Game on Girls you know

[Savant]

Alright here's the situation, there's this girl that I have known for a while now almost 3-4 years. We aren't close firends or anything but recently she has shown intreset in me, through playful attention and conversation. I'm fearful that she might slip away to becoming a friend and that can't happen. It happend to me before and broke my heart :( . What should i do to seal the deal.

[Anestis]

then hit on her:P nh dude im empty on this one.. any1 have any ideas? I need the answer to this one too:)

l8

[Poetry]

I would be careful about this... Think too hard and too much about her and you become another one-itis victim...

IMO, if you KNOW you aren't in the friends zone -- run the MM from A2/3, depending on where you are in the relationship. No need for A1 since she's already open.

However, if you find yourself in C and you're just another g/f to her, someone she can talk to, don't bother going back to try and build attraction. Once you're in the LJBF zone, slim to none you're getting out -- so move on.

[Dan]

Alright here's the situation, there's this girl that I have known for a while now almost 3-4 years. We aren't close firends or anything but recently she has shown intreset in me, through playful attention and conversation. I'm fearful that she might slip away to becoming a friend and that can't happen. It happend to me before and broke my heart :( . What should i do to seal the deal.


I don't know what to tell you dude I'm kind of in the same situation albeit the time I've know my girl is nowhere near 3-4 years. But I know what you're talking about how you've let it slip away and it crushed you. Here's a little bit of advice that a friend of mine gave me and it makes a lot of sense in a situation like this. "Only in Vegas does chance mean anything... go for the gold buddy, and don't look back..." Basically what I got out of that is that there is no time to sit around and contemplate what you're going to do you need to get out there and do it or otherwise you'll never know if it's truly going to work out. It's like the old addage says "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" so sarge the hell out of her and see what happens. If it ends up that she pulls the LJBF card than you were only meant to be friends. If it turns into a LTR than let me know what you did cuz I need help on this too :) :p

[Savant]

what i ment was that i was friend zoned by this other girl, who on the first day i meet her gave me a ton of IOI. But me being the ackward teen that i was ( and to some extent still is) didn't pick it up. We talked all the time, and a lot of people thought we were going out, i thought that was the next step. But she grew tired and firend zoned me. Now she has tons of guy firends who interact with her just like i did. But that's old news. I'm not going to let this one go away easly.

[Poetry]

If you're in the LJBF zone, she's already predetermined that you aren't going to advance romantically with her. I would stop and move on before you start pining. In all of the LJBF sarges I've heard of (hundreds) only ONE ever made it out, then broke it off a week later -- It's just not worth it.

The amount of effort you can spend trying to game this chick would get you 10 others.

[DateDemon]

Wow everyone else is just posting how they are in the same bind and no one is helping you. Well one good thing is you said you weren't really close that helps a lot. If you see a "friend" that is a girl on less of a basis theres less of an argument that hooking up could ruin your friendship since you don't see each other much as is. Now you really have to ask yourself do you want a relationship with her or just to hook up?
That is the real question. Hooking up is easy and if you don't think you would be serious with her I would aim for a friends with bens situation.
First you need to be more dominant around her tell her what you two are going to do when you hang out start making decisions they don't have to be big just let her get used to you being in control.
Second talk about how great of a connection you feel with her emotionally and talk about how you have even gone on first dates with some awesome girls but you don't get as good of a connection as with her since you've known her and are comfortable around her.
When you are with her be flirtatious maybe not flirt with her specifically through your words but talk about sexual subjects in a joking manner make innuendos or something. Also lots of contact and touching. hugging, nudging, arm around her, kino basically.
If after all that you don't get a golden opportunity where she is looking into your eyes with that kiss me now look. Hell if you play this right you can usually even be like "you want to kiss me right now don't you" Well if you are G like me =P. There is some other tips, I usually go into a pattern I have developed over the years just for this. I don't want to type it all out this is already long enough but thats the starter kit. Get to work.

[DateDemon]

Oh and if anyone tells you, that you are locked in the friend zone. It's bull.

[Poetry]

I suppose I mistook his post. I was under the impression he was already in the friends zone and trying to get out.

If it's just in passing, DD said what I would have.

[Poetry]

Oh and if anyone tells you, that you are locked in the friend zone. It's bull.

It all depends on the situation. For instance, someone who went from being a romantic interest to a friend with a woman -- who tries to run game after she finds another b/f and treats you like one of her girlfriends, isn't going to be in an easy situation; nor will he be well off if he concentrates 100% solely on the woman after, instead of sarging and developing his skills he's worried about what this ONE woman is doing.

Can it be done? Sure. The cost of effort is something you have to take into consideration though.

