"approach Anxiety?" Vs. "the Rush"

[Vagabond]

I've seen a lot of talk about "approach anxiety" and how to deal with it.

Here is the solution that will work 100% of the time for every person, bar none:

The solution is this: STOP INSINUATING THAT THE FEELING FLOWING THROUGH YOU IS A NEGATIVE!

Everyone thinks it IS a problem! And THAT'S EXACTLY what's making everyone feel like there is something to "deal with." Calling it "approach anxiety" subconsciously programs you to think something is wrong in the first place.

NOW WHO AGREES WITH THE FOLLOWING?


Remember waiting in line for that first rollercoaster when you were a kid? Were you anxious about it? I know i was. I was about to piss myself.

But after I rode that rollercoaster, I experienced a thrill like never before. IT was amazing!

I started going to amusement parks and riding coasters whenever I could.

But eventually something happened:

I actually got bored with it. YOu know why? Because it wasn't exciting for me anymore. I had done it too much. "The rush" (or would you say approach anxiety?) was gone. I started to realize that what I thought was "anxiety" was really the thing that I craved!

Eventually I started bungee jumping and skydiving to try and recapture it. I HAD to find something that would challenge me again.


I actually started MISSING that feeling. It wasn't something to be overcome.

IT IS SOMETHING TO REVEL AND INDULGE IN!


NOW MY BROTHERS!


Remember the metaphor of the 50 tribe society and the factors that create approach anxiety?

Those factors do not exist if you are thinking: "oh my god, there's that feeling. There's that beautiful rush that life is about!"

You know who thought that way in the 50 tribe society?

THE KING


... that's why he scooped up all the native HBs and started sowing his oats like Motherfucking Johnny Appleseed! He wasn't overcoming fear. HE WAS HAVING A FUCKING BALL!


RULE: the more you push against and justify and try to explain, the more you give power to that very thing...

All this "approach anxiety" talk only gives power to one thing: approach anxiety.

IT IS TIME FOR A CHANGE IN OUR JARGON, MY BROTHERS.

So try this from now on... Picture yourself as the king walking into a new tribe and you are about to take over. WHen you feel that delicious rush flooding your system, you will know what it feels like to be GOD again! You will know why you came to planet EArth in the first place!

Can you feel it? Do you not just want to suit up and hit the field right this second?! Are you not getting the chills and smiling!!!


Here's the kicker: YOu will even start to lose the rush eventually, because you'll be doing it SOOO much... YOu'll be approaching girls everywhere to recapture that rush. You will be approaching only HB10's and 11's to recapture it. You'll even start doing things in your business life, your personal life... just to recapture that rush!!! You will get EVERYTHING you want, not just Hot Babes!


SO LET'S REFRAME:

AFCs come into this game and think it's "Approach Anxiety". If you explain it to him like that, he's only going to feel more anxious.

PUAs put on their game faces and smile. And it's GENUINE! ..because they understand what life is all about. This isn't being afraid. This is being alive!!!

Let's speak the language of real kings from now on....

....and keep chasing that THRILLING, EXHILARATING, LIFE-GIVING RUSH!

[Poetry]

Great post! I've never thought of it this way -- but I will now. Good work Vaga

[WANine]

Personally, I know I can't stop feelings like that just by thinking that I'm creating those feelings for myself. The hard solution is that there is no solution and every guy gets approach anxiety for a good amount of time. The easy solution is to pop a xanax (I wouldn't advise this, you'll get way addicted)

[Vagabond]

Thank you , Brother Poetry...


I tip my hat to you..

[showstopper]

I totally agree. Thanks for posting this.

So you know, sometimes even i forget about that rush. and this post just reminds me and inspires. Good work. LIVE YOUR LIFE is what i always say.

[lucverick1rd]

OMG..the best post ever!

[MrMisterMissedHer]

thats a very interesting and unique way to look at it. i find it to be effective as well.
sometimes however, when i cant just live in the moment and let be whatever is and the feeling gets overwhelming, i have a fall back. be it, anxiety, nervousness, embarrassment, excess anger or whatever, i will try to make myself be as much of the emotion as possible and it will just naturally fade away when i try to force it.
i dont want you to take my word, i want you to try it. experience it for yourself. hopefully youll find it useful.

[easytiger]

Great post - perhaps AA should be renamed "Approach Excitement"?! You're spot on though, its the things in life which cause us greatest fear that give us the greatest sense of satisfaction once we overcome them. Viewing AA as a buzz as opposed to a fear can only help what I'm sure is the major stumbling block for the majority of APUAs.

[BJW]

This is definitely one of the things I need to internalize, and ironically enough, I hadn't thought of it this way before reading it. Thanks for smacking me upside the noggin and putting this in there.

B

[Decibel]

To take it a step further, I don't think about flakes with disappointment anymore. I see them as losing their place in line as contestants for me, the prize.

[jackcoxwell]

This is an awesome way of looking at things. It screams "the secret" movie all over it. Picture and ask for only what you want, not what you don't want, and you'll attract it. Wanting a "rush" is better than NOT wanting anxiety.

I absolutely love this way of looking at things. I promise to never look at the fear as an Anxiety again.