JTv1
02-19-2010, 05:07 PM
A year ago, I was a 24 year old virgin that had never even kissed a girl.
I was also a severely shy, insecure, unconfident, and self-conscious person...and everyone else's impression of me confirmed this (friends, family, teachers, co-workers). Rather than go through the circumstances of my life that led me to be this way, I'll provide an embarrassing snapshot of one incident-
A couple of years ago, during happy hour, a group of acquaintances were discussing their wildest sex-capades. When it was my turn, my face burned red and I tried avoiding the question playing it cool, but tensely stuttering on my words...outside the bar, one of these acquaintances asked me straight up if I was a virgin. I was, but I denied it.
I felt people would look at me and just know I was a virgin; like an invisible scarlet letter revealing 24 years of mediocrity. It was painful to even consider the possible reality that I could become a real life 40 year old virgin. Yikes!
Fourteen months ago I was home on a Friday night, channel surfing and came across a marathon showing of 'The Pickup Artist' on VH1. I was absolutely stunned when one of the show contestants, Kosmo, was able to simply makeout with a girl (with Mystery giving him directions via an earpiece). Soon after, I discovered the community and read 'The Game'; then I was looking over my shoulder and telling girls about my friend appearing on Maury Povich, or how if I wasn't gay they'd so be mine. l to the o to the l
In late February 2009, I took a program with Rob Judge and Zack Bauer...this was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. I was promised a no-nonsense, result driven approach to getting it done; Rob and Zack delivered on that promise. And the lessons from program still resonate with me today. Furthermore, I received monumental support and follow-up beyond program to blast through my sticky points.
Here are some highlights from program till now-
13 lays
gotten over 100+ makeouts and fingerbanged several girls minutes after meeting them in the club
3 bathroom pulls; furthest was a blowjob and another was a handjob from a married woman
2 car pull lays; one of which was in the mall parking lot a couple of hours after meeting the girl
banged two girls within a day
banged a girl with breast implants
banged a celebrity international fashion designer (my first SNL)
banged a Abercrombie&Fitch store 'model' after two minutes of meeting for a d2; still seeing this girl
With all the above, there were also my disappointments-
close to a dozen pulls that did not result in a lay
lost pulls that were guarent'DAMNteed to be a lay, but fell out of my control (logistical nightmares)
nights I leaned against the wall, with my head down and body trembling with anxiety; just 'choding' around, not taking action, nor having fun
ego protective behavior that caused dissatisfaction; it was destructive at times, with me becoming an immature, button pushing ass. I acknowledge my ability, but I try not to identify with it. While writing this review, I realize there are glimmers of ego illustrated
harsh blowouts; girls hated me, would bitch me out in front of their friends, giving me the evil eye me wherever I went. I didn’t give a fuck, and consequently, I had more success than ever before
Without a doubt, program with Rob and Zack did fast-track my progress. They put me in a position to succeed...I couldn't fail, especially considering their dedication as instructors. I saw the money I spent as a symbol of my commitment; something to push me to succeed, or else face the fact that I wasted my money.
I didn't learn magic tricks, lines, or routines on program...I was taught the mindsets of a naturally attractive sex-worthy man and learned to cultivate those mindsets into behaviors and taking action. The structure of game taught was straightforward, simple, and easily applicable; like an A to B approach to getting laid- Open, Vibe, Isolate, Escalate, Close.
Rob and Zack’s teachings have continually grown and been refined since I took program; I’ve had the opportunity to preview their upcoming game model and am convinced it will revolutionize the community.
There are nights I'm out where I can feel Rob and Zack’s presence in my mind-
Have you ever regretted an approach you've made?!
The approach is primary...result, secondary.
It’s how you proact that matters now.
You do not give a fuck what anyone thinks about you.
How would a pimp guy be standing?
Rock n Roll without the music.
It takes ONE approach.
YEAH! You got this.
Aweeeeeeeeeesome.
You’re one of us now.
And from the hundreds of reference experiences I've accumulated this year, the following are frameworks to my transformation I’ll gloss over. Note, I’m writing this for myself as much as I am for anyone else reading.
-Not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about me. This is an absolutely liberating belief. Believing it with 100% certainty forced any feelings of low self-esteem and low confidence to vanish because I no longer feared how others responded to me. Confidence, as I understand it now, is purely the absence of fear.
-All girls are DTF...even moreso than men. It’s 100% the man's responsibility to lead the interaction towards sex though. Know that girls also have standards (no girl will ever have sex with a man she feels sorry); a supremely confident man is the same to a women as a smokeshow hottie is to a man. Realize as a man, you have the choice to approach any women you want; this is not the case for women, who are restricted in their choices. Therefore, by default, men automatically have an 'abundance mentality'.
