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WereWatching
05-22-2010, 12:17 PM
Have you ever been caught up in a hug that you held on for just a second to long? Or let go just a little soon? This can be awkward at times, but if you keep control of the situation it could be beneficial. I've been thinking and there are a few ways you could incorporate a mistimed hug into your game.

Post the hug being initiated, let go rather quickly. If executed right the target should still be holding on to you. From this point you can either decide to neg target, or use it to show an IOI.

A) Negging the Target. You need to be careful here, you don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. Whenever tossing a neg always throw it jokingly and with a smile.

PUA: If you hold on for any longer, I am gonna have to start a tab. [While backing up from the hug, show a smile on your face while you look into the eyes of the target. This should help reassure her that your are truly joking.]

B) Showing an IOI. At this point, the target is still locked into the hug, and you are not. You need to take note of this and allow the target to know that you took note of it This can be as simple as saying "oh".

PUA: Was that not 3 seconds? [This is said while you are moving your hands back into the "Hug Position". This shows that you aren't subjected to wanting to hug her, but that you do enjoy it. This helps you come across as not needy.]

These are just my thoughts on early release hugs. This has not been field tested, and I am still rather new to the game. Some feedback would be nice, as I plan on posting a lot more.

Jazzy_ways
05-22-2010, 12:53 PM
I will field test it for you.
I would have done it tonight but I am actually babysitting my lil cousin so no sarging for me...even though it was going to be immensely gigh value party :/

Still should be back out next weekend :p

Personally what works well for me is a long , intimate hug, then a neg. Dont say anything just embrace her, as if you are caught up in the moment, then snap back with the "and thats all your getting " neg. So she wants more of this intimate personal moment....so your touch is rewarding. So she might not want more of a quick fleeting hug because thats what anyone can give her, ok?

Nevertheless I will try this, and hopefully learn something. Will post results :D

WereWatching
05-22-2010, 11:21 PM
You’re probably right. A girl will give her friends quick hugs; you plan on going further than that. Sometimes I just don't feel comfortable giving an intimate hug without having all the Kino already there though. I use a hugging gambit that involves me and the target to hug. Sometimes I feel it is too early in the set to show that much attraction and I think a quick hug is more appropriate.

Jazzy_ways
05-23-2010, 01:27 AM
You’re probably right. A girl will give her friends quick hugs; you plan on going further than that. Sometimes I just don't feel comfortable giving an intimate hug without having all the Kino already there though. I use a hugging gambit that involves me and the target to hug. Sometimes I feel it is too early in the set to show that much attraction and I think a quick hug is more appropriate.
Are you talking about warm sets(girls you know) or cold sets? Because thats kind of important :p
Like at my prom I was OPENING sets with a one liner saying "Hiiiiyaaaaa Maaatteeee" then giving a HUGE hug :P

WereWatching
05-23-2010, 08:34 AM
Are you talking about warm sets(girls you know) or cold sets? Because thats kind of important :p
Like at my prom I was OPENING sets with a one liner saying "Hiiiiyaaaaa Maaatteeee" then giving a HUGE hug :P

I am talking about cold sets.