AFC Reversion

[TheBoss]

When I firsted started gaming, I feel like really came out of the gate hard and had some early success.

I find myself reverting to my AFC ways at times.

Is this common?

Has anyone else has this happen?

[Yoda]

Keep up your motivation.

Whatever go you into the game must have been a strong motivator.

Focus on that.

[RobLaughter]

Old habits are difficult to break. You just need to pick a way of being and stick with it. Be resolute in your motivation to sarge and don't let yourself be a wuss.

[Diebold]

When I firsted started gaming, I feel like really came out of the gate hard and had some early success.

I find myself reverting to my AFC ways at times.

Is this common?

Has anyone else has this happen?

What AFC habits are returning to you?

[Hawaii]

I had the same problem in the beginning because I was still hanging out with my AFC friends. Once I started hanging out with PUA's more often, they changed me and my way of thinking. It's ok to still hang out with your AFC friends, just don't act like them.

[DarkPrince]

im acually having this problem now, I turn AFC during comfert! which is a MAJOR DLV. this is done by saying, how i used to be, and how im changing myself and blah blah blah. this is hard as hell for me to break but im trying!

and dude, dont lose focous, Keep at it, This is YOU NOW! the old you is just a memory! you jsut need to adjust your body and though process to this. Just like driving stick! at first you think about it, after a while its second nature!

good luck man
-Prince

[MikeNYC]

if you're like me you spent 20 years of your life proliferating AFC habits. just recently your trying to condition yourself to be a different person. you are always going to be slightly reverting back to old ways. try not to let this phase you because it is normal.

just keep approaching or doing what you are doing that's yielding results. if i go 2 days without cold approaching my AFC beliefs start to surface and i start to get massive AA. after 2 or 3 days of not sarging opening a set is almost as hard as it was when i first started. this is normal, learning this is a long process so dont worry about it, just keep doing it :)

[Superfreak]

Most all the great and at least honest MPUA's have went through this it is normal, just stick with it and it will pass.


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[Dragon]

The only reason your reverting is because you haven't fixed the actual problem(s) though your having successes. Its basically putting duck tape around a facet thats leaking continually...your temporarily stopping the leak but you never fixed it. Likewise you work on your outergame/innergame issues but your just building stuff on top of the real issue. Be truthfully honest with yourself..look at your past approaches, your anxieties etc., question them for its usually a problem in the past which is hindering you (way back before community) but everyones different. Follow the anxiety revelations and other revelations for they'll lead you to the original "Boss" problem. It takes time but once you get on it..your full potential will skyrocket. Till you do your just spinning you wheels.

Hope it helps.

[TheBoss]

Thanks guys! This is all great feedback.

When I get a hot chick, I think at times "holy shit do I really deserve this"? I think focusing on the abundance mentallity. Hot women are truly abundant in my life now. Working on the inner game issue of believing I deserve these hot women will help.

I want to say old habits die hard, but this seems like a cop out. Once you make a decision and commit, I think you can form new habits and thought patterns immediately.

BTW - pulled a HB9 at a club this weekend and I'm dating a stripper. I love the game!

[TheBoss]

I thought about this some more.

I think once I get the girl as an FB. I fall in to the "I hope I don't fuck it up" frame and become the nice guy. I supplicate and they start to lose interest. I am usually concsious of this and change my behavior some, but I haven't internalized it yet.