-Give yourself permission to be THAT sex-worthy guy. Don't seek permission; already assume attraction and believe that you're an awesome mo’fo (cooler than the girl). Understand the ideal characteristics of a sex-worthy man and shift your behavior towards becoming that person. The blueprint is there to follow.
-Managing emotions. Be aware of your emotions; be conscious of how you feel and how you make others feel; the slightest projection of neediness, bitterness, or insecurity and it’s game over. But remember that it's just a 'game', and no person's opinion should dictate your identity. This means being unreactive, instead dictating to others how they should be reacting to you.
-Prizeability is credibility. This means being a man who isn’t afraid to be sexual because it’s congruent to who he is. Don’t just be sexual; be shamelessly unapologetic about it too. This is a polarizing reality that forces girls to react to you. Be empathetic too; crystallize a reality that the girl will understand and be inspired by; know the values you want in your ideal girl and cultivate those values within yourself.
-There are two ways to tell if a guy has good game; One, how he is when with girls (obviously). Two, how he re(pro)acts to getting blown out. Think about it.
-No way out mindset (Taking action); Tired? Approach. Scared? Approach. Girl is out of your league? Approach. Go harder, faster, stronger, and everything else Kanye West has to say about getting girls. Take action and push it to the limit! This is when reference experiences and legends are made.
-Stop masturbating; I used to masturbate 2-3 times a day (4-5 times a day on weekends) from my early teen years up until last year. Masturbation kills the motivation to go out and be fully present. It creates a reality of false hope and not being good enough. If you’re masturbating and not getting laid on the reg...then stop. I made it a habit to only masturbate once a week and not to watch porn last year; when I was finally getting results (getting laid), there was no need to masturbate, so I went weeks at time without doing the five-knuckle shuffle.
-Friends that encouraged me to be my best; whoever is reading this know who they are. Thank you.
-Journalizing the journey (write field reports). It’s the equivalent of taking a protein shake after an intense workout. Be the hero in your journey of macking babes.
There are more; these are just the broad beliefs that advanced my transformation.
I have a long ways to go towards becoming the elite player commando I aspire to be; though it’s a empowering feeling knowing I can step anywhere and if I see something I like, there is a good possibility of it going down.
Onwards and upwards,
JT
Check out my blog for more!
http://thelegendofjt.blogspot.com/
I was also a severely shy, insecure, unconfident, and self-conscious person...and everyone else's impression of me confirmed this (friends, family, teachers, co-workers). Rather than go through the circumstances of my life that led me to be this way, I'll provide an embarrassing snapshot of one incident-
A couple of years ago, during happy hour, a group of acquaintances were discussing their wildest sex-capades. When it was my turn, my face burned red and I tried avoiding the question playing it cool, but tensely stuttering on my words...outside the bar, one of these acquaintances asked me straight up if I was a virgin. I was, but I denied it.
I felt people would look at me and just know I was a virgin; like an invisible scarlet letter revealing 24 years of mediocrity. It was painful to even consider the possible reality that I could become a real life 40 year old virgin. Yikes!
Fourteen months ago I was home on a Friday night, channel surfing and came across a marathon showing of 'The Pickup Artist' on VH1. I was absolutely stunned when one of the show contestants, Kosmo, was able to simply makeout with a girl (with Mystery giving him directions via an earpiece). Soon after, I discovered the community and read 'The Game'; then I was looking over my shoulder and telling girls about my friend appearing on Maury Povich, or how if I wasn't gay they'd so be mine. l to the o to the l
In late February 2009, I took a program with Rob Judge and Zack Bauer...this was one of the most amazing experiences of my life. I was promised a no-nonsense, result driven approach to getting it done; Rob and Zack delivered on that promise. And the lessons from program still resonate with me today. Furthermore, I received monumental support and follow-up beyond program to blast through my sticky points.
Here are some highlights from program till now-
13 lays
gotten over 100+ makeouts and fingerbanged several girls minutes after meeting them in the club
3 bathroom pulls; furthest was a blowjob and another was a handjob from a married woman
2 car pull lays; one of which was in the mall parking lot a couple of hours after meeting the girl
banged two girls within a day
banged a girl with breast implants
banged a celebrity international fashion designer (my first SNL)
banged a Abercrombie&Fitch store 'model' after two minutes of meeting for a d2; still seeing this girl
With all the above, there were also my disappointments-
close to a dozen pulls that did not result in a lay
lost pulls that were guarent'DAMNteed to be a lay, but fell out of my control (logistical nightmares)
nights I leaned against the wall, with my head down and body trembling with anxiety; just 'choding' around, not taking action, nor having fun
ego protective behavior that caused dissatisfaction; it was destructive at times, with me becoming an immature, button pushing ass. I acknowledge my ability, but I try not to identify with it. While writing this review, I realize there are glimmers of ego illustrated
harsh blowouts; girls hated me, would bitch me out in front of their friends, giving me the evil eye me wherever I went. I didn’t give a fuck, and consequently, I had more success than ever before
Without a doubt, program with Rob and Zack did fast-track my progress. They put me in a position to succeed...I couldn't fail, especially considering their dedication as instructors. I saw the money I spent as a symbol of my commitment; something to push me to succeed, or else face the fact that I wasted my money.