[Savant]

I am totally an AFC

Brothers, talked to girl at her job. She acutally saw me first and yelled my name and I walked over. I tried the of shoulder body language, even a squezed out a false time constrant. We talked about the up comeing senior trip. She complanted that most of her firends didn't get there money in time and couldn't go. I said well a least you have me to hang out with(totally AFC). Then after that dryed out I went into the I getting a female puppy routine. She said a bunch of names,

silly ones like
Bri which i made fun of for sounding like cheese,
Tickerbell, which i pointed out sounded like Paris Hiltion

I then got greedy and tried to ask her out. I won movie tickets the other day and wanted to take her. I asked have you seen Superbad yet. She said Hell yea like 3 times. I said in my mind *shit*. I didn't think on my feet on this one and it ended up akward and wired. But good sprits. I then said to her well you tomorrow since i run into her everyday. She said bye, i smiled and walked off pissed.

After that I ran into another "friend", who i haven't seen all summer. She had her hair pinned up and fancy like, I complement it (afc) she said thanks, I aske were she is going bla bla, blowling alliy with firends bla bla.. So after this short exchange i said i had to go, she said alright and gave me a hug. She kino me. At that time i was confuse and wondering what i could of done better to charm these two ladies which i had a intrest in for the longest.

Alright give me some feed back,

[Minker]

I'd use the DHV method. You have to be flirty but don't make it too obvious. Be sexual but not too sexual. Touch her every now and then but not too much. Wink at her. Just show that you're interested without actually admiting that your interested. If you see something unusual about someone or something where you are whisper about it in her ear to make it seem like it's a secret you don't want those around to hear. Leave the compliments on the down low, because if she's beautiful then she already knows it. But use the DHV and negs it works more often than not.

[DateDemon]

Man I don't even know where to begin, first you didn't say how hot either girl was which is very important in how you game her. Secondly we have no background story of how you know each other. That is important as well. Thirdly it sounds like the thing that is holding you back the most is your personal self esteem and insecurity. Don't be so hard on yourself. The best advice would be either give us a lot more information or work on your inner game for now. It is not that I couldn't help you out with the information you provided but I would basically have to give you tips for every possible scenario which would basically be me writing an ebook just for you.

[Savant]

Well girl number one who works at the clothing store, is fellow class made of mind we had a class together way back in 8 grade, and not really talk to each to much. We usally said high and bye. But since i continue run into her we have been talking much more. Bla Bla. She is HB8 by my standered. I'm black she's black if that count's for anthing.

The girl i randomly ran into is someone again had a class with last year. She is rather popular because of her many awards in Track and Field and shit. She is also HB8.

I must say i way never buddy buddy with either with these girls.

[DateDemon]

First girl: You have been talking a lot lately? Flirting a lot? A lot of physical contact or kino? Ever talk about sexual subjects? Do you know the last time she went on a date.

This is completely tough man you said you met her in 8th grade and now talk with her a lot. You might have dug your own grave. Social dynamics are so complex that it would be better if these were girls you had never met easier to give advice. Now I have to figure out the whole relationship dynamics between you two before I can even begin. My advice work on your inner-game and go holler at some different girls and quit trying to get these two. If anything just be a good friend to them and if they are hot or popular maybe they have some hot friends.

[Anestis]

with datedemon

[oscarkool2]

dont let my join date fool you. this thread has multiple cases of the oneities effect going on here.

MEN, HEAR ME!!! step away from these women now and go meet some new women and game them, seduce them, whatever you can do. dont ask me for advice on how to do that, theres enough free information on that on the internet. having these 'feelings' for this one girl is false, its just that youve been repeatedly telling your brain you like you so you think you do. now, start repeatedly telling your brain you dont like her and you like many other women and after a a bit, youll be fine. dont ask how yo get this one girl...

YOU ALREADY LOST. YOU FAILED. SHE DOESNT LIKE YOU. SHE DOES NOT WANT YOU AT ALL. SHE WILL NEVER SLEEP WITH YOU. EVER. now go get some new babes!

[xenos]

When I was in LJBF zone, for like 2 years, with a 9 I worked with last summer, I hung out with her and her one friend a lot. I got a little flirty competition going and esclated kino. I also started talked a lot more about sexual subjects. One night after going to a theme park the two of us went on a walk, and I just looked her deep in her eyes and kissed her. If you time it right you will be having sex that night.

I will give one word of caution: If you don't want a serious relationship with the girl, and just want to hook up, don't bother. You already dug yourself into LJBF zone so accept her as a friend only or ignore her (might work anyway).

[DateDemon]

Actually for me I think the just hook up angle is great to work from within the friend zone. As long as you are up front about your intentions and word it in a way she can justify. You can turn a girl friend into a booty call and basically call her whenever you want to hook up no strings attached.

[Khaos]

This is for savant:

I Know what your going thru we all see that a girl looks good, just think opposite the finer a girl is, be more cool (poised) and just lay back and talk about things , anything , and if her friend is around better... here is your chance for u to neg the girl u like by either saying 'ur hair wud look cute up/down' or ' i thought about you yesterday, or was it the day before' omg i loved that line i had a 10 laffing yesterday, but still im not close to an expert especially in the closing department but play a social game, where u always are king , no one can outwit, outsmart, belittle you, because you are man, and you gotta be an asshole , well not an asshole but close but not an asshole, feel me??