentality that have been around in some forums lately. Very cool


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sting
01-26-2007, 02:12 AM
Mojo,
thanks for sharing this. its good stuff.

i've experimented with most of these - the one i've found less useful is the "get into a good posture". thats what everyone does, all the time anyway - fake it and put on a pose of something they're not feeling.
NLP is largely about the power of beliefs - if you think its going to work, then it does. "faith can move mountians" philosophy.
the adjust your body language to the natural BL of the state you want to be in.... probably goes in the same way. believe it works, and it does.

enjoyed the read,
cheerio,
Sting

Mojo
01-26-2007, 07:23 AM
Mojo,
thanks for sharing this. its good stuff.

i've experimented with most of these - the one i've found less useful is the "get into a good posture". thats what everyone does, all the time anyway - fake it and put on a pose of something they're not feeling.
NLP is largely about the power of beliefs - if you think its going to work, then it does. "faith can move mountians" philosophy.
the adjust your body language to the natural BL of the state you want to be in.... probably goes in the same way. believe it works, and it does.

enjoyed the read,
cheerio,
Sting

Thanks Sting. I agree! When I first started reading about NLP, I thought that it worked because people simply believed it would work, and thus the mind made it so. Believing the famous quote "Wether you think you can or can't, you are right". I started practicing it and saw it DID work. For example, try this. When you are in a good mood, energetic and have a positive mind set, stand up, slouch your shoulders/upper body and look down as if you were in a depressed state. You will notice that your mindset DOES change. You become less energetic and feelings of depression sets in. This is a real life example I use when demonstrating the effects to new guys. It is not faking it. Try it. It works. Then I explain that, fortunetly, the opposite is true. When you are in a down mood, remember a time when you were confident andenergized. Assume that body position. Signals are sent to your brain that you are in the mood. And whah-lah! You are ready to sarge! The great thing about the techniques we learn here is not only is it applicable to gaming women, it is applicable to other parts of our lives. These are tools to make up better beings. And that is what we all should strive for, to be better, more confident, more of a life. Inner game is everything! It is everything cause when we have it, it is naturally communicated at a subconcious level to other's subconcious. They then get the feeling that you are somebody. And it draws them to you.

This is one of my motivations for these posts, for helping the guys here in the Dallas Lair and elsewhere. It is to teach these life changing techniques that helps their social skills with women and raising the overall quality and goodness of their lives. I've seen men go from geek to sheek in a matter of months! And to see their confidence soar... It is just fucking awesome!

Syren
01-26-2007, 07:26 AM
Let go of fear.

Fear is your only enemy in life.

Try something that makes you actually scared, like holding a spider, then go talk to a girl. Puts things into perspective.

Mojo
01-29-2007, 02:11 PM
Good post. Suprised there aren't more responses.

I like the idea of visualizing when you've had a successful interaction and trying to evoke those feelings.

I really enjoyed this post.

^
Thank you JF.



This post was in response to thread:
http://www.venusianarts.com/forum/showthread.php?t=207


- Mojo

cigamxes
02-10-2007, 05:14 PM
Great stuff Mojo.