Ex girlfriend...

[aj14]

Me and my ex girlfriend were together for four years and she cheated on me a couple of months ago. She broke up with me and said that se didnt wanted to see me or talked to me cause she felt bad. Well she aproached me a couple of weeks later and we talked and we ended as friends with priviliges. After we had sex a couple of days she told me that she regrets on cheating on me and that she wanted me back and i told her ill think about it and later on i told her no and she said no either and that she wants to meet some other guy she went out with. But she gets mad when i talked to other girls and critics them saying that i just want to parade them in front of her. I need advice what you guys think?

[asab204]

stop talking to here for a month. defriend her on your social networks too. I know it sucks to lose someone that you were with for so long but in the end it is best for both of you to just not associate with each other for a little while a month can change a lot for both of you. You can go out and have fun with friends and meet new people and learn something specific in a months time. You change. She changes also. What once drew you to her is now not the same thing(s), but as you go through the month of not talking and being involved with each others day to day you become healthier and in general you are better. Hope this helps you dear.

[aj14]

stop talking to here for a month. defriend her on your social networks too. I know it sucks to lose someone that you were with for so long but in the end it is best for both of you to just not associate with each other for a little while a month can change a lot for both of you. You can go out and have fun with friends and meet new people and learn something specific in a months time. You change. She changes also. What once drew you to her is now not the same thing(s), but as you go through the month of not talking and being involved with each others day to day you become healthier and in general you are better. Hope this helps you dear.

i know its been very hard and the hardest part is that we work together. Also i feel that i lost all atraction towards her.

[Tuala]

Situations like this can be horrible. Everything feels so much more confusing because of emotions and the fact that you were so close. But I agree with not talking for at least a month. Clear your mind, give both of you some space, then see what happens after.

But depending on the type of person you or your ex are will help to decide whether to become just friends who have separate lives, aquaintances or stop all contact completely.

I think that maybe reason that it seems to be one rule for you and one for her in terms of seeing people is that she might not want to see you moving on, because showing her that you've found someone else is showing her that you are not hurting anymore or don't care, and some girls seem to like seeing ex's suffer for some strange reason, even though none of it was the guys fault. So don't let her actions and words bother you.

Chin up dude.

[Tommy Sinatra]

Hey man I'm really sorry that happened to you. The same thing happened to me a couple months ago - same thing. My gf and I were together for 5 years, she cheated on me with a guy we both work with. His wife called me and told me about it. The best thing for you to do is take space. Don't call her...if she calls you be nice to her, treat her like you would treat a friend but keep it simple and quick. Go meet new people, do things you didn't do when you were together. It will be tough and I'm still living with the pain but taking space will help you. And finding different woman who know how to treat you will help you too. Good luck

[_Truth_]

Just because you are emotionally into someone doesn't mean you have to be around them. At work, just do your best. Outside of work, erase her from your life.

[aj14]

Well right now we talked and she told me that she wanted to stop doing what we were doing and that is sex. I asked her what was the reason but I know what it was. I told her I didn't needed to know but that I think that I don't want to talk to her or see her for a while but she got mad. She told me that I have never put her first in my life and until now i'm leaving her second and that how can I talk to this other girl at work while we sleep together. I just don't understand what she wants.

[asab204]

what she wants is your attention. whether or not it is in a negayive or a positive way doesn't metter to her.

listen to this-- she must seriously have issues within herself that she and only she can deal with over time. First she must choose to seek help. Sounds to me that she is a energy sucker. Do Not let her take your energy from you.
this is a major thing i have found with women and at times some men, they who need help the most will only suck any and all energy you have, out of you.

stay away. I know it's hard. You can either choose to listen to the advice given in this thread or not. We are here to help you to see the door, we can't MAKE you go through it.


Well right now we talked and she told me that she wanted to stop doing what we were doing and that is sex. I asked her what was the reason but I know what it was. I told her I didn't needed to know but that I think that I don't want to talk to her or see her for a while but she got mad. She told me that I have never put her first in my life and until now i'm leaving her second and that how can I talk to this other girl at work while we sleep together. I just don't understand what she wants.

[aj14]

I really want to walk thru that door. im really tired of being an afc and start being more of a pua and find the right girl for me and better what was my ex girlfriend ( she is a 2 by the way) anyways I want a hb8 or hb9 and why not a 10 but I really want to learn the game.

[asab204]

honey, don't worry about anything. You are here for a reason. you are listening and learning the tame as best you know how. with the right information you will change your life. if you want 8,9 and 10s then you will get them. the more you read and understand the information the more you wanna go out and practice. Practice is key. It is scary. It can be horrible. But think of it this way, what do you have to lose? you have already been hurt how much more can a stranger in a public place hurt you if they don't know you? they can't. Just remember what your purpose on earth is. To live and procreate. That is ALL and I do mean ALL we are meant to do here on earth. To live adverntureously and to procreate with the right person. Sometimes you have to go through a lot of lefts before getting the right person. Experience will only be a lesson. Good or Bad. remember yin and yan. ghost and flame. everything in life is circular. like breath is. Breathe In. Breathe out. this is always circular. What you put out you get back. if for whatever reason you need help with anything just ask. Even if no one is around to hear you. Say it out loud, " I just need help" I say this whether there are people around to hear me or not. Sometimes the universe has a funny way of hearing you.

If you think " I am not going to ever get 8,9,and 10's in my life" you won't. If you think "today is the most amazing wonderful day and I am glad to be alive" then you will always get back what you put out.

Put out what you want back. I am in general a very happy bubbly enthusiastic postive person, I am always trying to see the bright side of things in life. I tend to have amazing experiences that I haven't ever heard of anyone else having. I get what I put out. Even if I am having a bad day, I get bad things back, just breathe and remember that it isn't only you who is going through hard times, or bad experiences.

We all do. That is life.

I sincerely hope this helps you.


I really want to walk thru that door. im really tired of being an afc and start being more of a pua and find the right girl for me and better what was my ex girlfriend ( she is a 2 by the way) anyways I want a hb8 or hb9 and why not a 10 but I really want to learn the game.

[Rodehard]

I really want to walk thru that door. im really tired of being an afc and start being more of a pua and find the right girl for me and better what was my ex girlfriend ( she is a 2 by the way) anyways I want a hb8 or hb9 and why not a 10 but I really want to learn the game.

Why do you want to do this. Everybody has a "what" but it is the
WHY" that makes us get out and do it.

So WHY do you want to do this?

FYI-- there is no such thing as "the one" LTRs take absolute commitment and daily maintainence to make them last. They are like a plant that needs to be pruned, watered, fertilized, talked to, given sun etc. The fire and forget happily ever after does not magically happen.

asab204 has some very good points.. listen to her


Also there is an routine I use on the occasion where a HB has broken up with he BF and is where you are. Google 'The dickens pattern" by Tony Robbins, and apply it to this situation. I have seen this work many times. The HB is with her friends traumatized, and I do this routine and 15 mins later she is glad he is gone, and I am Prince Charming to a group of HBs.

edit: SHE IS A 2,,, AS IN HB2 WTF. Dude grow some self respect and get a HB10.

[asab204]

Thanks rodehard! your so sweet!

like I have said before if you ever need help with anything just ask us. Either we can direct you to the right thread/post or person. and if it's new to us we shall give the best help we know how...

bettering yourself is what life is about.