I didn't learn magic tricks, lines, or routines on program...I was taught the mindsets of a naturally attractive sex-worthy man and learned to cultivate those mindsets into behaviors and taking action. The structure of game taught was straightforward, simple, and easily applicable; like an A to B approach to getting laid- Open, Vibe, Isolate, Escalate, Close.
Rob and Zack’s teachings have continually grown and been refined since I took program; I’ve had the opportunity to preview their upcoming game model and am convinced it will revolutionize the community.
There are nights I'm out where I can feel Rob and Zack’s presence in my mind-
Have you ever regretted an approach you've made?!
The approach is primary...result, secondary.
It’s how you proact that matters now.
You do not give a fuck what anyone thinks about you.
How would a pimp guy be standing?
Rock n Roll without the music.
It takes ONE approach.
YEAH! You got this.
Aweeeeeeeeeesome.
You’re one of us now.
And from the hundreds of reference experiences I've accumulated this year, the following are frameworks to my transformation I’ll gloss over. Note, I’m writing this for myself as much as I am for anyone else reading.
-Not giving a fuck what anyone thinks about me. This is an absolutely liberating belief. Believing it with 100% certainty forced any feelings of low self-esteem and low confidence to vanish because I no longer feared how others responded to me. Confidence, as I understand it now, is purely the absence of fear.
-All girls are DTF...even moreso than men. It’s 100% the man's responsibility to lead the interaction towards sex though. Know that girls also have standards (no girl will ever have sex with a man she feels sorry); a supremely confident man is the same to a women as a smokeshow hottie is to a man. Realize as a man, you have the choice to approach any women you want; this is not the case for women, who are restricted in their choices. Therefore, by default, men automatically have an 'abundance mentality'.
-Give yourself permission to be THAT sex-worthy guy. Don't seek permission; already assume attraction and believe that you're an awesome mo’fo (cooler than the girl). Understand the ideal characteristics of a sex-worthy man and shift your behavior towards becoming that person. The blueprint is there to follow.
-Managing emotions. Be aware of your emotions; be conscious of how you feel and how you make others feel; the slightest projection of neediness, bitterness, or insecurity and it’s game over. But remember that it's just a 'game', and no person's opinion should dictate your identity. This means being unreactive, instead dictating to others how they should be reacting to you.
-Prizeability is credibility. This means being a man who isn’t afraid to be sexual because it’s congruent to who he is. Don’t just be sexual; be shamelessly unapologetic about it too. This is a polarizing reality that forces girls to react to you. Be empathetic too; crystallize a reality that the girl will understand and be inspired by; know the values you want in your ideal girl and cultivate those values within yourself.
-There are two ways to tell if a guy has good game; One, how he is when with girls (obviously). Two, how he re(pro)acts to getting blown out. Think about it.
-No way out mindset (Taking action); Tired? Approach. Scared? Approach. Girl is out of your league? Approach. Go harder, faster, stronger, and everything else Kanye West has to say about getting girls. Take action and push it to the limit! This is when reference experiences and legends are made.
-Stop masturbating; I used to masturbate 2-3 times a day (4-5 times a day on weekends) from my early teen years up until last year. Masturbation kills the motivation to go out and be fully present. It creates a reality of false hope and not being good enough. If you’re masturbating and not getting laid on the reg...then stop. I made it a habit to only masturbate once a week and not to watch porn last year; when I was finally getting results (getting laid), there was no need to masturbate, so I went weeks at time without doing the five-knuckle shuffle.
-Friends that encouraged me to be my best; whoever is reading this know who they are. Thank you.
-Journalizing the journey (write field reports). It’s the equivalent of taking a protein shake after an intense workout. Be the hero in your journey of macking babes.
There are more; these are just the broad beliefs that advanced my transformation.
I have a long ways to go towards becoming the elite player commando I aspire to be; though it’s a empowering feeling knowing I can step anywhere and if I see something I like, there is a good possibility of it going down.
Onwards and upwards,
JT
Check out my blog for more!
http://thelegendofjt.blogspot.com/